Thread #3 - TTC#1 Grads thread. No TMI is too much, no question too stupid!

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Come one, come all it's the TTC#1 Grads thread! Everyone welcome so long as you're not put off by graphic descriptions of the lunch we couldn't keep down or the weird pregnancy symptoms we just have to share.

Our lovely ladies now span many stages of upduffedness from "woohoo BFP, now let me pee on 58 more sticks just to be sure" to "Oh my god, why don't they warn you what morning sickness is really like?" To" I need to pee 132 times a day but look at my cute scan photo!"

if you're looking for advice, banter and support, along with the occasional scan photo or rant, you are definitely in the right place.

Hi Jam congrats

I told work very early (because I felt sick) and was then signed off to lay in bed feeling sorry for myself for 6 weeks so didn't really get the chance to tell anyone even if I wanted to

Pink consultant and midwife checked blood pressure last week and weren't happy about how much it had risen but didn't want to do anything about it yet. They're going to see what it's like at my next appointment.
If I have another spell I'll get to the GP but thinking about it it may have just been tiredness. I really struggle on the days I'm in the office. I don't know if that's partly fibroid related or if I'm just a delicate little flower, but by afternoon I feel like I've run a marathon! Oh well 16 weeks and counting until I'm outta there!!!

shelb I've had a few times when I've thought I can feel something. It's always at night when I get into bed and lie still. But nothing definite. Could just be wind I want to feel a proper kick!

Jam I told my mum, dad, sister, brothers and two best friends immediately. I'd want their support if anything went wrong and I didn't feel happy keeping it from them. I think I'll wait until 12 weeks to tell wider family and friends but I find the secrecy really hard and it doesn't sit well with me.

Hi Jam! I have no hope trying to keep up with this thread considering how many of us there are. I do try, but I'm a sporadic poster at best!

I second what everyone else is saying about telling parents, siblings etc. as it would have given the game away over Christmas with me not drinking! Also, I would want to tell them either way if something happened. It's up to you, but I can't imagine not having told my Mum for 12 weeks!!!

The 'Was it planned?' question is so nosy! You wouldn't ask someone 'Did your contraception fail, or did your partner/husband finish inside you?' would you?! I like the 'what does it matter' response. I did actually tell the 3rd person who asked me did they realise what a personal question it was? I also think it's no-one's business how long it's taken you to conceive! No-one should have to feel that they have to explain themselves to people who are just noisy/plain gossip-bags! Yes, Co5mo feel them up back, give their stomach/boobs a good squeeze and see how they like it!

Another tip: as soon as they start rubbing your bump, make out that you're going to vom all over them. They'll soon back the fuck off with that one!! Looking forward to trying that out.

Bunch Runner I'm the same, I have flutters and then nothing for a day or two. Glad to hear you've had that as well...might have to try out that cold water trick Bunch! Or invest in a doppler. I have a week till my 20 week scan I think it's going to feel a loooong time till kick-off in August after that!!

DH has always said he'd like to keep it between us for the first 12 weeks, then tell both sets of parents and close friends/family by showing them a scan photo. Then tell everyone else officially at 18 weeks. He thinks it should be a really personal affair and we have it as our secret for the first part. Which is lovely and sweet but going to be IMPOSSIBLE!!!

My god, I thought the 2ww was bad! I'm now in for an 8ww! I'm actually hoping for symptoms so that I've got something to focus on! May regret saying that later...

Hopefully we'll know if Pepper is OK in a couple of hours! Nervous now and worrying about not having change for the scan photos... Please cross your fingers for me this morning - it's our first scan so the first chance we've had to know if it's all going to plan.

Jamjar - we've not told a soul yet. It is so hard! My sister is pregnant and told my parents early on, and my mum just couldn't contain her excitement so told everyone! My sister didn't mind but I would! We are either going to tell our parents this weekend or next, depending on when we see them next. I need to tell them soon - not least so I can tell work because I think I look obviously pregnant...

Good luck today Leonie! Is this your 12 week scan? I stressed about having change for the scan pictures too

Shelb, Bunch, Nev and Mor, what does the movement feel like? I've had one occasion where I thought I could feel something but wasn't sure. Is it unmistakably baby when you feel it?!

I know it's not going to sit well with my if anyone tries to touch my tummy uninvited. I figure if they wouldn't touch it normally then they have no business doing it while I am pregnant, unless I have asked if they want to. I honestly don't understand the tummy rubbers and those who ask if baby is planned. They should keep their hands and personal questions to themselves.

Pink it feels to begin with like flutters, easily feels like wind but it's lower than where I find I feel my wind. Now I'm further on it feels like pokes and prods, very much baby and no longer feels like wind.

I've only had one stranger touch my bump and it was after an hour together in a group Physio session. She's pregnant herself and was telling me how lovely my bump was then gave me a passing stroke. It was so quick I had no time to react but i actually didn't mind at all where I thought I would. I think someone in a supermarket will be getting their tummy rubbed back though.
I'm quite liking the smiles I'm getting off everyone though. Clearly seeing a pregnant woman makes some people's day, which is sweet.
If my aunty ever kisses my belly again I'll be saying something. I can still feel it

Congrats Jam! We haven't told anyone yet, will probably tell DH parents this weekend, they've been on holiday the last 2 weeks otherwise we might have told them sooner.

Good luck for Sunday Lara, how far along will you be?

Good luck today Leonie!

So glad it's Friday, I'm looking forward to sleeping all weekend!

Hi ladies

Thanks for the cold water tip bunch. I did it and I think, think, I might be feeling him/her - pink, to me it feels like yknow when your heart every now and then goes super fast for a few seconds? A bit like that but in my tum. Hope that makes sense!

How is work going pink? I'm managing ok now re feeling well, but just on serious countdown!

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Great to see you here, Jam!

We've only told a couple of people. I told my Mum (who told my Dad) just before my booking in appt, as I needed medical history information. And I've told a friend who already has a baby (coming up to 12 months) who kept badgering me about when I was going to join her

I would love to tell a small group (parents, in-laws, siblings, siblings-in-law, close friends, etc.), but my MiL would be a bit of a problem. I love her to death and she's so great, but she can't keep a secret to save her life. I think it's because she's lonely (lost her husband, my FiL recently) and she uses news as a way to get attention.

Don't get me wrong, I don't mean this in a bad way. She's wonderful, and I really feel for her. We just know that as soon as she knows, the whole world would know (we'd get distant aunts and cousins phoning us to say congrats!).

And given we can't tell her, we feel bad about telling other close people, given how important she is to us.

So we're going to wait until the scan, which is when I'm 13 weeks (30th March).

I did tell my two managers on Monday this week, but that's only because my sickness has been getting quite bad, and I couldn't really hide it anymore (one of them said they had guessed anyway).

God, that was long. Sorry!

Also, I didn't say good luck to Leonie - hope it all goes well! x

New symptom.... Bleeding gums. Yummy

Shelb, work is ok. My boss is really understanding and thankfully it's not super busy at the minute. I'm still struggling getting in on public transport when it it is so busy, and find myself feeling a bit panicky if there are no seats.

How's it going for you with work? Have you thought about how long before your due date you are going to finish?

Good luck leonie.

bunch - with you on the bleeding gums. Also blood when I blow my nose. Delightful.

Good luck leonie! I'm sure it will be wonderful,

Thanks pyxie. I'll be 8+4 when I get the scan on Sunday.

Yep, more bleeding gums and nose bleeds here. Pregnancy is just delight after delight.

Good luck to everyone who needs to. I can't believe how quickly this thread is starting to move, I'll have to sort out a new one soon

Pregnancy problem number 152... I used to worry about crumbs going down my cleavage. Now if they miss my cleavage they get caught on my bump

Thanks for the good wishes!

The scan was great. You were right - they lie about telling you to drink a pint of water at least an hour beforehand. I had to nip out to empty my bladder a bit so the sonographer could start! Pepper is 56 mm and his or her NT measurement was good. My dates were spot on so still due on 28th September. We saw his or her tiny feet and he or she put his or her arm up at one point! It was amazing!

We have some nice pictures - it was £12 for 4 and the machine took card payments. The sonographer gave us a couple more too because she said she thought it was a bit of a rip off!

Oh, and I'm delighted it's just the one baby in there! I was worried how we'd cope with two.

Now to start telling people...

Pink sometimes I'm not sure what it is, but I've definitely had 'prods' as Bunch puts it (usually on my right so that must be the feet end!!) Brings a big smile to my face when it happens! Although I have an anterior placenta according to my notes, so theoretically I shouldn't be feeling anything definite yet...just looking forward to the next scan and knowing things are progressing ok.

Good luck today Leonie hope it all goes well for you and for you on friday Lara

Yes, bleeding gums and nosebleeds a plenty...lovely. Work up with a nosebleed last night at about 5:30am

Just seen your response Leonie That's great everything is looking good. Blows your mind a bit seeing the little hands and feet doesn't it?!

Sorry Lara - Sunday for your scan. I was 8+5 for my first, so you'll see a cute little blob floating around in there

Thanks, Morwenna!

Congrats Leonie do we get to see cute baby scan?

Congrats Leonie!

I've just booked a private early scan for 7+5 so only three weeks away. Excited!