Feb 2016 early early days...

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So BFP this am. Edd 30/1/16 however this is dc4 and the othe 3 have all been at least 2 weeks late.
Starting this thread to preserve my sanity next January. If I join the jan lot I'll be left on my tod so...I'm 35 this will be dc4 if all goes well, cycle 2 of trying so feeling blessed.
Roll up roll up, come and join me clutching your BFP and wondering exactly what you've let yourself in for x

Welcome bex, we have the same due date!

5+5 here and not a symptom at all!

Charlotte I agree with Purdie you have to try and get a handle on your fear otherwise this will be a traumatic pregnancy for you.

I understand your fear. This is my 4th attempt, I'm terrified of going through yet another mc and the pain and grief. I understand your terror only too well.

But all you can do is enjoy your pregnancy. Repeat every day "today I am pregnant"

Hi can I join you all? I found out a few days ago that im expecting dc4!!! It was a complete shock, I got a 3+ on the cb digital, and very strong blue lines on all the others lol does anyone know what that actually means, the 3+?
I have pcos so no regular cycle, dates are really hard to work out
I'm having a scan on friday so I should know more then x

Welcome mrsnorthman (I love your user name)

3+ means it's probably more than 3 weeks since you conceived, so you are 5 or more weeks pg. However, as we've been through on here before, the digi tests aren't always that reliable in terms of dating things, plus if your cycles are really irregular you could be further on than that. So I would guess you're around the 5-6 week mark, but in your case the only way you'll probably know for sure is when you have a scan!

Can I join?
Early days but as 6 days late today I took the test.
EDD 7th of February.
Congratulations everyone :)

Congratulations and welcome, MrsN and Bye

More ouchy tit-kicking throughout the night for me. I am beginning to have The Fear of coping with two tots under twenty-two months. Someone please tell me I'll manage...

Congratulations all.

I still have no symptoms...this is so different to my previous pregnancy when I was sick pretty much immediately until the day I delivered. I was so sick I was hospitalised a number of times. Boobs were huge too. This time...nothing.

I don't know what else to say, Charlotte; you seem absolutely determined to think the worst.

purdie I'm in a similar boat as DS won't yet be 18 months when this baby is born, assuming all goes well.

We'll be fine! Everyone says it's tough but you get on with it and you get through it.

I'm going to need a bit of help in the early stages though. DH took no time off work (self-employed) with DS and no way is he getting away with that this time!

charlotte I usually get sore boobs too and I haven't this time round. There is a thread on the pregnancy board atm with people comparing their symptoms between their first and second pregnancies and lots of people had sore boobs with one and not the other.

Sorry, charlotte I should say, ditto sickness ^

purdey i can't help on the coping, this is my first, but plenty of people manage some how. I know someone who had 5 kids under 5!

Congrats to the new folk :)

I know, I'm sorry.
It's just gut instinct I think.
I'm driving myself crazy. Trying to keep busy and stay away from google. Google does not help. Sometimes one can have too much information.

I feel the opposite. I feel really strongly that it's going to be okay and I have to keep reminding myself that that isn't based on logic and that losing it is a possibility that I have to be prepared for. Unfortunately I don't think anything can prepare you for it...

charlotte Yes! Stay away from Google!

Hiya!
First time post! I'd love to join you Feb 2016 ladies. Had my BFP on Weds last week. Massive poas addict so been doing them every day since just to be sure! Lines are getting stronger every day. Must stop that soon, it's a very expensive habit! This is my first pregnancy & I'm 33. My mum had 2 early MC so it's always a worry.
AF now 3 days late. I just want to shout it from the rooftops!! V sore boobs for last 2 weeks & have gone really clumsy! Due 12th Feb so only 4+2.

I'm not sure actually...with ds (although he was an 'easy' conception, with no previous problems) I felt from the get go it would be fine. I was convinced that all would be well. This time I feel the absolute opposite but whether that's because of what's happened in the interim I don't know.

I hope you're feeling is right and mine is wrong!

your

Like with ds I could see myself telling everyone the news, I could see myself getting a pram and baby stuff and decorating the nursery and being a family of 3.
But I just cannot see anyway forwards this time, I feel like I'm just waiting for something awful to happen. I know (like others I appreciate) we've had a tough time getting here but I keep thinking the embryos we made in a lab - where they'd selected the best sperm - failed to develop so what are the chances that we will have created a chromosomally normal embryo. Also having had so much treatment I feel I know rather too much about the development of an embryo. With ds I just got pregnant, accepted it, and didnt known half as much.

charlotte the great (and terrible) thing about it is that how you think and feel about your pregnancy will have very little impact on how it physically goes. You can worry as much as you like but your body will still do what it's going to do. Personally I find that quite freeing. I know it's out of my hands. I wish I could control it, but I can't. Can you do some activities away from mumsnet to distract yourself? (not trying to get rid of you! Just think getting engrossed in something you usually enjoy could help).

I know pretzel - it makes me feel worse! I think I may be a control freak and having had three ivf cycles micro managed the lack of control is making it worse!
When I put these things together - the cb digital indicator, the lack of symptoms, the fact my blood sugars have now dropped (t1 diabetic) indicating progesterone has fallen and my gut feeling I just can't see how there will be a positive outcome.
I think I will back away from this thread now because I realise I'm not helping anyone and bringing down newly pregnant women!
Thank you everyone for the advice. I will try and distract myself for the time being but it's so bloody hard!

for everyone

Hi curly ! Congrats!

Oh good, is clumsiness a symptom?

Thanks NoMontagues! I hope clumsiness is a symptom! Although maybe it's because i'm so distracted all the time!! Glad it's not just me!

Charlotte, there is no need to leave the thread, just force yourself to type out positive thoughts. Did you know only one in three eggs are viable (euploid) in even early-thirties women? That's why, even under laboratory conditions, most of your embryos didn't make it. This is perfectly normal. Your embryologist selected the right one...now just believe it and book an early scan

I threw up outside church this morning and had to come home. Felt better so started to wash up but threw up in the sink.

This pregnancy is natural.
That's why I think if even the embryologist couldn't get it right then what's the chsnces of it happening naturally!