February '16 approaching and conquering the 12 week mark!

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Stats! docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1dWmvdD9SkvPQqKn7rpFHazgufmda2FOTMtL093cZFj8/htmlview

Banana I'm surprised they've said you're too far along if you're 13 weeks. I had mine at 13+3 and all the literature I read (and I read a lot over the weekend) said it can be done until 13+6. Unless you're already at the end of the 13 weeks?

Good luck with the amnio, I think it's a fairly similar procedure just slightly less risky as you're further on. No fun having to wait for it though. Hand holding for you

Hello everyone, I've been away and have just been catching up on all the news. It's been lovely to see more happy scans, congrats to all who have had theirs recently.

banana I'm sorry to hear about your situation and your wait for an amnio, wishing you lots of strength and patience over the next couple of weeks and obviously good luck with the procedure

Oh sorry banana just saw you said you were 13+4 in your later post. I suppose it would be a bit too much to expect them to have an appointment free tomorrow xx

So sorry you're going through this Banana, wishing you lots of strength over the next weeks, sounds like you have a lovely supportive DH, hope the time passes quickly for you xx

jen I'm very sorry for your loss

banana fingers crossed that you are one of the 30! i know what you mean about wanting an exact answer. I hope he time goes quickly until the appt.

over fingers crossed for you too

little fox having two DC is amazing! It is just pregnancy hormones that get you down. Double the snuggles and they amuse each other (sometimes)

I have pulled out all the maternity clothes! Much more comfy! I'm huge. I have been feeling better though, so I should exercise sgain.

Thinking of you jen and banana

I tried this on another thread but didn't get any response. I want a travel system with a parent facing option and came across this:

www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/B00ML2BS3S?ref_=cm_cd_al_qh_dp_i

a colleague said "it's too cheap to be safe" and that the car seat doesn't meet regulations.

Is she right? Should I pay full whack and go to mothercare? I'm a first time mum and not suffering from PFB syndrome although I do want baby to be safe especially in the car!

calypso the thing is, if you get the maxi-cosi car seat you know it's as safe as they come and there's usually an option with most buggies to get attachments that will accommodate the maxi-cosi.

I have a bugaboo which was handed down to me by a cousin, it takes the maxi-cosi, as does the other buggy I have which is an I-candy. My sister has a Quinny and the maxi-cosi goes on that too.

The bugaboos are pretty good, would you consider looking into getting a second hand one?

I'm in the same boat Calypso! I don't know anything about prams/buggies! Which and Mothercare seem to have articles about how to find the right kind of buggy for your needs. Then it looks like a case of picking a brand.

I'm planning to go to one of the big shops e.g. mothercare to check all of stuff out, then try to find it cheaper either second hand or online/on offer.

Montagues you're so lucky to get hand-me-down buggy! My brother has some stuff for me apparently but no buggy (his daughter still needs it).

I know! Super lucky. But now I have to get a double because DS will still only be 17 months when the new baby is born.

Doubles are nuts money

montague and clara

we've decided we are getting everything second hand apart from a new travel system and new mattresses. I've seen the state of my nieces and nephews buggies after 6 months and ew gross!

banana and over I've been thinking of you a lot and hope you get the results you want soon.

over, I've experienced that difference between men and women's reactions to a baby dying. My DH is an incredible, generous, thoughtful and loving man who was excitedly looking forward to having our baby. When ds died (19 weeks) he was a fantastic support to me and obviously upset, but I was horrified when he admitted he had no feelings for our baby and couldn't claim him as our son and felt incredibly alone in my grief. I couldn't forgive him for a long time, but lots of people (professionals) stood up for him in trying to help me understand his side. What I'm trying to say is that should you need to make that decision to terminate (and I am not advocating for either side here, I'm strongly pro choice and will defend a woman's right to choose until I die), you need to be absolutely certain in your decision because you will bear the emotional brunt of it. There is a chance I may be wrong, but take your DH at his word and be certain that the decision is also right for you, as well as both of you. I truly hope you don't have to be in that position though. Really thinking of you.

I've got my cervix scan today, had dreams all night that DH walked out as he had to go to work and left me to it. Also lots of falling off a few cliffs and my sister putting cigarette holes in my new cushions and accusing me of stealing money... Last time I had a vaginal scan that had a baby there I was in Italy with about 4 doctors skewering me with it over and over, speaking in Italian. The modesty curtain kept being drawn back so I was on view (ha, lost all forms of modesty in that place). I had my hands over my ears so I wouldn't half understand bad news and I think they thought I was rude. I wish I'd asked to see the baby, he was still alive. Fucking ptsd rising it's head. Plenty of vaginal scans since then, just an empty womb! Don't really want to go. Does anyone else dead their scans? I get really excited and then it's all DH can do to drag me out of the house...

Grr my post went missing again!
Calypso I had linked to a couple on the babies r us website for you. A silver cross and a graco one. Both pretty basic though so may not be what you're after.

Everyone has different requirements for buggies but I'd want to know the carseat was properly safe.

Haquoi thanks for that post, good to know it's fairly common.

I would dread scans too in your position, I think you're really strong.

Calypso should have said the graco is only parent facing with the car seat or with a carrycot (carrycot bought separately). Both of mine preferred looking out at the world to looking at me once they were sitting up though so it wasn't a problem for me!

Over - Yes, the midwife we saw yesterday went down to the FMU and tried her damndest to get us squeezed in today for a CVS but there was just no space and by Monday I'll be too far along. When do you get your results?

Rufus - That's exactly our thinking - whatever result the NIFTY gave us we would probably want to do amnio anyway afterwards to be completely sure, so there's no point for us really.

ATrue - DH was amazing yesterday. He stopped his meeting halfway through when I called him, ran for the train home, and text my best mate asking her to be at our house when I got home (she's staying with us for a few weeks) so I wouldn't have to be on my own waiting for him in an empty house. Then when I was knackered at 9pm and wanted to go to bed, he came to bed early with me "so I wouldn't be dwelling on it" on my own. Sometimes I remember exactly why I married him.

Haquoi - Good luck today, I'll be thinking of you.

Thankyou all for the wishes of strength and messages of support. I'm feeling a bit more together today and I'm just going to keep telling myself that it is much more likely that the baby is fine and will be OK after the amnio.

Banana such a shame you have to wait but try to stay calm in the meantime (easier said than done, I had another massive sobbing fit over it all yesterday). Your dh sounds lovely.

Our thinking was the same as yours re the harmony/nifty- we wanted a diagnostic test rather than a (albeit very accurate) screening test.

The professor who did my CVS kept saying about the 43/44 that would be fine, and also said he's had very few where it has actually been a bad result (which is reassuring but may make me feel worse if mine isn't good). Roll on Monday when I find out.

I'm in a lot less pain today and a bit bored, all those days where I've had to go to work and wished I could just stay in bed and now I'm not appreciating it!

loving the pram chat!

now I'm thinking this one might be better/safer (from a reputable company)

www.mothercare.com/Hauck-Lacrosse-Shop%27n-Drive-Pushchair-Travel-System---Toast/447875,default,pd.html

I'm busy at work, honest ;)

PS I have emailed the i-safe travel system manufactures to find out if it meets the UN child seat regulations

oh wow Tesco have some great offers!

www.tesco.com/direct/hauck-lacrosse-all-in-one-pushchair-everglade/375-7457.prd?pageLevel=&skuId=375-7457

Got up for one of my many pees in the night, got back into bed and had a pulse running from the back of my thigh, through my knee and down to mid calf. It is still happening like 12 hrs later and is driving me nuts, is this normal for pregnancy or something I should be worried about? Foot is normal colour and temp and no swelling. Knee is a bit uncomfortable when stretched out.

I've bought a very expensive when new cot bed 2nd hand off eBay, paid 12% of new cost and they gave me a brand new mattress still in its packaging. Only 1 little scratch on it, otherwise it is perfect! Love an eBay bargain!

Oh dear Mayo, that's like something out of a sitcom...

But congratulations on your scan!

well I'm just back from my Nuchal test, all looks good. Massive hugs to Banana and Over, the waiting must be torture.

On buggies, a friend got a Bugaboo from eBay and then sold it a year later for the same price! It definitely pays to research a bit.

Rufus, when you say a pulse is it painful/uncomfortable? It could be sciatica or SPD.

At some point during your antenatal care I think you get opportunity to see a physio, but obvs mention it to your GP or midwife beforehand if you are concerned!

I have had sciatica for years but the pain I'm experiencing in my bum now is a bit different in that its worse in bed whilst turning over, which most commentary on internet seems to point towards SPD rather than sciatica. It's f*cking horrible and even though I'm back to 5 days a week exercise I've not felt it get better (regular exercise keeps my sciatica under control). Have appointment next week with my regular physio to see if there's anything else I can do. I can report back with any useful exercises etc.

Good news about your scan and elective section mayo!

Sorry for the morose post earlier. I had an awful day yesterday - felt so good on Wednesday that I massively overdid it and spent all day yesterday in bed with the worst headache ever. Vomited twice from it! But today is a good day! Cervix is fine and baby was face-on, we could see all its features and it's was moving it's mouth and looking adorable. Definitely makes up for the vag probe.

calypso what made you look at the hauk? I was really into the britax-affinity last time but looking at it again I'm not so sure.

clara it is an actual pulse, matches my heart rate! Has to be an artery.