March 2016 Babies!! Thread #7 The one where we all say.... "Stay put Flump!!"

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Stay where you are Flump!!!

Hi all, apologies for not being on here for a while - just had 4 days off work and been sorting the house out, few tip runs etc, been rather productive.

Also discovered pottery barn online deliver to the UK, plan is to do the babys room in white, yellow and Grey and they have some amazingly beautiful things .

me my dp wouldn't want to come wither, mine is at 4pm today so i've told him he can make tea for me getting home haha.

missi glad to hear that Zach is doing well, can't begin to imagine how tough it is for you to be leaving him every day at the hospital but it won't be long and you'll be taking him home.

Ha Q I'm glad my DH isn't the only unsupportive one! To be fair it wasn't very interesting today! My bump is measuring bang on and I'm booked in for the whooping cough jab and bloods on Monday. The midwife appointments really seem to ramp up now, 31 weeks, then 34, 36, 38, 40. It feels like it's going to go so quickly now Christmas is nearly here!

Had my scan, DH insisted on coming along (missing his work Christmas do, I feel bad about that, but he was more worried than me and barely slept last night). And everything is fine! Also got a call from the midwife saying my blood sugar and all other tests were fine, so the high fundal measurement is a mystery. I wouldn't normally see anyone again till 34 weeks but have asked for a quick appointment to check the fundal height again at 31 weeks. Will do a proper thread catch up later ... maybe tomorrow if I fall asleep on the couch again!

Oh wow mine didnt tell me they become that regular now!next one booked in for 6th Jan - 32 weeks then, scary stuff.
Had bloods and wee done today and measuring fine apparently too.

My dp is a bit weird about stuff, he dislikes how he doesn't really feel connected to the baby - and actually forgets I'm pregnant quite regularly. I feel for him because obviously we feel kicks and are the ones growing etc, he thinks he should be allowed to find out the sex and not tell me so he feels he has something of his own :-/

Glad your scan went well Mship :)

Mine didn't, pretty upset now.

The baby is too small, the Doppler levels were raised and the placenta was gritty. Basically the placenta isn't doing its job properly and my body is having to work extra hard just to get blood to the baby.

I had to see the consultant, who decided that I'll be under her now and under no circumstances will be allowed a home birth. I had to go to the hospital which is 45 mins away to have the heartbeat monitored (this was fine) and I'm back on Friday for another scan. If the Doppler levels are still raised then they'll start doing it weekly, and possibly give me steroids to strengthen baby's lungs in case they need to deliver her early!

I asked if this is something that might just go away, which would mean I could have a home birth (the sonographer said it might) and the consultant said no.

So gutted. I don't want to go to hospital, I just don't. Probably going to have a good cry when DH has gone off on nights and the DC are in bed...

Hi.

Ginger here with a new username as I lost the password to my old account and can not for the life of me remember my e-mail address for that account. So had to make a new e-mail and a new account.

I feel like I have so much to catch up on this thread.
First of all to Missi I hope you enjoyed your much deserved night out. You sound like you are remaining so strong for little Zach. So pleased for you that Zach is doing well.

To the people with fundal measurements that don't match up to pregnancy dates- I think this is proof that it is not really accurate. It seems to cause some more worry than it is worth. Mship- I am glad everything was ok at the scan. It is a mystery but at least you don't have to worry now.

I think it is natural for partners/husbands/boyfriends to feel left out sometimes. However they seem to forget at least they don't have to deal with the sickness, insomnia, aches and pains, giving birth etc! haha.

OH has booked a 3d scan for 27th december here. I'll be 28+2 then. Hope the photos are good. I was told at 17 week gender scan I have an anterior placenta and at the 20 week scan I was told a fundal placenta so I am wondering if I have a high anterior placenta. Will be asking them at the scan to tell me the definite position.

Faux- I am so glad little ones heart is looking good now. Fingers crossed for the placenta as well! I read somewhere that 99 per cent move I think so you have every chance.

As for how I have been. Well not great is the answer but I am sleeping at night so that is one thing. Ever since those few nights I spent not being able to sleep I have got my self into a panic about being at home. I hate it. I would rather be at work all the time. In the day time at work sitting down at work, sitting on the bus, sitting at lunch I don't feel restless at all and actually feel relaxed then home time comes and I panic that I won't sleep/won't be able to keep my legs still. The thing is I can force them still most of the time so I doubt it is restless leg syndrome as it only happens at home. I seriously think I associate it with being at home and that is why it happens. For example whilst typing this I have been fine as my hands/brain etc are occupied with something else. I have my music on at the moment to in the hope it will be a distraction and relax me. I feel so irritable in the evening and I itch/move my legs/move my upper body. All I want is to come home and enjoy my evening and I get tearful even walking home. This is why I am dreading mat leave the most. I only have four out of seven days a week filled at the moment. One day a week I will see my nan, the other my dad and then at the weekends I will go out with my OH but I don't know how to fill my other three days.
The only things I have to do are pack hospital bag, cook, clean, sort out my wardrobe as I haven't worn half the stuff in years. I don't really have any hobbies.
Just can't wait to meet this little girl now and hopefully put all this behind me. Still being sick as well. Been sick once the last four days. I feel like the sickness combined with the three bleeds I have, the nuchal scare I had have made for such a rubbish pregnancy.
Baby has been more active this week. She has no pattern but she now kicks me hard when standing up and she has periods of movement every day. It does make me happy when I feel her (about the only time I feel happy) someone at work today even saw mu tummy move over my clothes. It was awesome feel like shes really stepped up her movements recently.
sorry to anyone I left out

beautiful- Just seen your post.
I hope your ok. Have a good cry if you need to. At least they have picked this up and you will get the care you and baby need. I know hospital is not what you want though and can't begin to imagine how you feel. Have you had a hospital birth before?

Thanks for the lovely compliments on Baby Trinpy (he's got the great lips from me ). I can't wait to meet him now!

Really pleased to hear that everything was looking ok on the scan today TheMship and that your dh was able to make it.

Q I agree it must all feel very unreal for the dads. Its probably not until there's an actual baby in front of them that it really hits home (although tbh I'm sure thats true for a lot of new mums too!). My dh says it feels a bit more real since I got a noticeable bump and after the scan yesterday but I'm convinced he forgets I'm even pregnant half the time too.

Nice to hear from you Missi. Great that you're getting plenty of cuddles with Zach and that you've been able to get out with your friends and have fun as well.

Right, really need to stop mning now and start parenting ...

Hello all!

Ginger/Scared you are sounding much more positive today! Or at least, you sound like you're feeling more objective about things. I'm so glad you're sleeping better, that'll help so much!

Ah, Beautiful, so sorry you can't have the birth you planned. Sorry to hear about the placenta issues. I know rationally the priority will be delivering a healthy baby, but it's so difficult when your anticipated experience changes. Hugs for you.

Beautiful sorry your scan didn't go too well. Your other pregnancies were all straightforward weren't they? Really hope your next scan goes well, but at the end of the day as long as you end up with a healthy baby who cares how she gets here.

Mship glad you've got nothing to worry about.

Ginger it's great you're sleeping a bit better. When are you planning on starting your mat leave? Can you work right up until a week before or something if it helps to distract you? Once the baby's here you won't need to worry about filling your days!

OMG coughing this morning is creating a huge pressure on the pelvic floor. On the one hand, I'm hoping he's turned. On the other, it's very disconcerting!

morning all, another day of tiredness here, DD up twice in the night (12.30 and 3.30), I swear she is getting us sleep trained for when the baby gets here!!! she did at least drop off back to sleep quite easily both times so no 2 hour parties which I am grateful for.

Also weighed myself today and have only put on 2 pounds since last weigh in which was a few weeks ago, so feeling positive about my weight gain despite massive bump. DP's brother and SIL are coming this weekend, I'm dreading them commenting on it as she was quite compact throughout her pregnancy and when we saw them 2 weeks post birth she looked completely normal, so think she will be looking all slim and great and I feel jealous already! I know it's petty... but in my defence DP's brother has often made jokes about DP being fat (he's not, at all, but DP's brother is quite skinny and both him and his wife are health freaks/gym bunnies and care a lot about their weight), and I often think they think of us as the fat couple . Probably all in my head an silly to get worked up about it, but I'm gonna blame pregnancy hormones! and the fact I am actually massive

beautiful, am so sorry to hear about your scan and having to give birth in a hospital . That really, really sucks - I know you were particularly against it. Hopefully you will manage to get your head round it by the time the baby is born, as being stressed in labour will make things worse, but do have a big old cry now and get the frustration/disappointment out of your system.

ginger sorry to hear you are still struggling with sickness, but glad you have managed to get some sleep now.

Q I think it's quite common for men to feel a bit disconnected from the pregnancy. I know for DP with DD he struggled to really 'get' that we were going to actually have a baby - he 'knew' it but it wasn't really a reality if that makes sense. Towards the end, when I was massive, I think it did become more of a reality though. Funnily enough this time, what with being insanely busy at work and running around after a toddler, I think we are both a bit disconnected from the reality of the fact we will have another baby in three months! I have to admit I don't spend nearly as much time thinking about this baby as I did with DD - just too busy . Aw I feel sorry for her, seems like second child syndrome kicks in early!

beautiful sorry to hear that, it's always upsetting when things don't go as planned isn't it

marmite I totally get what you mean, weight gain is a trivial thing to worry about but unfortunately with society being what it is, it's totally understandable to get het up about it. I've not weighed myself in about a month and I'm not going to for the rest of my pregnancy - I'm eating when I'm hungry and tbh I'm not going to worry about it - I'll worry about it after. There's not much I can do now to staunch weight gain other than not scoffing 10 chocolate croissants for breakfast every day.

ginger you sound like you're feeling a little better, so glad :)

I'm sooo sleepy today, eugh. Just want to curl up in a ball and go to sleep. Interviewing for my maternity cover for most of the day today though so have to be alert!

Beautiful sorry to hear the scan didn't go well and that you are having to have a hospital birth, hope after a good cry you are feeling a bit better about the hospital birth..

MShip glad the scan and everything else went ok.

Q I know what you mean about DP not been fully connected and my poor DP got the full abuse of an irrational strop last night which I am sure doesn't help... His Christmas party is tomorrow but there has not been a day this week he hasnt come back from a long lunch with some beers... I'm just jealous - even my orange juice gave me heartburn at yesterdays conference...

Hope everyone else is having a good day despite tiredness etc..

Got back from my midwife appointment and all was fine, including my glucose test so no need to cancel Christmas after all...

Sorry about your scan Beautiful, that must be disappointing. Best that you've got plenty of warning I guess?

I'm feeling huge too marmite. Last time I was one of those people who came out of pregnancy lighter than I went in and breastfed away even more weight, but this time I'm getting huge and I don't think I'll be so lucky twice! And because of last time, I think a few people are going to be watching closely and pleased when I've put on weight at the end! Stupid to worry about but it's natural I think.

Just had my 28 week appointment, mind has been put at ease about the birth. I'd been worrying about getting to the MLU at the hospital on time as it's 45 minutes away, but worried about giving birth at the MLU in my little town in case I get into trouble, as it's so far away from the hospital. She said as of January they're starting a new early assessment thing, where you go along to the local unit in early labour and they figure out if you have time to get to the hospital or if you should stay put. I think this is the perfect solution!

Had the whooping cough jab too, hurt like crazy! My arm's already going stiff and she said I might feel fluey and headachey tonight, great! Anyone else had it yet?

suz I had my whooping cough jab on Tuesday, my arm is still sore and I had mild fluey symptoms for about 24 hours after. The nurse said it's actually a combined jab (DTaP = diphtheria, tetanus and pertussis) and the tetanus is the bit that seems to cause problems. I hope you feel better soon!

marmite I'm feeling similar about this baby - not that I forget I'm pregnant anymore, but I just don't spend the same amount of time planning and anticipating like I did with DS. Life's just too busy! Will have to get organized a bit after Christmas, though. Hoping for a car seat sale in January.

beautiful sorry to hear that your scan didn't go well. I really hope things improve and your baby gets to stay safely put for a good long while yet.

ginger 4 of 7 days is pretty good! I bet you can find more things to do on your other days off, between now and when your leave starts. So glad to hear you're sleeping again.

vroc, me, trinpy (and everyone else!) thank you so much. Posting here helped a lot to get through Tuesday and yesterday's stress. DH had it worse than me, and I packed him off with a last minute ticket to see the midnight showing of Star Wars last night (this morning?). Cheered him up hugely, the big kid, he's been smiling since he woke up despite the lack of sleep.

I'm going to see Star Wars with DH tonight MShip! Didn't quite feel up to a midnight showing last night given I can barely stay awake past 10 these days!

I've got my whooping cough jab on Monday - hope it doesn't hurt too much.

I had about 30 mins this morning where I had really quite painful cramps every few minutes. Was quite concerning but as they've now gone away I'm thinking Braxton Hicks. I know they're not supposed to hurt but I found several websites saying they sometimes do!

Beautiful sorry to heard that your scan didn't go well, like everyone says, at least it been picked up and they're looking after you now

Me my dp is the same when it comes to midwife appointments, he sits there looking like a statue and looks so bored, it annoys me but I sort of get it as she doesn't really talk to him, he's only interested when we heard baby's heart beat!

Ginger glad you have managed to get some sleep hun, hopefully the sickness will go soon, it's all be worth it though :)

Having a 4d scan next week just before xmas so excited I hope she behaves and not hide her face with her arms as she always does!

My nursery set is arriving today so exciting but we can't put it together until we fit the carpet which is so annoying :(

How to convince my Star Wars-hating DH to go and see it... :)

Having a "goddamnit I hate people" day for no apparent reason. May have been sparked by getting in to work and having to deal with a server outage caused by someone in Indonesia cocking up a software update. Send mince pies?

Shame we don't live closer Tri or you could go to the cinema with my DH; he's been badgering me to see Star Wars with him all week .

Sorry to hear you've had another disrupted night marmite. My ds refused to go to sleep until 1am last night then was up bright and early this morning so I'm feeling the full effects of a crappy nights sleep today too. Really not looking forward to doing all this with a newborn to look after as well.

I hope you're feeling a bit more positive about a hospital birth today Beautiful. I understand how you feel because I think I would probably feel the sam. Great that they picked up on it though and can give you and your baby the care you need.

I had to deal with a massive tantrum from an overtired toddler mid way through typing this post so I've probably x-posted with everyone again...

Afternoon all!

I'm with maybe in terms of not weighing myself as there's not a lot I can do about it anyway.

I've finished work early today and driven home in some sunshine! It's making me want to go out and skate run! But I won't/can't.

Sorry to hear about your lack of sleep, marmite, that part is killer.

With a 5 year gap I feel like we're having two onlies! I'm far more into this pregnancy, perhaps because I don't feel so hideous?!

Beautiful sorry to hear you are missing out on your home birth. It must be so disappointing but at least you don't have to clear up afterwards!

Tri I really don't get the Star Wars hype, but hope you convince your DH - bribe him with the snack counter maybe.

suz and Mship you've worried me about the WC jab now! I found the flu jab bad enough, but best book it in soon. I've heard its like the pre-school jab that DS has just had and he was feeling very sorry for himself afterwards.

I had my anti D injection this morning and that was ok but am feeling absolutely wiped out this pm. Just want to curl up and sleep.

Has anyone done hypno birthing before? I can't really afford any classes but was wondering if I could purchase a CD or book? Any recommendations gratefully received (preferably one that's not too "hippy")

Oops sorry rhubarb, didn't mean to worry anyone! I'm actually feeling ok, the jab did hurt more than the flu jab and my arm was starting to get heavy a while back, but it feels mostly ok now and no headache yet. Feel very lethargic but to be honest, I was feeling crap already!

I'm totally hyped about Star Wars - me and DP are going to see it over Xmas when visiting my family so we have a babysitter for DD! Side point - but I'm so gutted that loads of films I really want to see are coming out in the first few months after DD2 is due - Captain America, X-men, Star-trek (yes, I am a bit of a comic/sci-fi nerd haha) are all coming out between May-July.... and since I plan to bf, an entire evening out is not going to be on the cards for a few months! With DD I went to a concert in London when she was 3 months old and it was a disaster - DP tried to feed her expressed milk from a bottle, but she was a total bottle refuser so he spent the whole evening with a crying baby

rhubarb I haven't done hypnobirthing but hoping to this time - I am just going to buy a book/CD combo from Amazon.

I really need to book my WC jab but dreading it as I remember it with DD and my arm hurt for days after...

yeah, I know I shouldn't weigh myself, but I've gotten really paranoid about weight gain after all the comments I've gotten about me being big... in fact i'm not that bothered about putting on fat as I tend to be able to lose weight easily (and when I was bf, I actually weighed less than pre-pregnancy), but am more worried about my 'mum-tum' which I could never get rid of as had really bad stomach separation . and there's not much I can do about that anyway. but yet still feel the need to weigh myself! [sigh]

Trinpy sorry you are also feeling sleep deprived today! I am really hoping it is DD's secondary molars coming in as that would mean an end point at some point in the future... she has always been a terrible teether, and takes at least a month of sleepless nights before her teeth cut through. We've had two weeks of it now and I've heard these teeth are the worst so fully expecting another 2-4 weeks of sleepless nights [groan]

Ahh you don't have to clear up after a home birth! The midwives do it all.

Me - no they weren't really straightforward to be honest!

Re read my notes and it actually says "raised Doppler - 1.4, 1.6 and off the charts" so that's not great! Scan is at 2:55 tomorrow so hopefully this time tomorrow I'll know a bit more.

Still don't want to deliver in hospital. Think I'm actually phobic of it!

I've never seen Star Wars!!