#TTC1 - Second Wave grads thread!

[Mooseville]

Hello!!

This is a new wave of grads for those from #TTC1 - Those on the first grade thread are dealing with poonamis and crying babies, while we are still waving our FRER's and wondering if that line is really a figment of our imagination!

Feel free to join in, if you too are embarking on this crazy journey to parenthood!!

mrs it's ridiculous isn't it! I am still only 15dpo! At least you have an early scan to look forward to!

wanting have you planned a way to tell them? I think we will do the same, maybe with a fun Xmas card.

Also - good work on the alcohol swerve mrs

music I have an early scan a few days before, so all being well I might pop the pic in a card and see how long it takes them to figure it out!

Is anyone else feeling worried about all being well? I've had no bleeding or pain but just can't help worrying

Thanks music prosecco is my fave too small price to pay for 9 months though!

wanting I'm constantly worried about it! How far are you along? I think we just have to learn to live with the worry.

I was a little worried the other day as after we had sex I went to clean up and everything had a pink tinge so I must have bled a little. But after that there was no fresh blood and the test was just as strong as ever this morning so that has put my mind at rest now.

I've read that a little bit of bleeding is perfectly normal anyway, its just pain & lots of fresh blood that you should worry about.

I'm 5+4 music. Scan booked for 7+3. No need to be worried but just can't help it.

Hey ladies :) Sorry I've not been on much, work is keeping me properly busy and I'm moving in the next week or so so there's a ton to organise. I now have the excuse that DH will have to do the vast majority of the lifting and carrying though - probably I'll end up scrubbing every last surface before we leave though.

Doctor's appointment yesterday was lovely :) The doctor had a student with her and it was so nice to be able to explain I'd intended to come along to ask about fertility treatments but actually was pregnant. Their smiles were brilliant - and I got a lovely 'congrats' from the receptionist when she saw the referral to the midwife. They gave me a flu shot yesterday too which aches a bit this morning.

Midwife called me only a few hours later :) I'm all booked in for my first appointment on 19th January, which will be after my Harmony scan. She did say that providing I have a healthy pregnancy though I can have the baby at my local hospital (literally in my town) rather than having to travel 15 miles away, which I would definitely prefer .. normally first timers aren't allowed in there (I was told, anyway) but the midwife reckons that's rubbish if there aren't any complications.

Another piece of good news - worked out today I WILL be eligible for full maternity pay, which is a weight off my mind. It's a good package here (a darn sight better than statutory) and with DH on less wage these days I was fretting about how we would make ends meet. I know you just do but at least it'll be comfier now and we may even be able to continue saving for our house deposit :)

Better get back to work ... and yes, the time is moving glacially slowly!!

That's great about the GP appointment Kav sounds like you have some good options. Your booking appointment is the day after mine

I wish my company had enhanced mat pay, unfortunately we are just a small business so we offer 100% for the first 6 weeks (a top up from the statutory 90%) then just SMP after that. I'm relying on coming in to do some KIT days for a bit of extra pay but we can survive on DH's wage plus some savings if we need to.

I've been working out dates and holiday entitlement today and if all goes well I'll be setting my last day at work as 28th July and taking two weeks off before maternity leave. Luckily I work quite closely with the HR manager and the payroll administrator (I used to do payroll myself) so I know all the ins and outs of how it'll work out.

Morning all,
I'm with you on the stress of moving kav In the process of selling my flat and buying a house, they've given us a possible date to complete as 23rd Dec! I mean, that's blumming bonkers! I'm just making DPA pay for a full removal firm as otherwise I'll end up lifting etc... just want it all to be over now - sick of living in boxes!
Cooked Xmas dinner for some friends last night, a very boozy affair, but it wasn't too bad! And I'm well looking forward to my leftovers today!

Wasn't too bad being the only sober one I meant! Doh!

15 weeks yesterday! Time is flying by at the moment!

moose I can't believe you're 15 weeks - that does seem to have gone quickly. I don't think the days have ever passed so slowly for me (even in the tww if that is possible!). I'm still only 17dpo! Although dating from my LMP I'm 5+1 which sounds better although obviously doesn't mean such, ha. When did time start moving quicker for you?

mrs how exciting to be working out possible mat leave dates! Lucky you know about that kind of stuff, it sounds confusing. I have to admit I am still far too nervous to think that far ahead at the moment Btw I also had a tiny spot of pink after some, ahem, action. Also googled and it seemed fine.

kav being able to give birth locally sounds great. Really hope that you can. Also, WIN on the mat pay! That must be such a relief

I think I have convinced myself to get an early private scan. It will have to be after Christmas. If I carry on obsessing and anxiously googling at the rate I currently am then I will seriously need it! Is this normal behaviour?!

music I think so! I'm 6 weeks tomorrow and have booked for a scan on 7+3, just before Xmas. The days go so slowly and I just can't wait to be over the most risky period. Appatently if there's a heartbeat a 7 weeks the risk of miscarriage drops to 5%, and 2% at 8 weeks.

Excellent news on the mat pay kav!

Sounds like you should be relaxing today moose and having a glass of fizz (shloer?!) Although speaking of shloer, has anyone seen how much sugar it contains?! I had almost an entire bottle the other eve when having a pre Christmas do with DH

That's really interesting Wanting, I hope we can see a heartbeat when we go for our scan! I think if all seems okay on the scan then I'll tell the rest of my family on NYE but ask them to keep quiet about it until we're 12 weeks at the end of January.

Someone sent this on the other thread I'm on which helped me through the early days seeing the chance of miscarriage drop daily...
spacefem.com/pregnant/mc.php?m=08&d=10&y=12
I actually bought some non alcoholic red wine and sparkly so I didn't feel left out last night. It wasn't the most amazing tasting, but helped having something similar to pick up while the others were getting sloshed!

Marks and Spencer's sells some nice bottles of corked up grape juice that look for all the world like they're alcoholic, though they're not - I got that for when we told Mum and Dad as I wanted to be able to pop a cork too! That said I've been finding I prefer orange juice as it's way less sweet - I've never been fond of sweet drinks particularly and with things like Shloer you're right Wanting, there's a ton of sugar in them.

Of course the salted caramel and milk chocolate cookie I just wolfed down wouldn't have any effect on my blood sugar either ...

Anybody else finding they're absolutely ravenous like 90% of the time? I'm only 5+2 at the moment but I'm constantly starving. Also knackered.

I like that site, Moose! Definitely feel happier knowing I'm down to 14% chance of mc at the moment. Think I'll share with DH.

I really like how you can see it drop every day too!

I felt awful the first few weeks. Tired and had to eat beige food constantly to get me through.... toast and chips were my main food source!

I got some Shloer from Asda today for £1 a bottle, they do a light version of the white and red which is half the sugar of the normal one.

I also got some Shloer "celebration" which I'm guessing is more fizzy and got some alcohol free Kopparberg cider

Thanks for the link Moose that is definitely reassuring.

Holland & Barrett do a mulled fruit punch that when heated is a lot like mulled wine which I'm missing at this time of year! The non-alcoholic Koppaberg is so tasty!!

We're having a wine & pate evening at work this week, I have such a craving for late and I can't have it!

For anyone worrying with blood/pink tinge please do try not to worry yourselves too much. I had spotting weeks 10-12 but everything was fine. I practically hid under my duvet for the first few days which I feel silly for now!

wanting and moose love the stats, thank you! I've decided to work my dates from when I know I ovulated as opposed to my LMP and just adjust my LMP to when it would be for a 'regular' 28 day cycle. So I'm only 4+4 today. It helps me to not get ahead of myself. Counting the other way I'm 5+2 but I'd rather not have to explain all that at my appointments!

kav I'm a little more hungry but nothing out of the ordinary. Tbh though I've always been pretty bad at waiting until I'm hungry to eat. I am a total grazer, especially at work!

What other early symptoms are people having? I'm interested to know what might happen next!

Re drinking, I just had a look at the non alcoholic wines online and noticed that most of them have a very small percentage of alcohol in then. I assume that's fine to drink, right? Otherwise surely they're defeating the point of themselves!

music I drank Becks Blue which has 0.05% in. You'd have to drink about 80 bottles in the amount of time as you'd have had one to get the same amount of alcohol as a normal Becks... so I figured a couple would be ok!

No sickness for me yet, I'm 5 weeks tomorrow (5+3 if we go from ovulation). My cramps have subsided now so the only thing that makes me "feel" pregnant is that my boobs are huge compared to normal, I'm only an A cup so its really noticeable to me. They're also a lot more "bumpy" around the nipples.

I noticed the small amount of alcohol Music which stopped me buying some wine I saw in Asda but then we got ID'd for the "alcohol-free" Kopparberg because it has 0.05% alcohol in it, the woman on the checkout said they still have to ID for it . Baring in mind I'm 25 and DH is almost 27, I think they just do it for the fun of it!

My boobs have inflated too, MrsG. I was big to begin with and I have an uncomfortable feeling I'm going to end up ginormous! They're already starting to get in the way and I'm sleeping in a sports bra or they really bloody hurt.

A work Christmas do tonight. I'd booked tomorrow off as I thought I'd be out drinking late and I'd need the next day to recover!! Looks like I get to be sensible this year. :) Can't say I'm too cut up about that though.

Going through a mini crisis work wise. I switched jobs 3 months ago and I am REALLY missing my old colleagues. Being pg is amazing but I can't help feeling a bit wistful that I'm not in my old job to share it with them; I was there for 15 years and they feel like family. I'd also have had the security of knowing I'd probably be able to go back to a part-time position once I had the baby. Where I am now is likely to be full time only and is more awkward to get to. :( The pay is better and I like the company but I'm still learning the people ... I know though if I hadn't gone for this opportunity I'd always have wondered about it. I'm probably just missing my safety blanket at what is feeling a very UNsafe point of my life. I'm not getting morning sickness so much as anxiety sickness. Honestly part of me feels like just running from where I've gone to straight back to my old job - they still haven't filled my position as far as I'm aware - but even if by some miracle it was free and they still wanted me I'd then be stuck on statutory maternity pay, which would sting a bit after having been there for so long.

Argh. :( I should just suck it up and pull on my big girl pants, and get my head down and learn my new role. I just can't help feeling I'm going to be dreading going back to work after maternity leave (assuming I make it that far). Head won't quiet down about it.

Sounds like a really tough situation Kav but you never know what will happen in the next 6 months or so if you get stuck into the role. Lots can change in a short space of time and you could be loving it, they may also be a lot more flexible than you expect.