Calmly and regally gestating our beans in a land of obsessive ILs, placenta horticulture, sweary doctors and naked pancake cravings. It's the JS grads thread 23!

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 23rd grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 40th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread in postnatal clubs here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

The stats sheet is here

So, roll call below please, viroids!

Girls I totally get you on the DH/DP thing. Last year was my DPs 30th, in October, and I saved cash from February to get him an awesome (and totally wanted, plus expensive) special present. Kept the whole thing secret until the big day and even had a friend deliver it while we were out so it was there waiting for him when we got home. Pretty fab and he was super chuffed. It's my big 3-0 this year and I can't help but think that he won't be bothered to think of anything in any reasonable time frame, will start panicking with a week to go and then on the day just say I can choose something because he knows I "hate surprises" how convenient

I am envious of people whose men just go that little bit extra to make something special. Doesn't have to be expensive but I think they just don't realise how happy it would make most women to know that their hubby had actually THOUGHT about something and planned it to make it nice. Mine is lovely and he is sweet and loyal and I love him to bits. But he's not great with using his initiative on stuff like this. Of course I can point it out but then it's fucking defeating the purpose isn't it?!

popz I would have felt the same as you. It's not about spending the money and having an expensive ring, it's about him thinking "I'm going to go without on a few things gaming stuff etc because I'm so excited to see her face when I give her this." YANBU!

la stick to your guns, cameras are a family utility, not a present for you!

"If I were a booooooyyy"...

Indigo, get your request in now. If you know he won't sort something himself, you may as well request something and not be disappointed on your birthday.

I agree with wil .. After many years I have learnt that no matter how much I love my dh he just isn't a present buyer. I now slowly drip feed him in advance so he gets me something I will like and feels like the idea was all his own. I know I won't be getting a maternity ring (so going to call it that now!) As he just wouldn't even think of it, and to tell him would be ruining the point a bit for me. I am lucky though, I adore my engagement ring, it was less than £200 but I still love it and pointed it out to him numerous times when we were casually walking past the shop, bless him, he thinks it was all his own work

Darling cat has now brought in a bird (which is hiding in the airing cupboard) and then a mouse (now hiding under the sofa bed) after I shut the bathroom door to attempt to give the bird a chance. Can tell it's spring again...

Mine is so all or nothing - for my 30th he literally went nuts - bought me loads of amazing gifts and threw me an awesome surprise party. But I'm now 33 and that was the last great effort he made! Keep telling him that the brownie points from my 30th lasted only until my 31st! For my last birthday I got sweet FA. My fault though apparently because I didn't tell him what I wanted when he asked me. Once. About 3 days before my birthday. I want a surprise goddamit - I know he can do it! I do have a lovely engagement ring though which he picked himself so can't complain there. Already started dropping hints about eternity ring!

Oof Fleur that's not great. Booking is supposed to be about you giving her info about you, and her giving info about the service. You may well find bloods are to be done at the hospital - some MWs don't do them very well

La sorry you're feeling so blue. Only a few of my non baby friends stuck around once I was pregnant. Given, I wasn't good at nights out for months, nor could I do weekends away without significant prior planning, but I hope I would have made those allowances for them...maybe.

I have a lovely engagement ring, picked from a shortlist of acceptable designs DH coaxed out of me when I was drunk :) No maternity ring either, I have my great-grandma's engagement ring but DH gets tetchy when I wear it as it worth more than my engagement and wedding rings combined. I did get a lovely earring/necklace combo for my 30th, which apparently doubled as a post birth present. Curse those events being so close to each other! He now asks directly what I want. If I ask for 'a surprise', I get a trip away or a spa day or something.

I mentioned a push present to Mr tee and he pulled the face.I'm persevering though. I can't complain about my engagement ring, he did very very, well with it, all his own designing without very much input from me and not that I'm checking or it matters I know it took him several months to pay for it. The downside is that I don't realistically know when we'll get married, the wedding we had booked coincides with my due date, and was in the Caribbean. We were going to take a small loan to pay for it and basically have an amazing holiday with a wedding chucked in. There's no chance of that happening now, we just couldn't afford it, and we have agreed that's how we'd want to do it so we just wait until we can. I can see myself waiting another five years easily.
I've got a shit on with Mr Tee anyway today, he finished work early and this is the first week in ages he hasn't had any nights away, and he's swanned off to his mum's for the evening. Huff.

I might offer to go halves with him on it wil Haha

Was it definitely your booking app Lemon? Did she ask you loads of questions and give you your notes?

Ha ha! I love that we're all so girly and like our presents :)

Just had a big old moan on the phone to my mum and feel much better!

I've also just laughed - dm told me my dsil in USA (not the one who got engaged today) rang dm to ask for addresses for all my family (who she's never met). Apparently she's going to send them all her baby shower present list in the hope that people will buy stuff for their baby! My face went but you also kind of have to admire someone with that much cheek!

That's a good point lemon, your booking in appointment is meant to be very long and consist of full family history etc.

Definitely my booking Popz, I was given all of my notes by the surgery receptionist a week or so ago and was asked to fill most of them in prior to the appointment. No questions really, just going through what I had written, and even ignored some of the flags (family history of hypertension, DVT, mental health and diabetes - gosh, I'm a really genetic pinup)

La that is incredible!!!! Please send her MN's best regards and perhaps a badge that says 'Grabby Mommy to be' or something

Haha! That is some brass neck

That is odd Lemon. I guess different hospital trusts do things differently... My booking app took about 2 hours! I didn't see her again til 16 weeks though either. And had bloods done at the 12 week scan.

Thanks Popz, it's reassuring to know you had your bloods done at the scan...I'm hoping mine will be done then too. Feeling much better after eating lots of cakes and ranting to my sister

Pis have you popped yet? I'm hoping you're labouring now so as to cash in on the family sweepstake

I'm not holding my breathe on an eternity ring, I'd don't actually get my engagement ring in the end, my cheep cheerful £20 promise ring (that was meant to be a hand fastening ring, long story) somehow turned into my engagement ring despite up picking out a proper engagement ring at the time we got the promise ring, it's a very sore point, and it's cheep cheerful fitting scratched DD a few times when she was teeny, we were told there was nothing that could be done to fix it because it was a cheap crap ring so I stopped wearing it. Also fairly certain his family don't do eternity rings so short of my mum or gran passing me down their rings in their will (and it's far more likely that these would be stipulated to go to the girls rather than me) or me buying one myself I expect I'll never get an eternity ring!

DH was very sweet today, he phoned the house phone, them my mobile then sent me a fb message and didn't get a reply so he flew home from work in a panic 4 hours early thinking something was wrong, I hadn't picked up on my mobile because I was on the bus into the city and didn't hear it

Awww feel bad for the disappointed viroids today. Sending unmumsnetty hugs

I haven't mentioned an eternity ring other than when we got my wedding ring I will need one making to fit the other side of my engagement ring.

I am wondering what DH will do about my birthday next month. I want a safety chain for my pandora bracelet but that's all I've mentioned. I'll wait to,be asked

Oh and for those that didn't know, don't leave slow cooker on high for 12 hours, you'll come home to a stinky house and dried up burnt meat and veg! DH didn't notice or check when he came home 2 hours earlier and went out again. I should have given him instructions to look at it apparently cos he's not an adult

Oh dear pis! And here we all were thinking you were off pushing somewhere ;)

boo what a sweetie! you'll definitely deserve a new ring once you've pushed this baby out :)

Just got asked by mil what I thought of 'the news'. Apparently she got an email. Lucky her! I just said 'great! you must be thrilled' and left it at that. I'll have to bite my tongue when she's here at the weekend.

No Lemon DP has tomorrow. Sorry your appointment was disappointing. The first trimester is just a long series of waits. The second trimester starts out that way too.

at you engagement and wedding rings.... I seriously doubt DP would buy me an eternity ring - not least in case I mistake it for an engagement ring....

La that's unbelievable! Cheeky cah.

Aw Boo poor DH

I was worrying earlier that I'm not nesting. Then DS came home and asked what I'd been doing today and I reeled off a list that included dusting the sofa, hoovering my walking boots and sugar soaping the hallway walls. This is not normal behaviour for me I'm a lazy bitch Maybe I am nesting!

Did you do time travel then La

I'm hungry. Do I wait for Mr Tee to call to say he's on his way and demand KFC when he asks if I want anything, or do I eat the entire family size pork pie in the fridge to save myself the disappointment if he doesn't let me know when he leaves/I fall asleep...?

Silly question Tee

Do both!

I have taken affirmative action and asked him if he is coming home via KFC, to which he replied 'Haven't you had your tea already!?' Considering I could barely eat anything all day yesterday I don't think tea followed by kfc supper is totally unreasonable and I might not hate him as much if he produces a bucket of chicken

Basically everyone wins.

Haha Pis!! Sugar soaping anything definitely counts as nesting behaviour!!

I just demolished a maccyDs. I regularly sent DH home via KFC when pregnant. So much so he declared "the bloody car could drive itself there by now!" Cheeky barsteward. Enjoy your bucket Tee

tee go'an yerself and eat the KFC AND the pork pie!

I've got half a chocolate fudge cake (Nigella!) I made on Sunday still in the fridge. It's got 2 x 200g bars of chocolate, 2 pats of butter, half a bag of caster sugar and half a bag of icing sugar in it. I am about to cut myself a massive great big slab and shove it in my gob!

Speaking of shoving things in - I love that so many of you got my reference to jizz leaking last night. What's with the ridiculous amounts of CM, jizz, sweat and other bodily fluids in pregnancy!?!?! I have to shower every night before bed, I wake up in a pool of drool, my fanny sweats like an Eskimo in Scotland and I even get CM in the loo when I poo! Sorry for TMI but to be fair we're all waaaaay past that by now!

My dh also thinks I share too much on here.

tee I usually adore kfc but dp bought home a bucket o chicken the other day and it made me all queasy. Half of it is still in the fridge if you want it!
My lovely brother has worked for kfc for years so i have been treated to the greasy delights more than most.

When I had a cold over Christmas la I literally had mucus of some description leaking from every fucking orifice. I didn't know pg would be so, so SNOTTY. Considering how much I used to moan about not getting proper EWCM, I am getting it in spades now....just the boobs to go now, I'm sure they'll start pissing liquid shortly.
I think my KFC might be inbound. :) tbh it's the chips and gravy I've got the horn for at the moment, I'd happily scoff that alone, but it'd be rude to not have chicken too.
Just had an email from the place we ordered the travel system from to say we can now book delivery, which would be brilliant, if the frigging link worked from the email.
I actually salivated a little bit at those fudge cake ingredients...

Any of you lovely viriods north of northness looking out for the Northern lights tonight? Apparently they are highly visible tonight.