November 2017 #3: Flutters, bubbles and a proper bump!

[GingerHanna]

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Here we all are... delving into our second trimesters and awaiting 'The Big Scan'! Don't forget to keep the list updated.

@Motherhippy16 totally get it about standing up for yourself! I've found that although my DH is very supportive, he doesn't quite 'get it' which is understandable given that he's not going through it to the same degree!

Although my midwife is pretty good, the only way to contact her is through a community office, where she never is meaning I'd not be speaking to her anyway! For that reason, I've never bothered!

@GingerHanna THIS! My lovely mum really is so, so supportive but even she, a few weeks ago, was talking about a family member who is also pregnant and said something along the lines of, 'I wonder if she's having a weekly panic like you!'

I found that really offensive because apart from a major panic when I began bleeding at 6 weeks, I've had some questions and concerns but none I've deemed serious enough to even discuss outside of my family/ on here!

Ultimately I think it's the age old thing of women being expected to smile sweetly, pretend everything is great and channel their inner yummy mummy! Rant over haha

Completely agree @teachervoice It's some sort of weird self perpetuating lie that we're all supposed to feel wonderful and earthy when we're pregnant. It doesn't always feel socially acceptable to say it's a hard slog most of the time. And so it goes on - it isn't talked about and if you do say it's tough you might be 'not coping' and that's a 'bad thing'.

Unfortunately it continues into motherhood and with my first it took me a very long time to get over the fact that I was finding it hard.

We get sucked in to just saying oh I'm fine...so lucky to be pregnant... Best job in the world etc etc. Because we're made to feel inadequate if we don't feel like that.

I've been pretty upfront this pregnancy that I don't feel brilliant and have been super anxious at times. People have been great, although to be fair most people I know are either parents of young children and/or very open about things like mental health anyway.

Just had my 20 week scan, everything looks fine and thankfully the sonographer said girl when it came to the gender. I've been worrying that they would say boy after the private scan said girl.

I have to have another scan at 32 weeks as I have an anterior placenta that has currently positioned itself right under my c section scar. Scan will be to check that it has moved, if not I'll have to go back to the consultant and agree a plan for delivery. I'm hoping for an elcs so fingers crossed it does move otherwise they might want to avoid elcs.

Just had my whooping cough jab too. Have to sit and wait 20 minutes before I can leave the hospital just to make sure there is no reaction so if anyone else is having theirs after the scan you might want to factor that in.

Great news Topsy! Good way to start the week.

Anyone still throwing up? I've just started a separate thread on the matter to see if any Mumsnetters can advise. It's so unlike my first pregnancy, I'm a bit .

My saddlebags appear to be slimming down! Feeling less fat and looking more pregnant!

Brilliant new topsy! I have my scan tomorrow afternoon.

I am feeling rubbish - have been running a temperature for 6 days but only in the afternoons/evenings, chest is tight and I ache all over. Off work today as don't even have the energy to sit at my desk but feeling very guilty about it as I've had to leave colleagues in the lurch today. Off to the docs this afternoon.

fantastic @Topsy!

@zampa I'm still being sick every day and feeling nauseous most of the day at the moment, i thought it was going but its come back with a vengeance! whats the name of the thread?
@butterybollocks I feel like this too, took all my energy to drive into work, had about 2 hours sleep last night with worrying and feeling pains in my sides.

I'm feeling so anxious and sad today, 19+3 now and still no movements from the baby since 3 weeks ago. got my scan this week and terrified of what they are going to tell me.
Anyone else not felt the baby until 20 weeks +?
I'm first time mum so not sure how I should feel.
should i speak to my midwife again? i'm sure shes fed up of hearing from me with trivial problems.

@Zampa sorry to hear about your nausea good news about the saddlebags - wouldn't mind that happening to me!

@Bubbasmama2017 I haven't felt much, fingers crossed all ok for you x

@Bubbasmama2017 I feel exactly the same as you. I'm 19+4 today, when I was 16 weeks I thought I could feel bubbles popping movements. Then I got a bladder infection so unsure wether that was movements or not. Not felt anything since.

I've felt exceptionally well since 18 weeks with the odd bout of tiredness and irrational rage. So I too am paranoid about my scan on Friday. It can't come quick enough!

Bubba I'm the same. Thought I could feel a few bubbles around 16 weeks then nada. Now 19+3 - had a private gender scan at 16+6 where they thought I may have an anterior placenta which would explain it. Will be able to get that confirmed at 20 week scan next week. FTM also and really wishing I had some reassuring pokes... although I may regret saying that in a few months time!

@theotherendofthesockportal I've been freaking out about that kind of thing and sometimes get period like pains. had a scan at 15 weeks (too early for gender unfortunately) that showed everything is ok.
My midwife advised not to get a Doppler but I wonder if it would help. she said people freak out when they can't hear babys heartbeat and think something is wrong.
@gingerhanna that's how I would describe it Bubbles. every now and again I think I've felt something then can put it down to having just eaten so kind of explain it away.
wish my scan would come sooner :-(

@bubbasmama2017 The thread is here;

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2963907-Still-throwing-up-at-18-weeks

Some good advice!

I didn't feel movement for 20+ weeks with DD1 and this time, I think I'm feeling movements but then I think it might just be my digestive system!

I think that the second trimester is very disconcerting. Your bump isn't big enough to look obviously pregnant and many symptoms disappear. I can remember not feeling at all pregnant for a while with DD1.

Hi,
I had 20 week checkup on Saturday and everything was good.

I did learn, for those of us with low-lying placentas, that they never move any lower. They'll either stay where they are or move up.

I have to have another scan at 26-27 weeks to see if mine has moved and then a scan at 32 weeks to check on the baby's growth. I'm sure the docs see dollar signs when I walk in the door

I'm an emotional mess at the moment. Even the slightest thing sets me off. On top of the hormones my son went to his first sleep away camp yesterday. It's only 4 nights but he's only 10 and seems too young to go, but it's what he wanted and his dad booked it. I'm counting the days until he's home!

Bubba - I'm 19+3 and have felt nothing yet. Had anomaly scan last week and he would stop stop moving and wriggling around! But couldn't feel anything. Sonographer said it was due to placenta position, but not to worry about it as everyone is different anyway & I might not feel it until 24 weeks. Hard not to worry but I don't think it's unusual at all.

Thanks everyone for reassuring me, I think I need to spend some time doing relaxation exercises.
Praying the scan helps me feel less anxious but I think i'll need to have a few more as 20 weeks without seeing the baby will not be good for me.

Not sure about relaxation classes... a couple of weeks ago I switched from normal yoga to pregnancy yoga, and I seem to cry after it every time!! No idea what's going on, but I'm starting to think relaxing is overrated...

I cried 3 times in an hour this morning at different TV programmes! Super emotional this week.

I didn't feel movement until 20-21 weeks with my first, I think that's totally normal.

Lovely to hear about people's 20 week scans and wedding bells!

I have to admit I'm really struggling today. after my 20 week scan I was feeling really excited and upbeat but I definitely seem to have a pattern of anxiety-scan-relief happy joy-anxiety again.

I don't help myself as I definitely Google too much, I get an idea in my head about something I'm worried about and then it all escalates. I'm on my own a lot during the daytime so lots of opportunities for unhealthy 'research'.

I already see a therapist for anxiety and do yoga, meditation etc but just don't seem to be able to get to a point of really enjoying being pregnant, can't seem to believe that the most likely thing is that everything will be alright!

We had the 20 week scan today and all is looking ok and he is a reasonable size despite what he has been through these last 4 weeks.

I also had a sneaky sit on my advanced horse with my cast on today so feel much more like me again! X

Just to add I have had depression and have medication for it, but when I did my injury the main worry was that I would slip back into that old cycle. I could see the starts of it the last few days (inability to sleep, no interest in anything, not wanting to talk to people) so although there was a risk with me getting back in the saddle it has done wonders for my mind status. Tonight I am smiling again for the first time since I discovered how serious the injury was, and it felt like being home being back on my Advanced girl!

Glad the scan went well Durez. It must have been so good getting on your horse today. Hopefully it won't be too much longer before you're back riding properly.

Not trying to put anyone off but my arm is really sore after my whooping cough jab today, similar to the typhoid jab if anyone's had that one. So glad I washed my hair this morning, it hurts to lift my arm above shoulder height.

@msbranwen I'm so glad you said that I seem to get so much reassurance from the scan and then 2 weeks almost to the day after that I'm needing further reassurance or convincing the baby is ok. I've got friends that are pregnant too and don't seem to be as worried so was starting to feel like I needed locking up.

Oh no @Topsy I've booked in for my jab this week! I have my 20 week scan tomorrow and I'm so nervous. I'm 20+1 today so officially over halfway through! How has that time gone so quick??

I agree ladies who are feeling good/not pregnant, it is so worrying. The last 3 weeks or so I've felt so happy and glowy and how they always say pregnant women should feel, this week I've had a surge of energy, ordered some pregnancy workout dvds, going out for walks, socialising, have been bang on top of my housework (honestly since I've been pregnant I've let it slide so much and it makes me depressed when I do as I have a bit of OCD) and just bouncing around in general. The first 17 weeks I was a drained, pasty recluse! When I think about it, it worries me because I don't really feel pregnant any more! Is there ever a time you stop worrying??

Also, sorry to those of you feeling sick :( my SIL had no sickness until 18 weeks but hers came from an ear imbalance. Hope it passes soon x

I went to the docs yesterday and I have a chest infection. They've given me 5 days of antibiotics and told me to take the maximum dose of paracetamol for a few days. I really don't like taking all this medication but can't carry on feeling this rubbish. I'm trying really hard not to worry about it but I am stressing about whether me being ill and having s temperature for most of the last week has affected the baby.

Durezidal great to hear you've been back in the saddle...What's that saying about the outside of a horse being good for the inside of man? It's so true.

@Topsyloulou does everyone have the whopping cough jab?

@Hazandduck I've been the same as you, I've been a new woman since the day I turned 18 weeks. I've got on top of my cleaning, I feel like socialising with my friends again and I'm going to find a pregnancy yoga course. I feel the yoga will help my pregnancy anxiety.

I also thing a felt a kick last night. It felt like I had been flicked with an elastic band, in a none painful way. I haven't told anyone in real life as I want the reassurance of the 20 week scan first - which is on Friday.