calypso I was a single parent for ages and I still had plenty of male attention, including DH (and exH but oh well).
What happened was, DD's dad was an on and off BF I'd known for ages, about five years, we were doing a sort of friends with benefits thing when my pill failed and I got pregnant (I was 24).
We tried to make a go of it as a proper couple but it didn't work at all, so we knocked it on the head when I was about five months pregnant.
When DD was about 2 I met now exH who turned out to be an abusive arse. So even though I wasn't keen on having a failed marriage under my belt at the age of 29, I left and it was 100% the right decision.
I dated a bit on and off and then 5 years ago when DD was 9 I met now DH. We had DS last year and now the bump.
Btw I went through stages of absolutely hating DD's father, he basically fecked off for the first two years of her life and said he "wasn't ready to be a parent". After that he came to me and asked if he could be involved and it was like swallowing daggers but I allowed it, as I'd had advice that it would be beneficial for DD. Of course she loves him to bits and over the years they've formed a really strong bond. I don't see much of him myself, which suits me grand!