April 2015 Thread 14: We've got the fanny daggers and the babies aren't keen on waiting till April!

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We’re in the home stretch ladies, we've had six babies, how many more threads can we manage before the last baby is here?

Best of luck, Nunkie!

Good luck Nunkie!

I had a catheter following a reaction to General anaesthetic a few years ago and it was fine, apart from the nurses on the ward having problems getting it in (apparently paediatric nurses aren't used to catheterising 5ft11 17 years olds and struggled with the 'dimensions') but no pain involved... wouldn't put me off having pain relief in labour!

Good luck Nunkie - hope all goes well.

Holly, baby is a good size at least and although not ideal at least you get to meet them soon. How many weeks are you now?

I love little people singing - the songs are really fun too. Supposedly my gran's favourite song ever was me as a toddler singing 'have you seen a little duck swimming in the water, mother, father, baby duck, grandmama and daughter'....I supposedly said grandmama in the cutest poshest voice! Look forward to teaching my little one that too

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Good Luck Nunkie. I had the drip with an epidural so I had the balloon catheter. Didnt feel anything and it didn't hurt 24hr later when they took it out.

Is this weird? I love my DD but I'm really sad for the loss of my old life. Her coming early means I didn't get everything done or enjoy much maternity leave. It was all such a shock and to be kept in hosp for a week..I feel a bit bitter and shell shocked. The cat is really upset by the baby and it sounds silly but I miss the cat and all our old routines. Anyone else had this before!

I sympathise Chicken I wouldn't swap her for the world but it's a massive change. I'm struggling with feeding still especially at night. I miss sleeping! Feel like I'm not enjoying her as much as I could be because I'm stressed about feeding her every time she is in my arms. Kinda feel like I'm delaying the inevitable with bottles as expressed milk in bottles is currently the only way through the night for me.
Anyway sorry I don't want to stress anyone else out! Very personal
Individual experience.
My cat is freaked too although she is at my mums at the moment. She ran a mile the other day when she heard dd crying!

Hi penguin and chicken, post birth hormones and lack of sleep make us all have those kind of thoughts so you're not alone I've another 4 weeksish to go but my hormones are meaning I can't sleep already and when I do I have horrendously vivid dreams/nightmares, and coupled with my furious hormones my relationship with my pfb is suffering - she seems to feel a change in the air, she's been waking up.constantly through the night squeeling noo good luck to those being induced today, my thoughts are with you...

Good luck nunkie both of my girls were here within 24 hours of induction starting, so you and bump could be having snuggles by breakfast tomorrow!!

Nunkie that's so exciting! How lovely that you get to meet your baby so soon.

Squatting I would call the midwife to be on the safe side - one of the things that's been stressed to me this whole pregnancy is that feeling like something's not quite right is one of the best reasons to call. Can you get a cab so your DP doesn't have to skip work? I'm sure it's nothing at all but you might feel better after talking to someone / getting checked, which in turn will mean you feel less stressed.

38 weeks today!!

Had weird dreams that baby was suddenly breach and I had to have a c section. Which given that baby is already engaged will hopefully not happen!

Also squatting I know my DP would rather have his time wasted and be certain that baby was ok than risk anything, so I'm sure your DP wouldn't mind taking you to hospital if you feel you need to go x

Good luck today Nunkie.

Chicken don't feel bad- I'm sure we will all feel a bit of this. If my dog struggles I will feel bad as she is an incredibly important part of our life- I don't want her to feel put out. Lucky she has lots of baby experience. Although she does like to kiss them especially if they cry.

Hope everyone has a good day today and gets some rest!

Aww Chicken and Penguin, it must be so difficult to adapt. You both are doing a fab job and i'm sure you'll get sorted soon and the cats will hopefully settle too once they are used to the interlopers!

Squatting - does your baby have a time of day it is usually most active? The midwife told me they do have quiet days and always best to get checked, but for your reassurance if your baby is quiet in a morning when it is usually lively give it right through until the afternoon to wake up then call. as the other ladies have said though, definitely best to get checked and give them a call

Good luck today Nunkie!

Squatting if it was me I would go in and get checked out. Better to reassure yourself and feel like you worried over nothing than miss anything.

Brixton I also weirdly had a c section dream last night - maybe after watching OBEM? It was awful! The surgery itself was fine but when they pulled the baby out he was just a head(!) and they dropped him on the floor so I had to jump up and pick him up before they would put me back together. After a few seconds he started breathing and turned into a proper baby, but he looked the spitting image of Warwick Davis.

penguin and chicken I don't think I propey bonded or truly fell in love with dd (which sounds v sad) until she was about 6 weeks old then the rush came suddenly one day in the garden and I cried. After that things felt much more "right".

Its a huge huge change and feeling overwhelmed tired and resentful is totally normal. But honestly, in the long run you wouldn't wish it differently. Cut yourselves some slack, everything you are feeling is totally normal. No one can really explain just how hard the first few weeks are, plus having to say goodbye to your " old life" to makes it even harder. Make sure you just keep talking and sharing to help you cope.

penguin she is doing great on your boob and EBM! A top up with EBM is by no means a fail, I absolutely think given she's so tiny you have both done amazingly well. She is getting better at latching, there is no rush at all to EBF without the bottle.

Uncomfy night, kept wondering if I would go into labour. Think I was stressing out about dh being away really though. Not ft baby move this am but will get up and see to dd (who is saying "Kaitlin loves mummy" in bed )and see what happens.

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Banana I didn't watch OBEM so no idea why I dreamt that! That's very funny though. How many days do you have left at work? Last I remember you were feeling a bit fed up still going in?

My task for the day is to finally get my arse into gear and measure the bay window in our bedroom to order a custom curtain pole. We still have no curtains and it's getting tiresome being woken up by the daylight at six every morning! New sofa is also being delivered this afternoon - we thought it would be prudent to get a sofa bed so that DP can sleep downstairs if needed when he goes back to work after paternity leave.

Good morning everyone

Starting to feel more comfortable in bed now, and seem to be getting more sleep in the morning! It seems to be since I've been using an extra pillow. One big one between my thighs (that doesn't sound right, does it ), 2 for my head, and one that sort of floats around in between the leg one and the others, that I seem to rest my arms on. I probably haven't explained that very well!

Good luck Nunkie!

Heyitsholly - wow, good luck to you too as well then! Enjoy the few days of maternity leave that you will have!

Wishing you a better positive day today Cinnamon (more tea! )

Thanks solstice (and everyone else that has commented about epidurals and catheters). I'm sure I'll feel very differently once I'm actually in labour!
Still no BH's here! Starting to wonder if I'll ever experience them?

Squatting how are the movements now?

Brixton I finish a week today and am definitely ready for it! SPD has hit me good and proper now so it hurts to walk and I ended up having to stand for a while on the commute home last night as I couldn't even get near the priority seats, which was far from comfortable! It doesn't help that I don't have a very big bump so people assume I'm less pregnant than I am. The sofa bed sounds like a good plan - I wish we had one but luckily DH finds the sofa really comfortable to sleep on so is always quite happy to sleep there if needed.

RL re Braxton hicks it might be that you're having them but not noticing - I think many women just don't feel them at all. I notice the odd one every now and then but far from every day. We still have a little while to go though so maybe things will ramp up over the coming weeks?

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Hope you've got started by now Nunkie. Frustrating if they are busy and you haven't had gel/drip done yet.

Squatting - like the others have said if it's not normal for you then just give them a quick ring. The fact that you have had some movement out of baby makes me think perhaps it's changed position and the movements are more subtle. But I'm not a professional so get it checked!!!

Chicken & Penguin - First of all I'll say your doing a great job, never doubt that! It's difficult enough with a newborn, but you've both had them come early which come with it's own challenges. Pat your self on the back for everyday you get through and soon enough they become your whole world and you wonder what you did before they came along.

It's handover day today one more step towards finishing on Friday. I'm so excited now about that. It's felt so far away that I've been pretty meh about it. BUt now it's nearly here I'm bouncing up and down inside. Got a bit of a half day tomorrow as I'm at the mw at 1.30 so I'm not going back and then as Friday is the last day before the Easter break we may get kicked out of the building early if all the students have gone. So another potential part last day. Yay! runs and gets party hat and tooter

RL it sounds like we have the exact same sleeping arrangement - I sleep with a pillow between my legs, one on each side of my bump, three under / around my head (I've started sleeping more propped up as it means I don't put my hands under my head which is terrible for my carpal tunnel) and an extra free floating pillow!

Squatting we needed to get a second sofa anyway so it made sense, we're also going to put a double bed in the guest room so he has lots of options. My DP has a chronic health condition so I really hope that he can manage to still get some sleep in the first few months. Maybe wishful thinking?!

Hooray Lauren! You're so close x

I envy you Lauren! Only a week and a day left but if I keep being spoken to like i'm some kind of idiot who doesn't know how to do the job i've been doing for the last 6 years I might scream. Good thing I think i'm off this afternoon to meet the NCT girls for cake!

Fingers crossed all is going well Nunkie.

My goodness we are harsh to ourselves as mummies! PenguinPoser and ChickenMe, you've both had early babies and spent longer than average in hospital and are still doing great!! Absolutely and totally normal to struggle with lack of sleep and missing your old life. I would say try to relax about feeding, I stressed for 8 weeks with ds1 and realised I had hardly no photos of him and I couldn't remember anything but feeding! Take some time for yourself even if oh takes the baby out for a walk and you sit for half an hour not thinking about feeding and have a cuppa watching crap tv. Have a shower every day no matter how much you feel you don't have time and let you oh do as much as he can. And mostly be kind to yourselves!

I won't tell you about my morning but I have cried A LOT at the MOT receptionist and am now very embarrassedly waiting for my car!