Feb 2016 babies: Welcome to the 3rd trimester - the final stretch! (in more ways than one)

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I have to be honest, when I got pregnant and DS was 8mo I didn't think he still wouldn't be walking at this point- I thought he'd walk at about 13 or 14 months. When I had the damaged nerve in my back that was the worst. Carrying a 13kg child up and down the stairs and lifting him in and out of the cot was not fun.

I also don't think it helps with the prolapse issue. I'm hoping and praying that everything will settle down after the birth.

Whatever the stretching feeling was yesterday it went in to horrible pulling pains and cramp around my belly button last night, then cleared up completely during the night.. That's the 3rd night in a row Iv had it.. I don't know about anyone else but I haven't enjoyed pregnancy at all! Apart from feeling baby kicking around and buying nursery stuff and clothes :p

Just reading all your comments about having baby no.2.. I always thought I'd like them close together, then I thought maybe when this one is 3 years old.. Now I'm thinking we'll maybe just get a dog instead :p

Thanks everyone for the well wishes luckily I had an appointment with the anaesthetist at the hospital today. I ended up crying at her and she arranged for me to see a consultant. I ended up seeing 3 consultants with one of them doing another scan. It looks like it's not vasa previa - the blood vessel looks like it's mine and isn't below the baby's head. So I'm much happier but have been booked in for an ELCS on the 21st because I'm still not 100% comfortable with the risks to the baby of a natural birth

mads I completely hear you! The people I've dealt with have been great but it's very much been a case of me coordinating everything and pushing for what I want. I don't think in this case you get anywhere with being a shrinking violet!

Hope the consultant offers some clarity stepaway.
Today I feel bloody old. A TA at school was making some comment about probably being older than everyone's mum in the class. Maybe even some grans. She's the same age as me.
Then as the girls were changing I was half listening to two pregnant women talking about how relaxed they were about pregnancy as this was a while after their first eyc. So much older now etc. Etc. When i turned round to get a nose. They were .... approximately the age i had my eldest (9).
Still the look of on one of their faces when she clocked my bump was a classic!

(I am rocking some impressive greys at the moment)

stepaway I have been so wrapped up I have missed all of your saga. I am of the view that a c section and a safer outcome is very much preferable to signing up for the whole natural thing. I really didn't appreciate the anxiety level before managing to get pregnant. Hope you get what you need and all with the minimum of fuss

sighing I am a geriatric primip - it's great - I both look like I should know what I am doing, feel like I should because I am a doctor and simultaneously have not the first idea. I have loads of irrational questions & probably daft ideas.

For some reason people say lots of strange stuff when you are pregnant - age, appearance - you name it. I suspect I am probably the only one on the thread who is a (step) Grandma (before being a Mum) though

I'm loving my pregnancy. It (despite hitting some risk factors) has definitely been 'easy'. So I can even relate to those women. But there's definitely an immediate dig to find out why at my age i'm having a baby. Oh well!
My mum was a pregnant teen with me. She had similar experiences. People eh?!

yep. Doesn't really matter what choice you make or where you find yourself - someone will have a view on it!

And that's as true for life in general as it is for pregnancy, though having a baby does seem to bring out the thoughtless nosiness in so many!

Troika, I'm in the same boat now, measuring behind. First attempt yesterday had me at 29 but re measured at 31. I've got an appointment next week for booking section and then MW the following week, so if I stay behind they'll scan.
Not consciously worried, but still....

I'm not surprised you're still not talking to your OH whoknew. That really was outstandingly twatty behaviour on his part. I hope you can get something sorted, but reneging on an agreement like that is awful. And YY to wrangling toddlers/preschoolers. DS is now four, but I could not have managed this pregnancy on my own with him at all.

sighing and mad, I'm not young to be having a baby, but at 26 people tend to be a bit surprised. The worst thing was when ds died, everyone would say, oh well you're young, you have time. I'm surprised I never hit anyone - going back now I'd definitely hit them! mad it's awesome that you're a step grandma first! There are 20+ years between me and my little sisters, I love families that have generational jigsaws!

zebra that's fantastic news that you managed to have a chat with them and that it isn't likely to be quite so bad. And a birth date, so exciting! I'm really pleased they listened to you, even if only eventually. How're you feeling about it all?

Baby was so quiet overnight, got me really scared as usually I feel him moving when I stir. He is moving now though so I can breathe again!

Well DP and I are talking (tentatively) again so at least the tension is better in the house.

I ended up crying over one of the pre school women when I picked DS up yesterday. I couldn't even be bothered to be embarrassed about it, id just had enough. My Mother had rung me up in the morning over a nothing tongue in cheek comment I had written on Facebook in reply to some stupid meme she posted about Mothers being unappreciated by their children. She basically ranted down the phone and dissolved into histrionics, I put the phone down on her 😳 I just refuse to have anyone else fuck up the end of this pregnancy. No one seems to have any respect for the fact I am nearly term and need to be left the fuck alone. This time with DS's pregnancy I was on maternity leave doing up the nursery and cultivating crafts for his room. This time I am fighting with a stroppy toddler, having screaming rows with my family and acting as though I'm not even pregnant with day to day tasks. People have got so used to be being active and well whilst pregnant I think they forget and just expect me to handle whatever they want to throw at me.

How in feeling right now they can all go do one and I shall labour alone at the hospital and just get the baby out safely with medical help only.

Oh whoknew, I'm so sorry you're having such a crap time! It's there any way you can engineer some you time for a day or half a day?

whoknew you poor thing! I'm glad baby's moving and so sorry you're having to put up with DP and DM being difficult. You deserve to be stress free right now and really don't need all the drama.

I'm feeling much better now thanks haquoi so relieved that they listened to me, when I did actually get to speak to the consultants they were lovely although I think they think I was being neurotic and have booked me in for the c-section with the reason "maternal anxiety"

Thanks maisie I read that thread - it's a struggle today and not helped by a dose of the baby blues. I just feel so guilty for ds1 I can't pick him up or play with him properly. I know it will all come good in the end but at the moment I'm finding things tough I have to say.

mawsy I'm sorry to hear you're having a tough day.

Baby blues are shite let alone having to juggle the new baby and DS1. I hope you feel a bit better later. Look after yourself

Sat waiting for my maternity unit tour. No one around. No reception staff. Wondering if I have got time wrong. No way of checking with anyone.

I bloody hate trying to navigate my way through this system

Well that was a total waste of time. All rooms in use (which I imagine happens reasonably frequently)

They just didn't have a plan B - 15 minutes with 2 midwives who hadn't heard of the which hospital info, didn't even know the content of their info leaflet, had no pictures or videos of rooms, no equipment lists etc.

I could have delivered a better talk to the room to be honest. Grrrr.

That's disappointing mad

You probably are a hell of a lot more clued-up than the average ftm though!

When I think of how clueless I was having DD (2001) I had no internet at home, Google didn't exist, I had one pregnancy book that was written in about the 1960s...

I went to ante-natal classes but nothing sank in. There was an element of bliss to my ignorance though. I sailed through the pregnancy assuming everything would be fine and it was except for the 31 hour labour.

zebra glad you're feeling a bit happier, it sounds so stressful.

madsaz I'm in the same position as you with an awkward baby, I've got a scan booked for next week where they will do the ECV manual moving but I don't have high hopes for it TBH. Think it'll be a planned c-sec, which I am nervous about.

HI maisie the thing is is wasn't stuff that would help a clueless young first time mum either. They just didn't know "stuff" - they gave out an information sheet that said you can't charge your phone on the ward, but said you could. They weren't aware of what equipment was in the rooms, and they contradicted each other.

Because I have plenty of knowledge about the technicalities I have some protection - I was looking at a young woman who was alone and she looked pretty stressed. Wish I could have helped.

I still have a couple of questions but think I will write in with them.

xingxing I actually think my baby got the message today - 99% certain he/she has gone head down. Most of bump now on left - about 2 inches lower than previously, softer bump which moves entirely when I press down and kicks now up top. Still gonna play dumb and go for scan though as on 95% centile throughout and want to make sure not enormous.....

good luck with your awkward bundle!

I get comments about my age quite regularly, which i find really rude! I'm 25, in my second home with my fiance of 8 years, we're getting married in August, I am not too young to start a family. My NCT group range from 30 to 41, so I am the youngest by quite a factor. But I wanted a family young. My business, not theirs!

Hi everyone. I haven't posted for ages but I do read your posts daily 😊

Congratulations on the 2 babies that have arrived already 😊

Sorry to those having problems with family and hospitals

I'm 35+6 today. Nothing much happening but been at hospital every few weeks for GD check ups and growth scans. Baby is another big boy 😬 (Ds1 was 9lb 2oz and ds2 8lb 10oz) I've got my elcs booked for 2/2/16 when I'll be 39+1.

I've finished work on leave now and maternity leave officially starts tomorrow. Finally got round to packing my hospital bag this week (well mostly 😉) and got measured for a nursing bra (38GG😱) yesterday. We decided to get our living room decorated before the baby comes and that is now done so most of the crap moved from there is in the babies room so next job is to get everything back in the living room and sort baby room and get a few more bits washed for him. So exciting 😀 And getting very real now, 3 weeks on Tuesday he'll be here 😊

Hope everyone is ok x

phoenix I'm booked in for my ELCS on same day as you. I just need him to stay in there till then.

jelly I was the oldest in my NCT group, so opposite to you, I didn't think 34 was old for a baby but apparently it is round here.

zebra so glad you got your ELCS sorted

I turned 35 two weeks ago and so many people have said things like 'ooooh it'll be harder now you're older.' I didn't realise pregnancy was particularly easy at any age (maybe that's just me)

Rufus - C section buddies 😀. Wonder who'll have baby first?

I was 37 with DS and no one batted an eyelid. I will be 40 (possibly 41) with this one and I am the only one who has stressed about my age. Everyone has been totally non-plussed about it.

Last night and this morning I seem to have leaked a small amount of clear liquid. I can remember it happening with my sons pregnancy and my Doula said it was wee. I wasn't convinced then and I'm not convinced now. I can kind of remember it happening around the same gestation so I don't think it will be long now. Prob three weeks or so.