Thread #3 - TTC#1 Grads thread. No TMI is too much, no question too stupid!

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Come one, come all it's the TTC#1 Grads thread! Everyone welcome so long as you're not put off by graphic descriptions of the lunch we couldn't keep down or the weird pregnancy symptoms we just have to share.

Our lovely ladies now span many stages of upduffedness from "woohoo BFP, now let me pee on 58 more sticks just to be sure" to "Oh my god, why don't they warn you what morning sickness is really like?" To" I need to pee 132 times a day but look at my cute scan photo!"

if you're looking for advice, banter and support, along with the occasional scan photo or rant, you are definitely in the right place.

Good luck lauren!

jam - once I referred myself to the doc my booking in appt and scan date came in the post together

What a result runner!! How lovely of him to offer!

Jam, I'm having an early scan at 7+5. No reason other then I'm a bit of a worrier and do not have the patience to wait til 12 weeks! I can't see a reason not to, really- if the worst had happened and there was no hb id want to know so I could get things over and move on.

Got a 3+ on a digi this morning a week after my 2-3, so am going to stop with this talk of early loss and feel positive today!

Jam, I booked a go appointment as soon as I found out, booking in and scan appointments came through automatically about 7 weeks in.

Do I need my notes today does anyone know?

GP* not go!

Yes bring your red book with you lauren as it should have the forms to give in when you do your bloods- well mine did not sure if it's all the same

Good luck bunch and lauren!

runner that's really nice of her. Did you say you got the cosatto? There's so much choice. Anyone else considering a lie-flat car seat? My parents live a few hours away and I've read it's not safe for baby to travel in a standard car seat for this long.

jam my 12 week was booked in at my booking-in appointment with the midwife, which I had at 7 weeks. I just had a reassurance scan at 8+3 (thanks for the congrats pink, miley and lillian). I found it reassuring because I had it in my head that there would be nothing happening in there. Now I've seen it I believe it more. OH liked it too. It really it a blob with a heartbeat at this point though.

canters I was just the same with the worrying. Constantly looking at stats and couldn't allow myself to get excited. But the reality is you are far far more likely to go on to have a healthy pregnancy and baby than not so you have every reason to be positive and enjoy it! I think I read too many forums about miscarriage and they give a very biased perspective and just scare the shit out of you.

Thanks Danni, I have a grey book but sure it's the same!

Don't all judge me at once but I chose not to have the bloods/combined tests for personal reasons so there's only booking in apt notes in there.

Morning ladies.

Jam - I had a reassurance scan at 8 weeks, well worth the money if you are in a position to afford it.

17 weeks today! Think I'm starting to feel him/her move, but can't be sure.

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Lauren yep, you always need your notes.

I'm turning into a right worry already. It's occurred to me today that Potato will have no grandparents or cousins on my side but my DSC have lots and I won't go into detail for fear of outing myself but my DSCs grandparents, aunts etc. are also related to DBs family so at Christmas and birthdays all of Potato's siblings and cousins will get lots of presents and money from DSCs mums side of the family (they tend to spend a lot on them £££ in cards and gifts) it won't matter for a couple of years but I spent half the night worrying that at some point Potato will be at one of these parties and wondering why his siblings and cousins always get so much more than he does. Especially as they will also get two lots of birthday and Christmas presents as it is before you factor in extended family.
Silly to worry about it now as its years away but it's really upsetting to think that he might feel like second best because his brother and sister gets so much more than he will

You see, this is what happens when you start buying stuff... Shit starts to get real!!!

Good luck today Bunch and Lauren, let us know how you get on!

Jam it seems to vary a fair bit depending on where you are in the country. My gp wouldn't refer me to a midwife until I was at least 6 weeks, and booking in & scan dates then arrived together. Have my booking in this Thursday when I'll be 10 weeks, and can't wait to get things started, feels like an absolute age without seeing anyone!

Anyone else having a massive sulk about going to work today? I'm feeling like a right stroppy teen but I just don't want to!!

Lauren, definitely take your notes. My midwife said basically take your notes and a wee sample to every appointment you go to (though I didn't get asked for wee at my 12 week scan). I did accidently send the sample pot flying over he receptionists desk though Thankfully the lid was tightly on and she just laughed!

Also, no one will judge for not getting the combined tests, omits totally personal choice.

Shelb, I'm 17 weeks tomorrow. Is you due date still 1 September? Mine is 30 August so I'm assuming I should be 17+2 but dating scan put me at 13 weeks on the day, so I'm going from there.

My 'bump' seems to have grown in the last few days. I just had a little pot before but now it's at the stage where people will be wondering if I'm pregnant or just piled on the pounds around my tummy. I can't wait for a proper, no doubt about it, pregnant bump.

Lara yep I've got this Cosatto can't wait for it to arrive. I don't really know anything about lie flat car seats. I think it's ok to have them in a normal car seat for long journeys if someone's in the back with them. The danger is of them slumping and cutting off their air supply so lots of breaks and someone in the back keeping an eye should be fine.

Laura of course no one will judge you.

Shelb yay for 17 weeks!!! We're nearly half way

Planet yep, sulk central here. OH was a moody thing this morning too.

Pink - Yeah that's what's on my notes! Although to be honest, seen as how I was wearing two inch heels for the booking in appointment and the 16 yr old midwife measured my height with them on, and they missed my 16 week appointment, I'm not putting much faith in them t be honest!!!

Know what you mean - I'm at that 'Jesus she's piled on the pounds' stage, looking forward to looking actually pregnant too!

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Glad you managed your holiday miley

Good luck lauren & bunch

runner that's a lovely present to get.

I agree tests are completely a personal choice, no judgement from me.

runner don't stress about these things. I don't really get on with my SIL, no idea why but she's just taken to being a two faced c*w. Even my OH has had enough. Completely ignores birthdays, Christmas generally any occasion that requires any effort with us yet expects us to jump to her demands if & when she needs us (and over the years there's been plenty!!) So having relatives isn't a guarantee your child will be included as they should be. I'm lucky I'm very close with my brother & SIL and they are great with us. I've found its a case of quality rather than quantity. Your little one won't want for nothing or love ☺

6 weels this week and feeling......nothing much. Can't wait for things to be more 'real' so to speak ☺

runner that's the exact same set we're going to get! I love it and such a bargain. I also looked at the silver cross set from mothercare (think it was £300 for pram and car seat so good deal) but it's just not as snazzy

Yay! Miley we shall match. It really is such a bargain, it would be silly not to go for it.

Peaches I'm the sort of person that once something like this pops into my head I can't get it out until I come to a solution.
I'm not worried about him not having enough, just that DSC will get so much more that he will feel second class. I'm just worried about how that will effect the dynamics between the siblings and his self esteem when they will be treated absolutely the same the rest of the time.

runner im the same. Maybe they will recognise there will be times when all the kids are together and be kind enough to include your little one with a little something too?. If I were in this position is I would as I couldn't see a child feel left out? Anyway, as my mum would say your worrying about what hasn't happened yet! Which I'm famous for! Things have a way of working themselves out.

Peaches I know, I'm worrying about things a long time in the future. I'm just aware that as pleasant as they are I do think they would be able to leave one child out, not to be hurtful on purpose but just because they wouldn't think to include him.
I just don't want him to end up as I did as a child, wondering why my brother and sister always had nice things and treats while I was told to appreciate what I had and not to be greedy

So happy! My little micro was tearing around in there, flipping and waving! Loved it! He's grown so much since the early scan 3 weeks ago.

More convinced than before that he is a boy after the pic we got where he looks like he's already a boy racer!

Put forward 2 days too so my EDD is now 29th September and there it will stay :)

Fx crossed it works itself out. But given your experience and awareness of how it can make a child feel, you are already one step ahead and im sure you will make sure the past doesn't repeat itself for your little one. Try not to get too worked up (easier said than done I know) 😐

Beautiful lauren ☺

Yay Lauren fab scan pic!!

Yay! Lovely scan photo

Shiny new thread time!!!

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