due MARCH 2007-thread no ?????

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i cant see a new thread so i thought id start another one!

I'll try that again here

Leo, how lovely to have been in the mountains, too energetic for me but I would love it.

Lunar your ds is so so cute!

Booboo, when I'm slim I'm 34/36A now I'm 40B/C I feel square!

Bethoo, I gave my ds1 my maiden name as a middle name.
Now I use my maiden name ds1 has his dads surname and dd and ds2 have dhs last name which is actually what everyone calls him ...

Kitty, I like your sexy name! Definately agree about the taking all these expert books with a pinch of salt!

Diva, the buggy looks really great, light and neat really practical and would appeal to me if I didn't have one, mine is fab but doesn't fold down small so needs a huge boot to cope with it.

Amie lol at your dh having to be on the loo at new year

Evenhope, at a recent family get together outing, everyone was laughing as I waddled towards them...ds1 (age 15)was walking behind me mimicking my walk!! If I could catch him I would smack him! The other day I gave him a big hug and he picked me up!!!

Now where is the sex thread...

yes where is the sex thread????

i sort of know the main EV officer here,my xp used to work/was friends with him and he says hello if i see him in town.
i think the landlord of next door is the bloke who owns the funeral directors in the next street,he has a lot of houses round here but the HA woman said hes not very good at sorting things out

here it is ladies bit quiet at the mo, but after advice on fun toys

Diva glad to hear there's been movement on the EH front, this could be just the thing you're waiting for, hopefully at least. I just worry for you 'cos she sounds like such a nightmare, will she take any notice of them?

Kitty - or should I say sexkitty - love your new name! The thread has quietened down a little now otherwise I would post I promise

Evenhope before dh and I sat down to put our heads together over names mine were really off the wall. Wayland, anyone? Lancelot? Dh had to remind me we were naming a real live human and not a pet!

(Still got a soft spot for Hector though!)

My buggy has arrived today so I am going to go and put it up and play with it!!!

Moss, it was just sleeting so pretty miserable, and I was hoping that it would turn to snow but now its stopped, still a chance that it could snow over night though. I love the snow, get more excited about snow than about christmas !

Lunar, that picture is so cute! If I wasn't pregnant I was determined that ds would go on skis this year. Dh's sister took him on the front of hers and he loved it!

Boo, (very limited experience though) I would say feeding every hour and a half through the night is a lot unless he is very small. Is he gaining weight? does she automatically feed him when he wakes? Maybe she should try to spread the feeds a bit, make him wait 5 or 10 minutes for every feed. Maybe he just needs comforting, does he have dummy? 2 weeks is very young though and I guess babies can be unpredictable....

Bethoo, re the names, i'm not sure if your baby can have your maiden name if you don't use it, but I'm sure you can change your name back to your maiden name now even if you are not divorced yet. I did find a good website about the laws when I was divorcing xh, I'll have a google and see if I can find some info for you.

I love sex while pregnant! However, because I had some contractions the doctor suggested that we shouldn't have sex so we are rationing ourselves(not completely abstaining, that would be impossible ) and I am not so relaxed about it! The only time I've been a bit off sex was after ds was born.

Maybe I'll go off and check the sex thread, dh is in bed with a bad cold so not going to get much action there !

Hi everyone - tried to post earlier but my PC was on a go slow.

Diva - could the council's EH officers serve a notice on the landlord as well perhaps - he has a duty as well I would have thought, regarding his tenants causing a nuisance. EH can confiscate the equipment can't they, if the neighbours ignor warnings?

Kitty - love the new sexy name {fgrin]

Mossy - how far gone will you be when you go on maternity?

Behoo - I do believe that children who live with animals have stronger immune systems (read that somewhere). We don't have pets but I chose a childminder who does as I think pets a brill for kids.

Callie - how are you feeling now? Did you get any shopping fotr the birth today?

31+2 (boy)

Leo I love snow too, it's boss, but I don't think we'll get any here this year. Last year it was great, all the kids were building snowmen out front!

Foxy that's a really good question and I don't know the answer. I'm due 27th March so that'd be 40 weeks, and I start my maternity leave at the beginning of March. So is that 36 weeks?

I was so tired today. I was just messing round with the pram, and got ridiculously stressed because I couldn't fit part of it in. I nearly did my arm in and sat with my head in my hands close to tears! Dh was a tad exasperated with me but tbh I could see why!

Right I'm going to have to go to bed now, I'm knackered. Up at six again tomorrow - ah, only 41 working days left!

i dont know if the neighbour will listen.i get the impression shes quite intelectually challenged and has got it in her head shes doing nothing wrong so it could go as far as them taking her to court etc before she does anything.i'm just going to stick to going down the legal route as far as poss and keep in mind that she is the one in the wrong.

im getting really paranoid today and im having to keep my mouth firmly shut around dp before i accuse him of all sorts that im currently convinced hes upto.please let it pass!!

sorry i had to post that on here cos my gob was about to open

Thanks for all the nice messages. I'm fine, no more sign of anything. I had MW round this morning for home birth appt and as soon as I said we'd had sex she said that would probably have caused it - I think she's probably right. By the way, had the filthiest dream last night - it was brilliant!

On the MW front, I'm so lucky with my pair of job-sharers. They are both lovely - the one today was really enthusiastic and supportive of my home birth choice and told me some really positive things about her experiences delivering people at home. I also found out contrary to what I'd been led to understand that I will get two midwives, as another one comes along for the later stages of labour and delivery - how good is that? I'd love it if she was one of them, but that could only happen if I give birth during the day.

Foxy, on the shopping front, I didn't actually buy anything, but I've got it pretty much sorted in my head now, and I think I know what I'm doing (which is nice, for once). Despite not sleeping till 4pm and getting four hours only! Oh well at least I didn't have to go to work. I was going to buy a layette set from Mothercare but annoyingly they were sold out of the one size and colour I wanted to will have to try the other branch tomorrow. Going to order my pool this week too.

Mossy, you made me laugh so much with your working days countdown - I'm doing exactly the same! I'm back in again on Thursday now and I've got 27 working days left. And from monday, I'm only doing days, THANK GOD.

Was amazed today with DP - while walking round baby shop he came across a rocking crib and now is quite keen for us to get one. I'm starting to think it might not be a bad idea, and it wasn't too expensive either. Has anybody else used one? Kitty, (no, Sexkitten!) I remember that link about the swinging cloth crib you posted, and you saying how good it was. I've narrowed down the prams to I think one of four models so that's progress for someone as indecisive as me.

I've just got off the phone to my best mate - her little one is doing really well, just needs to establish his sucking reflex more. It's made me so mushy talking to her. I just wish there wasn't a sea between us so I could go and visit her.

My tummy is well pushing up now. I keep having to sit upright, can't really slump over. Still haven't bought any new bras yet, although I think I should! My lovely MW said she thinks the baby is going to be long - not that surprising I suppose as I'm quite tall and DP is fairly.

I didn't realise the surname had to be either yours or partners. I was under the impression you could call your child what you like - here in Wales if people follow the traditional naming pattern, they take the father's first name as a surname (eg someone called Emyr for ex could have a child named either Glyn ap (son of) Emyr, or just say Helen Emyr if it was a girl. Don't know how that works with the law though.

30+5

hi everyone

well, i'm terrified, feel totally unprepared for the baby or anything to do with it.. we move house next thursday/friday and i'm focusing everything on that.. is quite good displacement.. can't cope with how things are with dp and still being in touch by email at a distance.. and feel really quite depressed and dislocated.. not to mention, physically exhausted, feel the 3rd trimester is definitely here, feet swollen up, i'm so heavy, holding my back and walking like a duck, you know the score.. no idea how to manage everything!! all in all, not the kind of pregnancy experience you'd wish on yourself or anyone else..

i can't post much right now and reading other posts is quite hard.. so it might be worthwhile just to disappear! but then, other pregnant women offline are about the only people i can truly connect with right now, so online i guess it's worth a shot at continuing what feels like a big effort right now.

hugs,

rainbow xx

diva your post about your neighbour being 'intellectually challenged' just made me laugh for the first time in what feels like days ;)

Callie well done on the home water birth, I'm hoping to have one too. Glad things have settled with the bleeding. I've got a hammock rather than a rocking crib. Mine bounces up and down, not side to side and has not hard surfaces. It's sooo fab though.

Diva, what's going on?

i like to be polite on here.
rainbow-you are doing well,not too long to go now.i found coping alone with a newborn easier than being pregnant.

callie- i think 2 mw's are meant to be present for the 2nd stage of labour.i cant remember cos by that stage with all of mine father christmas could have walked in the room and i wouldnt have noticed

ive ordered a bed for dd2,the idea being that by the time baby needs to go in a cot,dd2 will be ready for a bed.knowing my luck though,she will be one of those who refuses to settle in a bed till shes about 3.she will just have to sleep in the travel cot if thats the case.

that sea thread made me laugh but started to go way over my head at the end

sex thread

Oh, I can't sleep. This always happens to me on the nights I'm expecting dh. He probably won't arrive until 5 or 6 am! I'm going to be a wreck tomorrow!

Rainbow things will change, good luck with the move and be easy on yourself, its a stressful time for you.

Kitty I didn't realise your dp has ME I have a friend who is just getting over it...what an evil illness it is. Its only now I am understanding the enormity of it with my friend. When I first met her she was an enegertic, highly motivated and hard working potter.
Then she became a person who couldn't physically manage pottery anymore and had to rest, nap and struggle through every day.... For 5 or 6 years. In hindsight she was like a mere shadow of herself. And that was how I perceived her to be for years (she didn't know for a long time what was wrong) But now that she is mostly recovered she constantly surprises me and its like getting to know a whole new person!
Honestly its easy to underestimate that illness, It seems subtle but it isn't! I really hope he comes through it and soon!

Did you see there was another sex thread in chat, lots of talk about toys on that one

oops that was my 3am spelling of energetic!

41st working day:

Callie glad to hear you're all right, and that you have sympathetic mws; sounds like you're going to get just what you want, that's excellent!

Rainbowgirl don't just disappear! It is reassuring to hear from you. Sorry things are so crappy atm, I hope the move goes well for you.

Rosy hope you managed to get some sleep!

You know, I think dh is starting to get fed up now. Dh is a lovely, lovely guy, until he gets fed up of pouring all his energies into being nice. Then he gets grumpy! I think he's been going into grumpy mode ever since his comments about getting old, on NYE. He's had to be really understanding for the past six months and now I think it's taking its toll.

Last night I woke up in the middle of the night and he said "will you stop stealing the duvet and stop effing snoring!" Hmm. Gone are the days then when it would be a concerned "are you all right? Cold? Hot? Tired? Can I get you anything?" Still I suppose it's par for the course!

Ha ha, just watched a news story about spelling mistakes on CVs. Ah, I could give you a few clangers but my favourite ever was on a covering letter.

I'd put an advert out for a Data Entry Clerk and specified they had to have "good keyboard skills". The covering letter said:

"Dear MsMoss,

I would be perfect for your job because I have excellent jeyboard skills."

I mean, everyone makes typos but when you're trying to emphasise your ability not to...?

Well it's back to that world now anyway now... for a 41st day.

Moss - I used to have a horse called Hector. And I actually quite like Lancelot, although couldn't imagine using it.

Moss, that was a good one, some poeple are just so stupid aren't they?

I don't mind Hector, trouble is round here all the pretentious, aspiring middle class mothers are calling their kids names like Hector and these children are nearly always completely out of control, over induldged prats So it doesn't have good connotations here.

Rosy, dp first had M.E. beforre I met him, in the 80's I think. When I first knew him when we went out in the evening he would have to stay near his flat because he would need to go and have a sleep half way throught the night. Now many, many moons later he is much better and to all intents and puropses he is 'normal' but he still has to sleep during the day and he doesn't sleep well at night and so generally has no get up and go. TBH his M.E. gets better every year but our sex life gets worse, so although connected to a degree there's much more to it than his M.E. iyswim.

That's frustrating Kitty! But if your sex life was good then it can be good again. If he is put off by pregnancy what can you do? I understand how some people might just be so aware of the baby that they can't relax. Also when I'm BF my dh admires from afar but sees my breasts as baby property...

Also my dh and I are not good at paying attention to 'our' relationship and get taken over by being parents, we don't even want to go out without the children in fact! But we do have fun though. I do hope things get better for you because you look a cute couple together.

Moss, my sister had a boyfriend called Hector. He was a big farmer and we called him Hector the tractor Nice guy though.

Thanks Rosy, it's true about not giving time to us. We went away for a weekend about 100 years ago and it was good, haven't had any time together since.

Hi everyone

Rainbow - don't dissappear on us!! Hope your move goes well...

Rosy and Kitty - we're the same - have been married for 16 years and just kind of take each other for granted. Sometimes our marriage feels more like a business arrangement. We get our fun from laughing at funny things the kids do but hardly get any time for ourselves, let alone SEX!!!

Kitty I didn't realise your DP had ME either. A good friend of mine has it and it has completely disbaled her for years. She has to really pace herself. If she overdoes it she goes into relapse.

Must make it tough for you though...

Moss I'm stopping work on 16 Feb, half term, which is about 2 weeks B4 my due date . When I go back on 8th I think I have 25 days work

Well, I don't know what the reason is for our lack of a sex life. We haven't even got kids yet! Periodically I think "we should sort this out" and then for a few months I / we get back on top of it (excuse the pun!) but then it fizzles out again . Being pg hasn't helped at all. I get sick of reading in all these books about how in the second trimester you'll suddenly develop an amazing sex life. I mean sure it must happen to some women but not me!

I know if we don't do something, when Bertie come along it could disappear all together...

Foxy I know that if I left it later before going off it would be better financially, but I just can't cope with it much longer! Tbh, if I could afford to go off even earlier I would. The commute is a killer, it's only about 65-70 minutes each way, but it's really taking its toll. It's not the train it's all the walking too and from stations! And then I've the 48 hour week on top of it...

Moan moan moan. I'm going to shut up now, I'm starting to annoy myself!

Rainbow, don't leave us, I think you are doing incredibly well and not at all surprised that you are down a lot. Remember what Diva has said, from her experience a baby alone is easier than the pregnancy.

Much sympathy for all of you still working (smug ), but Callie, can you not get written off sick from work especially as you have had bleeding?

Moss, your dp is going to have to be patient, loving and caring for quite some time longer yet! Being pregnant is tough and uncomfortable, it is with you every minute of the day and night (unlike for him who can forget about it when he walks away from you) not to mention funny things going on with your emotions, you have every right to self indulge yourself with your moods and wanting ot be pampered and cared for and he should still be extra nice to you !

Rosylily, I'm also suffereing from insomnia. I seem to wake at 4am and can't get back to sleep again, its so frustrating as I need my sleep so much and if I'm awake from 4am then i am really energyless and dopey all day.