Due April 2007 - eggs on legs, boiling steadily

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slight change from the one i had planned but figured we'll only truly be hard-boiled once we're overdue!

Evening - been to my relaxation class so feeling very chilled. The BF workshop was a one off thankfully!

I have had peanut butter on toast - great snack to have. Have also had wine (not for first 4 months due to the yakking - come on - you must all remember the yakking phase ) a couple of times a week - but am very conscious of how much, prawns and eggs - but no brie, blue cheese or pate!

Have taken my flower waters - so off to bed by 8pm - recording top gear for tomorrow!

Nighty night all

Well im assuming pains yesterday were BH as i havent had a baby but they progressed and were exactly like my early labour pains with ds, very painful and it went on for 2 and a half hours. And ive been really achey and having twinges every now and then ever since so now really want to get at least the basics sorted, just in case! Was wondering though if same thing happens again how long should i wai before ringing MW? This is my 3rd so things could go pretty quickly and and as im only 34 weeks tomorow presumably id want to get to hospital early on so they could try and stop it and would they needto give me steroids for babies lungs or is he passed that stage now? I waited 2.5 hrs last night and didnt ring anyone cos didnt want to worry and its not like i could just pop to hospital to be checked id have to get someone round for kids or take kids to someone and it'd all be a big hassle but really how long should i wait if it happens again?

Was going to send dp up in the loft today to get moses basket, car seat and baby clothes out but actually the door broke off my washing machine last week and so have bought a new graded washer drier but doesnt come til tues sometime so no point getting it down til i can actually wash it. And have had to buy dd some new school tops to wear til then as only realised today that all hers are dirty! got xp to buy them though!
Meeting went ok, didnt have my list ready as last night really wasn't up to writing it but will make sure i have it done before i let him have her without me being there. His wife is lovely, she was around before when he used to see dd and it was because of her that i felt happy letting him take her! So we chatted loads about babies and what maias like and how rubbish men are with money and all sorts! Xp does seem calmer and bit more grown up than before, didnt get stressed with me once or didnt show a reaction to dd talking about jamie as daddy which is good. i just hope its genuine and will last. My main concern is that the novelty will wear off and he'll lose interest again and disappear from her life for a 3rd time. When i told her that they'd come back and wanted to see her again and asked what she remembered she said abit about their house and a neighbour with a toy tractor then she said and he slammed the door and didnt kiss her goodbye and i got cross and she cried which is exactly what happened the last time she ever saw him 3 years ago when she was 3 and a half. If he does it again ill fucking kill him! Mind you i think dp would get in there first, he hates him for it and cant understand how he could ever have stoppped seeing her. sorry or the huge rant its such a huge responsibility trying to do the right thing for her and really its all out of my hands, i cant protect her from him, i cant control what happens with him i just have to let it happen and do everything i can to make it work and if it doesnt then be there to pick up the pieces. its so hard to let her walk into a situation like this but he is still her dad and if it does all go ok then i know its better for her to have contact as she's growing up rather than get to 16 and have all these questions and insecurities about why he wasnt there. Its lousy bloody timing though!

I had so much more to say, ive been taking notes again today!, but ive waffled on so much i think i best stop and maybe say the rest in another post so it doesnt look like so much!

Oh - who is my buddy?! I had my email from ellie - thank you ellie - but dont know who im meant to email with my number!!

Hi maveta

Really don't mean to panic people with all the lists etc, just have had time today to actually respond properly to e-mails.

I am a born organiser and so live my life by lists...I can assure you though that there are lots of things that I haven't organised!

Yvie.. I am glad others have had Peanut Butter and Maveta - agree with you totally about the wine - I've had the odd glass but not really enjoyed it - can't wait to have some without the worry attached.

CD - bless you - you are certainly having a hectic time of it - hope the babysitting goes ok and that you make some headway with your packing tomorrow.

Octopussy - I'm just off to watch Top Gear in bed!

Night all
xxx

Pesha - with my second I had contractions every sunday for three weeks before he arrived - lasted for hours and then stopped. I would ring the hospital anyway next time and go in when you need pain relief - better to get checked out. My braxton hicks are really strong but only get one or two a day and breathe through them! I am hoping with this extra limbering up, that this labour will be short and painless!

Hope you sort out the whole xp thing - not what you need right now.

Right - my ovaltine is here - off to bed!

pesha your buddy is bubblez x

Pesha..baby's lungs should be fine by 34 weeks for life outside the womb.May need a bit of help but may not.
I too have scoffed peanut butter on toast and am going to have some soon.
Cannot wait for a LARGE Gin and Tonic with ice and lemon[droooooooooooool].

Nighty night octopussy.. sorry Pesha can´t give you any advice being a 1st timer myself but octo´s advice sounds good.

MIABT - yes, I am so panicked that I am once again slumped over my birth ball reading MN instead of actually DOING anything constructive I wouldn´t worry about panicking me, worst case it might actually give me a kick up the bum to get started. Maybe tomorrow...

dooby - we were told at breastfeeding class last week that it was ok to have first glass of wine after 7 days - i demanded to know when was gin ok?? the leader look aghast and said the same but i had better make it a weak one! i plan a very tall, very strong and very cold long gin to sip and enjoy. it has been a lonnnnnnnnnnnng time without a drink and this gin is my summer tipple. have to say this baby was conceived in a fog of long island iced tea and was probably also sloshing around in it for the early weeks while i was living it up in toronto! i have my bombay sapphire in the freezer now going all syruppy. yummy!

maveta, no I haven't
But got a lot further on that I was yesterday, and think I might take it into work on Tuesday and lock myself in an office - MN is blocked at work so that would be the sensible thing to do!
Yvie - white "whine"?? I think you're letting your feelings show through with that typo
I agree with whoever said about the enjoyment - I have had the odd glass of wine since about 20 weeks, but always have a lot less than I think I'm allowed (to allow for it being stronger etc) and sometimes have even less so I can allow my glass to be topped up - it will be nice to not have to worry about that any more. How much do I have to restrict myself when breastfeeding? Is it pretty much the same, or if I time it right can I have, say, two glasses of wine (don't think I'd have any more than that anyway)
I sound obsessed. The wine thing is not getting to me half as much as the peanuts - our local supermarket had some sort of offer on so they were all stacked up in an eye catching position!
Pesha, glad your x is being reasonable, I hope this is how it's going to be from now on, I hope he realises your DD feels as she does.
I had a home visit from my MW today to go through my birth plan and it was fantastic! I've had some minor niggles with her in the past but today she seemed incredibly professional, reassuring and on the ball. Also, she told me exactly what I wanted to hear about the hospital's attitude towards pain relief, activity levels, breastfeeding etc. For example, she asked if I'd considered pain relief and I started talking about gas and air, pethidine...she asked if I'd considered having a warm bath! Now I know it will probably all be different when it's actually happening, but just knowing they're not going to get me in, lie me down and stick a drip in my arm as a matter of routine is fantastic! Apparently a neighbouring trust has a much higher epidural rate as well so it's not necessarily standard.
I've just finished reading Bestfeeding, and can really recommend it for any first timers (although obviously I haven't put anything into practice!!). It goes over the basics again and again in a few different ways, and I think I might actually have a chance of remembering them at 2am with a screaming baby
Well, what a long post!

Evening. Katy, glad you have got a bit further on with your assignment. Maybe get it finished on Tuesday? Dont envy you - I have deferred out of my degree for a year to give myself some space. Just couldnt get on and cope with the dissertation.

Pesha, glad your xp has been reasonable so far. Not much advice here re the pains but I would be inclined to ring the midwife for advice sooner rather than later as, like you say, you could be quick as its your third.

Eddas, very of your dd sleeping through after a week! Hope mine will be like that this time as ds was a bloody nightmare until I did controlled crying (as a complete last resort) at 10 months old. At that point I was getting up to him every 45 minutes all night every night so totally sleep deprived (both of us). Never looked back though and he has been a good sleeper ever since! Did make a rod for my own back in the early days though which I will not do again!!

mammyjo - any more signs that your LO might be on its way?

Katy - good luck with the assignment.. Glad your home visit went well, sounds like the hospital you are going to have great policies so hope it all works out. I am going to work on my birth plan tomorrow although I have decided that it´s really for dh to know what I want and be my ´spokesperson´ as I can´t see the hospital taking the time to read it.

Got a bit stressed reading a spanish ´we´re going to be parents!´ book, saying you can´t eat or drink in labour, they´ll give you a glucose drip to keep your energy levels up, they´ll shave you and give you an enema. I know the hospital I am going to does not shave OR do enemas anymore but the thought of a drip really freaks me out. Also this book said all about how yes, lying down is not the most natural or comfortable for us but really, the most important thing is that the health professional can see what is going on clearly. !!! I nearly threw the book off the terrace there and then. Left me feeling really anxious again. So no more of that. Will just go through with dh what I hope for and hope for the best.

Off to watch a crappy movie on tv now, night all xxx

Goodnight maveta!
It sounds like that book is out of date / not relevant to your hospital, so lets hope that goes for all of it

Am so glad i don't have to study anymore. When I got pg with dd i decided that i really wasn't commited to my accountancy exams so swiftly gave them the elbow, felt so much better. Not intending to do anymore exams ever.

Sorry about dd's sleeping she was such an angel bless her and i know i was very lucky. I'm sure this one will repay me though, but so hoping that i'm wrong.

I cannot wait to have a few bevvies once this little one's out. It's one of my best friends bdays on 26th April so i'm hoping to make it out for that and have a good old drink and boogie. Will really depend when he/she decides to pop out(hopeful that it will pop out whilst i'm asleep or something, no labour, bliss!)

Got all the baby stuff out yesterday and now dd keeps asking when the baby's coming and when she can feed it, she even put one of the bottles to my tummy to feed it, soo cute!!!

Eddas, just envious that she was so good as dh and I had a tough few months with ds. Its funny now though as he is the most placid and joyous child but such a very grumpy baby. Probably just felt crap through lack of sleep the same as I did! Hoping for a better behaved one this time but as I said to dh, at least this time we know what we could be in for. Was very rose tinted pre birth last time!

Nothing else to report here except for very low down pressure but I had that a few weeks ago too so dont think its anything. Probably just need to poo after all my raspberry eating earlier! Bump is a bit lower in the last couple of hours as I have noticed it is not so uncomfortable in my ribs but it did that before too then came back up again!

Eddas - my MW said "don't worry if you go into labour during the night, you WILL wake up" - like you, the thought of waking up to find the baby suddenly in my bed didn't actually sound too bad

It sounds as though you have a wandering bump!
I know what you mean about the raspberries - you can have too much of a good thing, as I discovered the other day!

Maveta, meant to say that book sounds like it is years old. They did those things to my mum when she had me 33 years ago!

I reckon your better off with a bad first dc than a second. At least you don't have an older one to keep up with aswell. Look forward to me moaning and whinging on the post natal threads I am soooo crap withut sleep.

I've been getting thos pressure pains, dh keeps saying are we off now then, erm no just hurts a bit, it's not a contraction!!!!

I'm sure i didn't get any of this with dd but then again she was 2 weeks late and my bump was very high(according to everyone else) this one is definately lower as it's getting in my way when i drive and i can't cross my legs.

have finally caught up on the last few days posts! every time i hit refresh there's another 5 posts tho, it's busy on here tonight

Katy LOL at your mw, really you'll wake up, what a shocker

I'm still hoping the stork will pay me a visit, leave the baby and take the bump, ahhh if only!

Pesha

DS was a 34 weeker and I had a 'scare' with DD at 33 weeks. I thought I was in labour as having strong 'contractions' (BH). I did go to the assessment unti and had an over night stay after a few hours, I can't remember how long I left it but st have been concerned enouI mugh to go.

They monitored me and I was given the advice that it is best to get checked out if you are contracting every 3 minutes or less and the contractions are lasting 45 seconds or more, or the contractions are increasing in frequency/pain.

The only way you'll either know if it is preterm labour is if you go, are assessed and are dilating or if you deliver a baby! At 34 weeks it is borderline whether you'll be given steroids. I was 33+5 and wasn't given them and they probably would not stop labour either.

Maybe give your midwife a call and ask her if she will give you an internal to see what is going on?

Sorry about typos, my cursor keeps on jumping!

Hiya, am back from my parents and just tried to catch up with all the posts!

Flump, so sorry to hear about your fall. How scary, and I am gobsmacked that no-one offered to help you - bloody buggers.

CD, really hope you enjoy your trip to Bonny Scotland.

Mammyjo, hope you are feeling ok. Pesha, likewise, hope you are feeling ok.

Maveta, I have done nothing so far in terms of preparation apart from put the cotbed together and the changing unit. I just haven't time to do anything until mat leave starts. I am sure it will be fine though.

Can't remember another thing!

Someone was talking about the Lindam Day and Night Feeder. I cannot recommend it highly enough. Before we had our extension, our cats were shut in the kitchen at night, and every time I came down to get Becky's bottles and to heat them up, the cats would try and escape upstairs which was not what I needed in the middle of the night. Bought the D & N Feeder, and it changed everything! Will definitely use it again, as plan to bottle feed from the start.

How is everyone tonight? All in bed now or heading that way.

I am feeling incredibly uncomfortable - far more so than when pg with Becky. I swear this baby moves constantly, and the tweaky sharp pains are excruciating. I find myself getting really quite cross with it. Ages to go yet as well. I am at the very end of April - booooo!

Right, rambled on long enough. Think am going to head bedbound as well.

Sleep well those who are still awake!

See you in the morning. xx

Went off and did abit more catching up of our old threads after my last post. Found the whole sperm argument Being in not the best mood at the mo i really enjoyed it!! Only thing noone really said that i really wanted to say was why is the idea of a pg woman giving a blow job so offensive? I mean ok i can see its not something you want to sit thinking about at breakfast but there were a couple of posts in there describing it as if it were akin to...oh i dont think im brave enough to type what i was going to in there! Anyway describing it as something utterly disgusting and repulsive. Pg women arent just walking wombs on legs ffs we are still women aswell
Sorry for raking things up again but was really angry and nearly posted on the old aibu thread but thought id better not stir it up again so am saying it on here! Dps abit like that at times (not about BJs he'd never say no to that!) but like if i say my arse has got fat he'll say noone cares, you're pregnant. like ive lost all right to look nice now, im just a big pregnant heffer and thats all anyone sees when they look at me, may as well just waddle around in a sack then hadnt i?! (Thats not how you spell heffer is it, is it heifer? im sure theres an i in it somewhere!)

Gosh im all over the place tonight arent i. Will have to go bed soon i think.

Thank you all for comments re xp and possible early labour. Am very confused about that, i have a sort of feeling that its gonna be early but cant work out if its a genuine sixth sense kind of feeling and based on real things that are happening to my body or if its just me worrying that it could be early cos im not ready and then over analysing any possible signs. Tis so frustrating, why cant we just have babies at will, push them out when we want to. It would make life so much easier!!