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Ah beautiful that sounds really crap, sorry you're having such a rough time. Perhaps if he is pissing you off you should leave him to spend some time with the DC if/when he comes over and get out and get a bit of time to yourself? I know that doesn't solve the bigger issues, but if things are shit, take it each day at a time and make sure you get the time you need to look after yourself, and your lovely baby.

I did consider that magpie, but I've made plans to take the DC to a castle today instead. Couldn't bear the thought of waiting around all day. I will give DH until 11 to turn up then we're going. But if he is hungover I really can't see him turning up tbh..

Beautiful sorry that you're feeling this way hun. I agree I think give him till 11 if not you take DC and treat them speaks some quality time together, at the end of the day he's the one missing out isn't he! I also agree with Magpie leaving won't solve the situation but it'll give you time to look after yourself and DC including bump! He'll see what he's missing out on!

Oh that's rubbish hopefully the day out will take your mind off things a bit if he doesn't make it.

(((Hug))) Beautiful

Nothing more to add - but just wanted you to know that I will always give you a hug honey.

Xxx

He has text saying "no I wasn't drinking how are the kids?"

I have no idea why he's being so cold - messages are normally really soppy. It's killing me. And if he wasn't out drinking how could he ignore his phone like that?

It's pouring with rain now but I really wanted to take the kids out :(

Thanks all. Hugs to everyone. I can't go back through all the threads but it looks like a few others are having a bit of hard time too. I hope you're all ok xx

Welcome back gem and Beautiful sorry you're having such a rough time don't worry about your baby though, she will be just fine in there even if you're breaking down in the outside!

I felt the baby move again last night, so happy I'm now feeling it finally at 21 weeks. It's very occasional but I'm pretty sure it's movement I'm feeling.

Dh and I have put up new curtains in the nursery and the wall stickers we bought, possibly a bit premature but it looks great! Think we're going to order the furniture soon.

Beautiful that sounds really crap for you. Do you have any friends who could come over and see you for a bit? Men can be incredibly selfish. My Dad fucked off when I was about 12 and my mum struggled for years with an abusive partner - watching her really taught me that many women in shitty situations have an incredibly strong survival instinct. They just keep going and keep going. Not much consolation when you feel dreadful, but you will be OK and so will your kids, and baby x

Thank you everyone. DH said he isn't coming round today as he feels like shit apparently, but will see them when they're not busy. How big of him. Not sure why he's speaking to me as if we've broken up...

Maybebaby - that has actually given me a bit of strength. Are you still close to your mum despite all that? My neighbour said she'll pop round today or tomorrow.

We're on our way to the castle! Found out about this park and ride scheme so they've got the novelty of a bus journey too... i feel really sick though! Felt the baby kick while I was stood up for the first time today; it's normally when I'm laid down.

Hope you had a good day out in the end beautiful - 3 excited kids on a bus and visiting a castle would surely take your mind off things! Are you going to speak to DH tonight? Good, inspirational words from maybe!

Hang in there gem, I hope you are getting all the support you need, pregnancy is such a tough time for those with anxiety, don't suffer in silence.

Hi all, not been on for a couple of days as been super busy with life in general! So just catching up on the thread this evening wow we're a chatty bunch!

Congrats everyone who has scans on Fri we're getting there slowly, half way now! Someone mentioned about small babies being hard to birth? Why might that be? Or did I misread? DD was 7lb 9 so pretty average not small at all and she was a bloody nightmare - never engaged and positioning all wrong! But she came out alright in the end without any assistance other than an episiotomy. Just remember not to sit slouched ladies as that's really bad for positioning!

beautiful I'm so sorry to hear about your DH being so crappy (understatement of the year) It sounds tough though as you don't live together, it makes it harder to communicate. And texts can really easily get out of hand/be misunderstood

Need to catch up later properly once dd goes to bed.

Away with mum visiting still very poorly nan. She's looks terriable but seems hell bent on causing trouble and is giving the nurses the run around so they think it's a more promising sign.

Just visited aldi and got some beautiful reduced muslin squares, I love muslin squares, 12 for £4. A little grey celliar blanket too. We only have lidl in our local area so made a nice change. Also got to pop into a shopping centre where I was actually try on maternity clothes so picked up a couple bits for myself.

beautiful so sorry to hear about what you're going through right now. You sound like such a lovely person, I wish I knew you in real life and could come round with hugs and cake Hope you ended up having a nice day with the kids and your DH comes round in the next day or two, preferably with an apology.

Beautiful yes I am super close to my mum - there's no one I admire more for what she's been through. Sure sometimes she was snappy like all mums can be but it didn't matter in the least. Honestly you will be OK :)

Urgh, anyone else wide awake? Stupid clock change - ds came in for a snuggle at 4.20, now I can't get back to sleep. My stomach hurts, I think it's trapped wind but it's still worrying. And I'm hungry!

Suz yes I'm awake too - been wide awake since 4, and also starving. Had a glass of milk which doesn't seem to have done much. Baby is kicking though so at least I'm not alone! And the cats are delighted I'm awake. DP happily snoring away.

It is frightening when you get tummy pain isn't it? I had the shits yesterday morning and was cramping on and off all day because of it.

Oh I think I've got the opposite need to drink more peppermint tea I think! I just know I'll get back to sleep right before ds gets up... it's definitely dhs turn but he's crap in the morning and I know I'll end up with a small wriggly boy in my bed.

Another one up early here, DD woke at ten to 5. Bloody freezing as heating didn't come on due to clocks going back! We've got a gro clock and DD knows its not time to get up till "Mr sun" is up so I've had to sit with her telling her its time to sleep for the last hour. Ugh. DP is sleeping peacefully away next door, I can't really complain but obvs am as he got up with DD yesterday and let me sleep till half 7!

We've got one too marmite, but he was a full two hours before the yellow sun today so I suspect he got tired of waiting

Morning all.

Sorry your DH is being a bit of an arse, Beaut. Hope he pulls his finger out soon. You're doing great, as others have said, even if you feel like you're not.

DS was ok-ish with the clocks this morning. Although he did start the morning by screaming because the iPad isn't charged (that's exactly why it isn't charged!). But he's got over it and came down and made his own breakfast!

This is huge - DS has been a highly-strung stubborn horror of a boy since birth. DH has been away since Thurs, and I was kind of dreading having to deal with captain tantrums by myself, but he's been utterly lovely so far (give or take the odd whinge & morning screech).

I need to ask a favour: I need help dressing for an occasion. Less than 2 weeks after my EDD we're going to DH's best friend's wedding. I don't know which side of birth I'll be, so I need something I could wear on either side. I'd prefer not to wear a dress, but it might be the only option that works anyway. Preferably not too expensive, as there's a high likelihood I won't be able to go at all! But, I suppose I could send back anything. I haven't worn. Thanks in advance for any suggestions.

Morning everyone.

Thanks for the love yesterday, and maybebaby that was very reassuring to here.

Rather of myself for figuring out this castle shuttle service thing (I've never taken the kids on a bus) then finding the castle etc. We went into a very posh chocolate shop and I let them choose one each, then we went out for tea at a pub near our house.

I was so down all day I got distracted and when I drove home I realised I hadn't paid for our tea!! Bloody mortified. I rang them and paid over the phone

Things haven't improved with DH. He barely text yesterday and I haven't heard from him since 4pm. I rang him about 6ish to tell him about our crazy day (so many things happened that we'd normally have a good laugh about!) But he didn't answer, or ring back. I am terrified now that this is going to affect my trust in him for good, especially with my hormones making things 100x worse.

I'm leaving my phone in my room today and going to try not to think about him. I love him of course but he clearly isn't giving me the headspace I've been giving him! Starting to think maybe he just wants some time on his own, but he'd be too scared to tell me, in case I reacted badly. He has form for doing that. I hope that's all it is.

Sorry for treating this like an agony aunt page!!

Erm.... what time is it?

Ooh! 8:09. Thanks mumsnet!

Beautiful no one minds! Vent and rage here. You need to get it off your chest and here's as good a place - probably the best place as we don't "know" either of you so we can hold your hand and not judge xxx

Indomitable my sister gave me two Tiffany Rose Maternity Party frocks in a size 16?

I don't wear dresses, and I know you don't really want one but if you want to try them I'll post them to you? If they're no good just send them back but if they work you're welcome to borrow either one.

Actually I'm lying - I do wear dresses but not posh party frock ones.