November 2018 #3

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Ante-natal thread for babies due this November, continued...

Stats spreadsheet is here - add and update yourself as needed!

@magpie24 I had a hen do abroad last weekend of September of a very good friend, told the bridesmaids organising that I had no holiday left . That didn’t work so then came up with a big wedding anniversary party for my parents! they haven’t questioned this but they’ve seen me a few times out not drinking now (including on my birthday) so I am pretty sure they’ve guessed ! I found it really stressful though as I’m a terrible liar

Looking forward to being able to telling everyone in a few weeks time 🤞

Placemarking!

I'm 10+1 today and feeling more knackered than ever! But I don't know if that's more related to it being halfway through the Easter holidays with my 2 dcs and finishing my job on Friday which means I am insanely busy getting everything ready for handover. I'd probably be knackered anyway.

I’m convinced that I’m going to have twins 😬 I’ve been doing cheap pregnancy tests every couple of days and today’s was weaker. I started to worry a bit but tried diluting my urine and the test got strong again....that only happened to me at 10/11 weeks last time so suggests levels are high....plus I’m feeling awful which I haven’t took done with any of my other 3 pregnancies (only 1 successful!). In the nicest possible way I really don’t want twins!!

@wejammin I am exhausted as well. Feel like I've done ten rounds with Tyson! God help a full week at work this week; it's going to kill me off.

Fingers crossed not feeling quite as nauseous today. But I do have good days. Maybe it won't come back with a vengeance this time.

Not sure if I'm experiencing, ahem, 'fanny daggers' but I do feel like someone has punched me in the groin. I've had a horrible dull ache between my legs all day and now it's starting to travel down my inner thighs. Anyone else experienced this?

@BunBunMum I would love twins. Dp has twins both sides of his family, I have none. So very unlikely.

@olderthanyouthink Thanks for the new thread!

@marchblossom ah cool, so maybe it's not that uncommon to not have a pouch if you're on the more petite side...? @MiniMinions that must be a bit frustrating that you've lost weight but the c-section is getting in the way of losing that bit! Good job kids are cute eh?! @TheUbercornMum haha to the tummy tuck suggestion!

@LastNightsMakeUp oooh ouch, is it common for muscles to separate from your abdominal wall? Honestly considering I had a baby less than two years ago I still feel pretty ignorant!!! I didn't gain much weight during pregnancy (I mean obviously I DID, but it was mostly baby and amniotic fluid and placenta, so I was only about 1st over my original weight after giving birth) so mabye that helped with the pouch situation? Goodness knows. I'm eating a few more biscuits this time round though...!

@GreenMeerkat ah that make sense re the structure of the fat cells - although I'm no biologist, but I can kind of imagine how it would make sense! I wonder if that means if I gained weight now, regardless of whether or not I had another baby or another section, I'd get a pouch? I bet it does! Perhaps I'd better cut back on the aforementioned biscuits if I want to retain my pouch-free status ;)

@Nightmanagerfan I've not tried the hairband trick but probably should have done it last pregnancy while I was holding off on buying maternity trousers! This time round I'll just crack the jeans straight out, heh. FYI, I absolutely hated wearing under-the-bump trousers, even in the summer, because of the way the elastic dug in underneath as my bump got bigger. Over-the-bump all the way for me - would recommend!

@TinyPawz I love the unscientific chart! So basically 11/12 people who conceive at the age of 21 will have a girl . To be fair, they have it right for my DS... And it reckons this one is a boy too! DH seems to think it is a girl. But he thought the last one was a girl as well, so he's not got the best track record of prediction... Hope coming off the sertraline gets easier. That must be hard x

@MeredithShepherd that does look like a bit of a bump! I had a whacking great bump Saturday night before bed but I think it was chickpea curry related !

@TheUbercornMum I am 5'4 and long of body, short of leg. I absolutely loved the H&M Skinny Mama over the bump jeans. They were very soft and flattering, but held their shape well, and I can't remember whether or not I had to let them sort of wrinkle up a bit around the ankle to take out some of the leg length, but if I did then it wasn't noticeable because I can't remember doing so!

@MrsFTigular glad the scan was good :)

@Magpie24 OK, firstly if the RSVP deadline is after the 12 week scan, then I would just hang on. They won't be booking anything till then anyway. If not, I think I would just keep it simple a la @TheUbercornMum's suggestion so that you don't need to lie - you can follow it up with a full explanation very shortly.

@BunBunMum eek! Twins!!! I don't know how I'd feel about it to be honest. Daunted! But I'd never have three children otherwise (after this one DH wants to get the snip), so I'd just have to look at it as a gift from fate maybe?! Anyway I don't reckon I feel anywhere near pregnant enough for it to be twins...

That said, I've felt really exhausted this weekend, but that could be down to us having had visitors and staying up till 11.30pm (!!!!) two nights in a row. I've also been peeing LOADS. So I am starting to be hopeful that there might actually be a baby in there when I have an early scan in a couple of weeks...

I've just realised that I'm already 8+3 and I haven't yet got started on a timelapse pregnancy thing. I reallllly want to do one but all the best apps seem to be iPhone-only and I have an android! I do have the baby centre app which someone here kindly suggested, but from what I can see it only lets you take one photo a week, and I wanted to do more like one a day so I could run it into a video. Anyone have any other ideas?

Thank you all for the helpful suggestions! I'm going to keep it really simple (the deadline is ahead of the scan, I don't even have that scheduled yet) and if anyone asks I will say a family reunion type event. I feel bad lying but I hope they understand once I tell them my news! I am going to both of the hens too so that'll be fun.

In other news I have a fancy work lunch tomorrow which I definitely cannot stomach. Totally rich food and morning sickness still bad. Am planning on claiming I have a meeting I cannot get out for that one/ have an upset stomach so don't think I can face it. I think a couple of them have guessed given I have run out of meetings to be sick a few times!

Oh and also I'm still intermittently brown spotting which is a bit rubbish but since my last scan was so positive I'm hopeful it's all ok. Anyone else? Am 9+3.

I’m still spotting brown magpie
Glad it’s not red anymore but there’s occasionally bigger bits in it not tissue but maybe teeny clots?

If this pregnancy is just like one long but light period it’ll be annoying! (Obviously will take that over no pregnancy at all though )

I have done so little this weekend and I am shattered. Not sure how I will cope with work next week

I don’t have a funny taste in my mouth but have a weird feeling like my saliva glands are constantly active. The same feeling you get when you’re about to eat a juicy orange (DH doesn’t know what I’m talking about, surely it’s not just me that gets that!). It’s that but more intense, like my mouth is cringing. Totally distracting, not in a nice way. Someone be with me?!

I’ve eaten way too much again (Sunday habit it seems) and now feel super bloated and a bit sick.

Another fan of over bump jeans from H&M. They were also great for afterwards, good wobbly belly coverage.

I’ve told a few friends already, and close people at work. Basically, if I would be comfortable and willing to tell them if anything went wrong, I see no problem telling them now. My closest work colleague was so supportive when I had a mc and we talk about so much I can’t imagine being able to keep this a secret from her. I’ve been eating like a pig, she would have guessed pretty quickly anyway!

I feel so awful! I have been continuously nauseous for the last 3 days, hasn't made any difference being at work or at home. Fortunately I can keep down most food and fluids but I am sick every morning and evening and retch quite a lot in between. And my belly is literally gurgling and twitching - I can see my guts rolling around! So gross! I think what I'm eating is making it worse (basically bread, snackajacks, cheese, fruit) but just thinking about anything other than a snack feels disgusting somehow. I am so tired and my arms and legs literally feel heavy. I've spent half of my "waking hours" asleep today. And when I'm awake I just try to lie very still. I wish I could do some exercise but movement makes the nausea so awful. Today I've also noticed I am breathing deep and fast all the time, even just lying still, which is really disconcerting.

I hope this doesn't last too long! I'm not sure I will be able to keep my pregnancy from work as I have a very long week ahead of me. I'm only 8+6! I think it's all normal but I'm just horribly pathetic and feeling so sorry for myself. Sorry about this major whinge-fest.

How on earth do you others manage this when you have other kids?!

Haven't posted properly for ages. This is no.3 for me and have been so anxious this pregnancy (and super moody!!). Funny because on previous pregnancies my mood was great throughout and I was really looking forward to having no pms. I'm 10+6 now. Time flying with 2 dcs keeping me busy. Apart from moodiness I have been feeling great and not particularly tired.

Have had it in my head that I was going to have a missed miscarriage or that something would be wrong. I never felt like this with the others but think I'm feeling so blessed with my 2 dcs I sort of feel how can the luck continue? Have a few friends going through fertility treatment too so feeling guilty for getting pregnant so easily.
@magpie24 I had brown discharge on wiping only last week and again yesterday. Even though I know brown is usually ok I was getting more and more worked up. Went into epu yesterday and had quick scan. All ok. Could see the little heart beat and baby moving but was all a bit fuzzy! Has put my mind at ease though for now. No pics to post.

@Shrimpi have you seen a doctor yet to have your urine checked? UTIs are very common around conception and can make us feel even more rubbish than the other symptoms. I'm going to get my urine checked this week, just because of the tiredness and pain in my back. My kids are 7 and 9, and the past couple of weeks have been a challenge, but had a week off work. Back today, this is highly likely where things start to implode, because I'm so tired. Up 4 times last night to pee, just too much!!

Sorry for lack of contribution but so exhausted over the weekend with the 11 month old and just feeling utterly wiped out.

@BadBadBeans I also highly recommend the H&M Mama skinny jeans. I bought a pair on Thursday and wore them all the time over the weekend. So comfy. I may have to get a second pair. Wish I'd known about them in pregnancy one...I just lived in baggy dresses and leggings/tights.

I also had a C-section with number 1 and still have a pouch (well it's more like a sack now with the ever growing number 2 tummy). I am struggling to hide the bulge.

I have my first scan this evening at 5:30pm so am counting down the minutes. Hope all goes well and then I can actually start to really think I'm pregnant and stop being 'business like' about it (in case of disappointment).

Good luck with the scan @petiteange28 !

I'm feeling a bit fed up today, watching my usual BodyCombat while DH takes the baby swimming and wishing I could join in! I was so fit before DS and had just got it back in Jan, going to the gym 4-5 times a week. Had hoped this time I'd manage to be one of those girls who exercise throughout, but unfortunately the sickness has put a stop to that. Since I've not been eating anything remotely healthy I've also been really constipated and now the haemorrhoid I gained with DS has reappeared.

Counting down the days until the 20th when I can just tell people why I look so terrible. But then also anxious about the scan!! Pregnancy is really not my favourite time.

Oh and re c section pouches - I didn't have one but also considering if another section will contribute to that. Felt I had a lucky escape last time!

Luckily the sickness has started to ease off for me now - feeling a bit more glow-y! got a huge walk to take the kids to their gymnastics though, not looking forward to that!

I'm struggling with cleaning materials, don't know what I can use. Trying to steer clear of bleach but there is a patch of black mould in the bathroom I need to blast. Got some cillit bang remover stuff, but no idea whether its safe to use!

good luck @petiteange28 , how far along do you think you are?

@TheImprobableGirl I have delegated all cleaning to my DP and it's working well for me!

@TheImprobableGirl Thank you. I'm pretty sure I am about 8+5 but we'll see later!!

I don't know if I trust DH with the cleaning... he tends to make more mess than there is originally
Plus he's working about a trillion hours at the moment I do get to be a SAHM which I love though!

20th isn't far away @toasterstrudle , have you already had your booking in? Mines tomorrow morning, so looking forward to meeting the midwife etc! I'll send the girls upstairs with a big box of lego, should entertain them for 15 mins! They are so nosy though

I'm so wary about going swimming again after last time - felt great at the time but don't want to start another bleed! The walk today will take 45 minutes (luckily downhill)

Is anyone planning on not going back to work or playing it by ear?

Partly marking my place, partly a generic update!

9 weeks today, still not gained any weight despite eating a small meal every 2 hours. I've resorted to the hair bobble trick already, but that's for the bloat rather than baby! New bras purchased (on sale!) but they're already a little tight, god damn it! I realised I needed holiday clothes for a trip to Italy next month, so I did a mega spend in Primark of lovely stretchy clothes a size up from normal. Might need to put my current wardrobe into storage!! I'm resisting trying on my bikinis until later on, I'm an odd size (30D normally) so I have to buy them from Freya (on ebay). They aren't Primark prices unfortunately.

Sickness wise, I finally succumbed to the anti-sickness meds on Saturday as I was playing in a brass band concert in the evening and didn't know how long it would be before snacks. They were AMAZING. I actually felt normal for a few hours! So if any of you are really struggling, I'd recommend them. I don't want to take them every day, but I'll know they are there if I have a day when I know I can't eat constantly! I was pleased I managed to eat a full Sunday Roast yesterday, but it wiped me out for the rest of the day, even though I STILL had to eat 2 hours later. Early to bed, meaning I was sick this morning due to longer between meals, but hey. I'm just looking on the bright side that there's hopefully only a few more weeks feeling like this. Scan is 3 weeks today, still feels an eternity away...

I've done no exercise except the occasional walk, as in the evenings I just want to collapse. But it's starting to send me a bit crazy, I'm hoping this week I can go for a run or swim or something!!!

@TheImprobableGirl That's a good question about going back to work. I have many questions about maternity leave too - I've heard so many mixed reports about when to take it, but I don't want to mess my work around by changing dates. I don't want to go back to work (my commute is long and I'd be an hour away from any nursery emergency etc) plus I've been looking elsewhere for a while now. Nothing's come up so I'm going to keep an eye for something family friendly over the next couple of years, but luckily my DH earns enough to cover me choosing to stay at home if I wish. He's keen I go back at some point though, and likewise I think I'd feel guilty / bored? But then, I've no kids currently and I've no idea how I'll feel when baby comes along!

What’s the problem with cleaning products ?! Hadn’t even thought about that