March 2017 - Thread #2

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March 2017 continued!

Thanks for the heads up secret

After 2 and a half years of fertility tests and treatment I dread to think how much I've spent in the hospital car park! Especially since at mine it's £2.50 minimum, even if you're only there for a 20 minute appointment.

My scan letter also says you need exact change to pay for the scan photo. Better start saving up my coins!

Beauty good luck with the scan

Butterpuff I had that sensation on my first like no matter how much I tried to swallow it down there was just this big lump stuck in my throat the whole time, eased after first trimester though

Has anyone ever rescheduled the 12 week ultrasound? How flexible are they? Will it be another 2 weeks until I can have another if I do try to reschedule? Dp apparently has work commitments.

Newbie Yes I rescheduled mine really easily. I was reluctant to try but DH said no harm in asking, so I called them and they changed it. My scan was originally booked for a Thursday afternoon and I changed it to the Friday morning because I don't work on Fridays, and it's easier not to have to book the time off (I don't want to tell my boss just yet). Plus DH is taking the day off and if the scan is all ok we'll go and buy a few baby things to celebrate

Struggling with life today, feel so exhausted! Got home from work and sobbed for a while, ate a very quick dinner and slept till now. I have another 9hr shift on my feet tomorrow and I feel so broken already. I've been getting horrible pain in my hip probably the pegnant hormones making my hypermobility syndrome worse :( feeling sorry for myself

for you Rosey. It's really hard sometimes, and in the first tri it's even worse because most people have no idea that you feel like shit - at least later on people take a bit of pity on you! Hang on in there.

Good luck with your scan Beauty.

rosie it's hard isn't it? Just be gentle with yourself and focus on the fact that it does get better once the first trimester he'll is over with and the exhaustion and morning sickness goes away.

Had to get up for work at 5am today, I could actually cry looking at food makes me want to throw up and there's food everywhere at work so this will be fun

Does anybody do nightshifts? I'm really struggling with them at the moment and don't want to tell work just yet. Keep getting a cold, earrache etc after them. Any suggestions would be great xx

Sorry to everyone who is struggling i had a very tight feeling in my stomach last night but the sore boobs are definitely waning. It will be nice if the tireeness will go away itsturning me into a right grumpy cow and i keep wanting to cry (that's more about financial worries though).

neon my extreme tiredness has gone but been replaced my crazy hormones that turn me into a grumpy cow anyway haha

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namechange that sounds like a lovely plan :) I even suggested it to my dp . Will ring them later today. Fingers crossed it won't be too hard to get another slot that same week

So sorry to every one struggling. I too can't wait for the first trimester ro be over. Second tri is the best.
Just want to say my dh is the best. Last night he got in from work, cooked dinner, put DC to bed, cleared up dinner, sent me to bed early and tidied and hoovered downstairs. This morning he got DC up and fed while I slept in and put a load of washing on before going to work. I love the man. Now trying to think what treatment to get him to say thanks.

Hi all, I've been physical so ill this week. Barely been able to get off the sofa. Which only makes the prospect of no viable baby in there even more tough.

I'm so sad today and no one to talk to as I don't want to upset DH (and I'm totally shit at talking through stuff anyway)

I'm so anxious about the scan and feel like I have 'too much' hope when I expect the outcome is not good. I know I'm going to be ruined on Tues.

Elsa You must talk to someone about how you're feeling. I'm sure your DH would want to know and support you. You two are a team. And it might be helpful for you to talk to counsellor as well. Could you ask your GP about it?

Elsa I agree with namechange, at least tell your OH, you need the support

Well finally decided to weigh myself today, wasn't as bad as I thought it would be. with the combo of constipation and water I thought it would be worse.

I actually had morning sickness this morning after feeling nauseous for the past week or 2 and fighting the retching, today I didn't have the strength to fight it so had my OH holding back my hair this was before breakfast xx

Elsa you poor thing. Do tell your Dh how you're feeling, he would want to support you, you can support each other, maybe he's feeling as low as you are but is too worried about upsetting you to talk to you about it, you will need each other if the news isn't good on Tuesday. And I'm really hoping that you will get good news, can't imagine how tough it is for you to be going through this xxxx

Thank you. I'm so sorry I sounded so self pitying but it's the only place I can be.

Can I ask a question? You all seem to be muddling through with work but the way I've felt this week, not sure I could. If I didn't know I was pregnant I would have thought I was dying! I'm so breathless too.

Wondering if I should get signed off work for a week? Back history is I've been signed off quite a bit due to my depression, so I don't want to annoy them but I wouldn't be productive at all I don't think.

Elsa I find it very difficult to motivate myself for work but I find it a good distraction from my pregnancy worries and symptoms. You know yourself best, if you were home alone all day would your mind go into overdrive thinking what ifs or would you be able to keep yourself distracted enough without worrying about what work are thinking. I get more stressed being off work, just had 2 days off, booked holidays and I came back in to sooooo much work yesterday I got a bit overwhelmed and had a bit of a sob in the ladies

Hope this helps

I've got an early scan at lunchtime today, should be 8+5 got everything crossed. If all is ok so you think we're safe to start telling people or would you still wait for 12 wk?

Hi everyone!

Elsa so sorry you're feeling down. It's one thing to feel miserable in the first trimester, quite another to be feeling it having had bad news.
No advice other to talk it over with your OH and take it easy this weekend, Tuesday is just around the corner. At least you will have an answer one way or the other then. Also, don't worry about taking time off work, I'm lucky enough to work from home, so I'm doing it from my bed, but I can't get up early or work late any more, so I'm definitely getting less done.

I'm another one counting down the days, feeling so sick and tired and pathetic. Going by my last pregnancy, I'll be feeling better by 12 weeks or before, which is 30 August all being well 25 days to go

Weirdly enough, I was chatting to an old friend over Skype yesterday - was dreading it as I always feel the worst in the evenings - but didn't feel sick until the moment we hung up. Distraction definitely works, until it gets really late (10 p.m.) and then the only solution is to go to bed. It's my own fault for trying to carry on as normal I suppose

ginteacups It's really up to you. I'm having one at 9+1, and if all is well, we won't necessarily tell anyone until the 12-week scan (except for work reasons perhaps).

The reason is, without wanting to put a downer on anyone who's already had a successful early scan, that while a HB is an excellent sign and the risk of MC is considerably reduced, there's still a higher risk than after a successful 12-week scan I think. I think it's something to do with the formation of the placenta, because that also has a bearing on a viable pregnancy. Plus, the 12-week scan will also rule out any malformations etc. I just know that unfortunately things can still go wrong between a HB and 12 weeks, as they can later on admittedly, but I believe it's slightly more common unfortunately in the 1st trimester even with a HB. Can anyone confirm this?

I'm fortunate that I'm off for 5 weeks as a teacher, right smack bang in my first trimester which is really lucky.

That said, apart from tiring easily when doing things physically, I've been feeling fine in the day. I start to feel icky at about 10pm and just go to bed.

With lack of symptoms, comes worry that things aren't developing though!

gininteacups good luck today. I'd still wait until 12 weeks. I had a 8 week scan but am now still a little anxious that something could still go wrong in the next 4 weeks! That said, I've had to tell friends as I had a 30th birthday and wasn't drinking. I just don't want family to get all over excited...