DANGER: Wide Load - due in April 2007

[Katy44]

sorry. that wasn´t very clear. My friend is the girl, I needed to get in touch with him, him being her now-ex

maveta that's awful and sounds so controlling. Do you think some people will actually believe him, or do you think they will all just say 'cheeky git' like you? Are you planning to tell your friend?

Hi guys...

Just a quick message to say I am fed up with friends calling going have you had it yet?? I am still like 4wks from due date - do they have nothing better to do than just ring me now I am on maternity leave??? Is anyone else experiencing this problem or is it just me...

Roll on April 7th not that babies are ever on time???

Hope everyone else is okay.. off to have some cheese and tomatoes on toast i think!

Take care

twinkle183

Katy44. No, I don´t think I´ll tell her. I just think it would make her feel shit and what would it acheive? He´s been saying to her for ages that she has psychological problems - wanker - and that she needs to get help etc. I thought it all sounded really dodgy and controlling too but it´s just the height of shittiness if he´s now saying it to people who know her aswell.

It´s all just a bit weird. He told our (mutual) boss 2 weeks ago that they were splitting up, while he was still making it hard for her to arrive at any kind of resolution i.e. everytime she mentioned a trial separation he just ranted about her having someone on the side etc etc (she doesn´t). Anyway, she just found out about this (our boss told her) and was gobsmacked.

Off to read new thread in a min but quick question first. I have this unbelievable pressure feeling in my whole pelvis area. Is this engagement? My other three didn't engage (DD1 because she was OP and the others as they weren't first DC). I thought in subsequent pg's babies rarely engaged? My bump looks the same - doesn't look any lower. I do feel like I can breathe easily, although I don't always get a squashed lung feeling so hard to know if that's any different. Any help?

My God, so many posts I can't keep up!

Eca, mammyjo, weeonion, thinking of you all, and hope everything is ok.
Oogs and 1b3, hope you are both ok too with your dual babes.

Nutty, pmsl at the strep b test scenario. I think I'll be giving that a miss! Don't think dh could stomach it either! Tried peeing in a pot today, and that was bad enough!

Liath, how are doing now after your curry bottom?

Eddas, sorry you are having a pants day.

My dh has peed me off again. Last week it was chewing gum in the wash, and now a sodding tissue - I could throttle him.

God, I have forgotten everything else again - hopeless case.

Had a hectic day today. Think I overdid it with the housework. Then spent the afternoon at a farm with Becky and am now exhausted. Rib pain is excruciating. Really bad when I sit down.

B is driving me insane as well. She talks incessantly, and sometimes I just want her to stop for 5 minutes - I need peace! I need a holiday!!!

Sorry, gone in to rant mode.

Better head, back later. Love and hugs. xx

Maveta - I would say about 1m wide and you could make it smaller if you needed to.

Claricebean - sorry to hear about the pain - maybe baby is engaged - ring midwife and get checked out if gets worse - like you feel need to bear down

Eca - poor you - hope all is okay

SOSPL - my eldest is at the age where can tell him to just stop talking for 5 minutes and leave me alone - ds2 just says no and carries on oblivious!

LOL Liath - re curry bum - there are some things we share we know will come back to haunt us!!!

Need to do some ironing - hurts pelvis but need some clothes!

Octo - LOL at need to bear down.. Not quite there yet!! It does feel like it's all going to explode though. Could get ugly. Can't believe I have to put up with more than 3 more weeks of this.

SOSPL - sigh about your husband and his pocket issues.

SOSPL, my dd talks non stop from waking to going to bed and even in her sleep!!! Good job she's in her own room so i know what you mean. Also, at dh, you just can't train them can you

Clarice, think i've had a similar pain, didn't with dd, mw said i'm 1/5. Baby back to back so unlikely to be more til it shifts round the right way apparently. I too don't feel like it's lowered but people says it has.

Maveta, some men are crap hope your friend gets through it all ok. Sounds like she's gonna need you.

Twinkle, have sympathy with the friends thing, mine just keep saying don't have it when you here with me. Think we might get a little prior warning if dd's birth anything to go by I wish i could wind them up with fake pains but so crap at that!!

Octo, ironing pile is calling me too, no pain here but just one of those things i like to put off. I'm trying not to let it build up but i had serious washing overload(got stuff out of loft on sat for the baby) so it's been left over a week and is verging on mountinous again, oops!

Right off to get dd ready for bed as she's crying at ridiculous things, dh stopped playing camps, crime of all crimes!!! So really needs to go to bed ASAP.

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I just can't keep up!
I feel so bad when there are so many posts and things Iwant to reply to and by the time I've read them my mind is like a great big cavern with tumbleweed bowing across it.

Am thinking of Mammyjo - it's all a bit scary that things are starting to happen for some of us. Weeonion - I really hope you are ok - been thinking about you all day today - are you going to stop work now and have a rest? Big Hugs to everyone who is poorly and has aches pains and all the rest.

Hd a very tearfu day today - finding it a strain running around after Phil and James..only have myself to blame...no one is asking me to do it and then I get upset cos I feel like no one really looks after me...it's just hormones - have cried about 4 times today - and embarassingly once at work...I really think it is time for me to go on Mat leave...only 8 days left including tomorrow...
All I wnated to do when I got home was go to sleep but Phil wanted to do the food shop...I asked him to go on his own but he wanted us to go together (FFS!!!) so I managed to get a hours nap before James got home so I feel a bit more human. Phil is currently having the delights of a hysterical temper tantrum at bathtime and TBH I am sitting here thinking "You can deal with it for a bloody change"...

Had midwife appointment today - am cross as hospital have definatley "lost" my notes from previous botched birth...My midwife told me that there is little chance they will be found as apparently when the old hospital was closed and new midwifery unit opened the last thing to be transferred was patient records...meanwhile vagrants broke in to the old hospital and used the patient records to make fires to keep them warm...so nice to know I've been able to help a tramp keep cosy...but not much help to me -

Sorry this is such a whingey post...just not the best of days today
x

MIABT - cyber hugs coming your way. Hormones - eh? Don't you just love 'em. I feel like that quite often at the moment. DH is ill and sleeping all the time and I'm running around after the whole family thinking, ahem - I am 8 months' pregnant here.

MIABT, to you. Really hard when you have a crap day. Crap about the hospital notes too.

As others said to me the other day, don't worry about whinging, we all feel the same here and there(mainly here for me!!!)

Claricebean - that is EXACTLY how I feel...and thanks for the hug Eddas.
I think I feel guilty becasue IO know how valuable the support is on here that I get frustrated when I don't feel I am able to give my full support to everyone back...does that make sense??
x

Best go - James is still screaming upstairs! sigh
x

It does, i'm the same, always feel like i'm whinging and moaning never helping. Feel like a crap mum and wife too at the moment. Just hoping that not being pg will help, roll on 2nd April. They do come out on time right?

Hello again! Thanks for all the good vibes. I am back home yet again. They are not convinced whether it was my waters or not but since I have had no more this afternoon they were happy enough with that. Had me on the monitor for what felt like ages and I am actually getting fairly regular although mild contractions which were showing up on the trace. Midwife said it could be the start of something but could just as easily be nothing to get excited about. So frustrating, I wish it would either come out or just stop dangling the carrot in front of me! I will be getting to the point where I am too scared to go out for fear of my waters going totally!!

Thanks Birdie for offering to email me. I must have just missed your message before logging off when dh appeared. No matter, will try and find out where my buddy ooogs is.

Eca, thinking of you and hoping everything is ok.

MIABT, dont worry about coming here to moan. Its what its here for and its just nice to know everyone here is around to listen and support you xx

SOSPL, so know what you mean. My ds does not stop talking from the moment he gets up in the morning and sometimes it just does my head in. I say to him cant you just be quiet for 5 minutes and mostly he says no!

Hope everyone is ok this evening xx

Have a big hug from me too MIABT, could have written your post today. Feel crap too - big, uncomfortable, knackered and struggling to be a good mum. Dd was at nursery this afternoon and I just spent the time wallowing on the sofa so the place is a tip.

Hope all is well with WO and mammyjo.

By the way, my curry bottom is just fine, but I am touched by the concern for my nether regions . I don't think the downstairs loo has quite recovered - tipped a load of bleach down, shut the lid and have been hoping for the best....

x-post mammyjo! Glad you're back in one piece but it must be a bit frustrating for you!

Very frustrating! Glad your toilet survived the onslaught!!

Mammyjo, welcome home! So frustrating for you though.

MIABT, so sorry you are having a rough time. Huge hugs to you, and to Claricebean, tring to deal with kids and poorly dh's.

Liath, glad your bum is better - fingers crossed for the toilet!

Right, need to sort dinner - cheating tonight and having a Tesco finest ready meal as have no energy to do anything else. I think someone mentioned this before, but I too feel like I have been riding a horse - the tops of my thighs at the back, ache like buggery.

Big hugs to everyone - sorry for not mentioning everyone by name, but thinking of you all.

xx

Hello all, this is too all those with dc's already.

Would anyone like a brilliant book called 'There's a house inside my mummy' to read to dc's(younger ones) before the little one arrives? It is a really good book IMO i spotted it ages ago in a charity shop and picked it up for my friend(i wasn't expecting at the time) She gave it back today for me to read to dd but my sister bought it for her for xmas as it had been recommended to her by a friend.

Thought i'd see if anyone on our thread wants it, if not i'll see who else i can think of to give it to

Eddas, would it suit a 2 year old do you think? Would be interested if it's fairly basic.

Just thought I'd drop in briefly as am now officially not "allowed" on pc or to do anything else for that matter by dh.

Got taken to hospital last night (by ambulance) with massive stabbing pains to left hand side. anyway I could not move or get off the stairs with all the pain, though I knew all along it was not labour pains. They think it was sth muscular. Had all the rel. tests and all is well and have thank god. Spent five hours listening to all those poor ladies in labour but then thought god this baby is coming and I cannot wait for it all to happen now, esp when you hear the sounds of those newborns wow.

Hope everyone is well and take heed from me - REST UP!!!!!

Oh yes that's the right age same as dd(she's 2&9months) and my best mates daughter is younger so sure you'll both appreciate it.

this is the one, if you'd like it email me your address, mine's on Ellies list and i'll post it to you

Eek, how scary - glad all is OK & you're taking it easy.

Cheers Eddas. Is Ellies list on the last thread?