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June 2016 thread #5 Starting the great gender speculation. ..

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BabySocks · 12/12/2015 23:08

Well I can't believe I am doing this but I am petrified the old thread is about to get filled up and we are going to loose people. ...

Happy New Thread (fingers buffering crossed this works AND I can manage to post the link Confused )

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Lovelybeano · 14/12/2015 07:18

Good luck belleboo!!

PrincessPunzie · 14/12/2015 07:47

My sister-in-law told me off for not telling her sooner, and even told me that my denial I was pregnant at 11 weeks had made her feel guilty! Well thanks! I was particularly annoyed as our reason for keeping it from her in particular was that she had a loss last year at eight weeks and I didn't want to bring back any bad memories for her in the event that we ended up having one too. So I think that inappropriate reactions are probably more common than you'd expect. It must make it ever so hard that it was your mum though emma - but I wouldn't be surprised if she's already feeling guilty. I do hope she makes it up to you soon.

Weepants143 · 14/12/2015 07:58

Oh Emma that's such a shame you got that reaction from your mum, hope you are okay? I'm not sure how some of our friends will react to our news (we haven't told any of them yet) as most of them don't have kids and I think they will be quite shocked...even though DS is almost two. I may chicken out and text them rather than do it face to face!

We got lots of 'was it planned?' the first time round! Such a rude question - and definitely got it because we aren't married. People think when you are pregnant they have free reign to ask whatever they like - I remember in a supermarket checkout queue I got talking to a woman who asked how long I had to go. Then she proceeded to tell me how her boobs started leaking at that stage and had mine done that yet?! Ermmmm you are a stranger and this is not what I want to be discussing with you!!

Good luck with scan today Belle, I've got mine too. Nervous!!! Slept ok but had bizarre dreams! X

Belleboo23 · 14/12/2015 08:09

Good luck to you to weepants!! I've got to wait till 2.30 for mine going to get present wrapping done to distract me, will probably end up making a mess of it all!!

Betty79 · 14/12/2015 08:36

I've had a few 'was it planned?' Reactions too but I haven't been that offended tho as no one knew we were even thinking about trying.

Emma what a shame about that reaction from your mum.

Good luck to scanees today Smile

nehagarg · 14/12/2015 08:41

Good luck belleboo and weepants Smile

oh no emma .. you poor thing. You were really looking forward to finally being able to tell the family and then to have it ruined like that. I am sure your mother will come around sooner rather than later.

LouLou030783 · 14/12/2015 08:50

People are just so rude and think they have the right to say anything when ur expecting eh?

I've woken up this morning feeling pretty crappy when will this end lol 12+3 wish it would go away also getting stabbing pain in my groin obvs from stretching Shock today is not a good day lol

MindfulBear · 14/12/2015 09:07

Morning! such a busy thread all ready!

WE have not had a 12 week scan yet, but will have one at 14 weeks. The 8 week scan was good - bang on dates. And our DNA test was fine too. However I still dont feel pregnant so very confused. With DS i knew before Iwas even late.... this makes me wonder if #2 will be a girl..... However we are not finding out the gender, even though we know the gynae will know (was part of the DNA test he ordered). A surprise after all the hard work is lovely. & I love newborns in white so dont want any other colours anyway!!

Emma - so sorry you had such a selfish reaction from your DM. How rude and inconsiderate of her. I hope she pulls herself together.

Many people are very rude when it comes to pregnancy and children. DS will be 4 by the time this one arrives and the number of people who have asked me over the last 3 years when he is getting a DB or DS is staggering. Some people have asked who barely know me and it is quite upsetting when I know the reason is I have been too unwell.

& there are plenty of threads on MN showing that plenty of GPs and other family members think pregnancy and a new child is all about them, rather than about the mum, dad, new baby & siblings. It would never cross my mind to have a go at my family for not telling me sooner!

We are now 13 weeks and do not plan to tell anyone until we see our parents on our return to the UK January, so we could be almost 20 weeks by then. Although we may need to tell DB2 a little earlier as he is planning an event for the time around my due date and I dont want him to go ahead thinking we will be coming when we are unlikely to.

DB1 has just announced (at around 16 weeks) that he and his wife are expected #2 in late May, so they are only a few weeks ahead of us. exciting, although I have not yet met his DC1 (age 2yo now!) as they live overseas. Sad but that is what happens with families that scatter to the 4 corners of the earth

Have a good week everyone.

Eastend2015 · 14/12/2015 09:13

Good luck belleboo and weepants!

MagicDucky · 14/12/2015 09:36

Goodness I've missed so much! I was only away for a weekend of Christmas shopping! This thread moves fast!

We'll not be finding out the gender this time either, GPs went shopping for clothes the day I gave birth last time! Baby should be fine for clothes! My mum even managed to get a couple of outfits washed and dried in a few hours of DDs arrival!!

The only exercise I do is ice skating, which for obvious reasons I had to give up when I found out I was pregnant. Nothing else seems to motivate me though.

My best friend is a hairdresser and told me I am absolutely fine to do all over colour as long as I'm not doing it constantly. (Like every week) I only needed to dye it once last time as I was going back to my natural colour anyway.

I'm so sorry your mum reacted so selfishly to your wonderful news Emma!! I'm sure she'll realise she was being unreasonable and that its your choice when you tell who. Hope you're okay!

My sickness isn't as bad but I'm still retching a lot. Hopefully that'll go soon too!

Scan is TOMORROW!!! I'm so excited!! Feels like I've waited forever!

Whoops sorry about the massive post!

laughingGnomette · 14/12/2015 09:37

Good luck for all scanees today!

Oh emma I'm gutted for you about your DM's reaction. All you can do is reiterate why you didn't tell her and wait for her to get over it. Don't beat yourself up, it was your decision and you're entitled to tell who you want when you want.

We aren't married and were asked "is it planned" and "when are you getting married?" lots the first time around. This time has been just congratulations which is fab.

mindful - I'll have the same age gap too and I've also been asked LOTS when DS will be having a sibling. I was on a work do in July just after I'd had surgery for my ectopic and one colleague kept asking me when I was going to have another and when I was going to "get to it"! Only one other colleague and my boss actually knew about my recent loss and they were present too. It was so horrible and awkward. Grrr.

dollydaydream84 · 14/12/2015 10:06

mindful and Gnomette - I will have a similar gap and from when DC1 was 18 months it has been constant from everyone except the family, including my boss which I find really annoying. Plenty of people have one child (boss included!!!)

Babysocks - Thanks for the response re: slimming world. I'm finding the mornings really tough given my already restricted diet, I had rice krispies this morning followed by toast, pepsi and then decided I'd try and get back on the SW bandwagon so had a babybel and some ham. Are you suffering from MS? What are you managing to eat to curb the sickness? (PS- Pepsi is not a usual part of my breakfast or diet in general, its about the only thing to help stop the feeling of sickness!).

Emma - I'm so sorry for you, she will come around, don't let her ruin the moment for you and DH, it is YOUR moment. Hopefully she will appear soon with her tail between her legs apologising xxx

LouLou030783 · 14/12/2015 10:37

ducky we are scan buddies I can't wait until tomoz xx

MagicDucky · 14/12/2015 12:04

What time is your scan LouLou? Mine is at half 2! Was hopping for an early one!!

WineCheeseSleep · 14/12/2015 12:40

I'm also having my scan tomorrow, can't wait although am very nervous. Looks like there are quite a few of us with scans tomorrow, good luck to my fellow scanees and anyone scanning today!

Weepants143 · 14/12/2015 13:08

Phew! All well with the scan! Thanks for the messages ladies. Baby was wriggling away and we even got a wee wave! We ended up being in for ages because baby kept moving so they were having trouble getting measurements....Got moved forward a bit as well... Thought i was 12+2 and they say I am 13+1 so new due date of 19th June.... So relieved!!! Grin

bikingintherain · 14/12/2015 13:28

Great news, congratulations weepants. And exciting to be moved forward!

Lovelybeano · 14/12/2015 13:35

Congratulations weepants we're due date buddies Smile

carrie1008 · 14/12/2015 13:38

I'm tomorrow too! Busy day for scans it seems!!

Lovelybeano · 14/12/2015 14:08

I've just bought some mat leggings and jeans from next - I've had to order a 12 in the leggings when I'm a size 8 because they're out of stock, plus I've just had an email to say the jeans will be ready for 8th jan!! Looks like I'm going to be squashing into my clothes for another 3 weeks lol I bought a shirt dress the other day from primark that I will just have to wear with tights when I'm at home - not great for the school run though, it'll be freezing..

mrsmugoo · 14/12/2015 15:06

Just had my first unmistakable little poke from within

Eastend2015 · 14/12/2015 15:20

Luck you! I'm feeling a few bubbles but maybe it's just wishful thinking/ wind!!

LouLou030783 · 14/12/2015 15:23

It's at 10.50 although I'm a 13 hour shift in work so at least it breaks up my day a little xx

Ambergogo · 14/12/2015 16:54

Mine scan is also tomorrow! Excited and nervous.

MollieRos · 14/12/2015 17:03

Great news weepants and great being moved forward a week Smile Belleboo hope yours went well too.

Emma you must have been so disappointed. I'm sure your mum will come round to things. You did nothing wrong!