April 2015 Thread 14: We've got the fanny daggers and the babies aren't keen on waiting till April!

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Wow Chicken that's a huge amount! I'm only managing to pump about 50ml a day which isn't great. Although she is on boob too. Jaundice slowly clearing yeah we have her napping in the window area for the light. Going to ramp up the expressed feeds I think as I have some frozen from last week when milk came in before it left again

Congratulations Stuntnun I hope you are both home soon.

I have backache been sat at my desk all day hope Aquanatal later helps make it feel more comfortable. I'm now going to do a bit of multi tasking of bouncing on my ball, having a cup of tea and mnetting whilst stopping the cat trying to jump on the ball as well

6 more days to work and 2 of them are nice easy days where people are taking me for lunch, I can't wait to finish now and relax and also being able to slob in my leggings rather than smart but uncomfortable maternity clothes.

Has anyone else been feeling a bit damp downstairs? I'm not sure if it's because I'm more warm and it's just a bit of sweat or if its just more watery CM? I had it this morning when I woke up and I've had it on and off all day. I don't think I'm leaking as i'd just progressively get wetter right? There is plenty of CM in my pantyliner so I'm just wondering if it's the warmer weather making my crotch over warm?

Lauren you're not the only one. Recently I've been wondering whether to ask the midwife about it or not, but I feel like it's been happening for a few months now and I've had scans since then (reduced movements and growth scan) and waters/fluid seemed normal. I think sometimes it is sweat but often I have a light 'patch' of damp. Not sure wether it's just excess pee or not!....

congrats stunt

Wow! Congratulations Stunt. Hope you are both doing ok and get home soon.

Moomin and Cinnamon, sorry you've had rubbish days.

Chicken and Penguin, it's great hearing how you are both getting on. It's making it all feel very real. I hope the days get easier as time goes on.

Im very pro vitamin D but then I've got MS so take loads of it. Stupid mushy brain.

Yeah, Lauren I've been feeling more damp and keep feeling trickling sensation but nothing has happened. It's really annoying. I keep getting excited but then nothing happens.

Ooh, do they normally check your cervix at 38 week appointment?

StuntNun, congratulations and glad you sound so calm and your LO is safely here. Sorry it's so busy at your hospital though, ring that bell if you need help don't be shy.

Brixton you should emphatically NOT be painting anything. As you were.

daholster your pain sounds like mine last week - the one that went away after two days. Got some v low down lower back pain this evening though, will have to dig the hot water bottle out. That's interesting about multivits. DD doesn't have them anymore at 3.5, will check with my paediatrician friend to see what she thinks. Although I think it's unlikely DD has rickets as she threw herself down stairs again today after swinging from stairgate at top and pulling it off the wall and all bones seem to be intact. If I sound blase about this it's bc i am at my wits' end when it comes to her capacity to try to injure herself in ever more elaborate ways

I'm still all admiration cinnamon even if it is yours! I mean, my laptop and kindle are both mine but I decline to take any interest in them when something doesn't work.

Underwood I rang up HV to book 2yr check and got the distinct impression that if I hadn't done anything about it, it wouldn't have happened. It was fairly pointless tbh. With regards to glucose test yours must be diff to ours as I didn't have to fast just drink a massive cup of lucozade and then wait an hour for bloods to be taken. Good luck.

Squatting that's good news re movement. Commiserations about having to wear your bra though, can't they all just avert their eyes

Moomin that's v annoying re the kitchen floor man. Possible to get someone else in? Hilarious that I have in fact been having BHs for ages then whilst not knowing it!

Penguin sorry to hear that feeding tough presumably you have been made aware of anything you can eat to boost supply? What about the pregnacare BFing vits.

Lauren, been damp forevs hence panty liners. Every now and then I have a moment where I worry it's blood or waters but it never is, just general dampness and presumably CM. Weather doesn't seem to make any diff.

Well I guess I'm a pretty damp person down there in general anyway as I always wear pantyliners pregnant or not, but the last few days have been much more than my usual.

Thanks for the sympathies ladies it does help I'm still trying!

Those who are feeling damp - it's really normal to have increased discharge due to changing hormones. And it will make you feel damp. Also the warmth/sweating will contribute too. Obv if anyone thinks it's waters going then do get checked out!!

My mum has come to make our food and hopefully sit with dd while me and DH get some sleep. I bet that means she needs a huge feed as soon as we have eaten!

cinnamon I had a 38 week appt today but no S&S. How come you got one? Are they starting you off early for some reason?

I had a v normal check up and nothing to report. I'm hoping not to see the midwife at 40 weeks...

I'm going to be asking my mw at 38 weeks that I want a s&s done at 40w if I'm still going. I refuse to go a full 2 weeks over like last time and I'm hoping she will take pity on me and do it. Got my 36w one tomorrow so might even mention it then so she has prior warning.

Underwood I am in Surrey too and it's a 27 month review round here (NE Surrey). It was a lot more positive than the year check up (which felt like an attack on my parenting). it was at the local Sure Start Centre, with a HV.

wow big news moving to NZ. whereabouts are you going? My DH is a kiwi and we haven't yet braved the journey but are debating it at xmas. eek.

Thought I might be going into labour at swimming!!! Uber daggers plus low contractions painful low left where he was lying, and stabs and funny feelings in my vagina all at once which made me clamp my legs, wondered how I would know if my waters had gone, lol!

Since getting home and having a wee all settled but physically I am exhausted and there are definite BHs. I think its because I am just worn out after a day being busy with dd! Don't want a bed time fight... Might let her stay up til she's really tired...

Lauren here they don't do s&s until your over but will do it as soon as you are 40 weeks+. They even offered to come to my house and do it when I'm 40+1, but I had the heart to tell them that's Easter Sunday and nobody wants to be spending their Easter doing that... So I'm booked in to get it on the Tues at clinic. I hope it doesn't come to that

Right ladies my day has got worse and I need a big AIBU vent!
Had big shouting match with DH because FIL can't come this weekend to do bits for kitchen. I was sort of relieved as didn't want FIL staying and we also still don't have all the bits for the kitchen anyway so its not like it would get done and dusted. But FIL is arranging to come up Easter weekend and do it all, there's s lot needing done, and we should have final pieces by then....
DH is not understanding why this idea is not going down well. I will be 40 weeks plus if not I will have tiny baby. Yes ideally I would have wanted kitchen done ( that's why I ordered it in Dec ) but with newborn and establishing bfing do I want FIL and DH using his pat leave doing the kitchen which will be then out of bounds and a big noisy mess. Or no newborn but going into labour with FIL staying and that feeling I get that my house isn't my own.... I know partly I'm making it worse in my head than it might be but also just NO NO No.
My alternative suggestion is that the ILs come up TOGETHER after baby is here ( so I have support of mwmil) stay in a hotel and if there's bits FIL can do in the kitchen he can do it bit by bit maybe over a few visits.

What would you all do? How can I get DH to realise this hanging over me is stressing me the eff out!

Oh dear Moomin

It's a tough one. When will you have the rest of the bits for the kitchen?
I think them staying in a hotel when baby is here is a good idea. Surely they would understand, you need personal time as a family to get to know your new baby and establish feeding etc. Will the kitchen be out of use completely whilst it's being done? If so, just make sure everything you'll need baby-wise is out of there, and maybe put a small amount of money aside for any food/snacks you'll need to get from the shops to eat if you're not able to use any appliances. Just be prepared for that eventuality.
I had a similar experience when all that was going on with our boiler etc.
I'm not sure what else to suggest, as it will need doing at some point so it's up to you whether you want to be around 40 weeks pregnant and have the possibility of going into labour (would it matter massively if FiL was around when it happened?) or with new baby. Good luck!

Oh and in reply to the 'how do I get him to realise' I don't have the answer to that unfortunately! We still have the new washing machine sitting in the living room, and the old one that doesn't work still in the kitchen! We live in a first floor flat so of course he can't take the old one down by himself but no one is willing to help when we need them! Which actually pisses me off because we/he always jumps to help others.
We also have numerous baby things that need bringing over from my mums house that still aren't here, but my other half doesn't finish work 'till around 6pm so I feel bad nagging him. Instead, my stepdad is coming over this weekend to help whilst other half is away.
I've just succumbed to the fact that it may not be all perfect for when the baby comes, but we'll adapt, we'll have to.

No sorry kismac they don't, I had a stretch and sweep to try and get things going or to at least make my induction easier at 40 weeks and they make a note of the condition of the cervix in relation to that. And no it's not standard LondonLivvy, see above ours do it from 40 weeks, had 3 with ds2 though and still was induced 13days overdue.

I've had loads of discharge for most of my pregnancy Lauren82000 to the point I've worried I've wet myself on more than one occasion.

I don't think I'm any help MoominMama22 as I think I'd have him do it during Easter weekend so it's done BUT if you feel very strong about it then you need to talk to Dh calmly and lay down all your issues. I guess it depends on how your relationship with fil is but I probably would have been less inclined with my first than now.

RL - baby will be 3-4 mos old... I wanted to wait until she has had the first round of jabs before subjecting her to that long journey of recycled germ filled air!

smogs lucky you - I had to fast & drink gross glucose last time - this time it's fasting and then lucozade then 2 hrs wait for blood to be taken. Not as bad just more time consuming. That glucose liquid nearly made me gag at 20 weeks, didn't fancy doing that again so they suggested lucozade but I have to go in so they can measure it out for me lack of trust??

london - I understand hesitation about the journey!!! My only consolation is that this time it will be one way... we're headed to Auckland. Would love to go to the south island but the jobs are concentrated in Auckland. I may contact the sure start centre to see if they would want to see us a bit early - we'll be moving when ds is 25 mos - though I did just google the questionnaire and am not too concerned about anything so I may just leave it... we'll see.

Congratulations, Stuntnun, and welcome mini-Stunt!

37w today, so baby officially has made it to term :) My administrator told me not to spend too long at my desk and get back to the B&B to relax, bless her - 'you don't look your normal chirpy self', she said. The less than fabulous nights' sleep might be contributing to that... but it's nice to be cared for ;)

Am trying to tidy up the end of work before last day on Friday, and realising just how tricky it is to distinguish between 'things I want to have finished' and 'what actually needs to be finished'. Le sigh.

Underwood and london - the journey to NZ isn't that bad with a tiddler.

They just feed and sleep (make sure you have a soft sling as if there's a bit of turbulence they force you to take babies out of bassinets ). They can't really move about or express themselves or behave badly, be appallingly rude etc at such a young age!

The idea of taking DD now, at 3.5?! Not so much.

I'm another heading to NZ when baby is here - going in September so around 4-5 months old for the in laws to meet the baby. The flight may well be horrendous but I don't imagine it will get any better for many years to come so just going to have to grin and bear it!

Hmm just had a bad toilet episode. One off or rumblings of something?

Oh dear. I had couple of painful BHs and my response to DH when he told me to breathe through it and tried to rub my back was to shout at him. Im going to be a delight during labour. I had this illusion that I'd be nice and quiet but nope I'll be the one screaming and swearing. Damn.

Ooh Lauren. Maybe...I hate this, I keep getting excited over the smallest twinge.