December 2016 Babies - Thread 6: Growing bumps and looking for bargains

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www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2699892-December-2016-Thread-5-20-week-scans-and-wriggly-babies?pg=1&order=#prettyPhoto

Thread 4:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2668947-December-2016-babies-thread-4-blooming-in-trimester-2

Thread 3:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2650742-december-2016-babies-2nd-trimester-in-sight?reverse=1

Thread 2:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2622412-Morning-sickness-and-first-scan-anticipation-its-the-December-2016-babies

Thread 1:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2597324-December-2016-Babies

Love that is unbelievable - I'm shocked that a grown woman could be so rude! How nice of the lady to buy you a cup of tea x

London bless you. I've just come upstairs to lie down before dd's bathtime, and dh has had a go at me for not putting the washing away. He just doesn't get it. He's complained so much about getting tired but he has no idea.

Oh God love thats bloody awful. I think shes trying to see how far she can push you. You should in future stay away when shes due to come, go treat yourself. She sounds like a right bitch. She should be offering to help you, god that post has angered me. Thank god I only every met my MIL twice (lives in a foreign country and has now passed away)!! I wouldn't put up with it from DH either, hes very good and does most of the housework for me..

Settle yourself and talk to your DH about how its making you feel..

love this is unbelievable and completely unacceptable. To tell you to clean you house, pregnant or not, to her specification before she turns up?! I would've told her to fuck right off (maybe phase it better) and not come at all or come but not expect a red carpet. I mean, im sure we all make effort, bigger or smaller to have the house tidy, especially when expecting guests, but come on.. And you dh should have your back!!!

As for bags, before i even started looking into this, our friends gave us a BabaBing. Looked it up and it has good reviews, its more of a 'man' baby bag so quite chunky but not bad looking. I'm definitely a 'compartments' person and this seems to have more than I could ever think about!

And south thanks for the list! I was literally getting comfy on my birthing ball and starting on me/baby/dh lists. Also, a great idea to use to changing bag for all things baby! One handy tip I've read somewhere is that you should get your dh to pack the bags so he knows where everything is as he'll be doing the rummaging

love you have a DH problem rather than a MIL problem, she won't stop until he steps in and as his mother, he needs to sort it out. How you remained patient is beyond me, my pregnancy rage would have hit new heights. Ask the knock on seller I caught peering through my window on Friday, half the neighbourhood heard that rant

We've started DDs bedroom this weekend so we can turf her out of the nursery / box room. She's helped stripping wallpaper all day, and for 3 is very adept at using a scraper. Plasterer and carpet being fitted next, although our half done kitchen is still half done.

Her new bed arrived too, so once that room is done we can start prepping for Turnip2.

What number is everyone pregnant with.. from reading most people seem to have 1 or are first timeers. This is my 4th!! Yet i feel like its my first, 7 years since my last..

nojo it's my 4th too, and 5 years since my last one (and the older 2 are 6 and 8)

love your mil is so rude!! And totally out of order. Dh needs to sort her out!

firawla mine are 7, 8 and 13. Its strange having a 13 year old coz he has totally different needs. Today I asked him if he wanting to start shaving coz he has lip hair. Didnt realise he was actually self consious about it.

I have one DS, he is 5. It's taken me this long to persuade my DH (he has CFS), and then to get over some fertility issues/miscarriage.

I'm tired all the time too. DD was up for 4 hours last night wanting to chat which hasn't helped! I've had to go back to my mum's for this week as our shower's packed up, but it does mean I might get some naps at least.

love your mil sounds like a complete wanker stubble is right though, until you can get dh on side & to put his foot down, she will remain a problem. I'm sorry you had a shitty day and ended up in tears, bless the lady that comforted you some though.

Nojo This is number 5 for us (I think probably the last as well) I don't think my body could handle another pregnancy and I'm only 26 😯 In the 10 years dp and I have been together I've spent nearly half of that time pregnant.
When baby arrives dd1 and ds will be turning 8 & 7 very soon after, then dd2 & dd3 5 and 2 in january.

I have one DS who's 4. It took my husband this long to convince me to have another! This baby is an embryo created at the same time as the IVF cycle we had with DS, so thankfully this time I didn't have to go through a full cycle, otherwise I may have put it off even longer.

We have DD 3.5, and I won't be doing this again. I get pregnancy, so kudos to those who've gone through this more than that!

I've got dd who's 2.5. This is definitely my last: 3 miscarriages, infertility and now expecting a child with downs syndrome. DH wants more but no way!

South that list is brilliant thanks so much! I'm still not on the Facebook group but would love to be, please can someone enlighten me? This is our first baby hence why I'm so stressed over everything as no idea what to expect! Killer back pain tonight, all across my lower back so just taken some paracetamol and got into bed. How is everyone else feeling?

Love I'm gobsmacked about how rude your MIL is? I've never heard of anyone demanding the house be cleaned before they visit. And your husband sounds rubbish too. He should be helping you.

I'm also tired. Just finished another double shift. I really, really didn't want to get up when my alarm went off this morning (5.30am). Yawn.

As for baby number, this will be number 2 for us. We have a DD already who recently turned 2. I don't think we'll have anymore. I always said 2 would be nice, and I don't think I can face doing this again! Plus practically we only have a 2 bedroomed house etc at the moment so more children isn't that feasible.

If anyone is interested in some bargains, Verbaudet has a sale on their website right now. I managed to order some great long-sleeved nursing tops yesterday from them really cheap - e.g this one for £9: www.vertbaudet.co.uk/adaptable-maternity-nursing-t-shirt-black-dark-solid.htm?ProductId=017000159&FiltreCouleur=6559&t=1#cG0ePdeKw7uV0T2A.97 They also have baby clothes etc in the sale. :)

Love that sounds awful. Hope you're feeling better now. Seems like an issue you and DH need to talk through, but appreciate it can difficult, especially if he is a mummy's boy.

I've got DD who turns 2 next month. Don't think we'll have more after this, but who knows! always wanted two kids fairly close in age.

Came back from the park and sort of made up with DH. Think it's true most men just don't get how tired you feel. DH is actually quite good and much better this time round than last time. But also think I need to accept I should just do less generally and chill more and especially accept I can't be as active with DD as usual, and that she'll be fine to spend a bit more time indoors.

I always said i wouldnt have more. No 4 here and everyone keeps saying that i have to have another quite soon after as there will b 7 years between my youngest and new baby. No way, i cant do this again. Although i haven't been as sick as i was with the others, this has been my worst pregnancy yet..

There will be 8 years between dd1 (the oldest) and the baby. Is that a big age gap.... I wouldn't know?
There's 16 years between my dp and his sister! She's only 4 years older than dd1...

south thanks for the list!

London if I asked for help and DH didn't come I'd not be happy! My DH has been amazing, I've had insomnia throughout most of the pregnancy and am now not sleeping due to the pain in my hips/back/pelvis/ribs. I have spent a lot of time flaked out on the sofa while he does all the cleaning, cooking, driving if we go anywhere, walking the dog etc.

Love don't even get me started on your dh... Has he always been like this? He needs to stick up for you, and if he wants cleaning done a certain way he can do it himself! I'd be telling MiL this was your house and your rules, if she doesn't like it stay away. I really can't imagine living like that - a list from MiL of what should be done in your house?!?! You're being treated like a slave, and at a time when dh should be taking extra care of you!

Nojo first and only here, can't afford any more IVF for a second and if there was a miracle bfp I'd miscarry as I wouldn't have the immune drugs in my system in time, so we'll have to actively prevent it (even though all four pregnancies were a result of treatment and in four years we never got pregnant naturally, oh the irony!)

Grapefruit pm with with the email you use for fb, or your username and what your profile pic looks like if there aren't many of you, and I'll search you and add you.

Back to bed for me after my heart rate decided it would creep up again.it really knocks me out for a good few hrs. At least DH has cleaned house before going to work and ive managed to get dinner in the slow cooker.

Oh no nojo, I hope you feel better with some rest.

My exhaustion caught up with me this morning. I lay down for a minute after dd left for nursery, and woke 90 minutes later! So that's a really late start to work today...

Ah Nojo get rested up.

SIL had her baby at weekend, which means I'm next in the baby queue. That brings it home.

25 working days left!!

Nojo hope you get rest and feel better soon! Also, 4 kids sounds like more than enough! don't know how people like you and Bigfam do it. Two already seems like it will be a massive amount of work to me!

Barking thanks for your support sometimes I feel unreasonable when i get annoyed with DH for not being supportive enough, so nice to knwo someone else would also have gotten annoyed. Thankfully he was v sweet the rest of the evening and cookes us an amazing Sunday roast and subsequiently put DD to bed. So all is peace again the small household (until next time I flip over something )

How are you all planning to deal with the cold weather and maternity clothes? I tried on all my winter coats and autumn coats yeaterday and none of them fit my bump. Can sort of get away with one autumn mac by leaving the bottom buttons opne and tying it, but the rest just won't close at all as all ahve a slim siloutte. Apart from one military style huge coat from my activist days and don't think I'll get away with that at work. But really don't want to spend money on a maternity winter coat I'll wear for such a short time!

london funny i was saying to DH yday that I dont want to spend money on a coat so havent a clue how ill cope. Really need some winter maternity but it is annoying me having to spend the money when ive only 3 months left. And being on sick ill prob not be able to afford it esp as xmas is coming too.