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February 2016 Halfway mark: Flutters into kicks into thwacks!

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haquoi123 · 06/10/2015 16:48

New thread, heeeeeeere we go!!

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jellypi3 · 12/10/2015 13:45

twice since our BFP, the second time only 2 nights ago. I'm just so tired when i get to bed sex is the last thing I think of. Also not enjoying it as much as i used to weirdly! I thought being pg made it amazing???

I'm a Christmas lover! Can't wait (10 Friday's till Christmas day!) and hope to pass this on to my kids!

RattyCatty · 12/10/2015 14:05

Glad I'm not the only one not having sex. I don't feel sexy at all & just so tired. DH has said he finds it a bit weird too knowing there's a baby in there. Should we be making more effort as obviously won't for some time once baby is here? All going well!?

Sighing · 12/10/2015 14:18

I wouldn't worry. If you don't feel like sex then just make the most of chatting and cuddling without DC clamouring gor time and attention. A bit of romance is delicious in itself.

Whoknewitcouldbeso · 12/10/2015 14:35

We're not having sex due to three miscarriages between my sons pregnancy and this one. It's my total paranoia, I just won't allow it. We shagged like rabbits with my son's pregnancy so it's absolutely fine to go ahead if you're not high risk, like I said I just can't do it incase something happened to the pregnancy and I would always blame that.

Sighing · 12/10/2015 14:38

Whoknew: Flowers we were 'there' at the start of this pregnancy after 3 miscarriages. I have lost so much trust in my body to get this right. Everything feels full of risk, doesn't it.

clarabellski · 12/10/2015 14:43

I also snorted at that comment monkerina. Reminds me of that film 'Knocked up'!

We're definitely not rabbits in the bedroom dept but we are trying every week or so (for the point Ratty made - No Sex Ever Again After Birth). It's actually becoming rather hilarious coming up with find positions (other than the obvious!) where DH's beer belly six pack doesn't squish my tummy.

p.s. that jumper is awesome! I'm in one of those knitting ruts where the thing I'm working on is too complicated and every time I pick it up to sort it out, I find something else to do (usually something even worse like pruning the lavender bushes, or clearing out my wardrobe).

joleyn · 12/10/2015 14:44

We haven't either. Too paranoid about early labour/miscarriage with twins, and before that we couldn't due to ivf treatment. I can't even remember the last time - poor hubby!!

Rufus200 · 12/10/2015 14:55

No sex since ovulation here. I tried to make the effort once but it was when DH was in his really pisssed off with me for nothing week, then after the random bleeding last week there is absolutely no chance of anything happening here. I'm struggling to get any affection off him half the time, he just keeps on going really weird on me. Baby is regularly making palpable kicks but he has openly said he isn't interested and doesn't want to feel them! I'm the happiest I've ever been in my life (I'm ignoring the ongoing house crap) and he keeps on spoiling it for me!

TillITookAnArrowToTheKnee · 12/10/2015 14:56

I wasn't allowed to have sex when pregnancy with DD1 due to the various complications in the pregnancy, most notably prem labour starting/stopping. With DD2, ExDP and I were far too nervous after DD1 - we didn't have penetrative sex at all.

I wouldn't let DH come near me from BFP to 8 weeks due to MC in December; we didn't have sex at 8 weeks though, we split up and only got back together 3 weeks ago so no sex so far during this pregnant either.

TillITookAnArrowToTheKnee · 12/10/2015 14:57

Shock Rufus Wtf is he being like that for?! Awful, I'm so sorry he's doing that. Keep all the to yourself and don't bother telling him in future Angry

TillITookAnArrowToTheKnee · 12/10/2015 14:59

Oh ffs, lots of spelling mistakes in those posts, stupid cracked phone screen Envy

haquoi123 · 12/10/2015 15:17

Oof monk!!
I've been really horny but scared of penetration (worries about cervix), so we've just been having sex the without that part. Pretty awesome, I love pregnancy orgasms! Is that an option for you maisie?

till that's lovely xx

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haquoi123 · 12/10/2015 15:22

Mahoosive cross post, sorry! I only really orgasm when I can't bear it any more, but I've had to have some talking sense into myself chats in order to pluck up the courage to do it. But whenever I get a scare I go off it again

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MamaBerg · 12/10/2015 15:47

one more than us monkerina!!

Mawsymoo · 12/10/2015 15:55

All was good at my appointment - baby seems to be growing well. He's in a breech position at the moment so it could well be another CS for me if nothing changes - DS was in the exact same position at this stage and stayed put until we evicted him at 39 weeks Shock

MaisieDotes · 12/10/2015 16:38

What's your preference mawsy or do you have one?

A friend of mine had two breech babies so two CS (Holles st) and on her second she was gutted that she wasn't going to be able to go for the VBAC.

There's definitely plusses to it though, I'd imagine.

Phoenix80 · 12/10/2015 16:51

No sex here either. Once since I knew I was pg. Dh works night mon-fri so it's easier to avoid lol and I usually go to bed before him at the weekend.

Christmas - love it Grin

CalypsoLilt · 12/10/2015 17:08

No sex here either, mainly because there's no one to have sex with :( and sods law my libido is sky high and it's totally fucking with my head.....I feel totally unappealing and unattractive being pregnant, there's no way can I start dating now (not that I really want to). Went to VegFest in London yesterday and felt ashamed looking at/for hotties, who's going to want me now? Who would want to date someone who's carrying another man's child? My head isn't in a good place with relationships at the moment, I'm just focussing on the baby, but the thought of being sexless for the foreseeable future is very very depressing. I'll be lucky if I even make MILF status.

monkerina in AWE at your christmas jumper! we must must must get together and do knitting things :)

Sighing · 12/10/2015 17:42

Calypso. Although hard to believe. I achieved MILF status. When I was a single mum I received a range of attention Confused and eventually found the DH. This shocked me more than most (even my down on life and me mother).

TillITookAnArrowToTheKnee · 12/10/2015 17:57

Calypso ExDP told me, when he left me with 2YO and 6 week old DDs, that nobody would ever want me based on that alone, never mind my mental health issues on top, that i was a scrounger on benefits and I was fat. says the man who put on 7 stone in one year whilst I had 2 babies in 3 years and weighed the same as I did pre DD1

4 years on... He's still living at home with Mummy, his 19 year old squeeze ditched him after a year and he's miserable and tells me he regrets leaving.

I'm married. Have another DC on the way. I think I win! (Although the marriage is very strained...)

TillITookAnArrowToTheKnee · 12/10/2015 17:58

And - men repulsed me for a good year after we split up. I also frigging LOVED being on my own, I loved having DDs all to myself, despite the hard slog.

jellypi3 · 12/10/2015 18:10

calypso fuck em and get a "buzzy friend" Wink

MaisieDotes · 12/10/2015 18:45

calypso I was a single parent for ages and I still had plenty of male attention, including DH (and exH but oh well).

What happened was, DD's dad was an on and off BF I'd known for ages, about five years, we were doing a sort of friends with benefits thing when my pill failed and I got pregnant (I was 24).

We tried to make a go of it as a proper couple but it didn't work at all, so we knocked it on the head when I was about five months pregnant.

When DD was about 2 I met now exH who turned out to be an abusive arse. So even though I wasn't keen on having a failed marriage under my belt at the age of 29, I left and it was 100% the right decision.

I dated a bit on and off and then 5 years ago when DD was 9 I met now DH. We had DS last year and now the bump.

Btw I went through stages of absolutely hating DD's father, he basically fecked off for the first two years of her life and said he "wasn't ready to be a parent". After that he came to me and asked if he could be involved and it was like swallowing daggers but I allowed it, as I'd had advice that it would be beneficial for DD. Of course she loves him to bits and over the years they've formed a really strong bond. I don't see much of him myself, which suits me grand!

XingXingFox · 12/10/2015 21:28

I'm a hand smacker too. I have a new friend who keeps asking to touch the bump and I just don't know why on earth she wants to. I've avoided it so far.

Loving the Christmas chat. I got organised yesterday and wrote a list of all that we need to buy, just need to actually do it now. Going away for 10 days and then it's DD's birthday. But first Halloween! DD is so excited about the pumpkin!

jellypi3 · 13/10/2015 07:23

Wow you folk are organised about Christmas. I can't even think about it until after we move.

Ive had so many unsolicited bump rubs it's ridiculous. I had a work night out last week and was practically molested by 3 of my colleagues who were commenting on how hard it felt.....weirdos.