due in June - except for the lucky few who have already popped!!!

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hello

Ria, sounds like you have a lovely day planned for tomorrow - enjoy it and hope you get lots of pampering and rest

Anyone else watching Top Gun

Evening all, hi to any May lurkers, you are welcome to join us if you can cope with our whinging, though at this late in the game I imagine you can give even us a run for our money. I'm jut surprised it's nearly June and we have only had 3 babies. The May lot were popping them out like anything (sorry BZ, know you hate that expression ).

Had a nice day visiting inlaws, no-one said anything offensive (not that my inlaws are offensive it's just that everyone seems to enjoy telling me how huge I look yadda yadda yadda) in fact they all said I looked fab, and had a very neat bump, and I should just be doing what I want, and if I don't want visitors after the birth I just have to say, and absolutely sure I will spring back into shape etc. they were so nice actually.

This bump has definitely dropped, but all this means is the LO just has more room to kick it's legs about now for a while! It's moving a lot more now than it had been in the past few weeks. And I feel like I need to pee all the time, without actually needing to!

I'm on the RL tea btw, I actually really like it, though I am drinking tea bags from holland and barratt, not quite so sure about the proper bag of stuff I have from Neal's Yard which I haven't touched yet!

Wow bumper. the only thing that could possibly have made my day worse (today or any day for that matter) would have been contact with my inlaws (but I have said before if MIL shows me that photo one more time where DH is allegedly spitting image of DS2 and she is stick thin even though PG with no 3 and has hair down to her waist I will make her eat it.)

My LO is wriggling more often I think, can't decide if dropped or not, not engaged on Thurs when someone last checked (though the poking hurt so much it probably changed it's mind!) It does feel a lot like it's clinging on for dear life and doesn't want to come out, apart from the bursting/needing to wee sensation at the bottom of my bump.

I am dreading people wanting to visit after the birth. It was ok with DS1 as we didn't live here and it was a three hour drive for people to visit (in-laws came once I think and my parents came at the weekends, but 3 hours is long enough to get ready! Also I spent lots of time at their house to combat PND.) But people came the day after I got home from hopital with DS2 and my mum was having an operation and I found it all too upsetting. I don't mean to be horrible, would just rather they stay away! (especially if they would be likely to bring children with them...) Hopefully it will be better this time as DH got no paternity leave last time.

I'm sorry you are having such a shit time Ria. Is there anything any of us can do to help you take a load off?

Fortunately our closest family (the inlaws) are still 45 mins away so hopefully no-one will be turning up unnanounced. I do worry about other peoples smelly touchy children too! Actually I worry more about my sister. This may sound stupid, but she smokes, and she'll want to come and hold and touch the baby and I just don't want her getting her stinky hands all over it. And I know that if I say anything she'll go of in a strop (she's 19 and very immature) and it will result in an argument with my mother getting involved. My mum already had a go at me coz I got pissed off with my sister touching my bump. Any advice on how to diplomatically ensure that she washes her hands before touching and holding the baby?

I have told DH though that we are waiting 'til his parents visit us. They haven't been to the house (OK, so I don't care and aren't losing sleep over it for me, but feel it is a crap deal for the boys) for over a year, probably xmas 2005, the last time we saw them on "local turf" was Easter weekend 2006 when they brought the other gchildren over for the day to a nearby town and "summoned" us to meet them on the beach for about half an hour then announced they were off for fish and chips and they would see us around. Didn't bloody invite us and they would have been paying for the others too (not that that is the point, but our boys get a really unfair deal because we don't live nearer). I think they visited DH at work this easter (as they "forgot" to post DS1s bday card) but I was away with the kids so it doesn't count!

Grrrrrrrrrr.

My posts are a lot shorter when I'm miserable"!

Can't help you there bumper, sorry. Don't hand your baby over!!!

I am worried about my niece. She is 10. When DS2 was born she used to stand when I was feeding with her nose anout half an inch from my boobs! (which bugged me). My Mum has even said though that I will have to watch her as she will be trying to lift LO etc (she is always trying to carry DS2 about even now, and has since he became mobile, even though he hates it.) My sister is quite blase about it all and will say it's alright as she's careful etc, (though I bet she wouldn't have had anyone she didn't want near her babies) and BIL is completely uptight and able to criticise others but not take it IYSWIM.

This is all SO STRESSFUL. Why are we doing it!!!

Maybe don't even try being diplomatic! Just say "FFS don't touch my baby with your smoky hands" (presumably she won't be smoking in your house anyway so chances are she might be clean?) and then blame it your your hormones! (my poor hormones will be getting a guilt complex this week...)

I should go (looks much like I should be conserving my energy for murdering DHs boss).

I didn't know Top Gun was on!

Yeah, I'm a bit worried about DH's 10 year old niece. I don't want to be a really uptight possesive mother but I fully expect that I will be in the first few weeks. My only hope is that my sis will be too wrapped up in her own life to come and visit for a while!

Sound like your ILs are a bunch of twunts! Bloody families. I was quite surprised by the reaction of DH's family today, as though they are nice and not horrid or anything, they are very underwhelmed at everything, and this baby is just one in a long line (there are even great grandchildren now, and half of this little one's cousins are older than me!) so I am just pleased that they are getting excited for us, as I didn't think they would be that bothered. For my family though, this is the first grandchild/great niece/nephew so more of a big deal, but I still don't want them all descending on me with my bratty cousins!

Bloody families hey? Why can't they just be normal - like us? !

Good plan re hormones ria - maybe if I'm horrible enough she won't come back for a while! Sorry, that sounds horrid! I do love my sister but she's just so bloody immature and selfish, and I have extremely low tolerance levels for anyone even slightly annoying at the moment. Go watch top gun anyway! Take my breathe away is one of my favourite songs (gag I know!).

I'm going to go to bed soon anyway. Hoep the sun is shining in Ria Vale tomorrow!

On the youtube vibe, this made me chuckle:

That other video did bring a tear to my eye. Couldn't believe how calm and quiet they were. I'm sure a remember cursing loudly at the crowning bit...mum said she could recognise my voice from outside the labour ward?

I'm a bit concerned we haven't warned the new ozzies who have moved in next door about our planned HB...what will they make of it I wonder...

Morning all! Quick post as we're away (is half term, DH is teacher, is last time we're going to get away for months probably, even if it is pissing down with rain... . Just had a scan through messages and saw the word 'contractions'. Oh my God, so it's actually real then...

Hope you're all well - sun looks like it might be out today so might actually get outside... 37 weeks yesterday, so will keep you all posted on any, ahem, developments.

Thinking of you all...

xx

Have a great holiday FSG. LOL BZ re the neighbours - you just have to make sure that you are in the throes of labour before 10pm (actually my ideal time would be between 7-10pm so I can get a good night's sleep)

Morning all!

Am now 39+3. Feeling like it's going to be overdue, plenty of BH's, but still no show!

Feeling a bit pissed off. My sister was supposed to come and visit me today (I need the company, v lonely) and I was really looking forward to it...cleaned bathroom, dusted etc etc and she calls to say "Oh you just assumed I was coming! No not coming today, too tired, will come thursday or friday instead"

I 'assumed' she was coming because she said she was. Well at least the bathroom is clean.

morning TA...try to keep your chin up...a bit difficult at this stage I know. I'm 38+2 and very ready for this LO to come. I'm fed up having to haul this bulk around and waking up uncomfortable and un-rested.

Hi Daisy how are you?

Yes it's a struggle in these last few days keeping chin up isn't it! I think a few of us feel in limbo a bit.

I'm alright...contractions have stopped almost completely, which is just as well as DH has gone to work and won't be home till Friday evening!

That wouldn't be ideal!

I'd love to just wake up tomorrow morning, feeling about as refreshed as I can get with a huge lump stuck to me, have a bit of brekkie and have a nice swift labour, no complications!

Knowing my luck I will go waaayyy overdue, yuk.

Are you still hoping for a c or natural?

Not sure really....we're booked in for a c-section next Tuesday (so the end is in sight) but I was kind of hoping for a spontaneous labout before then...but obviously now the timing is not ideal!

But, if bub is gonna come this week, there's not a lot I can do about it really. I've got a friend lined up as stand-in birth partner incase DH doesn't make it home in time!

you will end up having your LO before me!
DH is on constant standby for my call. I do hope it's soon though, I am just getting bored

Afternoon all. yesterday I cleaned a lightswitch (very unlike me), am I nesting?

In answer to your question Daisy (if you can remember what it was), long afternoon naps and spare bedrooms

I think a lightswitch is pretty reasonable, I clean those sometimes...cleaning a lightbulb however would make you a big nester

Can't remember the last time I cleaned a lightswitch though, I am a slob. Does anyone clean lightbulbs? I also got the cleaning lady to clean some kitchen cupboards .

I am a bit of a cleaning fanatic but never stretched to lightbulbs.

Perhaps then you are nesting ;-) When are you due? It's eery quiet in here today...

Hello and greetings from the crazy land of "Oh My God I've Got Two of Them, Now What Do I Do????"

Yes it's day 5 and it's all starting to sink in. Or maybe it's me just starting to sink...at any rate it bloody well better be the hormones because life seems a bit like a romcom film made on low budget at the moment...lots of frantic tears, cooing over teeny fingers and toes, and hysterical responses to normal household events (me to DH, "you threw our brand new rug away while I was in hospital?? why on earth...??" DH, muttering to self, "It was too soft! It posed a fuzz hazard! It had to go!!"). And so on. Is this real, I keep asking myself?

Back to the business at hand, sorry: my little girl (yes, a girl! oh great relief! I get to keep all the frilly knickers I bought her which she'll never wear anyway!) arrived on Friday morning as planned. While we had been expecting labour to set in earlier, it never happened and I never saw so much as a show or drop of waters.

After 3 days and healthy doses of morphine, I'm mobile and at home with a monstrous scar but otherwise feeling unscathed, compared to my last "natural" labour. In all seriousness, having an elective section was the best idea I've ever had, and every fight I had to endure to get it was SO worth it. The most painful part was the drip insertion in my hand at the very beginning (big wuss, me). The most difficult part was coming to grips with the fact that I was willfully asking someone to cut me open and pull out my insides. It seemed like a totally ridiculous idea at one point (Thursday night before the surgery springs to mind). In all though, it was calm, smooth, and quick. Perfect.

I managed to BF till last night when 'feed on demand' disintegrated into 'feed till your nipples fall off,' so we are using bottles rather earlier than expected, but at least I'll avoid mastitis this time. Am bravely trying not to feel guilty but it's not working very well.

MIL is being a huge help with DS, who is only mildly amused in the baby. Mostly her hair and the squeaky noises she makes when poked in the eye. I have high hopes for their siblinghood! Mostly I wonder how I will manage things like meals and bathtime with two, once all the help goes home. For now I will keep my head buried in the sand/nappies and attempt to believe there are enough dummies, bribery biscuits, and Calpol to make it work.

If it all sounds a bit grim, here is the light side: none of the drama or worry can possibly tarnish the massive relief we felt after having a completely healthy baby this time round. Compared with the nightmare which was DS' birth, this was like living in a spectacular dream. I savoured every second of those first few days, when before I was forced to squeeze my first mothering moments into brief and worry-filled visits to SCBU. This is what it's like to feel truly blessed.

Right then. It's been at least 5 minutes since I last stared at her teeny face looking for signs of life. Must go and reassure myself it's not a fantasy I will awaken from...

Love - formerly notsolilKel - x