Christmas and New Year's Babies - thread 2 (20w scans right around the corner)

[Gillster]

Enjoy the new thread ladies. Have put a link to the spreadsheet here so always easy to find. (Sorry can't get the linking to work automatically).

docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1OSdzg17qg9VY0CYhoGvKuTrF-GLnHCTFqc7NPUfAYVc/pubhtml

For all newbies, this is a thread for ladies expecting a baby around Christmas or New Year, feel free to join in.

Hospital nurseries (IME) have huge waiting lists!!! When I was pregnant with DS1 I had his name down when I was 13 weeks pregnant!!! It then closed down 6 weeks before I was due back at work so I had a mad panic lol

I've signed up for baby sensory in February so looking forward to that :)

Well done for getting signed up for nursery, Hope good idea as waiting lists can be long. Ds is in a lovely local one and dd will go there

Everyone is so organised! I'm sitting here thinking I need to sort dds 3 year funded place and she's 3 in a few weeks!

Hope we've started getting proper smiles in the last few days too! It's bloody amazing. The colics all but gone now and the cold too. So glad to have my calm little boy back. Back from our trip to mils too. So gutted to be home after such a lovely week.

Gosh I definitely don't feel organised! I did all that pre dd!

Was at a friends all day yesterday and they took it in turns walking dd around when crying. Seeing my other friend after ds finishes nursery today. Sick of being stuck indoors and helps to pass the day.

Cuppa that sounds lovely, can't wait to have proper smiles!!

Probably should sort out nursery for the big one first... Keep meaning to find out if any of the local playgroups have a couple of slots free this year, I guess it doesn't work like that? *clueless

I've twice now taken DS2 out for lunch in London (in sling) whilst leaving DS1 at home with DP. Might as well while I can and the weeny one is still portable!

In other news. My womb is pretty much falling out. Yay. GP sent me off with some pelvic floor exercises. But Dr Google tells me my "grade 3 prolapse" is probably unsalvageable that way. Was pretty depressed about it but am coming to terms with potentially drastic fix. Will speak to doc again at 6w appt.

Oh yeah cuppa. DS2 has given me two mega real smiles.

Both on the train to town. I think he loves the view from the window. (Or the way the light/scenery flashes by, anyway!)

tango :( poor you. I hope they can sort it.

fugg I'm really blue about it. It definitely got worse again today and, whilst not painful, makes me feel v queasy. But (due to my carrying the breast/ovarian cancer gene) I was contemplating ovary removal and hysterectomy when I'm 40 anyway. (4 yrs time) so if it's not going to get better I can always do that sooner. It's just crap. But y'know, I've banged out two awesome kids in double-quick time and I suppose there's a price to pay.. Trying to look on bright side!

DS1 has 39 deg temp and is v sorry for himself today. Think we've got a long night ahead. Worst thing is I can't pick him up for cuddles without straining my prolapse. Grump grump grump. Luckily DS2 showing no signs, think it might be teeth rather than anything infectious. crosses fingers

Tomorrow is another brighter day. Hope you all have a good night!

I would be blue too, it's not fair us women go through all this stuff and men's bodies stay the same. I feel bad for bitching about my stitches now. I'm sorry you're down. Are there solutions for it? Is a vaginoplasty what's needed or is that just cosmetic?
I really really hope ds1 sleeps all night for you. Dose him up on Calpol and ibu. Sometimes with a fever they need to sleep it off.
Tomorrow is a new day x

Aw. Don't feel bad. It's all a bit shit. I suppose we're lucky enough to be living in a time where treatments are available.

I had a long chat with a friend who works in womens' health. If it's as bad as I think it is then there are surgical options (not vaginoplasty,but other ops) but if I'm planning a hysterectomy in a few years it might not be worth putting my body through another op. I promised myself after my last operation (breast recon) that I wouldn't put myself through any surgery again unless I really had to.

Anyway. You lot must be bored of hearing about my bits. How's those little babies doing?

DS2 just did a gigantic 2am poo then somehow weed around the protective flannel, soaking my hands in pee. And is now laid on my lap giving me windy smiles, smug about the mess he made. He's adorable, if yukky.

Tango hope your feeling ok. Feel free to talk about it, in your shoes is be a mess as I'm way too squeamish. You're staying so calm which is very impressive. I'm also very glad to not be alone in the 'haven't even looked at nurseries yet ' camp.

I'm hoping ds1 is feeling more himself today, especially after your poo trauma in the night.

Dd has stopped doing giant exploding poos now he's on colief. Also dare I say it? He's been sleeping through for nearly a week now! Only 11 till 5am so not quite proper sleeping through. But I'm feeling stupidly lucky.

I'm starting to think about getting a birth debrief. I was so out of it during labour and my dh says most things I remember are totally wrong. Apparently I very nearly ended up with eclampsia and a c section. But dilated from 3-8/9 in less than five minutes, it felt like hours to me. I don't have any proper memories of this, i remember clearly walking round perfectly fine straight after delivery, while i was hooked up to loads of stuff and was all epiduraled up still. But I'm not upset or traumatised, just confused about what happened, is it still appropriate if your OK about your birth?

Of course, ask for a debrief, it's your right to. Sounds scary Cuppa.
Also, I'm sickenly jealous of your ds sleeping through! I don't think dd will do that soon.

Tango, how was last night?

Yes cuppa ask for a debrief. I think it's a perfectly acceptable reason to want to get events straight in your head.

I'm nice and calm on the internet, I've done plenty of snotty crying on the sofa in real life. DP has been amazing.

Last night was great thanks, fugg - whatever was wrong with DS1 had has burnt itself out (no sign of new teeth, but he's kinda hard to catch to check). I'm so jealous of the sleeping cuppa - even though I'm getting 6 hrs a night, I think Ds2's record is 2.5hrs and that was during the day! We're going to attempt putting him to bed "properly" over the next week or so, see how it goes.

I would ask for a debrief cuppa it actually quite nice to find out exactly what happened. There was quite a bit about my birth that even dp didn't remember because it was so quick they didn't really have time to explain anything to him and I was just agreeing to anything that would make baby safe when the dr came to talk about it turns out we only knew the bear essentials. I hope it helps sounds like there was a lot going on for you no way you could absorb it when your in labour.

Hope your ds is feeling better tango.

Went to the docs yesterday and my scars became infected so I'm back on the antibiotics I thought it had opened back up but she says it's just weepy think it's where my jeans where rubbing so I'm back in tracksuit bottoms again 🤕

Hope you all have a good weekend x

Urgh been up with dd since 3 kicking crying fussing hiccuping burping sicking :(
Hope everyone else's nights have been better. She doesn't want to lie on me or feed but cries if I put her down.
I think her tummy is sore from not pooing. Not sure how to help her go, tried mSsaging belly and lifting legs up. She hasn't been in a few days

Fugg that sounds awful for DD and very stressful for you! Can you get her a gp appointment? They might be able to prescribe something or at the very least offer some advice.

Tango, sorry you've been having such a shit time of it! Hope it gets sorted in the best way it can.

Hope, we're all signed up for nursery now. Literally only because my mother in law works there. 25% discount? Yes please! Only bad thing is babies have to pay all year, rather than term time which is ridiculous as a teacher! But all in all the positives & convenience out way that.

When is everyone planning on going back to work?

I go back in September, taken 9 months as that's what I get paid for. Think they'd have me back today if they could lol!!!

I'm going to get some colief and H said we should give her a bottle of formula in the afternoons when she's extra fussy so he can do it.

Fugg that sounds similar to DS when he had colic symptoms. Colief was a miracle, just a bit of advice, keep it on the fridge. We didn't know you bad to and it stopped working. Been up half the night with an inconsolable little red faced misery.

I'm not sure when I'm back to work. It really depends on financial needs. The good thing about my job is I can call my boss and say 'oi I'm broke I wanna come back next week' and I can jump straight in. I have to do a load of retraining and exams to prove I won't kill myself or anyone else, so being the only woman to come back from mat leave in the history of metering at British gas means no one has a clue how to work my return and I'm a bit of an experiment.

Thanks for the tip Cuppa sorry you had a rough night too.

This is the first time I've been able to put her down all morning so I've jumped in the bath quickly! Got a frozen lasagne for dinner just remembered so going to go back to bed after rather than go out to get food. 😴
I've definitely got a clingy baby here, hopefully she'll chill out a bit soon!

Also, what do you all think of mix feeding? Even just if I gave her a bottle a day would it mess up my supply?
My right boob doesn't produce that much tbh so maybe that's why I feel like I'm struggling a bit? I had the same problem with ds but bf for 8 months.

I give DS the odd bottle the next day I'm a bit engorged, but my supply hasnt suffered. As long as you need between 1-4am you're good I think!

Glad you've got an easy dinner planned. I'm so glad I put pulled pork in the slow cooker last night. Just pulled it and left it in the juices to get moist. I'm too obsessed with good and now have a full stone to loose.

I've been using my slow cooker loads since dd came, it's a god send! Did a lovely beef stew with dumplings the other day mmm

I have loads of milk all night and it's easier to bf at night than make bottles so think I'll just give one in afternoon when I'm really tired and milk dries up a bit. She's still bunged up too poor thing.
She hasn't pooed in days so think that's making her grumpy too.

How much would dd have in a bottle at 3 weeks old?