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Thread #3 - TTC#1 Grads thread. No TMI is too much, no question too stupid!

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Runner05 · 23/02/2016 16:47

Come one, come all it's the TTC#1 Grads thread! Everyone welcome so long as you're not put off by graphic descriptions of the lunch we couldn't keep down or the weird pregnancy symptoms we just have to share.

Our lovely ladies now span many stages of upduffedness from "woohoo BFP, now let me pee on 58 more sticks just to be sure" to "Oh my god, why don't they warn you what morning sickness is really like?" To" I need to pee 132 times a day but look at my cute scan photo!"

if you're looking for advice, banter and support, along with the occasional scan photo or rant, you are definitely in the right place.

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Runner05 · 25/02/2016 10:10

sigh, more texts from work. When I asked this morning to work from home one of my managers told me off saying that the other one was the one I should be speaking too for everything, not her. Her involvement with me was just to give a little extra support given everything that's happened over the past couple of months.
So, I think I've finally sorted out who's who and agree to differ to the other manager in all things.
Except that I've arranged a 1-1 for tomorrow with the other manager to go through working conditions and maternity and she's just told me that she's invited the other manager (without asking me) because she isn't experienced enough to deal with any of that.

Is it any wonder I always feel a bit confused about who's in charge of me Hmm

Sorry, I know I'm on a rant today but work was a bit of a nightmare before I was poorly and now I've got back I'm remembering why. Sad

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Nevlet · 25/02/2016 10:55

Oh no runner make sure they dont try to team up on you! Nhs 12 week scan was not the relaxing experience i was expecting baby was asleep in an awkward position sent to walk and eat sugar for half an hour then rescanned and it was the opposite leaping all over the place. Couldnt take NT measurements and next appointment is outside timeframe so have to have a different test called a quad test? Anyone heard of this?

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Runner05 · 25/02/2016 11:29

Oh no Nev that's awful.

That nearly happened to me but luckily lifting my bum and giving it a wiggle did the trick.

Can't help with the quad test, ive not heard of it.

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BunchOfBobs · 25/02/2016 12:38

Runner I say get yourself signed off before the meeting. If they suggest it at the meeting they'll be arses when/if you then get signed off again. Nothing is worth dealing with dicks like that and particularly when you're growing a tiny human. Look after yourself and rest.

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Glad to hear the spotting has stopped *
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Shelb it was Mor* who chased hers and I think it was after a week. I called two weeks later to discuss only receiving one result. How long have yours been?

I'm definitely out of denial about my bump, even the midwife today told me I had one. I also have a premature separation of ab muscles. Lovely!

Nev I've heard of the quad test but all I know is it's the one they do outside of the window. Worth posting a thread to ask maybe?

shelbTa · 25/02/2016 13:23

Blimey bunch! How do they know about the muscles? How does it happen, do you know?

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Runner05 · 25/02/2016 13:29

However it happens it sounds painful Shock

Bunch I'm in two minds about it at the moment but I don't think I could get signed off before tomorrow as my dr surgery is rubbish Sad
As you say I just can't deal with these people at the moment, especially as their the types that are friendly and supportive one minute and completely the opposite the next. I never know when I talk to them whether I'm going to be speaking to a lovely person or a complete cow.

Sat at home busy making a to do list... Top of the list, get both of my small businesses off the ground ASAP!

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Mileymoocow · 25/02/2016 13:31

runner I'm sorry you have to put up with working for arses like that! They sound awful Sad sorry to hear your sickness is back, too Flowers I'm on to my 2nd day of taking tablets for my nausea and vomiting (though only half the recommended dose as I feel guilty as hell) so can sympathise. M/S is absolutely hell

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Runner05 · 25/02/2016 13:43

How is the morning sickness Miley are the tablets helping? Now that I'm out of the first trimester I'm considering taking the ones I've been given if this keeps up.

My sister was in bed rest until 16 weeks. I think all the excitement and moving around and using computers all day has just broken me again.

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BunchOfBobs · 25/02/2016 14:02

Wow I had a complete bold fail on that previous post. I have a dining when I'm in a half sit up position/ tummy muscles are flexed. I mentioned it to her and asked if it was ab split and she confirmed it. It doesn't usually happen until 28 weeks ish. My SIL has it so I'm aware of it. Not painful just weird looking when I'm tensed and means I will probably have to work at it to close it post partum. It's natural for it to happen in late prefab any. And then close quickly after. Looks like I've got it for the duration though.

Make sure you stand up for yourself tomorrow Runner and remind them you should be phased back into work after so long off. Assigning deadlines to you is not going to help how you're feeling.

Mileymoocow · 25/02/2016 14:02

runner it's awful. It's getting worse rather than better and am not entirely convinced the tablets are helping at all. I'm slightly pissed off today at OH who has just text to tell me he's doing 2 over time shifts this weekend. I know he's doing it for extra money for maternity etc but I can't get out of bed or move at all without almost passing out or vomiting and I feel like I just really need him here to do chores I can't do and look after the dog. I can't even walk my own dog Sad

He's very attentive when he is home and he's always been a really hard grafter but I just wish he'd realise how much I actually am suffering. I'm not being lazy by not doing the washing or going shopping I just genuinely can't do it.

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Runner05 · 25/02/2016 14:40

Bunch that sounds annoying, but at least it doesn't hurt.

To be fair work did offer me a phased return but I couldn't afford to lose the hours. OH is still paying the mortgage for ex and I can only just afford all the bills on my apartment. Until we move I'm rather limited on what I can do.
I just feel like I've gone back in time 3 weeks. Everything I eat makes me feel sick and I'm struggling to focus on anything for more than a few minutes.

Miley I'm sorry you're getting worse and the tablets aren't working. I really don't think anyone can understand how utterly awful morning sickness can be unless they have experienced it themselves.

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Runner05 · 25/02/2016 14:41

(I have reached "I'm just going to sit here and cry for a bit" status)

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IndiX · 25/02/2016 14:48

Runner that's sounds rally shitty re: your work, it really doesn't help how you're feeling by them acting that way.
Miley I feel for you, can't believe what a terrible time you've been having. I have really bad nausea so have not really left my bed or the couch today, just about had a shower and washed my hair before overheating and feeling like I was going to pass out. At least I'm keeping food down though even though nutritionally its not great, sticking to cheese and rice cakes maybe some muesli as that's all I can stomach.
Did anyone else thing pregnancy would be this crappy in the first trimester? I'd heard it wouldn't be great and obv heard about MS and thought you'd just be sick and get on with it, I didn't realise the fatigue/nausea/sore boobs and EVERYTHING else that goes with it just leaves you feeling completely unable to do normal tasks!
Sorry for the rant, I'm in a hormonal mood today.

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Runner05 · 25/02/2016 14:56

Nope, no clue it would be like this. I thought I might feel a bit ill but there's a bit ill and then there's this living hell that we're stuck in!

(I may also be feeling a little over emotional and hormonal today)

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Mileymoocow · 25/02/2016 15:07

No indi I had no idea either. I thought morning sickness was just that and by the time I got to work I'd be alright. Ha!!!

The tablets work well enough for me to eat something quickly then go to sleep so I don't get a chance to throw it up. I've lost almost 10lb in 2 weeks and I'm so concerned as i was only 10 and a half stone at 5 foot 9 anyway 😕 I am managing to keep orange juice down and it's helping a little as it's so refreshing. But other than that and water I can't stomach anything and literally have to force myself to eat.

It really is living hell, there's no other way to describe it. I thought symptom spotting was a pain until this hit! I can't wait to actually want to eat again. I hope it's soon as we're going to Dubai on March 16th and I have a horrible feeling it's going to be ruined.

LisaTheGreek · 25/02/2016 15:32

Same here Indi and Runner - I knew (well, I thought I knew) about morning sickness, but I never thought the first trimester would be like this. And it's just not the actual 'sickness', it's the general feeling of being so run-down, so low-energy, so many cramps or pains, loss of appetite, diarrhoea/constipation, tolerance to foods, etc.

Also, the constant worry that something will go wrong, and the huge awareness of the probability of miscarriage or similar. I was so naive and idealist. I thought the first trimester would be exciting and nervy... Sad

LisaTheGreek · 25/02/2016 15:33

Oh Miley, I'm so sorry. It sounds like you and Runner have really had it bad. I hope it eases up soon, and sending you both lots of hugs.

Pinklily1 · 25/02/2016 15:50

Miley don't worry too much about the weight loss. I lost just a bit less than you, am 5"8 and weighed less to start with. Doctor reassured me and said as long as you can get liquid down you and keep it down, you'll survive and baby will be ok even with a lack of food for a few weeks. Fingers crossed you are on the mend by Dubai time!!

Runner, could it not be a meeting tomorrow to discuss extra support you need? They can't force you to go off sick.

Pinklily1 · 25/02/2016 15:56

Nev, sorry to hear they couldn't do all the scan bits. I've never heard of a quad test. Did they say how long you have to wait for that?

Mileymoocow · 25/02/2016 16:53

Thanks guys. It's a horrible struggle but it's not going to be forever Smile

Anyway...saw this and it made me chuckle

Thread #3 - TTC#1 Grads thread. No TMI is too much, no question too stupid!
Chocaholic88 · 25/02/2016 17:23

Hey everyone. Sorry - off the map again.

runner sorry to hear you're having such a crap time. You're right, get those businesses of yours off the ground asap. If you ever want any help marketing or anything give me a shout (I don't know what industry you currently work in!) We reach over 2 million people a week on FB so I've learned fast how to promote and maximise exposure. Not saying you're stupid by the way - just know it's not easy starting out x

miley bless you :( I felt like that when I had to take paracetamol for a horrific toothache a couple of weeks ago... I'm sure they'll be fine, just rest and I hope you'll feel better soon!!

Morning/all day sickness is back... coupled with splitting headaches and a whole magazine that needs editing before Tuesday... silently sceams (though nothing compared to some of your sickness)

In other news my next scan has been brought forward 2 weeks to the 22nd March :)

How is everyone??

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Runner05 · 25/02/2016 17:27

Pink the meeting tomorrow is my monthly 1-1. They may be there to be helpful but my (not)manager text me today to say she thinks we need to discus how I'm "feeling" which for her is code for, I don't think you're coping and I'm going to make you admit it.

miley that made me laugh. I have similar conversations with OH all the time... But not about bum stuff Blush

Just decided to cheer myself up by looking for Potato with the scanner. I think the last two times he's been napping. This time he's definitely awake and jumping around. His heart was faster and I could hear it get louder when he pinged close, then quieter as he moved away. A couple of times he disappeared and I had to go looking for the cheeky bugger.
It's very entertaining when he's feeling energetic. Can't wait to start feeling him properly Smile

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Runner05 · 25/02/2016 17:32

Thanks Choc I'll bare that in mind.

I'm in project management at the moment but I'm moving into coding and web development (been training for the past couple of years). I also went to art school so I'm going to try to sell a few arts and crafts that I can make in the evenings for fun. Smile

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Chocaholic88 · 25/02/2016 17:40

Sounds good runner

I have a crafty friend who runs 3 businesses from home. I also know a couple of people who run shops that sell handmade products so can always point you in their direction too :) happy to help if I can!

IndiX · 25/02/2016 17:53

Really random but just reading a couple of your posts and how you call your little Bean's he/she or his/hers..does anyone have any feelings yet what the sex could be of their babies? Or does anyone have a preference?...I know you're not MEANT to say you want a boy or girl and obviously we all want a healthy happy baby at the end of the day buttt if you were going to choose a sex what would you like or think you are going to have?