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March 2016 Babies! Here's thread #5!!

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Paperblank · 30/09/2015 18:08

New one!!

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IndomitabIe · 25/10/2015 09:03

That's really kind of you Paper! But not my size, unfortunately. Thank you for the offer.

Missdee2014 · 25/10/2015 09:14

Beautiful so sorry to hear your dh is being such an arse. It sounds to me like he's not as invested in the relationship as you are right now. Maybe a bit of space is what's needed? It does sound like you're doing a great job on your own with the kids and baby won't be any the wiser. Big hugs and some ThanksCake for you since you can't have any Winexx

Missikat · 25/10/2015 09:42

Oh Beautuful, so sorry
To hear what you're going through. Your other half is being a true arse and I would be do angry and upset in your shoes. The advice the other ladies has given is great. You are doing fab and are obviously stronger than you know. you can only do so much and the rest is up to him. Try and focus on you, baby and DC and if he wants to man up, apologise and see needs to step up then great but it sounds like you maybe already have the answers yourself. You will get through it with, or without him and he will be the one missing out. Sending you big hugs and strength. Xxx

Indom, I went to a wedding 3 weeks after DS birth. I had a JoJo Maman maternity dress (bought in the sale a week before the wedding) that had a cross type neckline that I could feed in. I still had a massive tummy so good for covering that and I seemed to work well. I have another wedding this time 3 weeks before due date so it'll be getting another outing then!

docmcstuffins1 · 25/10/2015 10:12

Indomitable I would go for maternity trousers and a wrap style top (that you can adjust depending on you pre or post status, or a wrap style dress.

dobbythedoggy · 25/10/2015 10:20

Indom am I right in thinking you're in mind devon? If you fancy a trip to North Devon there's a wedding/prom dress shop that rents out posh maternity clothes in my area. They posted to a friend of mine when she was pregnant after she made a selection when visiting us. They were very keen to be helpful and my friend would recomend them.

beautiful sorry to hear dh is being so awful. Sounds like you had a lovely day with your children, they've got an amazing mum!

Dd was up at 5.55, after not mamaging to settle to sleep until gone 11. She was really upset we weren't going home and had complete and utter rage when I started to get her ready for bed. Hoping for a better bed time tonight, but atleast I can delegate to dh if she's a monkey tonight. On our way to pick up dad from the airport on route home.

IndomitabIe · 25/10/2015 10:26

Thanks Miss, that's a good idea.

Doc I think that's what I'm looking for.

Dobby yes! What's the shop? Do they do tops like Doc suggests? Although a dress might be easier to come by and renting would be preferable to buying!

maybebabybee · 25/10/2015 10:36

beautiful sorry you're still having such a shit time. Flowers and Brew to you.

Slightly stupid question but does anyone know where we get our MATB1 forms to give to work? Mine have said they need it by 25 weeks but I didn't get one at my 20 week scan and my next antenatal appointment I'll be 26 weeks. Can I get it from my GP?

Missdee2014 · 25/10/2015 10:44

Maybe things may well have changed since I had dd2 but you used to be able to call the surgery and ask for one from 25 weeks onwards as they don't issue until then.

Missdee2014 · 25/10/2015 10:44

Beautiful, I hope today's a better day for you.

Paperblank · 25/10/2015 11:09

Maybe

I think my midwife said if I needed my MAT1B sooner to give her a call.

To be honest I think my employer won't worry if it's a week or so late

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Me624 · 25/10/2015 11:20

Indom I have exactly the same issue, a wedding of my closest friend from school 5 weeks after my due date. Baby me will definitely be out by then but potentially only 3 weeks old and I am sure I will still be a bit of a mess and huge! I will need a maternity party dress for my work Christmas do so I think I'll try and find something that will work for both.

I'm already planning the baby's outfit ... DH has sensibly told me not to splash out on anything because (a) we might not be able to go, especially if I ended up having a c section and only being 3 weeks post recovery, and (b) the baby might be teeny/huge and not fit into newborn size clothes. I had to really restrain myself though when I found the most adorable little outfit in Next with a waistcoat and a bow tie Grin

IndomitabIe · 25/10/2015 11:29

I hadn't thought of the baby's outfit, or DSs!

I suppose the baby would be in a sleepsuits and a wrap (which might negate much top effort on my part anyway!)

MyNameIsSuz · 25/10/2015 11:41

Indomitable, when I was pregnant with ds I hired a lovely maternity dress from a company called Hire Expectations - loads of really gorgeous dresses, they post you two sizes so you can check the fit, and you send them back afterwards. I think there might even have been free return postage. I did that for a friend's wedding, having tried a thousand ugly cheap ones on (as I resented spending £100 on something I would wear once).

MyNameIsSuz · 25/10/2015 11:43

And I'm also looking for a Christmas party dress me! Post any nice links you find Smile

dobbythedoggy · 25/10/2015 12:40

indom I'll pick up the details when I get home. I've not looked through their stock myself but the window displays are always beautiful and the ladies who run it are really nice. Since I've been noticable pregnant they've been reminding me about their dressy hier opptions as christmas party season is happening. They have a reputation for being fantastic at figuring out what sort of size you'll be post baby. Not sure if they have a website yet but will have a look.

Looking forward to getting home. Being in a car for 5+ hours is far from comfortable. Certain family we're keen for me and dd to visit again before bump is born. Not sure I'd be keen to do it much more pregnant than this, have told them they could always come visit us...

IndomitabIe · 25/10/2015 16:03

Thanks Suz, I've pinned that website.

Thanks Dobby - there's no rush!

TriJo · 25/10/2015 22:42

Wembley visit #4 for the little one today for the NFL... absolutely shattered now! I seem to have acquired random achey joints too which is a little bit annoying. 19 weeks today.

BeautifulLiar · 26/10/2015 07:54

Hey everyone. Thanks so much for the words of wisdom/support. And I hope you're on your way to getting dresses sorted - god I hope none of my friends get married in March! Haha. Trijo - hope you (and Bump!) enjoyed the rugby. I have been reading but I've not been glued to my phone as that wasn't helping!

I tried to see the past few days from his point of view, and I can see why he probably thought I was being a bit of an arse, too. Of course he should have just communicated with me, but he's always been terrible at that- much prefers to stick his head in the sand. He does have lots of redeemable features!

He finally text yesterday, and was ok with me although still a little off, so I thought I'd bite the bullet and just text back as normal, saying love you etc. He did the same :) so we're pretty much back to normal, although of course I'm still pretty upset that he ignored my calls etc, but he probably just thought I wanted to argue and didn't want that.

Whoever said texts are so easy to misread/misunderstand was soopo right! They drive me crazy. I mean, we're a married couple with 3.5 children falling out over texts - it's ridiculous!!

Does anyone have any magic tips on dealing with hormones? I've always struggled. When I had PMT I nearly ended our relationship... pretty much every month... then I'd be all loved up again. And now I'm pregnant I'm finding it so hard to be rational etc. I think I cope with newborns better than hormones...!

IndomitabIe · 26/10/2015 08:21

Morning,

No tips, Beaut, on the rare occasion I can see myself being hormonal and ridiculous I can't often do much about it! It's like being Hangry, almost impossible to see or stop yourself.

Glad things are looking up though. Thanks

vroc81 · 26/10/2015 10:00

Just catching up on the weekends messages beautiful sorry DH is being a bit of a nightmare although it sounds like things have improved a bit yesterday..

Trijo I was at the NFL too yesterday, it was a good game! Defiantly glad of the lunch time kick offs this year, and not sure if it was because I was sat slightly hunched up for so long but I was getting quite a kicking myself, wonder if that means she's going to love nfl or hate it??

No advice on been hormonal, my poor colleague opposites wife is due ahead of me so he doesn't escape the irrational rages anywhere! HmmGrinBlush

BeautifulLiar · 26/10/2015 10:12

So it looks like it's up to DH to understand more then :( not something I can force him to do! Feeling rubbish again because the kids are being AWFUL and yet I daren't moan to DH in case he goes weird again. Great.

Dentist today noooo! I'm glad it's free but terrified of the results of barely being able to brush during the throes of morning sickness Blush

hayleycookie · 26/10/2015 10:39

Beautiful I need to make a dentist appointment. I'm pretty sure a filling fell out and I've been putting it off and off, but really should bite the bullet and just book one. Especially as it will be free for the time being!

I'm Maid of Honour next year in June, so hoping I can lose the baby weight by then and fit in to the dress (which has already arrived in my pre-pregnancy measurements!)

Apparently I have an anterior placenta, and it's also low lying. Very frustrated that I can't feel ''proper'' kicks yet :( Also a bit worried that I may have to have a c-section if it doesn't move itself round. Has anyone here had a c-section? What was it like? What's the recovery period?

TheMshipIsBack · 26/10/2015 12:08

I haven't had a c-section myself, but I have had major abdominal surgery. I had two nights in hospital, then it took me a couple of weeks to be moving around normally, and probably about 6 weeks total before I felt entirely myself again. I had also lost a lot of blood (emergency operation) so probably a planned section would be considerably easier, as I was weak and anaemic for a while. The worst part was the first poo! If you are having a planned section, lots of ladies recommend preventative stool softener from about a week beforehand, and keep it up until that first movement. You really really really don't want to be pushing when your muscles have just been stitched back together!

BeautifulLiar · 26/10/2015 12:36

Make it today hayley :)
I got them cleaned and polished for free! Thankfully she said my lack of brushing doesn't seem to be an issue Blush

Just about to devour some screme eggs...

dobbythedoggy · 26/10/2015 12:54

hayley I had an elective c-section with dd. It was a lovely but very sereal experience. I walked into the ward at lunchtime, sat around reading magazines for a few hours while they worked through the list and an emergency section. Met the anethatist and surgical registar to be talked through everything and sign concent.

Was taken to the delivery ward at around 3.30, scaned to check dd hadn't turned then taken to have the spinal. Once the spinal was effective, they checked with an ice cube, I could feel the presure but not the cold, taken into theater. Dd was out within about 20 minutes, usually quicker but she was propperly wedged under my ribs! After a quick check, maybe 90 seconds I was able to have skin to skin with her. The midwife with us took pictures, then took dd to put on nappy and vest. Dh got a cuddle while most of the stitching up was done, but was taken with dd to recovery while I was cathetrised and moved onto a bed.

Dd breast fed in recovery and I was back on the ward by 5.30. High as a kite on the reminants of morphine from my section. Dh rang around our families and let me talk to my very supportive manager from work when he rang to tell her the good news (I've just about forgiven him now...). When morphine wore off I was very tired but not in pain, so dh went home about 7 and I woke just to feed dd until the following morning. Didn't need pain relief in the night although was offered, just had paracetmol in the morning.

Had the cathater out at 10ish and was able to get up and move around with reletive ease. Showered the following morning, wasn't able to earlier as the running water made me feel sick, possably a side effect of the morphine. Was able to go home 48 hours after c-section. Found it took a little while to pass urine after cathater was removed but was told this was normal and did easily after about 5 hours, they record the volume! The worst part for me was removing the dressing in the shower and seeing stitches for the first time, I'd make sure to ask how they closed if I had another as the wire and beads were a bit of a shock.

At home the thing that irritated me most was the reminats of the sticky dressing. Eventually removed with lots of baby oil on the midwife's recomendation, before remembering my dad had dressing removal spray for his ilinastomy! Pain was no worse than a mild period, although I used to have horriable ones as a teen so might not be the best judge of it, managed with either paractermol or iburophen. Wire that closed the wound was removed at 5 days by the midwife at home.

Once the wire was removed I could comfortably push the pram and carry dd in sling. Dh and I walked out to the shop once the midwife had gone as I was desprate to get out the house. Needed to take things a bit slower but up and down a steepish hill was managable. I don't drive but when midwife discharged me after 14 days she said to visit GP to get signed off to drive rather than wait for 6 week check.

I had a fantastic experience. I had been expecting a much longer hospital stay and to be in pain. But all I really experienced was tightness of the wound, no discomfort unless I moved suddenly or too fast. I felt as much as myself as I could with a newborn by 10 days.The only thing I strugled with was loading and unloading our washing machien for a couple of months, but it's in a stupid built in thing so the door is at floor level.

Hoping for a vbac this time around all being well. Mostly as I'd like to try not to spend more than one night in hospital and don't want to worry about lifiting dd. But wouldn't be worried if I do end up needing another section.

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