August 2018 #4

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Thought I'd start up a new thread as the old one has run out of space.

Have a lovely break birdie and peterpanwendy! We are essentially confined to the house this weekend potty training. Fun!

@peterpanwendy @birdy have a lovely time on your breaks!

@StrawberryLemonade oh no! Hopefully you have lots of chocolate eggs in the house for you!

Feeling movement now, he's very restless at night.

Still no movement at 18+4, but still really early days! Still wake up and actually wonder if I’m still pregnant at times. Bump is at the stage between looking pregnant and looking plain fat. Mostly looking fat!

Don’t worry Gem the movement will come! I’m 21+6 now and getting loads but wasn’t at 18 weeks. Actually saw my tummy move last night with kicks! Up with DD now and baby seems to also think it’s a reasonable time to be awake..: hopefully not a sign of things to come!

The potty training seems to be going welll touch wood!

Good luck with the potty training Strawberry I remember the fun well doing it last summer with DS. It's worth it though in the long run!

Good luck with the potty training! It kind of feels like swings and roundabouts a first. On the one hand it’s great to not have to bother with nappies anymore. On the other hand you now have to make a mental note of where all public toilets are in case of emergencies! It didn’t matter how many times my DD went to the toilet before we left the house, she’d always decide she needed to go when we were half way around Tesco. She’s a lot better now though and it’s awesome when they can take themselves to the toilet!!

I’m glad to hear it’s going well :)

Also, 20 week scan on Friday. I’m so excited. I had a dream the other night that it’s a boy. That’s been my gut feeling all along!

Good luck with the potty training Strawberry. I am not looking forward to those days again.

What age do you potty train?
And goodluck to those both potty training and having their 20 week scans :)
@Emmasmum let me know if your dream was right! Could be your baby telling you it’s sex ;)

I keep having labour dreams which is quite exciting!

I hated potty training too. I'm thinking we might try to get it done earlier this time thanks to some stuff I've read on MN recently, I waited until DS was ready and it was a nightmare, so maybe being more proactive would help? Who knows.

Gem DD has just turned 3, for various reasons we have been putting off potty training (moving house living at my mums and early pregnancy sickness to name a few!) but she was more than ready. I had no idea what to do but was recommended a book which I’ve followed and it’s been amazing. The book recommends between age of 20-30 months.

I have quite a strong feeling about the sex of my baby too but not finding out. DD only wants a sister so I hope she isn’t disappointed if it’s a boy.

We first tried to train DD when she was about 2 and a half. I got everything ready, loads of pairs of girly knickers, clean leggings, potties all over the place, treats and sticker charts for incentive. I had a week booked off work ready to nail it. And the first minute I said she could go without her nappy she freaked out. She literally cried because I said there’s no more nappies and she needs big girl knickers now. So I left it for another couple of months and then one day she just decided herself that she wanted to try again.

We had a few accidents but we just made sure she was on the toilet pretty regularly so her bladder never got too full. She did so well. I’m glad we didn’t push it though when she didn’t want to. In the end she very rarely went on the potty and went straight to the kids seat on the toilet with a step. And she was in pull up nappies for a while before then and staying totally dry overnight and whenever she had a nap.

It’s definitely a process! And you have to work with them and not fight them on it. But anywhere from 2-3 years is normally the average. But then I have heard stories from primary school teacher friends who said they've had some kids coming into reception and still in nappies. just because the parents were always “too busy” to bother training them.

I keep having breastfeeding dreams! I'm so nervous about it because I desperately don't want to do it but obviously don't know how and I'm quite anxious about it, in case I can't do it or it's really painful etc. I always dreamt of a baby girl before I knew she was a girl so could have been a premonition!

Just reread my post. I DO want to do it! Baby brain 🙈

How funny strawberry, it must have been your thread I saw.

Wendy, are you doing any antenatal classes before your baby is due? I found the NCT breastfeeding session at our class to be good. The trick is really to know where to go for good advice if things don't go well rather than worrying about learning lots beforehand, though. I found once I'd given birth my brain was mush and I'd forgotten everything. But I'd say do read through the kellymom pages on what to expect/what's normal. Kellymom and mumsnet are good online resources and NCT, La Leche League and any peer support groups you have locally are good RL resources. There are plenty of books too, most are likely to be useful to have on hand, but just avoid Clare Byam-Cook's book on BF - it's got some really crap information in it which is plain false! Quite a few routine based books also have misleading BF advice in.

Don’t think I’ve posted on here about it before BertieBotts!

I’m so annoyed dd has been awake 2 hours for no reason. Gotta get up at 6.15 for work and 2 night in a row of toddler induced terrible sleep plus pregnancy plus a 10.5h shift is making me so cross with her!

Re breastfeeding - best advice I can give is get support. Any that is available! This group... other mn threads... fb groups... 1:1 support., family, partner etc etc. It’s the hardest thing I’ve ever done (for the first few weeks) but it gets easy then it’s so convenient!

Oh well then the poster had read the same book :o

My bf advice is to buy some nipple shields before your baby is born. You may not need them, but if you do, you'll be so thankful to have them to hand. I only had to use them a handful of times, when the pain and bleeding were really bad, but they totally saved bf for me and dd (still bf her at 32 months).

One of my friends gave me the amazingly named 'The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding' by La Leche League. I found it very useful, as it also explains about the baby's development over the first few months.

I didn't have a clue what I was doing and nor did DD, so we both learned together. I would agree that it is a good idea to get practical help from someone who knows what they're doing. In my case, a midwife pointed out that the latch was wrong, so DD wasn't getting what she needed and feeding her was painful.

In general, if in doubt, feed the baby. And if breastfeeding is making either of you miserable, formula is there for a reason.

For this baby I'm going to write down a list of breastfeeding support numbers etc... so I have several sources to go to. We went on to formula with my son after 2 days due to several reasons tongue tie, delayed milk, stress etc. This time I'm a lot more prepared, I hope.

Hope all the 20 weeks scans go well. Mine is on Thursday so not long to go.

So I have the flu. Had a really high temperature on Sunday - boiling to touch but shivering, teeth chattering the lot. Paracetamol brought it down but I was concerned as fever in pregnancy not good. Temperature yesterday was not so bad but still not ok, aching all over etc. Hardly slept last night, coughing and blocked nose. Phoned in sick and went to the doctors today; wouldn’t ordinarily for a cold but just couldn’t risk it in pregnancy. She said it’s more like the flu than a cold. She touched me and said I felt very hot and had a temperature but when she took a reading it showed up as normal but she said this was my body’s way of fighting it and I need paracetamol to bring the fever down. Feeling at bit better now after an afternoon sleep and temperature feels a bit more normal. No work tomorrow though.

@SpriteGirl so sorry to hear that :( hope you feel better soon definitely take time off work to get 100% better x

I have made a new thread as I see we're approaching 1000! I'm on the app so can't copy the link right now but just search August 2018 #5 x

Hey everyone! Found out I'm having a little boy! I posted the 12 week scan a few weeks ago in this thread and everyone guessed girl!!

Hopefully this link works... https://www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3212219-august-2018-5

Congratulations @dancingunicorns123 how exciting! I think so far we have got every guess wrong.. oops! Everyone said boy for me and I am having a girl