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topmammy · 02/09/2016 08:45

Thread #7 for a very chatty bunch!

(Sorry I accidentally used the last message on the previous thread... hope everyone finds the new thread successfully Grin)

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LondonGirl83 · 13/09/2016 14:40

I'm old too (33) but somehow managed to spend my entire adult life in major cities where I didn't need to drive Sky! I'll take the first step and book in the theory test tonight I think.... I realise typing this that I am actually quite scared to start the process.

Kellz thanks so much for sharing. My cousin also had a traumatic birth which caused her not to bond with her baby initially (fine now) so I think your HV was probably right about that. I think Brook Shield linked her post natal depression to her very traumatic birth as well. Its good to hear what some solutions may be if anxiety and depression rear their ugly heads post birth and am so glad to hear you've come out the other side of it okay.

Evergreen17 · 13/09/2016 15:01

I am oldER 35 and taking my test next month. I am a very slow learner and started a year ago but ditched my instructor and started again in January
Hoping to pass this time but I find it so hard Sad

Kellz92 · 13/09/2016 15:06

Piano, it was horrible and i didnt want to move her but it was the best and i noticed everything being more bearable after all of that. Im a light sleeper but i have insomnia now anyway so im always awake lol. Theyre wortha try but if your DH doesnt wear them incase you dont hear baby, and if you do hear then thats fine if no your hubby will and then you wont need to wear them again

London It was so difficult i was only 20 as well so thought i would be a bad mum after that. But honestly it was worth it. I still didnt go on meds until she was 5 months i was adamant to get on with it, but i relented and i should have done it sooner!! You never know what will happen, im scared it will happen again but at least i know now. My mum had with me but not my little sister so hoping im ok.

sky + London you're not old at all!! I only learned to drive at 17 because i was in a small country village and buses weren't often lol, I moved into Aberdeen at 19 and then barely used the car as i lived in city centre, but since moved back to the country village :) Best to learn for when baby is here, easier than buses and trains!!

xxx

Kellz92 · 13/09/2016 15:07

Ever the instructor makes a difference!!

I had a lovely man help me! he was my sisters instructor too. and youre not old either. Im 24 but feel 94 lol

xxx

LondonGirl83 · 13/09/2016 15:28

Glad you feel better prepared this time around Kellz. My sister also had PPD and probably postpartum PTSD. She had severe pre-eclampsia and gave birth really early to her twins. The stress and all their surgeries left her in such a state she basically didn't sleep for two years as she was afraid her boys would stop breathing if she did! This was 10 years ago now and all 3 of them are all great. I think she would have benefited from them being in a separate room to say the least though...

Honestly, I am hoping for the best and know the best is the most likely outcome but birth and the postnatal period can go any number of ways and I'm just trying to be open to that and be ready to do whatever is necessary to get through both okay.

I think as women sometimes we can have very lofty expectations of ourselves (including things totally out of our control) and can be too hard on ourselves etc when things aren't picture perfect.

Kellz92 · 13/09/2016 15:40

Aww no how horrible. I had pre eclampsia but wasnt induced until 39 weeks. infact they only told me it was high bp until i went to my booking in appt for this baby they told me it was pre eclampsia. I have been told by consultant it will come again this time but earlier so worry a bit.
I think it helped me a wee bit moving her, it didnt completely but i got a wee bit of sleep.

I managed to convince myself i had a bad pregnancy so would have a good labour, how silly. But i think im more prepared if i do get PND again, and ill definitely see the doctor earlier if thats the case!!

Its a lot we put our bodies through over the 9 months, which we forget!!

xxx

CeeCeeEnnEss · 13/09/2016 16:50

I'm so nervous about the scan tomorrow that I feel sick. I know lots of women who've had issues, some of them life limiting for the baby, and I can't stop worrying :(

Think of me at 3pm tomorrow; does anyone else have theirs this week?

DottyA · 13/09/2016 17:06

Good luck tomorrow CeeCee - the wait is horrible. I've got until 7th October for mine.

I learned to drive at 18 but have barely driven since as I've just not needed to. I did a few refresher lessons last year but it was a bit of a waste as I just don't have any reason to drive. Trying to make a concerted effort to practise now and maybe get a few more lessons. It's hard though as walking/bus is just more convenient most of the time where I live.

Carly6971 · 13/09/2016 17:14

ceecee I have mine tomorrow at 11am (read closer to 12pm the way my hospital runs lol!) I am a little worried re anomalies, but figure they would have picked anything major up last weekend at our gender scan...hopefully. I a such a worrier but was ruining my whole pregnancy so am trying to take the attitude that I can't do anything to change to it. All the best for tomorrow sure we will both be ok :)

Shellbell0403 · 13/09/2016 17:59

carly ceecee scans will be perfect!!

Carly I'm a big worrier also, now worrying what if I don't bond with the baby etc...

Can I ask... are you all excited all the time about baba coming or feeling well normal etc...

Readyfortwo · 13/09/2016 18:07

I had my scan this morning and we're team blue again! Smile

All well with the baby, we talked a little about my fear of having an even bigger baby this time & she checked baby's measurements against DS1's (which had actually been stored on a computer system rather than paper!) and she said that DS1 was measuring bigger at the 20wk scan so I guess that's a small reassurance. Also confirmed that baby is a right wriggler....but then I already new that! Only managed to get a pic of the head....

Due February 2017 - thread #7
LondonGirl83 · 13/09/2016 18:07

Shell most of the time I forget I'm pregnant. Now that I'm showing its sinking in more but I haven't even wrapped my head around the fact that someone else will be living with me and DH for at least 18 years. Its been just me and him for 13 years so its going to be so weird (and hard)... I imagine at first I'll keep waiting for someone to come get her forgetting that the change is permanent!

Also-- the people I know who struggled at first to bond all got over that hurdle in time and have amazing relationships with their children now. Its just something that happens but its not the end of the world even if it does.

LondonGirl83 · 13/09/2016 18:09

Congrats ready

Lala6971 · 13/09/2016 18:27

Congrats ready getting a few more boys now :)

shell apart from the hideous pains the last few days I have felt normal all pregnancy. No sickness, nothing. And being a larger lady I have no bump either :( so Defo don't 'feel' pregnant.

I am excited, although it feels very surreal, as though I am buying all these cute outfits etc, but not for me. Not sure if that's years of infertility and always having to give the things I buy to whoever was expecting a baby or just normal? I don't think I will really feel like I am having a baby until I physically have her lol. Although calling her by her name is helping me feel she is more real...if that makes sense? It is a very strange feeling after all these years to finally be the one who is actually pregnant.

I am feeling a little anxious that gender scan will have been wrong and they will tell me tomorrow that she's a boy :(

Shellbell0403 · 13/09/2016 18:32

I think I'm the same london and lala i don't quite believe it's happening if you know what I mean? I have had bad sickness etc and I still don't quite believe it! We struggled to conceive for awhile also and now it's happening it's like ehm...
Maybe once I start buying things then it might be abit more oh it's happening! I just feel abit guilty I suppose... and the lack of sleep may have something to do about it! Haha

Evergreen17 · 13/09/2016 19:35

Kellz you are so right. When I got my current instructor I couldnt believe how shitty the other one was. I mean I knew he was unreliable and I unprofessional but I dont think he was teaching me a thing!
Ahhh 24 Smile if only I was 24 again Grin
Ceecee thinking of you. Just breathe and take baby steps.
I have to wait 2.5 weeks for my scan
Ready excellent news Smile

Readyfortwo · 13/09/2016 19:43

I can't join in with nursery chat as ours is staying, but currently redecorating the spare room for DS and I've just ordered this:

www.thelovelywall.com/collections/map-decals/products/interactive-world-map-1

Carly6971 · 13/09/2016 20:43

Grrr this week is not going well so far. This evening hubby took me for a nice meal in the sunshine at a rather expensive restaurant. I was a complete cow the whole time for no reason! What is happening to me? I then had the hugest tantrum on the drive home because I didn't want to drive and he made me!! I actually feel as though I am nothing like myself at the minute when it comes to how mean I can be to hubby! I honestly don't know how he's putting up with me. We are now sat in silence at opposite ends of the sofa :,(

PianoOnlyTheWhiteKeys · 13/09/2016 20:56

Oh sorry carly, poor you, I know how that feels! You just feel so silly and have no explaination if you're anything like me. My hormones seem to have settled down recently though, fingers crossed that stays the case!

If it were me, I would send him a funny text or something to make him smile and apologise that it's the hormones. He can't be angry at you if you say sorry for what it was, if you think it was hormones?

I'm not sure how much humble pie I've had to eat recently but think DH is beginning to get it... Hope you get it sorted!

divadee · 13/09/2016 21:11

I feel your pain carly I am out of sorts today. Don't know why but I feel really miserable and fed up and not well but don't know what with. So I think it must be hormones.

Send a jokey message to other half and have a cuddle.

Sparrowlegs248 · 13/09/2016 21:54

Gosh it's busy here again! I am way behind with the buying of stuff, but then again ds is 13 months old so will have much of it already I guess. Anyone going for a double buggy? I have an out n about for ds, we do a loyal of outdoors stuff, I have ponies and am in and around the field daily, so it's been a godsend. They do a double, just need to see if it fits in my car. Not sure what other doubles are good for off road. Maybe something that can go back to a single in time.

Something I have livedwthough ds is too big now, was the angel cate bath seat. Used it in the normal bath, it was a godsend. Put baby in, no need to hold or support him. So both Hands for h washing etc. I wasuseless at trying to support a wet wriggly baby in a baby bath.

Aches and pains, I have had really painful hips again but it's so inconsistent. Was referred for physio by my mw, typically pretty much pain free on the day of the appointment (a Thursday) literally couldn't walk on the Saturday. In pain again these past fewdays, quite a lot of pain but able to walk. Which is good as ds is also able to walk, and run! Sleeping with a pillow helps. I take paracetamol occasionally but that's all. Felt better after a bath last night too.

Scan on the 21St, can't decide whether to find out the sex.

'd' H is doing my bloody head in. Not sure it's me being hormonal though. He's really no help at all with ds, I feel like might as well be doing it on my own.

Carly6971 · 13/09/2016 22:24

I have also eaten a lot of humble pie lately. I feel so sorry for the poor bloke I flip from
Normal to mean over NOTHING! Lately :( luckily he is not the type to hold a grudge and we never fight for long, he usually lets me shout and scream and just shuts up and puts up so to speak. Bless him! Alrhough not sure he believes it's hormones Iol!

CeeCeeEnnEss · 14/09/2016 06:03

Good luck carly!

I'm a total cow too, luckily DH is so patient...or maybe I'm always like this...

Carly6971 · 14/09/2016 07:20

Thanks ceecee same you you :) I am sure both our little babies will be perfect :) are you finding out what you are having? Look forward to hearing an update later today x

Shellbell0403 · 14/09/2016 07:51

Good luck today with the scans ladies xx

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