March 2016 #4 - entering the second trimester at last and (hopefully) waving goodbye to sickness

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started a new thread as the old one was getting full up. Thought I would post the link to stats here too so people can update if they want!

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This thread has moved fast since I last checked it.
Hope everyone is ok.
This is our first baby and we have one spare bedroom so we can stay put.
Havnt been home since Tuesday so havnt known if i have my letter/phone call regarding nuchal results. I know my hcg was very high last time 2.99 mom. So I'm worried this will bump us into high risk.
Been staying at mil house as she is on holiday to look after disabled son. Set my self in a panic today. We have been sleeping in her bed, she changed and washed all the bed sheets before she went and aired out the room but she has been smoking in their for 10+ years. So now I'm panicking that I've breathed some in. You can't smell smoke in their though.
Will read through the thread later to catch up.

I've moved three times in the last four years, one of those was packing up a one-bedroom apartment into an amount of luggage that British Airways wouldn't kill me for! I absolutely hate it, packing up my whole life is a pain in the arse. We've been almost two years in our current 2 bedroom apartment though, and it will be fine here for kid #1. We may have to reconsider things if/when we decide to try for #2, but that's a good way off for now.

I feel like i shouldn't want to move, current house is 3 double beds and would be a perfect family home, I think just us being back where we grew up and the better rated schools are a big seller for me.

Dp hasn't replied about it, maybe he's considering it haha.

Can't stop eating today - going to be the size of the house at this rate!

I can't go 1-2 hours without eating, might be another boy! I put on 2 stone with him; only 1.5 with the girls.

Beautiful and Q exactly the same here have not stopped eating today every hour I'm eating something! Last time I was sick was last Saturday so I'm hoping that was the last of it fx!

Anyone nervous about their 16 week appointment, i'm scared keep thinking what if the midwife can't hear baby's heart :( even though the last 2 scans were very reassuring I'm still so nervous been thinking about it everyday, hurry up Monday!!!

not nervous as such rosie I do think about it now and again as baby barely moved at both of my scans, but honestly hasn't crossed my mind as much as I thought it would (helps that most recent scan was at 13+4 rather than just 12)
mine isn't until the 30th, and I keep forgetting about it if anything haha.

No movements felt yet, can't wait for that. 15 weeks today

I'm a bit nervous too Rosie, mine's a week today and I'm also kind of looking forward to it. I'm also 15 weeks today!

Me too, me too (15 weeks today)! I was mean to have my 16 week midwife appointment on Monday next week but I'm away so it's the following week. Can't wait to (hopefully) hear the heartbeat and start feeling baby move. Fingers crossed that'll happen in the next 2 or 3 weeks.

I'm packing my bags for my work trip now and I'm going to have to take an extra hand luggage bag just to put my massive maternity notes folder in - it won't fit in my handbag/laptop bag and I'm not risking it going in my suitcase in the hold. I have also chosen an outfit that makes me look as pregnant as possible in case a nice flight attendant wants to bump me up to business. When I was checking in last night it gave me the option of doing so for £1700 return but, even though that was a massive saving on the original price which was over £8k (I checked!) no way I can justify it.

I was the same weight at booking in and 12 week scan, weighed myself a couple of days ago and was up 0.4kg which seems reasonable I think.

Just had mine today rosie, almost didn't want to go I was so scared about potentially not being able to find the heartbeat. But by the start of this week just wanted it over with! Forced dh to come along with me which helped a lot. All fine, midwife found hb within seconds.

Less than 3 weeks until scan for me now. Excited about that one, although I'm sure nerves will start to kick in about that soon.

We're in a 3 bed so have a room ready for this little one when we need it. Dd didn't move into her room until almost 2, so we aren't going to get the 3rd bedroom ready until we actually want to move baby in. It's full of dh's music and dj equipment so in reality despite the size of our bedroom we'd need baby (and night time visits from dd) out to fit it in. We're not going to be moving from this house for as long as we can help it, just the idea of trying to move the furiture out of the living room makes me want to cry, it took hours to get arm chairs and sofa in, I don't know if it's even going to be possiable to get them out!

I'm being rubbish with food at the moment, can't seem to work out what I want to eat, so don't eat much and end up feeling rotten. I've got to attempt to do a bit of meal planning and shopping as we're almost out of food for dd.

Odd question. Has anyone else found they've got sticky feeling nipples? Throught I was imaginging it at first but dh was made to check and confirmed. Never had it with dd, but milk had only just dried up in the last few months.

I'm not too nervous actually; also keep forgetting about it!

Right girls help me with this (first world) dilemma:

As you know, I've said I'm going to keep the baby's sex a surprise. However I am DYING to know and on reflection I feel like I'm more bothered about what other people think i.e. apparently less educated people find out the sex and also I know it'll drive the family crazy if I don't find out. Even one of my friends said "no, don't find out! We've discussed this. It's SO boring when people know the sex and name of baby before it's even born."

But it's driving ME crazy!! As I've mentioned I generally hate surprises, like to be organised and am very impatient... so it makes no sense really to not find out.

Also we didn't find out with our last baby, and I was SO excited, the anticipation was amazing. But because she was born on our bed, delivered by DH, that moment of "what have we got?!" never arrived anyway so there's no guarantee of that amazing romantic finding out.

DH has offered to pay as he's always been desperate to know and I could go on Tuesday morning (would be alone though).

I just feel like I'm letting myself down if I find out!?

What's everyone's views? :)

Beaut it's nobody's business but yours! If you want to know, find out. Can you wait a few more weeks til your 20 week scan and then see if you still feel the same then? I've never heard the thing about less educated people finding out! I am finding out and I have a first class degree and run my own company if that helps?! I think in the past it wasn't the 'done' thing, certainly neither my parents nor ILs found out with any of theirs, but things have changed and I think the majority of people now do find out.

The way I see it Beautiful, you're going to find out, it's the same surprise at 20 weeks and 40 weeks. If you wait til the birth you get it all in one go, if you find out at the scan you get one surprise then and the rest (hair colour, what its wee face looks like etc) at the birth. Not really sure about the less educated thing, dh and i both have degrees and I work in an academic field and we found out last time and plan to again. I get what you're saying about everyone knowing the name etc, but you don't have to do that - ds didn't have a name for days after he was born and even if we'd decided i wouldn't have told people what it was going to be. In short: do it!!!

We're finding out this time. I had a good idea he was a boy last time as the sonographer lingered to long on his male area. I kept it to myself though as we hadn't wanted to know until he was born. It was pretty plain to see. This time I need to know as it will affect a lot of things such as if we can stay in our current home. As someone on another thread said no matter when you find out it's still a surprise. Just a bit earlier.

Dp and I only decided not to find out when we realised at the scan that everything was ok - turned out when we knew that we really weren't bothered about finding out the sex anymore, so have decided not to. Right up until then we honestly thought we would as both of us have grown up and only ever been around boys so DP wanted to know so he could 'prepare' if it was a girl haha.

Currently referring to it as 'pip' as apparently its the size of an apple so 'pip' seemed quite fitting.

Thank you! I also feel it would be a nice distraction as I STILL have sickness.

ThePug I'm that impatient I can't wait until 20 weeks anyway we did wait with our last baby, then the sonographer couldn't tell us anyway and was really rude! Plus at our local scanning place the price goes up the further along you are.

Suz - we definitely won't be telling people names either way. Most on the list are "old people" names which will go down like a lead balloon so would be better to wait till after the birth!

I've just thought though... what if the baby was really naughty AGAIN and didn't move?!

We could also do with some warning whether we're going to have three girls in one room or two boys with a big age gap sharing!!

Yeah don't get me wrong girls I'm definitely looking forward to it, I panic all the time my dp hates it haha I just need to accept that everything is okay with baby. I was a nervous wreck before my 9 and 12 week scan, need to learn how to chill out!

dobby congrats :) I bet it was amazing hearing baby's heartbeat! I think It will definitely make it more real for me! I just want Monday to hurry up already, also 4 weeks left until my scan! 15+ 4 today!

Beautiful it is completely up to you I've got friends that keep telling me it's your first baby keep it as a surprise but finding out isn't going to ruin anything in fact you will be more prepared and having a baby is a big surprise anyway :)

We're finding out and I'm definitely very educated!

Hello, had a bit more brown spotting during the day. Didn't get a chance to ring doc & mw but don't have any more uti symptoms (like I did on tues night/weds). No cramping or anything yet (though some muscular aches from my heavy bag).

All being well, we'll find out the sex at the 20 week scan. We did with DS (and we've both got postgraduate qualifications!). I figure that you have to find out sometime, why not then? We still didn't have his name picked by the time he was born.

Think I might do all my planning in bed this evening.

Tbf Beautiful you're as well educated as you are well educated and finding out your baby's sex at a scan isn't going to change that. Anyone who judges others on whether they went to uni or not is a snob anyway, so I would just ignore them.

I will be finding out at the 20 week scan because for me, I can't see any reason to wait. I found having a baby shocking enough without any other surprises!

Aw beautiful don't worry about anyone else - it's wonderful either way and I don't buy the less educated thing as it's more the norm these days to know than to not know. I always thought I would not want to know and want the surprise, but I totally underestimated just how impatient I am. And my OH wanted to know so we just went for it, have no regrets! I totally admire people who have the willpower to wait though, my curiosity just got the better of me. I figure there will still be plenty of surprises on the day

Ha this thread for some reason is making me think of that Only Fools and Horses episode when Raquel gives birth -
Rodney: 'Congratulations Del Boy!! What is it?'
Del: 'It's, it's a little baby Rodney!!!!'
Rodney: 'No you plonker, is it a boy or a girl?!'

haha makes me laugh every time

indom hope that's the last of it and you're feeling okay! x

Heheh I found out with both mine and will this time too - am very educated

Entirely up to you whether you find out or not, don't bother what anyone else thinks!

This: "I found having a baby shocking enough without any other surprises!"

Hi all - hope you're all ok :)

Quick q - anyone remember the name of that BBC program on recently about growth of a baby in the womb?! I wanted to watch it but have forgotten the name and can't find it! Argh!