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March 2017 - Thread #2

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alphabook · 19/07/2016 21:29

March 2017 continued!

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alphabook · 30/07/2016 17:42

MrsMushrooms I'd be up for joining a Facebook group, but I can understand if others aren't ready yet (especially since my due date is the 1st, so I'm one of the furthest along!)

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NameChange30 · 30/07/2016 17:45

I'm not ready to out myself by joining a Facebook group just yet but go ahead if you want to!

greentreeseverywhere · 30/07/2016 18:14

We had the early scan today. Period dates put us at 8 weeks but she said I looked more 7....so that's even more time to waite for 12 week scan!!! But there's a strong heart beat and it's all abit more real now. We've told out parents but no one else untill the 12 weeks out the way!
Iv had awful stomach ache since the scan is this just where she had to press down hard to see do you think? Or is more of my trapped wind Grin
I did try to listen to her when she was explaining everything but I was so overwhelmed with it being real I didn't take it all in!! I now feel much more relaxed and I'm excited! Hope everyone else is feeling ok and get positive scan news

neonrainbow · 30/07/2016 18:26

I would join a facebook group but not till i know theres definitely a baby in there/after 12 weeks when it's common knowledge.

Im still having blood today but it's old blood not new red blood. I've never wished a weekend away before but i just need to know whats going on in there.

NoisyLittleLion · 30/07/2016 18:30

Hello ladies

I've not posted since my initial post due to being dehydrated through almost constant vomiting resulting in a narrow escape from being admitted to hospital. The dr gave me an anti emetic injection and some tablets to take which have thankfully enabled me to eat (small amounts) and drink. Now that I'm feeling slightly more normal I thought I would try to post and keep up with the thread.

This will be Dc2 for us. I already have Ds1 who is 3. We live in the west coast of Scotland.

Newbie7077 · 30/07/2016 18:32

Same. I'd like to make sure it's alive first. Congrats greentreeseverywhere , great news! I got awful cramps starting in the middle of my Saturday jog. Absolutely horrendous, had to lie down in the grass and it was still extremely painful. Noticed later though that it is related to my tummy/intestines rather than baby but it's hard to tell them apart sometimes

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alphabook · 30/07/2016 18:41

Great news greentrees!

That sounds awful Noisy, hope you feel better soon.

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ChoChang · 30/07/2016 19:40

Great news greentrees! I got put back about 4 days at my scan too , wish it was 4 days forward, but all I really care about is that its there and ok!

neon hope tomorrow goes quickly for you. Have you managed to have a low key weekend so far?

noisy and newbie sorry you're feeling unwell. Glad the docs could help noisy.

We've not told anyone except my boss yet, not even family. Planning on waiting til after 12 week scan. So defo won't join a fb group til after then.

charlybs · 30/07/2016 19:47

Hugh what's a Doppler? That sounds like a good idea! I'd love to hear a heartbeat.

I don't think I would join a Facebook group until after 12 weeks in case someone saw that I'd joined it.

neonrainbow · 30/07/2016 19:58

Oh yes cho ive done nothing at all all day!!

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alphabook · 30/07/2016 20:29

I assumed the Facebook group would be a secret one?

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Dozygirl · 30/07/2016 21:04

Yes the group would be secret so no one would know you had joined it except you. Would be no good otherwise.
I'll wait till after 12 weeks scan to join but it is easier to follow than the thread and I like putting faces to names :) I made some fabulous online mum friends from last time. The support you get before and after is just second to none.

noisy sorry to hear you've been so unwell. Did u have hypermerisis with your ds? Hopefully the tablets will do the trick for you. Just feeling sick is bad enough so I feel sorry for anyone who suffers with actual sickness like yourself.

Dozygirl · 30/07/2016 21:07

neon old blood sounds promising. Hopefully that's a good sign

abbinobb · 30/07/2016 21:32

I'd join a facebook group before 12 weeks as long as it's secret so no one can see you've joined it

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cyclinggirl22 · 30/07/2016 21:56

I'm the same I'd join a fb group after 12 weeks scan as it will be so much easier to follow.
I'm jealous of all those who have had scans or seen midwives, I'm supposed to see the midwife at 10 weeks but I'm 8+5 and have had not heard about an appointment yet

Floozie66 · 31/07/2016 09:09

Hi dozygirl i would be up for joining fb group.

charlybs · 31/07/2016 10:19

Thanks Hugh!

I'm celebrating this morning - me and DH managed to dtd before I felt too sick this morning!

Anyone else close to setting a new burping world record? It seems to ease my nausea though ahha

MrsMushrooms · 31/07/2016 10:20

Haha, of course the FB groups are top secret so none of your friends can see you've joined - it's only like joining this type of thread but sooo much easier to keep up with! I won't push it though as I can see there's a fair bit of resistance - roll on 12 week scans, eh? :D

ElsaMars · 31/07/2016 12:22

Sorry to dampen the mood but I'm really struggling today. I've been feeling hideously bloated for a few days now, I look about 6 months pregnant, I can't get comfortable or eat and if I don't eat I feel sick. I couldn't go out with DH, DD and friends today because of feeling crappy and self conscious of my huge stomach, so I'm feeling like a rubbish mum too Sad

Also worrying about DHs comment the other night about it not being worth me going back to work when we have two because all my salary will go on childcare. He's right but I'm horrified by the prospect.

Doesn't help that I've gone cold turkey on my ADS and am feeling some of my old depressive stuff coming back.

I also have an early scan tomorrow to check everything's Ok, so all in all, not having a great day.

Hope everyone else is feeling better.

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alphabook · 31/07/2016 12:34

Have a hug Elsa Flowers

I can relate, Feeling bloated, nauseous, gassy and tired all the time wears me down a bit. And I also suffer from depression and can feel it creeping on at times. I think the main thing is to be conscious of how your mood is and if you do feel yourself slipping downhill then don't be afraid to speak to your GP. At the moment it's just every now and then for me so I feel like it's under control. Waiting for a scan is extremely stressful and I hope you feel better after tomorrow.

Can you go back part time, even just 2 days a week maybe? For me, even if I had hardly any money left over after childcare it would still be worth it to have those couple of days a week in the "real world", and to not be out of the workforce completely as I can imagine it makes going back to work when the children are older very difficult.

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Gardencentregroupie · 31/07/2016 15:34

I think that so long as I wasn't in serious negative money I would try to go back, even with childcare costs. It keeps your hand in, and its much easier to go from part to full time (if you want to),than to find a job from scratch. Childcare costs are crippling but not forever, especially as free hours kick in when they turn 3. It keeps any pension contributions up to date as well, and I'm a better parent when I've got some time away from DD and more to think about than just her - but it's a very personal decision and every family has to do what's right for them.

I feel shite today. I was hungry and felt sick, now I've eaten and feel even more sick. I'm super tired too.

NameChange30 · 31/07/2016 16:56

Elsa
Sorry you're having a difficult time at the moment Sad
Don't underestimate the effects of coming off anti-depressants, especially if you've gone cold turkey. Did you talk to your doctor before coming off them? It's just that when I talked to my doctor about ADs and pregnancy, I got the impression that they weigh up the benefits and risks, and there are some that are safer to take in pregnancy than others, so it might be ok for you to come off gradually or switch to a different type instead? I've also found CBT and mindfulness very useful when coming and staying off anti-depressants.
And I disagree with your DH about it not being worth you going back to work. Even if it doesn't seem to make financial sense in the immediate/short term, in the long term you will benefit from continued pension contributions, staying in the workplace and therefore progressing (or at least not stepping backwards) in your career, and retaining your future earning potential. And don't forget the money isn't the only factor; working gives you independence, mental stimulation, adult interaction, a sense of purpose, etc etc and for those reasons it could benefit your mental health and therefore be worth a short term financial loss.

ElsaMars · 31/07/2016 17:41

Thanks Alpha and Name. Discussd my ADS with doc so that I was on the most suitable for ttc and also spoke to her when I stopped. I had to stop because of another issue I was having but as soon as I found out I was pregnant I stopped almost immediately. This was also okayed by Doc.

I feel very down and fed up. Hope I can snap out of it. I know I'll have to go back on them if no improvement but I'm annoyed at my stupid brain and mentality.