November 2017 #3: Flutters, bubbles and a proper bump!

[GingerHanna]

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Here we all are... delving into our second trimesters and awaiting 'The Big Scan'! Don't forget to keep the list updated.

I can't believe I am now 20 weeks. With the trauma and the surgery I haven't even thought much about being pregnant until this evening when the little guy was going absolutely crazy bouncing around.

I have a little bump now too, still hardly there but definitely something.

My consultant has said I can drive so just trying to organise an automatic so I have some independence back, and have managed to talk him into letting me have the cast off a few days early as I have a big competition in just 4 weeks time. I haven't ridden a horse now for over 3 weeks and it is killing me both financially and emotionally. 😢

Sounds like you've had a rough time @DuRezidal glad you're on the mend.

DH and I in posh hotel for the night for anniversary but I can't sleep :-/

Hope you've managed to get some sleep in the end lydia! My five year old was up at 5.15am this morning

Good to hear you're on the mend DuRez. I haven't ridden for months and am at the 'sitting looking at photos and sobbing' stage. Can't watch Disney Brave, Angus makes me cry.

Can't beleive I am 18 weeks today!! Crazy times! One week of teaching left before I break up for the summer holidays! Feel like I've been running on empty for the last few weeks!! And worst thing is principal is making me hide it from parents and children so baggy tops galore - can't wait to b able to put something on in the morning and not worry wether it is hiding bump!! Definitely feeling bubba now! Been feeling flutters for a few weeks but this week it has definately been more little knocks and taps etc!! All very exciting! Anomaly scan not till 18th July (same week as my first wedding anniversary so hubby has booked a night away - can't wait!!) hope everyone keeping well and enjoying this crazy little journey we all on!!

@MrsJB1987 why in the world are you being made to hide your pregnancy?!

@Teachervoice who knows!!! Don't understand it at all! Very small community school of 30 kids and there is no way parents haven't guessed anyway but some odd notion of principal! Aparently she has done it with all staff! I have to do what I'm asked tho cos only going on contract next school year as have been working on a full time supply basis this year! I have family members that live within this community who know and I've just said to principal that if parents etc find out through them it's not my problem! It's annoying as most of my class are moving on and they would be so excited for me if they knew and they just won't know at all!!

@MrsJB1987 that's such a shame for you! Part of the enjoyment for me has been the reaction of my students: guessing that I was pregnant at the beginning, being so excited when I confirmed after 12 week scan, taking bets on the gender and making me little gifts etc and these are secondary school kids!

It's probably illegal to force you to hide your bump: at the very least discriminatory and morally wrong. I'd be asking if other staff members need to hide medical conditions - that would put the wind up her. I am a difficult cow though so I understand why you're not! 🙂

I agree it is prob discriminatory at the least!! But I'm just not in a position to argue with it! Aw my class wud have loved it... they make gifts for my St. Bernard pup and get bored through class all day everyday just to say I'm their favourite teacher etc. They give me advice on my hair etc! Such a lovely wee class and hate that I'm not able to share it with them! But maternity pay next year is also useful!! Haha! Xx

Bored should be notes!!!! lol @Teachervoice

Pahahaha! That was the most wonderful typo!
At least soon you physically won't be able to hide it, unless your head requests you start wearing a tent to school, so then your class can share the experience with you!

@Teachervoice only a week of term left!!!!! Then I'm gonna wear a tight t-shirt saying baby on board!!! Hahahaha

Ah, amazing @MrsJB1987! I won't complain about the fact that I've got 4 weeks left

Enjoy flaunting your bump!

Hi everyone.

Please can I join this thread... I have been lurking on this thread for a while and trying to muster up the courage to join.

My due date is actually in December but the December antenatal club seems very advanced and established and I may end up having this DC in November as it looks like I am having an ELCS anyway. Please don't chase me away

I am 14+6 today and have one DS (turning 6 on Wednesday!) and this is my seventh pregnancy. After DS I have had two ectopic pregnancies, two MCs and one MMC.

This is the furthest I have gone in a pregnancy since DS and I am still massively paranoid and sometimes not even believing that it looks like this is the one that sticks. I have had three scans already and they were all good; just waiting on my 16 week appointment in about two weeks.

Will end there as I don't want this first post to be too long

@JCleRoux welcome to the gang!

I'm off the husband this afternoon to buy a a travel system. In the shop the one we wanted was over £600, husband has found a second hand one on eBay for £40. It means a long drive there and back but at least it means we get out for a change.

I'm still not sure if I have felt any movements yet. I'm 19+2 and have an anterior placenta. I sometimes think I can feel my tummy gurgling in strange places around my pelvis area. Would you class that as movements?

Hi JCleRoux, more the merrier I think. How are you feeling?

attheotherend sounds like it could be moving. I've got no idea if I've felt anything yet (18+1) but I'm trying to get more in tune with my body.

Enjoying sober hen weekend (and realising that 'are you allowed to..'/'are you supposed to...' comments are going to be a feature of the next few months). But for some reason feeling really sad as well. I'm really emotional anyway and struggling with depression and just feeling overwhelmed about being a mum, worried about coping, worried about lack of really close friends, worried about all the things I don't know etc.

Going back downstairs with a happy face on in a sec but just trying to get some of these thoughts and feelings out my system. Hope everyone else is a bit happier right now.

@prettygirlincrimsonrose sorry to hear you are feeling down. Have you told your midwife? I suffer with anxiety and told my midwife who arranged for me to see a mental health midwife which has been a huge help for me. I see the specialist midwife every few weeks and I feel like I am being looked after.

I've been super anxious and depressed at times too. My midwife finally referred me to the mental health team at the hospital but the appointment isn't for another 9 weeks which is annoying. She suggested I pay for separate counselling but I don't think it's been helping as the counseller isn't a special maternity counseller iyswim also it's £50 an hour which is way too much for me to pay so have had to stop that anyway. What does your midwife say @sock?

Welcome @jcleroux definitely more the merrier... I'm due right at the end of November so if I go over due then I'll be in December anyway.
I've had really down days as well (today being one of them) so have been doing little things to protect myself (I.e. pj day and chocolate treats... feel good films etc and hugs from dh. Was offered support from mental health team but this wasnt mentioned again at the 16 week app. Have started feeling baby bubbles today which is really lovely! Much love to all x

Hey ladies. I've been diagnosed with depression in the past but always ignored it, have had many down days in pregnancy, thinking I probably need to do something about it.

@lydiangel83 I have a history with depression as well so i can really empathise with the difficulties. I hope you get the support that you need from the midwives and drs x

@Bubbasmama2017 the specialist midwife just listens to me, she has also put me on a 10 week cbt course, I'm in week 2 now and it has helped as I have identified the cycle of bad thoughts. I am now looking at changing my thought process.

I don't expect to be cured over night, but identifying how I get myself into a pickle has hugely helped.

With the support of the midwife and the cbt group I don't feel so alone. I have a lovely husband and supportive family but they didn't have the expertise to help me. I can recommend asking for help enough.

If you need help, don't wait until your next appointment, call the midwife and ask them now. Sending positive happy thoughts to everyone

Ladies, I don't mean to hijack your conversation but I was thinking today: I've found that whenever I mention a concern I have, regardless of how valid I think it is, there will be people who respond with, "are you always this anxious? There's no point in stressing for no reason: don't you trust the medical professionals?" which just makes me feel that it's not acceptable to voice the worries you have and we're all just supposed to crack on like everything is always wonderful.

I'm finding it very tiring.

@teachervoice I completely understand. Every concern is a valid concern.... pregnancy is a huge event for our bodies minds and relationships to go through. Have found I've really had to stand up for myself... even to my dh in the beginning for all the worries that I have. My friend had a baby in Jan and her first midwife was awful so she changed to another one as she wasn't happy. No question is too small. I hope you get the support... Have found more support on here and from pregnant friends than professionals! X everything is not always wonderful... it's hard draining most a lot of the time x

Teacher I hear you. I spoke to my brother yesterday about the wedding and he asked how I was getting on with the pregnancy. Said all was fine and just a bit crap occasion... he was surprised as according to my sister I'm really struggling and finding it very hard and suffering. So much for thinking my sister was my super support system who I could open up to and let it all out. She typically does things like this in life but I really thought this would be different.

I don't mind her talking about how I'm doing to my brother but making it out as though I'm really struggling and not coping well when really I just thought I could trust her and open up what's gotten to me.

Oh well, lesson learnt.

Aww @GingerHanna sorry to hear that :( I can imagine how you feel, in my family I'm the only sibling not allowed to feel bad or moan about anything otherwise I'm seen as making a big deal about things over nothing. I work significantly harder than my siblings and have moved away from our home town and have maybe a bit more cash than them and as a result am not allowed to feel down or upset about anything. Instead I'm always told how lucky I am (I don't deny this but have got to where I am through sheer hard work and risk taking). It's tough. Maybe your sis wanted to share with your bro in order to help her support you? I can't explain it, siblings are a great cause of pain for me :-/ for you x