January 2019!

[loopdeelou]

I have recently found out I am pregnant and I believe baby would be due 6th January 2019. I know it is such early days, but are there any other Mums-to-be out there who have just discovered they are pregnant and who will be due next year? Sounds crazy saying that!...

@laurs2309 have you told anyone? I told my DH by buying a set of bibs that said "i❤️daddy" on them. His reaction was priceless, wish I had filmed it! We have told my parents and away this weekend to visit his so will tell them then. Keeping it a secret is so hard, literally want to tell everyone I meet lol!!

Hi everyone, tentatively joining in.

Had a super strong line the other day, and clearblue says I'm 2/3 weeks, so my very rough estimation on that info is around 12th Jan! Can't go off my last period because I was on contraception and I fell literally right away!

If all goes well this will be #2. Already sick as a dog which is how I realised. Trying to tell myself it's a good sign as I yak every 10 minutes

Hi @charlybs!
Is anyone else really worried about telling others? I don't know why I am or why I'm trying to not think about being pregnant but I have an irrational fear about having a miscarriage and don't know why. I'm keep worrying that I'll be tempting fate by announcing it.

@jellyfish2210 aww that's so sweet. I just blurted it out to my husband as he got home from work really late so I was annoyed that I'd had to wait so long for him! So far only told my mum. Can't tell the in laws until after the scan as they've lost two children so they wouldn't cope if anything went wrong. It seems a bit wrong for anyone else to find out before then so we're trying to hols off. Like you though I want to shout it from the rooftops, especially as I'm a rubbish liar! 😀

@loopdeelou I know exactly what you mean, was saying something similar to my husband this morning. I don't want to get my hopes up with it being early days as it feels like tempting fate, but equally I feel like it's tempting fate if I don't have a positive outlook on it! So all in all I am a bit confused about how excited I should get! 😁

@laurs2309 I feel exactly the same! I keep looking at baby things and getting really excited but then get worried that I'm getting carried away . My DH is absolutely insistent that we don't tell anyone before the 12 week scan. My DH's best friend and wife have had 5 MC's back to back and it's just been awful. They announced their first pregnancy early and then said how awful it was to tell everyone when they had a MC. They are now worried they are known as "the couple with all the miscarriages". I think because he has supported his best friend through that he knows how terrible it could be so is actually a bit scared about our own pregnancy. We are usually very optimistic people but are being super cautious at the moment. I want to get excited but am trying really hard (failing) to stay level headed.

I think it's totally normal to keep relatively quiet until 12 weeks because that's when the risk of miscarriage goes down quite a lot. I've told my 3 best friends and obviously my DH. And my yoga teacher so I can modify my stretches haha.

Won't tell anyone else before the scan unless I have to. I had to tell my boss last time because I was delivering training with her on a 5 day course and I was literally green haha!

But like everything - it is totally personal preference. You do you!

Ladies I totally get the tempting fate thing. I am really close to my mum and if I had an MC then I would definitely just want my Mum. My DH is super close to both his parents and is an only child so is literally bouncing off the walls to tell them.

I intend to tell my bestie too, only because I know that she is like a vault and won't tell anyone, plus she is a nanny so has a wealth of baby knowledge which I currently have zero of. It is really hard to not tell people though. I am also a rubbish liar, what I think and feel is written all over my face!

@jellyfish2110 I know what you mean about being a terrible liar. All my mummy friends from last time were laughing and guessing about who would be pregnant again first and no one said me... even tho I was pregnant when they said it teehee! I just laughed along

I am the WORST lier! And I have my SIL's baby shower to go to this weekend which is being hosted at my Mum's house. My relatives have already been asking if I'm going to have a baby so the cousins will be close in age. I got grilled the other day! I'm expecting lots of questions this weekend about whether it's making me broody. So difficult to lie and change the topic.
Also I have a few events coming up with friends and am going to have to blatantly lie why I'm not drinking or why I'm so bloated!! I think I'd rather tell people but my DH feels so strongly about not saying that we've chosen not to. It's going to be tricky!!

It's so hard not to say anything. I'm the only girl in my office but I'm good friends with the girls in the office downstairs and desperately want to tell them.

Also have a few new Mum friends that in desperate to tell, more so that I can ask them questions. I'm so clueless! Definitely got that "I should've read a bit more about pregnancy before getting pregnant" feeling lol! Such a weird feeling of super excited but also terrified!!

@jellyfish2210 I've ordered myself a pregnancy book to learn for myself 🤓

@loopdeelou which one did you go for? Was thinking I should maybe invest in one myself, just not sure which one to get!

I was looking at books on amazon yesterday too so any recommendations welcome! Although is buying a book tempting fate?! Aaargh!

I looked at some reviews and went with Your New Pregnancy Bible: The Experts' Guide to Pregnancy and Early Parenthood. It hasn't arrived yet though so will let you know what I think when it does. lol yes it might be tempting fate but I realise I should probably know this stuff for the future anyway! Sex ed at school and was somewhat lacking. I'm clueless!

@loopdeelou @laurs2309
Definitely think it's worth investing in a decent book. I don't think it's tempting fate. Like you say it will have useful information in it either way!

I found the Ovia pregnancy app really useful for timely info about what's happening in your body at what time in terms of the pregnancy. It is American but not annoyingly so. Am going to use it again.

@loopdeelou Sort of! That two stone was gained entirely after baby was born!! Turns I lost 2 pound while I was pregnant and that baby weight was all umbilical cord!

However I lost 3 stone really easily and it's stayed off for about 5 months now. I think Bfing was both hard and really helpful.

I'm holding out on doing anymore pregancy tests - the two I did cost £20!

Currently I'M SO ANGRY and my god the caffeine withdrawal. With my PFB I'd given up caffeine and alcohol for 6 weeks before started TTC. This time not so much. Obviously it would take a long time to concieve and I'd start with all that later!!

@charlybs Thanks! I've downloaded some rubbish ones!

@jellyfish2210

I feel so so clueless and I was last pregnant in 2016!! It's like another life I can't remember a thing! Other than don't put socks on them for the first 3 days to a week as it can cause a scar (wish I'd known this earlier!!!) and pregnancy is own weird state of being.

@lotbyname socks can cause a scar? Are you serious? But they are so cute and little!!

This is my first and I literally have no clue what I'm doing. My friend had a baby just before Christmas and last month I was keeping an eye on him while she went for a shower, all i had to do was give him a bottle. That sounded simple enough until she told me that I had to burp him after...eh what now? That's when I realised I have zero clue!! Thankfully it's like 8 months away...

I also feel as though I know nothing! I’m very grateful that I fell pregnant so quickly but it didn’t give us much time to adjust from thinking we weren’t ready to it’s (hopefully) happening!!

A friend recommended me a book that I’ve just started but I really like it so far, is called Expecting Better. It’s by an American economist and she basically analyses all the advice given to pregnant women and looks at the data to see what the “real” truth might be. I always want to know WHY when someone tells me I can/can’t do something so I really like the approach! It’s broken down into parts of the pregnancy too.

I'm flying this morning and I know it's ridiculous but I'm so worried it will impact. I'm also doing my best to avoid caffeine but am a coffee addict so it hurts! Rough morning all round. Hope all you ladies are doing better than me today!

@emdoc oh that sounds interesting. You hear so many old wives tales about pregnancy it would be good to know which ones are actually based on research. I'm hoping to visit the book shop this weekend and have a flick through a couple books and see what's out there.

Definitely think I need to start hanging around some babies lol!

@LeeCee I hope you get through it, nothing worse than caffeine withdrawal. I had a bad irn bru habit but since they took out half the sugar it tastes terrible and I actually never tried tea or coffee so my caffeine now is very little. The initial withdrawal was really bad though! You are allowed some caffeine during pregnancy though right?

As for flying, everything I have read says that it's fine up till much later in your pregnancy. Just try to keep your stress levels down and try not to worry about it, easier said that don't I know. Hope your day perks up!