Anyone else with a November 2018 baby yet?

[MeredithShepherd]

This is my 2nd dc. We weren’t trying so unexpected but I’ve had a feeling something was going on for the last week. Tested this morning and got a BFP.

So it’s DC2 (already have a 4 year old DS)
Due date 5/11/18 I think

My feb 2014 group is fab and I’ve made some lovely friends on there so hoping to do the same this time all being well!

Ah, @Cupcakesandlove I'm so sorry you're going through this. But don;t worry about bring negativity. Surely this is a group to offer support to all women, no matter what they are going through.

I've never fully understood this 'rule' of not saying anything until 12 weeks. Obviously everyone should make a decision on what to say when it suits them but if it seems like a weakness if we tell early it makes things harder for women to find support and understanding if things go wrong. I just can't be arsed with all the secrecy but I'm quite open about myself. With my first I had heavy bleeding and thought we'd lost the baby at 8 weeks. At that point no one knew and I felt terribly alone; also work said they knew something was wrong but thought I had cancer 😳, coming clean about being up-duffed made everything much easier for me but I appreciate that's not the same for everyone.

I guess what I'm saying is, tell people if you want and don't if you don't. I'm holding off telling my parents and in laws because they will totally judge me for number 3 (because my OH has moved to another city for work) despite having had 4 themselves 🙄. but with friends I'm being really open and it's nice to talk about it with them and I even got loads of fabulous maternity gear a very stylist friend was about t9 sell so,y'know, further upsides 😉

W eve had the red weather warning in the south west today and my DC were off school but only managed 13 minutes outside before the whinging began. Will try tobogganing tomorrow.

Symptoms coming and going here. Sometimes I forget I'm pregnant at all. Trying to just not think about it.

@cupcakes lines getting darker doesn't sound like a chemical at all, I hope everything works out. I do sometimes wonder what motivates people to take a job in a sensitive area like EPU, when they clearly have no sensitivity at all.

I clearly drink too much too, as find that the hardest part of keeping things quiet. Not intending to tell anyone until after 12 weeks if possible, but will see how that goes!

@bangwhistle cross post! I think if something does go wrong you don't always want to have to make a lot of 'i'm not pregnant' announcements. There is no right or wrong way to do it, just what suits you.

I'm also worried what my parents will think, because we had a big gap I think everyone will have assumed we were well and truly done.

@Cupcakes the EPU sound a bit brutal! Your lines are definitely getting darker.

@Nightmanagerfan you must be near me. I'm between Kings and Tommy's but won't be going to Kings due to friends' experiences. Just not sure whether to pick somewhere nearer work (Royal London/UCL) for ease of appointments.

It's going to be near impossible to keep from friends as I definitely drink too much -we must be a winey lot! In addition to normal drinking, there's an engagement party and a wedding before 12 weeks.

I really want to keep it from my family though at least until after 12 weeks as it will cause some upset. We have been married for >4 years but my sister will be appalled that I won't easily fit into a bridesmaids' dress in the summer... definitely best to know it's all okay first!

@hellotoyellow yes you must very close. Quite a few friends had babies at Kings but all more than 3 years ago. Recent reviews don’t look as good. I haven’t looked at Tommy’s yet - friend had c-section there and said good pre care and also at the birth, but awful post-natal ward (seems to be quite common). I’d be interested to hear your friends experiences - pm me if this is getting off topic for the thread.

I’ve told my best friend, my mum & my husbands Mum and Dad. We’d need their support if anything was wrong, plus I’m crap at keeping secrets! Not telling anyone else until after the scan but it is nice to have a few close people to talk to!

I don’t know any hospital that gives good post natal care anymore. Chelsea was horrendous with my first! I’m hoping if this pregnancy sticks that we are in and out the same day!
I forgot who asked about me re testing?? I’m not testing again until Monday I will be a week late then, and I will also buy a clear blue for then too. Can you tell me how many weeks it should say would it be 1-2?
I open my eyes every day and I’m just thankful I’ve managed to get them to another day.
I got a text message asking me about feedback on my experience at epu.... let’s just say I didn’t hold back.
I will also be writing a formal letter if the pregnancy progresses.

Tentatively coming on here to say hello! I’ve been getting lines since Wednesday and today’s are really quite dark, EDD 10/11.

I was on this board two years ago for my DS who is now 15 months and a delight! I was not expecting this at all, we found out that DH has to go to a high risk Zika country for work next month so we just thought we’d give it a go before he goes! DS took a year to conceive so never thought we’d get pregnant in one month. We live abroad so whilst we have very supportive families they’re not here and I’m completely freaking out as to how I’m going to manage with two! Yikes. I’m swaying between being really excited and thinking “what have we done!?”

Congratulations @CatSneeze! You can totally do it. Think the worry can be worse sometime than the reality.

@Cupcakesandlove sounds like your having the most awful time. They're being so unsympathetic and unkind towards you.

@bangwhistle I understand what you mean re telling people. with my last pregnant most people I'd consider close friends and family knew before 12 weeks. I tend to tell anyone I wouldn't mind telling if things didn't work out, and avoid telling anyone I wouldn't want that conversation with.

@nightmanagerfan and @hellotoyellow - would love to hear your friends experiences of kings as well!

@catsneeze my dd is 14months so we are going to have a very similar gap, like you im excited and equally scared about having two!

@Cupcakesandlove The policy at my EPAU is to not see you until you’re six weeks unless you’re in severe pain or bleeding heavily. Think they only offer blood tests if you fill that criteria or if there’s an issue with an early scan. I kind of understand. They’re one of the busiest maternity hospitals in the country. So if they admitted everyone who had spotting at four weeks it would cost the NHS a fortune. It’s not nice having to wait but, as I mentioned, the same thing happened with my first pregnancy so i’m not too worried.

Meanwhile, it sounds like you’re having an awful time. I can’t believe how unsympathetic they were towards you. Looking at your tests, I do think you’re definitely pregnant and that the mw you saw was badly mistaken.

Just had my letter from the hospital confirming my booking appointment for the 12th. Feels really real now!

Hi ladies, can I join? I got my BFP yesterday when AF was late! According to dates I'm 4 weeks 5 days with EDD 4th November - same as @billie11!

It's our first baby and DH and I are over the moon but nervous too. I told my mum and dad last night over FaceTime, I phrased it as an "early Mother's Day present!" My mum was so shocked but delighted. We are very close (she had some pregnancy losses and I was very premature) so I wanted to tell her quickly so she can pray for me and baby and support whichever way this goes! (Not telling anyone else until 12 weeks.) I'm feeling hopeful and positive so far, but still aware it is early days.

Sadly I can't book with a midwife until I reach 6 weeks so there's not much for me to do now!

Hey everyone,

Congratulations everyone.
I got my BFP yesterday and it’s my 1st so a big mix of excitement and nerves.

According to app I’m due on 03/11/18 so early days yet 😊

Congratulations @emelene and @ashee it’s so exciting! You got any symptoms yet? We haven’t told anyone yet but probably will tell my parents in a couple of week.

Hi @Emelene how exciting! I haven't told anyone yet! Or booked in for my appointment! I keep thinking ringing the doctors makes it all seem so real! Was planning on today but with all the weather related havoc I thought they might have more important things on so will do it on Monday! Think I'm going to hold off for 10+ weeks before we tell friends and family. @january29 I have been waking up starving, and I mean ravenous!!!

@january29 I haven't really got many symptoms, some cramps and slightly sore boobs but that's it. It felt very much like my period was about to come on so the BFP was brilliant! I'm feeling really good at the minute. How about you?

@billie11 It's so cool that we have exactly the same dates. Is this your first too?

@emelene the only sympton so far has been feeling like my periods coming. Starting to feel a little tired, I felt pretty good up to six weeks last time so hoping for another couple of weeks before the nausea kicks in.

Hows your dh feeling?

Hiya! Can I join you?

My EDD is 3rd November but I've known for aagggeess cos I ovulated really really early, so I wouldn't be surprised if (fingers crossed) baby arrives in October.

This will be DC3, I have a DS who is 6 and a DD who is 3.

Congratulations @wejammin!

@january29 My DH is excited. I think he's more nervous than me, and I'm trying not to drive him mad with constant chatter / excitement about it! How about yours?

@january29 I’ve just felt a bit “off” this week. Just sicky, flu like symptoms. We are so excited but doesn’t seem real. We told our parents last night. They were so excited. When are you due?

Hi everyone back from then doctors she took my bloods and said call back after the weekend. She said I am pregnant right now and no one not even the epu can predict the future so I just had to relax and “ride it” her exact words.
I’ve come home taken more tests not with fmu.... but I’m stopping now I’m here and enjoying the journey x

Also with regards to due date we are none the wiser but between 4-7 of November x

Hi ladies can I join? Got my first every bfp today! Completely shocked as have been trying for a year and don't feel any different - only tested as I am due to go on a boozy weekend today and wanted to make sure. Think my edd is 8th Nov