Due in March 07 - Counting Down the Days Now....

[LunarSea]

New thread because the old one's about to hit the 1000 posts mark.

sorry, pooter, gets stuck

Rosy - sorry to hear that your DP might be away for the birth - can't he visit Pakistan for just a week or two - I know it's a long way but I have done return trips to Sri Lanka for a week. Tiring - but this is his baby !!

Good luck to those with scans today - hope all babies have grown/ turned and are generally behving themselves !!

Kitty that your man reads your posts - do you mind or is it worth changing you chat name to remain anonymous ? Mind you I suspect there are not many 6th timers around - so he could probably work out who you are. What a PITA.

Hope everyone has a good day. Need to go and start home education with DS1 - and preferably wake up properly beforehand.

Sazzy get you with a thread on the front page, surely that's the holy grail of MN?

Rosy who will be with you at the birth, do you have people who can help?

Kitty at your dp reading your posts on here! Well they do say eavesdroppers never hear any good of themselves, don't they?

Go on Kitty, tell us the whole truth; do you keep your dp locked in the basement and only let him out to feed him potato peelings and stale bread?

Kitty - I find it quite funny that your DP reads your private conversations, then gets all cross about them!!

What time is your growth scan? I'm at work but you could call on my mobile this arvo (the new number) - or I should be home by about 6.30pm. I realised yesterday it might be tricky as we were both out and when I got home at 7.30pm I figured you'd probably be getting all the monsters to bed anyway. If your anything like me you're probably completely wiped out by 8pm each night!!

Jay I hope your scan goes well too. Will be thinking of you both.

Lunar - what a rotter!! I find that when women are sick/heavily PG men try and grab all the attention - its as though the male ego can't cope with not being No 1 all the time

How's this for a useless DP? : My DH has not checked his employer's paternity policy - so only after I asked him to print it off on Friday did he realise that he needed to inform them 15 weeks before my EDD if he wanted to take paternity leave!!!! What a fecking ejit!!

That means he's lost the chance of taking paternity leave. Thankfully he's still got 12 days annual leave to take before the end of March - so we'll have to hope his manager doesn't mind him dissappearing at short notice on the big day....honestly I despair sometimes.

Mind you, I did say I'd like 4 kids didn't i? So my wish has come true

Eids thanks for the CS advice - I will bear in mind what you've said if I end up having one on the day.

Hi everyone else....let this be a good week for us all

37 + 1 (Monti)

Men! Kitty you already told us a bit about how hard things have been for your dp. But this is our big fat bumpy moaners club. He can join but only if he wears the strap on pregnancy suit

Laidback dh only plans to go for 10 days but he hasn't booked flight yet and always leaves things too late, also once he is there his mother won't want him to leave and if she is very ill, he'll have to stay. Oh well we'll see what happens!
I do have supportive family around to mind the children and be with me if dh isn't here so I'll be ok.

Hope the scans go reassuringly today and that everyone with bugs are on the mend.

He's looking a wee bit sheepish this morning, but we haven't mentioned anything YET.

He does alot that he good, he looks after all the finances, fixes what needs fixing, lets me rest, takes up the slack when I am ill/ heavily preg. I live in a lovely house etc.

What he doesn't do AT ALL is show me ANY affection, not a hug, cuddle or even a TOUCH, let alone bloody sex. He had said when we talked about this before that all this would come when we stopped rowing and were getting on. So that has happened and still no affection. I confronted him about it yesterday. I said I thought it was disgracefiul that the only comfortI got when anxious about this baby was a lovely hug from another woman's husband (the lovely hubby of my preg friend). He agreed that that wasn't on and said that he would hug me. Well, still nothing.
Yesterday I was so upset I thought I was going to break iykwim.
What he doesn't get is that I would forgo everything else I have here for a cuddle ffs, a cuddle.
Anyway, that's the whole story, so you can make your own minds up and if he reads this then no doubt he'll find some other way of being injured. I rather suspect that this lack of any sort of physical affection when I really need it is going to do some long term damage .

moan over

eids thanks for that advice! Infact - thanks to everyone for your thoughts on c-sections. It really is a tough call to make and I don't want to feel like I'm being railroaded into having a section before I'm ready.

It certainly sounds like the recovery can be pretty tough but having said that - i was a mess after dd was born face presentation and physically shot to bits anyway - unable to pick her up etc - so sounds a bit like being post surgery.

Rosy - my dh is planning a week away next week and is also being incredulous that I might be a teensy bit concerned that he could miss the birth. Sometimes I get the feeling he expects me to go into labour to fit in with his diary (he is keen for me to have c-section). It could be easy for me to feel like an inconvenience sometimes! I hope your dh can sort his trip so he goes sooner rather than later and only stays away a short time.

Honestly! Men! All of us having little blue ones have such a big responsibility to turn out decent humans!

36+4

Kitty - you deserve loads of hugs atm!!! Its amazing how supportive other people can be and how absolutelybloodyunsupportive our own partners can be at this time!

Hope your DP reads your last post and responds to you!

My DH is sleeping in the other room atm, on the pretext that DD is still getting used to being in her own bed (he's on a camp bed next to the kids bunk bed FFS), but I think its 'cos he doesn't want to sleep near me. When the baby is born, he deffo won't want to sleep in the same room as me and newborn.

TBH I can't imagine ever having sex with him again atm...

...and don't even care either

absolutely Muppet... them boys better grow up to be more considerate to their female counterparts!!

So sorry to hear that many of you are having grumps and groans at and with your other halves. I can't keep up with my own mood swings to know whether things are ok here.

Good luck for your scan today Kitty. Hope you dh can sort things out to be around when your LO is born Fox. Or, that his workplace will be really generous and give him paternity leave as well .

The thought of being without your dh must be stressful for you Rosy. And, a tough choice for your dh. I'm not looking forward to hubs going to Oz in March... tho I'm sure I'll have lots of help - or be incredibly competent by then.

First day of maternity leave (not really, cause I'm still on the payroll until Friday - great score) and someone left the freezer door ajar last night. So, it is now empty of food and ice!! And, my tummy muscles have had a good workout.

Have a lazy Monday everybody

oh, ladies... that is awful!! I really feel for you both and send lots of hugs and love your way.

{hugs} for Kitty not me - I don't even care about my DH atm - the further away the better IMHO

Kiwi am you are off - I break up Thursday - yay!!

Thankyou for the lovely hugs

I know that I would be better off without him on an emotional level. The children need him around though. ATM I find what he is doing/not doing pretty galling. He has really blotted his copy book. Up until now at least I could always trust him to be a man of his word. If someone lets you down badly it does affect the way you feel about them doesn't it?

The little man is giving me alot of hassle today, his wriggling is really hurting my bladder and giving me really sharp pains.

I was changing ds pooey nappy there and jollying him along saying 'clean clean bum bum' and he says 'don't say clean clean bum bum' and I said 'why?' and he says 'cuz it's rude'
I really think he is ready for potty training but I'm not ready! I was hoping to deal with that after things have settled with the baby. It'll be a nightmare if I'm trying to breastfeed a newborn and also run with a little one to the toilet all the time, talk about juggling!

It must go with the territory at this stage to be disgruntled with partners. But it is useful to have someone to aim bad temper towards! My dh and I are not one bit huggy either but we are affectionate in that we tease, banter and make fun of each other constantly.( 'slagging' is the local term) We both have over developed senses of humour which is very useful

that you're all having a horrid time with your DPs. It's always so much worse when the person who's supposed to love you the most hurts you Hope they all start to see sense soon.

have some brackety hugs (((((march mummies)))))

Oooh the front page I don't feel as if I've earned the honour yet!

Today is the first day of my maternity leave. Not quite sure what to do with myself! Didn't sleep well though - my lo was like yours in the night Kitty - kicking me really hard and it was bloody painful. So I may just snooze and watch rubbish telly. And go to Lidl to see what bargains I can find and Matalan to get some cheap big pants.

I really need to start reading my Janet Balaskas to prep myself a bit mentally for the birth too.

Hope we all have a better day

Oh - and 36 today (boy)

Kitty lots of {{{{{{hugs}}}}}} for you from me xxx

It is hard, because on here I worry about sounding trite iyswim, but I really do sympathise and if I lived near I would come over and lend a sympathetic ear.

Foxy sorry your dh has been crap about his mat leave? Do you think his company would let him take it anyway if he tells them now, or are they going to be off with him because of the age discrimination thing?

Kiwi of you being on your maternity leave already! Then again you are further along than me! I still have thirteen working days to go.

I'm just getting my head down and making sure I hit all my targets in case we hit target as a team and then I get some bonus. Chances are very, very slim that we will, but I'd kick myself if we hit targets and I hadn't hit my target, so ended up without owt.

I'm panicking a little tbh, NatWest still hasn't come through, we didn't hit team target last month, so no bonus for Mossy, I am starting to get nervous as to how we're going to fund me being on maternity leave, especially with driving lessons at £20 a week, I don't want to give them up, but...

We rarely go out, or buy luxuries, and have concentrated since me getting pg on paying off our debts, so we should be okay, ish, but I just don't know where the money goes! We do spend a lot on food though, dh insists on always getting "extra special", or organic. But it's only like an extra fiver or so on the weekly shop...

Sorry that was really rambling wasn't it!? I'm just worrying "out loud". I'm sure we'll be okay, and of course there's child benefit and tax credits and the like.

Muppet: "all of us having little blue ones have such a big responsibility to turn out decent humans". You are so right! Mil will never let dh get away with so much as the tiniest sexist remark, she says she had enough of it to last a lifetime from her xh (fil) so she's not having her son get away with it! (Sometimes you wouldn't think he was nearly 29 and about to be a father, but I'm not complaining 'cos she nearly always takes my side!)

X-posts Sazzy who is Janet Balaskas? Also (I promise, I swear I don't work for them, but...) Asda do really cheap knickers, £1 for a pack of three!

Mossy - we're in the shit too regarding our Finances.

DH may have no work after June, plus Tax Credits say we owe them £4.5k, plus, hey guess what - our mortgage deal has all gone pear shaped again - so looks like we may have to go for a more expensive deal

TBH its all washing over me at the moment. The worst case scenario is I'll have to return to work in Sept p/t when I wanted to stay off until January 2008.

La, La, la la la...

Foxy just put your fingers in your ears and hum the theme tune from "The Magic Roundabout". That's what I'm doing atm regarding finances.

Sorry to hear about your mortgage I thought it was all sorted out?

Sorry about the money situ foxy and Mossy . I know that at this stage of preg I would be singing very loudly too .
I think the preg insomnia is really getting bad now. I have been doing quite well up until now, but last night had to fight off the urge to get up at about 2.30, stuff myself with food and watch crap tv.

I am seeing an old friend this week who has one dd the same age as ds1. We met at ante natal and have always met up very regularly, even 8 years on.
However, I find myself becoming increasingly irritated with her. She talks about herself and her probs incessantly and I find it exhausting. She does ask me about me but then doesn't relly listen to the answer or then turns the convo back to herself.

I feel mean thinking this way

I reckon it's all a secret conspiracy amongst card shops/ chocolate manufacturers/ restaurateurs/ flower growers, where they put something in the water a few days before February 14th to make all men suddenly behave like total bar-stewards. And then when they get over it a couple of days later they'll feel all guilty and spend more on Valentines day. How else do you explain so many of them suddenly behaving like this simultaneously?

Lunar - LOL at bar stewards

I think our tolerance levels are very low at the moment....

Kitty - what you say about your friend is really funny - I have a friend whose baby is due the same day as mine (known her for 5 years) - she's really getting on my nerves too!! She just really irritates me atm and (to my mind) keeps making the most stupid comments and asking the most idiotic questions.

example:

"why is a CS more risky than a natural birth?"

Doh?

She's sending her six year old son away over half term so she doesn't have to look after him poor lad. So two weeks before his sibling arrives, he gets sent away to stay with relatives! Is that lazy or what? She wants to go out for lunch with me during half term 'cos she'll be bored. As if I want to go out for lunch with DS and DD in tow, and while she's playing the lady of leisure?

I think at this stage of PGcy we are so tired we just can't stomach people who are selfish or irritating. I'm avoiding her big time atm...

grrrrrr....

kitty-i have a 'friend' like that,the one i mentioned seeing at the hospital last week.she will say 'how are you doing?' then before i can even draw breath,start going on about all her so-called problems.
sorry to hear things are no better with your dp.mine turned round the other night(when we were having an argument about him saying 'nice to see you again' to a woman on that online game who'd been blatantly flirting with him)and said i was taking the p**s and i should post everything i was saying on a thread on here as everybody would tell me i was being unreasonable

ive come to the conclusion that at this stage of preg,men think they can do no wrong cos we are obviously temporarily insane due to hormones so whatever we say is wrong.though kitty is right,its cos we're too bloody tired to put up with the usual crap!

moss-i wasn't being funny about the discomfort/pain thing.eg i was told when i had a stretch+sweep with dd2 it would be 'uncomfortable'(owwwwwwwwww)and that the strong contractions i was having while on the drip must be 'painful'(they were niggling slightly).

rosy-what awful timing!i really hope your dh gets back for the birth.
i left potty training ds2 till dd2 was about 4 months old and in a good routine,even though he was probably ready before that i just couldnt be bothered.

sazzy-get you!front page

35+5

Mossy - hey guess what - we just got our mortgage offer!!!!!!!

Its changed from being repayment for 34 years to interest only for 11 years . Makes no difference whatsoever, as we'll just overpay each month to pay off capital and will switch again in two years anyway - but what a relief as this is a good deal and all the interest rates have risen since we applied (..in October)..

oooh I might even celebrate by going for a walk - oh no its raining again...

I had a sneaky nose on primelocation.com at work this morning and discovered we could, if we choose to leave London, buy a 4 bed house in Trowbridge/Chippnehma (wiltshire) for £180,000 - I'd be able to work part time while DH is a sahd!!!

Sorry, I'm starting to get a bit carried away now - must be the hormones.

I've started feeling very hot all the time and a bit nauseous - anyone else getting this atm?