May 2018 babies

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We're pretty early but thought I'd start a thread to see if anyone else is here already.

I'm 4+1, apparently due around 2 May. Would be great to have some company :). Already obsessing over every little thing. The next 8 weeks are going to drag!

Yeah I don't really know what makes you 'high risk'!

I actually asked after my son was born if I could a home birth second time around. And they said yes! (Despite forceps, second degree tear and high blood loss)

I can't keep up with this thread! I had a c section last time and I actually found recovery fine. I was at the shops pushing a buggy 4 days later. I'm worried that no two recoveries will be the same.
I'm high risk for too many reasons to count!

If you had a vaginal birth last time (with or without instruments) and have no other medical or pregnancy problems then you should be low risk

Nausea has slowed a bit and has been replaced by insatiable hunger for toast and marmite I have been through a phase of wanting to eat lots of veg, that's gone now haha

I'm aiming for a midwife led unit near my house if possible. Honestly to my traumatised ears it sounds like a heavenly 5 star hotel experience! My first birth was awful and traumatic and mostly conducted in a hospital waiting room, but here's what the unit offers:
A private room with a birthing pool
A shared kitchen with food available
Midwives trained in aromatherapy who can offer aromatherapy massage during labour
A double bed in each room so the dad can stay overnight.
They've got a pledge on their web page stating their aims and it just sounds perfect. Fingers crossed!

Wow that sounds great alex! I'd love to have a private room with double bed.

Ooooo moo now you mention marmite... I have been craving doritos but I reckon I could eat a lot of marmite now you've mentioned it! I think we might have some crumpets in the freezer, yum

Wow aromatherapy massage sounds amazing!! I had some 'labour massage oil' which I found very smoothing. I'm going to by 3 bottles this times because we run out within a few hours. My poor husband ended up massaging my back all through my labour because I find it very helpful. I didn't like gas and air, it made my head spin too much.

That sounds similar to our birth centre @AlexsMum89. I had DD there, it was lovely, hoping to go back again if I remain midwife led.

I was lucky enough last time to have a midwife trained in aromatherapy to massage my lower back and she then showed my DH how to do it and he took over. That was in a regular hospital too (although I was the only patient in!). I don't think I felt my DD come out but I also had a water birth and she kind of swam up to me which was amazing. I'd love another water birth this time.

moochops I'm so glad you said I might still be classed as low risk. I hope I can be midwife led again this time.

I think our thread may be getting close to being full, should I start a new one or have I missed it?

Wow, these sound like spa experiences! Our local hospital is renowned for having a not so great maternity section but it was much worse than I imagined. I was ignored in labour and told I was imagining it (having been induced!) they finally gave me paracetamol only to find I was 6 centimetres dilated. When I finally made it to labour ward the room was the size of a cupboard and was above the smoking area outside the hospital so cigarette smoke was billowing in. Midwife was really nasty, obviously sleep deprived and told me when I said no to pain relief that I would cave,,, "they all do" she was honestly horrid and clearly hated her job. The only saving grace was after 8 hours she changed shift and a lovely midwife turned up to the prison I was in. Aftercare was even worse! Aromatherapy massage was a no go I expect since I was even frowned at for bringing my own hypnobirthing cd! Ahhhh good memories!

I have heard good things about my local MLU - hopefully I will be low risk enough for that. My house is too small to accommodate a home birth I think

I am about to go into the cinema and feeling tired, sick and dizzy. How long will I stay awake??

Ladypug that sounds similar to my experience of birth - not exactly idillic!! I had an awful experience with my miscarriage there too, being sent away because they were too busy to scan me and the best was putting me next to a mum and her new baby as I came round from the op to remove my failed pregnancy. They couldn't work out why I was bawling my eyes out. Honestly I'm dreading going there for a scan.

I'm not even thinking about the giving birth but yet. If I make it past the next few weeks then maybe I'll think about it, but one step at a time.

Oh god Ladypug that sounds hellish! Luckily all of my midwives were lovely, fx'd the same happens next time.
Cautious yeah a new thread is a good plan if you haven't already started one
Remind me when the tiredness stops, I really want to exercise again but I'm too shattered to face it!

Tiffin that must have been horrific :(

Oh tiffin that sounds awful, you poor thing!

kirstipops last time for me I was full of energy again at 13 weeks but it's different for everyone. Fingers crossed it's the same this time as I'm falling asleep typing here!

This is my first so I have no past experience, but our local hospital is soon to open a brand new maternity unit, with large private rooms and birthing pools in every room.

Goodness me xjo we don't have one pool in the entire hospital let alone each room. Hang on whilst I book my train ticket to give birth in your neck of the woods!

@ladypug yep! It sounds amazing!

@ladypug yep! It sounds amazing!

I really don't know what to do. Being totally overwhelmed with nausea at the moment it's lasting all day. I've still been going to work but not lasting long at all before having to go home (they know I'm preggers). Feel like I'm annoying them but I'm reluctant to phone in sick and have an absence recorded. Plus I have no idea how long this will go on for (currently 7+3).

Do I just phone in sick and ride it out at home with a sick note if necessary? Or do I try and persevere? Decisions, decisions

New thread is up - don't lose us.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/3037259-May-2018-thread-2-first-trimester-early-scans-and-first-heartbeats

Hi All, Another lucky ttc #2 September grad. Faint bfp yesterday and stronger today, 1 day before af was due. My due date would be 31st May going by 1st day of period but I ovulated late so I think it will actually be 2nd June. I'm too nervous to set up a June bus yet, can I hang out here for a bit?

My local MLU was so amazing I wanted to 'check in' at 34 weeks. Mood lighting, pool in every room, double bed, ribbon/ropes from the ceiling to pull on when pushing, birthing chair. Just lovely. Sadly not meant to be as I went 15 days over, induced and ended in EMCS but it really wasn't that bad, DC1 was HUGE so I'd automatically be consultant led this time even without the EMCS. I actually want another CS if I can. 24 hours of labour and dc1 head never engaged, I'm very narrow and to quote the consultant afterwards 'you would never have got it out'.

For those with birth trauma, I did a daisy birthing course, a lot of women there went after a difficult first time and it really helped them. I can't even remember what book I read first time around but the 'how to grow a baby and push it out' is written by a very funny NHS midwife and apparently lays everything out honestly.

Not even 4 weeks yet and I already feel so sick, with DC1 I had about 6 weeks when I felt great (wks 14-20) and other than that felt sick all day every day despite never actually vomiting. Travel sickness bands were my lifesaver, still have them tucked away so will be getting them out soon.