March 2017 - Thread #2

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March 2017 continued!

Hello !

I'm a bit late to join the party!
EDD : 02nd Mar
DC: #1
Age :30

I have been having all sorts of days, ranging from days where I feel for and fine and singing about, to days where I can't bring myself to get off the day(today being one of them)

Elsa, perhaps you could explain it to your immediate boss/team and wfh ? It helps me immensely if I can get a short nap during the day, and to sneak one at work is very cheeky of me is tricky

Can I ask a stupid question? We are on our way to Wilderness festival and we are booked in for dinner tomorrow night... Dessert is a prosecco jelly and I'm not sure that I can eat it. I had been considering having a single glass of fizz for the first time but I'm not sure if Im brave enough. And I can't really have both can I?

I'm not sure but if you ask they might be able to tell you how much alcohol there is in it then see how many units that ia, I can't remember how many units you can have bit it says on the NHS website I think.
I think definitely either the jelly or a glass of wine would be fine but not sure about both.

Gin & Magic I read today that 97% of babies that have detected heartbeats from 8 weeks go on to be delivered. It was in the mumsnet email this morning for 8 weeks pregnant - but I don't know what their source is.

Even with that, we're waiting until 14 just because we're on holiday in SE Asia and our grandparents would have kittens if they knew I was going in my first trimester. My nan would probably lie in front of the plane!

Magic/Gin I believe what Magic said is correct. From my own experience, in my first pregnancy I saw a HB on scans at around 6 and 9 weeks, but baby had died by 12-14 weeks (dates a bit unclear as I hadn't had a proper dating scan due to lost hospital referral). Of course, you can sadly lose a baby at any point in pregnancy, but up to the end of the first tri is definitely much higher risk. And, as Magic says, the dating scan also looks for healthy development, rather than just a HB.

My philosophy is to tell people about the pregnancy during the first tri so long as I would also be comfortable telling them about a loss. I ended up telling lots of people about my MMC later on, even if they hadn't known I was pregnant in the first place, just because it was such a big thing for me and I wanted to be honest. At the time I was going through it, it was also invaluable to have support from those who knew. But everyone is different. It depends what you are comfortable with.

Elsa for you. Sorry you're having such a tough time.

X-post with Charly!

Scan done, measuring 9w with a lovely little heartbeat

gin Yay, congratulations!

Hero Hello and welcome! Funnily enough we have exactly the same stats (EDD 2nd March, Age 30, DC #1)

We've told mums, just for support, nobody else knows

Well apart form you lovely ladies

Not saying anything to anybody else until I have a scan pic xx

From not form lolx

elsa my advice would be to do what's right for you. Some people find it easier to go to work and distract themselves and some people don't. I've never found work can distract me. And only you know how u feel and whether you can do your job properly with how you feel. So if u feel u need to take time off don't feel guilty about it. Pregnancy is bloody hard and u need to look after yourself.

I'm in the minority in that ive told loads of people I'm pregnant. I've always just been too excited to not tell and it's all people I would tell if things weren't going right or I lost the baby so for me I've never waited till the magic 12 weeks anyway. Things can go wrong are any point, obviously the risks go down but I'm a pretty open person.

I'm thankful I'm still on maternity leave anyway while I've been so tired. First shift back coming up a week on Thursday but first I have dd first birthday celebrations to enjoy.

Dozy DH and I have told quite a few people as well. Family (parents, siblings and grandparents) and close friends. They are all people we'd tell if I had a miscarriage. I sometimes worry that we've told too many but it's bad enough having to keep it a secret at work, so I'm glad my close friends know.

Congrats on the scan Gin!

Gin Congrats!

Welcome Hero!

For the moment, we've only told people who need to know or would have guessed by me being so pathetic ill. If next week's scan goes OK, the one after that is less than 3 weeks later so makes sense to keep it to ourselves that little bit longer. Last time we didn't do one big announcement either, just told people as and when we spoke to/saw them and I expect we'll do the same this time.

We've told everyone. Couldn't keep it to ourselves once we knew it was twins!

Ladies...I have discovered my craving.

Oh god..I bought these for our drive to holiday tomorrow but I can't stop eating them.

Somebody needs to have words with me!

haha Clarke I'm not sure I've had a craving yet, although the other day I wanted a jam slice, drove all over to find one, ended up buying 4 in case I wanted another, still have 3 at home, but I will HAVE to eat them soon or they will go out of date

x

What's a jam slice? I'm sure I could help you out!

I'm not convinced it really is a craving, more of an excuse, but shhh...

It's a thin layer on shortbread topped with a thin layer of jam then another layer of shortbread with sprinkle of sugar on top. mmm mmmm

It's only sweet I've been able to stomach at the mo. I can't find them in the supermarkets just at a little bakery near work I've tried making them in the past but not as good xx

I didn't like telling people Hugh felt really awkward about it. This time I might just send emails to anyone who's not a relation!

Elsa please talk to your DH. When I was going through my suspected miscarriage we were both struggling but didn't want to say anything as we didn't want to upset each other. In the end we admitted how we both felt and realised we needed to be honest with each other as the situation was already shit, talking about it makes it better not worse. You two are a team and he's there to support you.

I had one horrendous week MS-wise where luckily I was on holiday anyway, since then I've found I'm better off being at work as it distracts me from how I'm feeling, I feel worse when I'm sitting around doing nothing. But obviously if I was too ill to function it would be a different matter. I would just play it by ear, you may feel better by next week.

Congrats Gin! I had an 8 week scan but I'm still waiting until after 12 weeks. I've already told close friends and family though.

neon how come you had a scan and found your lovely double news, if you don't mind the question? Did you suspect?

Because I am showing about as much as I did at 22 weeks and I'm currently only 9 so I'd love to think there is a reason other than poor muscle tone and greed but that is clearly the issue here!