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GerberaDaisy · 22/04/2016 20:28

Hello,

So couldn't see a January baby post (probably because no one is mad enough to POAS as early as me!)

Anyway, I thought I would start one (waves). I am 28, this will be DC#2 making my 4 year old DS a big brother which he has been so excited about becoming (we haven't told him yet though as very early days!) I am roughly around 4 weeks and we're not planning on telling anyone for ages so thought I would start a thread so I have someone to get excited with!

Please come and say hello! Xx

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Emz32 · 13/05/2016 18:56

Oh Freya I'm sorry to hear they haven't contacted you. My local EPU didn't get my referral from my gp. I had to chase them both. They should have called you rather than leave you stressing. I'm sorry it's getting worse. I hope it isn't bad news & will keep my fingers crossed for you x

Freya84 · 13/05/2016 19:17

Thanks Emz32. I'm not taking painkillers as I'm still hoping that things are ok. With my first mc it turned out that I hadn't been referred for a scan when I was in the room when it was done! The EPU still did a scan but it just upset me even more. I'll go back to the GP on Monday whatever happens.

samk15 · 13/05/2016 20:35

Freya my lovely, so sorry you're having to go through this. I really hope things work out for you. Would you go for a private scan? Maybe just to know one way or the other? I totally get that it doesn't change things though xxx

swancourt · 13/05/2016 23:59

Had my scan! All great - little blob with a beating heart measuring 6+3 (I think 6+5 or 6+6) and everything as it should be. Phew!!!

swancourt · 14/05/2016 00:01

Oh god I am so sorry - I am on my phone and couldn't see any previous posts until I posted. Sorry for the absolutely heartless timing of my last, and I am so sorry that you are going through this Freya. I have all my fingers crossed that it will be ok

MagpieCursedTea · 14/05/2016 00:35

Freya I'm so sorry they've left you in limbo like that. Is the EPU open over the weekend? Can you call them in the morning? Massive hugs to you.

Swan that's fantastic news, it must be such a relief!

happylass · 14/05/2016 06:00

Oh Freya I'm so very sorry my lovely. Sending big hugs and hoping that everything will be ok for you Flowers.

Swan that's great news. Must be such a relief to know all is well.

Emz32 · 14/05/2016 08:23

Freya your local EPU should be open today so you could try them. In your situation part of me didn't want to know but it was better when I found answers as the anxiety goes away. Keeping my fingers crossed for you.

Swan that's great news, really pleased for you. Must be such a relief.

I feel so nervous about Monday, desperate for good news.

Freya84 · 14/05/2016 08:54

swancourt, you have nothing to be sorry for, it's wonderful news about your scan, I'm pleased for you Flowers
samk15 we don't have the money for a private scan.
MagpieCursedTea, Emz32 I don't think the EPU is open today but I will double check.
I'm so confused. When I posted my last comment I was so sure I would mc, the cramping was quite bad and the blood was bright red. I cried so much that my eyes are still puffy and red now! But when I got up this morning, I had barely spotted overnight and when I wiped it was back to really dark blood. I still feel pregnant with the symptoms I've had all along; funny taste in mouth, breasts hurting etc. So bloody confused!
Hope you're all well

Emz32 · 14/05/2016 13:08

I hope you get some answers Freya. I'm in a weird place. I'm 7+3 today which is when I started bleeding in my first miscarriage. I'm also trying not to worry about scan on Monday but it's hard.

ktt512 · 15/05/2016 14:00

Flowers Freya I hope you're doing ok this afternoon? I've got everything crossed for you!

Is it ok if I have a bit of a moan? Obviously, i'm not hugely pregnant yet, i'm 6+2 today, but we just went over to my FIL's because my OH said he'd like to tell him about the baby. So I went along and we sat in the garden and my OH's gran and grandad were there too...and my OH didn't say a word about the pregnancy. Fair enough, he seems to have changed his mind, but my FIL sat and chain smoked across the table from me the entire time we were there and the smoke was blowing across the table into my face.

I couldn't say anything because my OH hadn't told him, my OH was totally oblivious and when I said something to him in the car just now, he had a go at me, told me it was all my fault, if I was worried I should have moved and he isn't going to ask his dad to not smoke in front of me because 'chain smoking is what he does'. I'm livid. But am I being unreasonable to be? I could have moved, but their garden is tiny, you couldn't swing a cat, and the only way I could have got away from the smoke was to go and sit on the back door step, which would have looked so weird, rude under the circumstances and would have definitely raised questions. Is it wrong of me to expect my OH should care that someone is chain smoking around me when i'm sure his dad would have happily not done it if he knew? He's not an unreasonable man in that respect, i'm sure he could have given the fags a rest for an hour...?

MagpieCursedTea · 15/05/2016 14:27

YANBU I find smoke makes me feel really ill at the moment. Your OH could've at least suggested leaving earlier and should've thought about how it would effect you. Why did he change his mind about telling them?

Hope everyone is doing okay today.

Emz32 · 15/05/2016 14:28

Freya I too hope you are ok. This thread has been a bit quiet and haven't wanted to keep bombarding you.

Ktt I love having a moan so it's good to know I'm not the only one. The smell of fags make me feel so sick at the moment. I think you have every reason to feel the way you do. In that situation I would have expected my DH to pull my FIL to one side (or cornered him in the house) and told him the news quietly with a request to hold off the fags. It doesn't sound like you could have done anything differently without raising eyebrows. Hope you sort it out. Hormones really don't help. I keep flipping out about stupid things & then feeling terrible x

Freya84 · 15/05/2016 15:04

I miscarried last night/this morning. Heart broken and devastated all over again but at least the pain isn't as bad as last time.
Thank you for all of your support and I wish you all the best for your pregnancies x

Emz32 · 15/05/2016 15:28

Freya I'm so sorry to hear this. It is devastating. Its harder to keep putting yourself through this. I wish you the best of luck for a sticky bean in the future if and when the times right for you xx

ZylaB · 15/05/2016 16:40

Freya I'm so sorry Flowers

stealthbanana · 15/05/2016 16:41

Really sorry to hear that Freya, please do take care of yourself. Big hugs Flowers

I had some brown bleeding yesterday so am now even more panicked about my scan tomorrow. Tonight is unlikely to be a great night's sleep!

swancourt · 15/05/2016 17:03

So sorry freya. I hope you get lots of RL support and that if and when you go for it next time, things are absolutely plain sailing xxx

Freya84 · 15/05/2016 17:20

Thank you Emz32, ZylaB, swancourt and stealthbanana. Will take things easy for a bit, well, until Wednesday when I have a job interview. The timing is weird but it's something to concentrate on and hopefully will be something positive for me.
Thanks again, take care all xx

Parney · 15/05/2016 17:39

Oh Freya, take care of yourself. Heart-wrenching to hear your story. Lots of positivity for the future though and best of luck with the job interview.

Admarks · 15/05/2016 18:18

I'm so sorry Freya, fingers crossed for a quick recovery and good luck for your job interview

Bella1985 · 15/05/2016 19:24

Same best wishes from me too freya - good luck with the interview, look after yourself, have some rest, and best of luck if and when you decide to try again xxx

samk15 · 15/05/2016 19:41

I'm so sorry to hear that Freya.
Big hug being sent your way. Be gentle with yourself. Xxx

MagpieCursedTea · 15/05/2016 21:14

I'm so sorry Freya, massive hugs to you. All the best for your job interview.

MagpieCursedTea · 15/05/2016 21:16

Stealth sorry to hear about the bleeding. Best of luck for you scan tomorrow. Hope it goes well!