Feb 2016 early early days...

[sparklesandfizz]

So BFP this am. Edd 30/1/16 however this is dc4 and the othe 3 have all been at least 2 weeks late.
Starting this thread to preserve my sanity next January. If I join the jan lot I'll be left on my tod so...I'm 35 this will be dc4 if all goes well, cycle 2 of trying so feeling blessed.
Roll up roll up, come and join me clutching your BFP and wondering exactly what you've let yourself in for x

[pretzelpieces]

It!

[pretzelpieces]

Fill

[pretzelpieces]

Thanks jelly! Still two more spots left on this one! Guess I should

[jellypi3]

Done a new thread www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/2397215-February-2016-babies-let-the-chundering-commence

[jellypi3]

Night we probably would but then I'd just say that we use the phrase interchangeably ;)

Who's doing the new thread? I can do it now?

[twinsandapenguin]

Hello ladies! I have also been a bit AWOL recently. Things have been so busy since starting back at work.

With an 11 month old dd I am also wondering/am slightly terrified about how a small age gap will work out! It is funny that a couple of months ago I was nowhere near ready for number 2 and then suddenly out of the blue I was!. One of my NCT group is due in 6 weeks, she will have a 13 month age gap!

I suffered with anxiety on my first pregnancy. Somehow I am relaxed this time around. I wasn't in a very healthy place with it last time.

Feeling pretty tired and a bit crappy in the mornings, a bit of ligament type pain occasionally, but overall I feel far less pregnant than last time. Maybe it is still too early and there is some horrible nausea just waiting for me around the corner!

[SweetCharlotteRose]

I will.
I don't have much faith in the doctors really though. I feel they always just say what you want to hear. After ds (had c section) I had retained product and went to gp 5 times to be told pain was normal c section pain and I'd just overdone things. Took an admission to A and E to prove otherwise. I knew something was wrong then too but no one believed me.

Maybe a midwife would be better.

[Carltonlives]

Talk to your gp charlotte and explain how you're feeling. It's only natural you will be anxious after your long journey but there is help out there that can make you feel better

[nightandthelight]

I second rally's advice of talking to your GP of midwife Charlotte!

Are you not worried you might accidentally say 'she' or 'he' jelly? DH or I would be bound to do that :(

[rallytog1]

I think you need to see your gp or midwife charlotte. Tell them all the things you've told us - they should be able to refer you to some specialist help.

[purdiepie]

Great advice there, Rally.

[SweetCharlotteRose]

I think I do need help with the anxiety but I don't know who I should see about it.

[jellypi3]

night we aren't telling anyone the sex. We will find out but it will still be a surprise for everyone else :)

[rallytog1]

charlotte they can check hcg, but I doubt they'll do it on the basis of a dull ache (which is totally normal at this stage). They'd probably only do it if you were in real pain and bleeding. And the problem with any hcg or scan result is that it only reassures you for about half an hour, then you start to worry again.

At the risk of sounding like a broken record, you've really got to find a way to keep a lid on this anxiety sweetie. It sounds like you're digging yourself into a pit of despair and it can't be doing you any good My sil had terrible anxiety during her pregnancy and saw a midwife who specialised in mh, which really helped her. Do you think you could find out if you could access a similar source of support?

[purdiepie]

Goulash, hoping for the best for you.

Charlotte, under what pretence would you take yourself to EPU? I don't mean that nastily; they will only see you if there is excessive bleeding (filling more than three sanitary pads in one hour) accompanied by grave cramps. Anything other than this - mild cramping; spotting - is not considered serious and they will refuse to see you. HcG testing is not what the EPU is there for. I speak from experience here. I once managed to lie my way into a scan by grossly exaggerating my bleeding but it takes nerves of steel to get past those nurses.

[Mawsymoo]

Wow what a busy thread! Welcome to all the newcomers. Goulash hope all is well.

We found out the sex on DS but didn't tell anyone else. It helped us connect with the baby after a traumatic first 20 weeks.

I'm feeling decidedly pregnant today and I'm very happy about it! I might even go wild and book the early scan for next week!

[Carltonlives]

I found out the sex last time and will again this time. I just loved being prepared with all the clothes and bits and helped with names too because you only have to think for one gender! night I was worried about the blue/pink thing too, so we told family last time that we didn't want too much pink and they mostly listened so it was fine. She's now almost 2 and has a jungle themed room with dolls and baby prams on one side and a car play mat on the other - she will play with all sorts :-)

rattycatty I do that too! I keep sitting and staring at the photos of my tests on my phone, and the tests are up on the side on display in my bathroom so I keep finding excuses to go in there so I can look at them :-)

goulash that sounds scary glad the spotting has stopped now. I think an infection would be painful and red and feel hot so if none of those it could be milk. I stopped feeding my dd a year ago and can still get milk out if I try.

I think I got the beginnings of my hay fever today

[pretzelpieces]

Re hayfever: I asked my GP if I could take piriton and she said if it gets bad take it, and take as few as possible and I'm also using sodium cromoglicate eyedrops which she says are fine.

[CatnipMouse]

hello again everyone. How reassuring to see some fellow hayfever sufferers! I completely, totally understand! In the last few days I have bought some HayMax (overpriced beeswax in a titchy pot) which you smear on round your nose and apparently that traps some of the pollen before you breathe it in. I also tried shoving a load of Vaseline up my nose. Both approaches kind of worked, probably better than nothing, but I WANT MY DRUGS BACK. I never really realised how well they work until I had to do without them. I'm not giving up my eyedrops though, I would probably claw my eyes out without them. I'm camping next weekend too - might have to take some cetirizine to survive.

Argh I haven't been this allergic since I was little, when you couldn't buy non-drowsy antihistamines and my mum bought me homeopathic remedies instead (so totally pointless). I am sneezing like a man who wants to cover a 5 metre radius in snot. I can't even sneeze like a dignified lady. My throat hurts I've been sneezing so much and so hard. God it's revolting.

Oh crikey just thought, what if you have terrible hayfever when you are about to give birth?! Surely repeated massive sneezes might set you off?!

[SweetCharlotteRose]

I was wondering - re the EPU - will they check hcg levels if you go and see them?
I've got like a dull ache going on tonight. Feels like muscle pain I think but I hope it doesn't get worse.

[rallytog1]

Hope you have a good night goulash

We're not finding out the sex. We didn't last time and it was pretty amazing to find out when she was finally evicted born.

[SweetCharlotteRose]

Hope all is ok Goulash

[nightandthelight]

Yeah we are planning to introduce it soon! Tbh OOH care in Wales is pretty rubbish :( A&E being your only real option.

[GoulashSoup]

Thanks night, I hadn't realised that it might not exist here. The epu at the nearest hospital opens at 8.30am so I may give them a bell in the morning if I'm uncomfortable through the night.

[peachybex]

@ Raffertys - pregnant with first baby. DH absolutely wants to find out what we are having asap!. I'm not so sure but probably won't be able to resist the temptation. I think knowing would have a certain magic, though have always said befre being pg I would never find out!