Due in February 2017 - thread #9

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New thread - hope everyone finds this! I'll try and post the link in the old thread if it will let us go over 1,000 posts.

I just bought the book on Friday and haven't started it yet - DH has already read 2 parenting books and signed up for a first time dads course so I feel I am severely lagging!

Shell and London Florence is the name we chose if we had a girl. Maybe best not to say names you don't like on here incase someone else has chosen it!

Florence was my no1 girls choice too!

Ahhh snap!!!

sparkles i like the name, think it's lovely but it doesn't go with our surname! There's not many names that go with my surname unfortunately 🙁 we kind of need to go with names with an A at the end or that has a wee ring to it... like scarlett/Charlotte etc..

In fact if anyone can recommend any names that would go I would really appreciate it! Haha... would save me from DHs ideas such as scout (kill a mockingbird lol) or quark lol..

Shell I totally feel your pain!!! My
Maiden name literally goes with anything but my married name has a hard consonant sound at the end which means loads of names don't go with it!!! I wanted a girls name with was my grandmas but it sounds silly with my surname. Anyway, I might never have a girl so probably not worth worrying about yet! Boys seems to run in my hubby's family!

Fanella and SBS, like I said before in my previous post, I think Florence is a pretty name but it just didn't sound like my child's name.

I know that's a weird way to explain why we've rejected but its the truth! In fact, a lot of the names DH likes that I've said no to are entirely due to that. They aren't bad names at all, but they just don't sound like the name of my daughter.

What an awful morning. One of our little zebra finches died overnight, we have just buried her in the garden. So sad And one of our rabbits is sick with an upset tummy.

Scout made me smile shell

One question I've been getting is if we'll hyphenate the babies name. DH and I are married but I haven't changed my own name and if I do so in future, I'll only hyphenate rather than getting rid of my maiden name. I always assumed the baby would take his surname but DH and mother in law have both brought up (positively) the idea of hyphenating her name.

I really appreciate my DH being so thoughtful but at the same time being burdened with a double barreled surname as a little one also seems a lot. I'm totally uncertain what I should do and everyone is leaving it up to me!

London I totally know what you mean. It took me a while to get used to my boys name but I think I like it now. Question: when you did pick a name does it totally sound right? I'm struggling to find any name which I totally love!!!

One sorry to hear that!!!

We are struggling with names too. My husband isn't British so some ver British names sound silly with our surname. Plus we plan on moving to his country before the baby is school age anyway, so I think we'll go with a traditional name from there. For a boy I think we've nailed it but for a girl we are still debating a few options...

Sparkles I was reading last night how babies can sense when the mother is sad or happy so now I also feel guilty for being distraught about it

SBS we have a boys name we both love and feels 100% right.

With the girls names on our shortlist, none of them feel 100% right even though we like them a lot. I'm hoping when we see her it will click what her name should be

Oneiroi sorry to hear about your pets.

sparkles we can share babies haha! We thought we were having a boy and then found I'm out it was a girl. Dh has two wee girls from a previous relationship and their names go perfect with our surname. Their names are zara and Sophia! So I know feel as though I need a name that goes with our surname and sounds right with their names? Does that make sense?
DH said he thinks he can only have girls haha! He has 4 sisters then him lol...
Does anyone else see what the name can be shortened to and what the nicknames might be when thinking of names?

We had names sorted for a boy. I love Andrew. Liked Joshua also
oneiori sorry to hear that 🙁

Oh god the saga of baby naming is almost impossible, isn't it?! DH and I agreed on a grand total of ONE boy's name. I made us both read one of those baby name books. 10,000 names and we STILL only agree on that same one name. It's a great name but I worry that our son won't look like it once he's here!

Shell we definitely think about nickname options too which makes it that much more complicated!

We seem to be really good at agreeing on girls names but terrible at boys names. We didn't come up with DS's name until I was about 37 weeks though, so there's still time. DH actually vetoed his name at about 10 weeks so I thought it was off the cards, but I brought it up again as a wild card and he couldn't remember dismissing it!

I hope we do agree on something eventually otherwise it'll have to be Barry! The issue is there are plenty of names I like, but they just don't feel right for us.

The name thing is impossible isn't it?! We used the one name we both agree on for dd and had agreed on a boy's name this time but it's another girl. I have lots I like but dh is fussy. I'm also carefully considering what potential names can be shortened to. Dh has come up with a name which we both like but I think it will get shortened to the same name I go by. The longer versions of both names are completely different but everyone knows me as my nickname so it will be really confusing if our daughter ends up with the same or similar nickname to me. Dh doesn't see it to be an issue but it bothers me.

One prolonged periods of extreme stress and lots of shouting and arguing might have an affect on the baby in that it might get tense. But I'm sure that feeling sad about something isn't going to harm your baby! You wouldn't be human if you were continuously happy for 9 months! And you'd probably go a bit mad! Think about mammals in nature - they are constantly avoiding threats and predators while carrying their young. Or wartime mothers. It'll all be fine as long as it's not extreme or continuous

What is everyone going for cot wise? I had a moses basket with the first DC but thinking maybe a co-sleeper type thing might be better for nightfeeds when they are very small. But then what do you do in the day when you want to put baby down in the day?

Wizbet I’m guessing you mean crib rather than cot? We are getting a Snuzpod though we won’t co-sleep. I just like the idea of the crib being so close and accessible. Also, it seems like it will last longer than a Moses Basket.

We’ve bought a Leander cot that can convert to a toddler and then junior bed. It was the only cot bed we found that was actually quite compact when being used as a cot. Our nursery isn’t huge so for it to fit without overlapping any radiators or windows, we needed something that size.

Thanks Sparkles. I'm sure you're right. I'm guessing I am being far from rational today given what's happened. Had a shower and sorted myself out a bit now.

Wizbet we got a Chicco 'next to me' for the first few weeks when the baby is in our room, it folds down so can be transported for holidays and family visits which should come in handy. Also a moses basket for downstairs for daytime naps. Although that probably wasn't necessary in the end as I've discovered that our silver cross pram carry cot can be used for overnight sleeps unlike some models of pram, so could just have used that downstairs. Although the moses basket stand is useful so it's not going to be on the floor! Then a cotbed for the nursery with three levels so it's easy to get a baby in and out but suitable for older babies and up to four as a bed. Apparently it also turns into a daybed mini-sofa so we can keep it as a keepsake, if it doesn't get trashed along the way...!

I'd suggest ordering furniture early though, the lead times are long and we have had so much damaged stuff that's had to go back and be replaced. We waited ten weeks for the nursery set we ordered originally from Kiddicare (awful company - avoid!) then they still couldn't give us a delivery date or any info on why it was delayed so gave up and ordered some from John Lewis, arrived in ten days and was assembled by them which made DH very happy! Had three nursery chairs here already from Kub, all badly damaged or parts missing, so eventually gave up on that model and splashed out on one from Olli Ella. A bit extravagant but at least (hopefully) if it's handmade it won't arrive damaged!? Very excited about that arriving but it will be another month or so.