Thread no.2 for babies due April 2018

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Hi all, I thought I'd start another thread. Hope you find it!

Going to doctors this morning hoping to get something for my sickness. Back to uni on Monday and I dont want to keep ducking out of lectures to vom! In the last couple of days its really ramped up :(
On a slightly more positive (short lived) note I've lost 7lbs!

I hope you get something Yeti have you tried SeaBands? Apparently people swear by them as you don't have to pop a pill. I've not had much nausea so never felt the need to try them but I've heard good things.

Roses I can't believe you've had to be off for a month! You poor thing! No wonder people at work know. I'm going to have to tell soon as I've been having a docs appointment pretty much every week and will do for the next few. Trying to wait for my scan though as I've started to feel very normal the past few days and can't help but be nervy

Miss yeti, I would definitely suggest trying the band's, they really helped my sickness last week when I had my bug. I wouldn't have thought to try them if it wasn't for being absolutely desperate and they were in easy reach. I can't imagine being in hours of lectures unwell though!
Do you have the same issue with not getting any mat pay?

Hi guys! Only just realised that the thread had moved - couldn't understand where everyone had gone!
Had booking appointment on Monday, and yesterday had to go to hospital to get blood taken as midwife couldn't hit the vein .
12 week scan set for 29th, can't wait!
Hope everyone is doing well x

Morning everyone. I have an early scan this afternoon. I'm feeling really nervous. Trying and failing to keep my mind occupied! 8+4 today.

Good luck @ouimerci it is so nerve wracking but hopefully you get good news and that will make you feel a lot less anxious!

Thanks @Poppyandpeaches! You'd think that as this is my third child, I'd be used to the nerves!

Thanks for the suggestions ladies! I'll have a look into it :)

How did you get on at the docs, @yeti?

Yes @MissYeti how was the docs? And @OuiMerci how did your scan go this avo?

Ladies can I ask for some advice? I know it's not necessarily the right place to ask this but don't want to open this up to the abuse of the rest of MN and I feel like this is a safe space with you lovely people.
My SIL is currently suffering from terrible depression, my DH is with her tonight to give her some company. She still lives with MIL and MIL is on holiday so she's all alone. Do any of you have any experience with depression? Half of me thinks giving her the good news she is going to be an aunty might cheer her up a bit but then the other half thinks this will just be rubbing her sad situation in her face...I know distraction is a good thing and I helped my own DS through antenatal depression by distraction but she was not as sad as my SIL. She's crying out for help but I don't know what to do 😢

@MrsDneedsaB - it perhaps depends what the root of the depression is as to whether it's likely to make her feels worse. On the other hand you will presumably tell her after the 12 week scan so if it is something likely to cause some hurt then is it better for her to know before others in the wider family so she has time to process it? In which case could it be a win win to tell her as either it makes her feel better or it gives her some time to process any negative emotions.

@MrsDneedsaB my brother suffers from depression and he was completely indifferent when I told him. I would offer her to stay with you or arrange to spend a few days with her, to out for lunch or something! Of course its up to you to tell her or not, just dont be surprised if its not the reaction you were expecting.

Also I got put on vertigo tablets (promethazine teoclate) took one as soon as I got them and its done wonders though the drowsiness is real! I can see why they recommend you take them at night!

@MrsDneedsaB ^wss, but also just a reminder that people with depression can often be, through no fault of their own, self-obsessed. She might respond one way or the other; either way she might not be able to think about how her reaction makes you feel. Worth bearing in mind so you and your DH can look after each other if it doesn't go like you might hope.

Oh @MissYeti I'm so glad they were able to prescribe something that helps.

Thanks for the input ladies, I "think" the depression stems from her being 32, still living with her mother, no notable relationships, in a terrible job and no social life. She's never really said these are the exact reasons but has hinted towards it heavily. This isn't the first rough patch she has been through and 3 years ago she actually ran away for 6 months to Edinburgh. At the time DH and I had moved to Dubai and she hated me for it, most things that have happened to us seem to make her more upset. So I think we will give her more time to process this news but will do it when we are in a place where she's not at a complete low.
Part of me thinks maybe she has a form of aspergers as she hates change, has OCD tendencies and finds it difficult to read social situations.

I'm honestly not fussed for my own sake how she reacts - if it's negative it will not upset me. I've come to expect it from her, I just really really don't want to make her feel worse.

Thank you for your responses ladies i really cannot express how much I appreciate it - didn't want to drag the level of the board down!!

Hi @MrsDneedsaB, what a difficult situation for you.

The only thing I'd add is that you might want to wait until MIL is back before telling her? Just so that she's not in the house on her own once you've left with no one else to distract her or keep her company if it doesn't go well.

There is a really nasty bug going round at the moment ladies and I've been in bed for 3 days now with a very very heavy cold and vomiting. I have no idea who I got it from but a warning, if anyone at work has a stinking cold avoid at all costs!

Yes absolutely @Thelostsock I will wait, thankfully she's back tomorrow evening so not too long but still definitely need someone around the keep an eye on her.

Sorry for hogging the attention tonight - hope everyone else has had lovely relaxing uneventful evenings

Has anyone else tried using a Doppler yet? I've managed to find babies heartbeat every time I've used it so far. Gives me massive peace of mind. I'm 10+3.

I have tried mine, but haven't heard anything. There are two spots where it shows between 130 and 170 but it also does that when I tried it on DP, so I don't think I'm catching it yet

Got my scan date through today, not until the 3rd October though. I'll be approximately 12 + 4 at that point.

A little bit gutted that it's so far and away, and also not at the location I would have liked (we have a smaller local hospital 10 minutes away), but I'm still glad that I have a date and will be able to see the baby and make sure everything is ok. 😊

I've tried mine but I only manage to pick up my own heartbeat lol apparently babies sounds like a little train chugging along really quickly.

Does the local hospital to you have a maternity ward @KBTR?

@MrsDneedsaB it doesn't anymore unfortunately. They do sometimes have ultrasound clinics there but I guess it's not at the right time etc.

Just a shame because is a 10 minute drive compared to 50 minutes.

But at least we'll get to see the baby, and really that's all that matters 😊

A bit gross but anyone having poo problems.??? I can't shit it's every 2/3 days now which makes it more difficult.

Completely normal @fitbit when I went to the docs with cramping the other day I bumped into my midwife, after 5 seconds of speaking to her she ran off to get me a prescription for laxatives!

I either have constipation and diarrhoea - no middle ground. So annoying.