March 2018 (Part 2)

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New thread as the old one is maxed out.

Link to old thread - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2958194-march-2018?

Sorry to hear that @LaSurprise, if it's light then it probably isn't an issue, but it must be scary. At my midwife appointment, they gave me some phone numbers but said for any concerns I should call GP, A&E or Maternity Day Assessment Unit. The day assessment unit is open Saturday and Sunday, or A&E can possibly refer you, so it could be worth trying even if EPU is closed.

For blood tests, it depends on your own risk factors whether it matters or not. The information is clear though that sickle cell and thalassaemia tests must be prior to 10 weeks. They also check for urine infections, general check on iron, folic acid etc. If you have other risk factors such a diabetes, thyroid problems etc then those will be tested too. It's a useful health check given that these things can all affect the baby.

I texted my midwife but no reply yet (wouldn't be expecting one this early on a Saturday tbh!)

I also phoned my local EPU who passed me from pillar to post just to tell me that since it's a Saturday I basically need to go to A&E if I'm in pain and apart from that phone my GP who can refer me to the clinic on Monday.

Not overly helpful.

Left considering paying £79 for a private viability scan this morning but not sure if that'll make me feel better or worse - if there's no heartbeat or fetal pole I'll just worry more I think (even though I know it's relatively normal not to see that so early)

I just don't know what to do. Just had a wee cry to my husband and told him I want my mum. I'm 28, she doesn't even know yet and lives 400 miles away (and actually is on holiday thousands of miles away at the moment) but in that moment I just wanted a cuddle from my mum 😢

I'm so sorry it's hard LaSurprise. You know it's probably fine, but it's hard not to be frightened and upset. Husbands are good for cuddles.

I already told my mum, then a week later my dad. I think it's ok if you need them to just let them know, it relieves the strain on your partner if you have someone else to talk to.

I just so wanted to tell my mum in person but I won't see her until 24 August ...!

I just wanted to see her face! I might have to tell her earlier, on Skype or something! I kinda wanted to have my first scan (hopefully having private one 19 August) before we told our parents, so we don't get anyone's hopes us if it doesn't work out

Yeah, I just couldn't wait for my mum, I told her the next time I talked to her. I didn't need to see her, I could hear her delight loud and clear. Then I saw my dad the next week, she'd kept it so secret that he also did three half skips saying "oh your mum will be so happy" and I had to confess she knew. We're trying to keep it quiet from my partner's parents until the tests are fine, because they have no grandchildren yet so they'd take any loss incredibly hard, though tonight is the first time since we found out that I'll have seen them, so I don't know how I'll get on. I doubt they'll believe that I'm not drinking due to being on a diet.

How far along are you LaSurprise, sorry i cant remember.

I had pink spotting and then a brown for a few hours and it turned out ok. I was 6+2 at that point (though I thought I was around 7 before I had a scan) and I was told it could be old blood, possibly implantation bleeding, being pushed out. It's apparently relatively common around the 6 and 7 weeks mark. Didn't stop me absolutely panicking though!

@SheSaidHeSaid I am 6+2 so you've just made me feel a whole lot better - thank you.

I suppose there's nothing I can do but take it easy and try to keep calm for the sake of the wee one in there

@Excited1103 this is first grandbaby all round and comes after some tough times for both families - I'm hoping very much a ray of sunshine for us all! I do wonder if I'll crack and just ended up telling my mum next time I speak to her on the phone 🙈

Glad to have been of service .

Yes, take it easy, that's what my sonogrpher said. If you get pain as well, go to a&e as that's a sign something untoward might be going on but otherwise make the most of a forced chilled out weekend.

There you all are! How's everyone feeling today? DH is at work so enjoying a lie-in

I know how you feel with your mum being far away @LaSurprise

My mum lives in Scotland while we are down in England. As it happens - she's visiting at the moment and we are telling both mums today. I always wanted to tell her face to face. I don't know how I'm going to cope the next 9mknths with her being so far away!

I'm sure the spotting with be fine - but everything is frightening isn't it? This is my first too and at 34 didn't think it would happen so easily.

You have is all here xx

@MrsW0812 my family are also in Scotland and we are in the SE! That's so exciting you're telling them today! How far on are you?

Thank you all so much - just knowing there are people who understand is so helpful

@LaSurprise, hope you're ok. Many women have slight bleeding/pink discharge in pregnancy and all is ok. Keep an eye on things and keep us posted.

@MrsW0812, you could be me! My parents live in Scotland, and I'm in England. I don't see them til I go to Scotland at the beginning of August, so keeping quiet until then, as I don't want to tell them over the phone!

@LaSurprise @Flatwhite31 - my mum is in Aberdeen and I'm in sw. My bro lives in London too - so all split across.

The DH family lives 40mins from us and both mums get on really well so DH wanted to tell them together. Will be my mums first GC and MIL 2nd.

My mum going through awful divorce form my dad so I'm a way I'm hoping once it's finished she'll come move down here xx

OMG @MrsW0812 - guess where my parents live? Aberdeen! Wow! Sorry to hear about your parents' divorce though.

My DH's family is just over an hour's drive away. Can't believe our circumstances are so similar!

Wow @Flatwhite31 such a small world!! Can't believe how similar. Is this your 1st?

I know @MrsW0812! Yes this is my first. Full of early pregnancy anxiety, hoping everything will go smoothly! I'm 31, but turn 32 in just under 3 months.

My first too and worried something is going to happen. In 34 but 35 in September so worried that my age is going to affect things

I think that's still young on the spectrum... fear not!

I have a feeling that I will be one of the youngest mums in any NCT classes I do- I'll be 28 next month!

Maybe that's a good thing to start to distract ourselves with, talk about classes. My local hospital does some, plus there's NCT, plus a thing called Birth & Beyond. My midwife listed some from 12 weeks onwards, though she also highly recommended a dads-only course, but that's for 34 weeks, such feels like a lifetime at the moment (end of Jan!!). So, what has everyone taken before who's a mum already, what did you think, unvarnished comments please! Thanks

I've been for my reassurance scan this morning, everything is fine we saw and heard the heartbeat. Measuring about 7 weeks, so EDD is 10th march. Which isn't far off what I thought as from LMP I am 7+5.

Just relieved to see it there and can start to feel a bit more excited now!

28 isn't that young really LaSurprise, and we have a few 24 year olds here, so maybe NCT would be similarly mixed.

I was 24 when I had my first. 29 now - will be 30 before it's born though.

I didn't do NCT last time, partly because I thought I'd be the youngest and most working class by some distance. Not sure whether that was a fair assessment (and realise it'll vary in different areas anyway), but I didn't regret that choice. That said, I didn't really get a firm group of 'Mum friends' until he was 2ish (via nursery) and I know for some people that'd feel pretty isolating.

Pretty sure I won't do any classes this time around either.

I definitely want to do NCT. I don't really have any local friends and I don't fancy a long maternity leave without anyone to talk to! I can cope with buying friends! Hehe!