Calmly and regally gestating our beans in a land of obsessive ILs, placenta horticulture, sweary doctors and naked pancake cravings. It's the JS grads thread 23!

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 23rd grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 40th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread in postnatal clubs here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

The stats sheet is here

So, roll call below please, viroids!

lol @ natural prostaglandin injection pis :) fx you don't get a jizzy surprise halfway through the day!
Don't worry if you get put back gaggia! Tbh I'm if the opinion that he'll turn up in his terms, and wrt bump, mine was all other organs too I think, my proper bump was from about 18 weeks? We did week by week pictures (all in high fashion leggings, ala batman) and I remember thinking I was huuuuge. Looking back at them now I just look like I need a poo! (Probably did). But I get it, i got big quite fast and tiny tee is all out in front so I've had a few looks when I've been asked how far along I am and it's 'only' been xxxx weeks. He seems to have slowed down a bit now so we've plateaued (it feels).
Speaking of fun trousers, I've found a pair of skull and crossbones palazzos for £8 on amazon. Don't ask me why but I like how palazzos look on the upduffed woman, I just cant find any with elastic waists in the shops (in vile novelty prints everyone will hate but I adore) I will post a pic when they arrive. Gaaaaaar!

tee you're my kind of woman! I love a jazzy legging I do. I was robbed when printed leggings went out of fash. I couldn't find them in the shops anymore. But I agree that amazon is the place to be for a jazzy trouser.
I lived in my blue fairisle leggings a few winters ago. It was a sad day when the crotch split.

la I am sorry you are feeling lonely. I can't imagine how you feel as I live close to my family and friends.

But I have felt like hiding myself away too. I am meeting a really good friend tonight who I haven't seen for 10 weeks!!! We usually see each other every other week but I just want to be at home

Must force myself to go out more.

I like being at home too! I used to go over to my best friend every Friday night, but since falling pregnant I just want to be home.

Thanks for the nice messages everyone.

I too feel like being at home a lot, but equally I'd like the option to speak to people if I feel overwhelmed and that was what was missing yesterday.

I've just booked a newborn photo shoot for minila! I'm so excited even though it's miles away! It's one of the ones where they will take close-ups of his feet and hands compared with ours, as well as a few natural shots of the baby on his own curled up and some of us with him as a family. It's not cheesy, I'm not a big fan of cheesy photo shoots. Apologies if any of you have had one done! But my friend posted photos once of him and his new baby in such a shoot, he was bare chested holding naked baby giving adoring gaze. I couldn't stop laughing because he's a very ginger man and there was a lot of ginger chest hair on show! There was a lot of baby in flower pots and stuff which was a bit surreal.

I love patterned leggings but they would make me look like a big fat troll as I've got massive horse rider arse and thighs, so I don't wear them!

Ooh! That's exciting la! I quite like some of those arty black and white shots, but not so much with baby in miniature wheelbarrow etc. We've been toying with the shoot idea, Mr tee's best friend is partner at a very hip wedding photo company, so I think they'd think something cool for us, but I'm just not sure I'm going to want to feature in any of them post partum, at least while I'm preggers I've got an excuse for being massive with a big round Edam cheese face,
I don't even have an excuse for having a fat arse and thighs. bacon rolls and wine I just do. And irrespective of squats and Pilates they just bulk up even more. I wear long tops with all my leggings, and lots of black. Lots and lots of black.

Awww La I can see why you're feeling isolated. Hope today is improving. You'll be better when you do baby classes with the baby. Not sure if it's true that people in the South east aren't as friendly.

I had the jizz problem too.

Just booked Thai meal for Sat lunch as we've got a gift card to use. Menu looks lush and my mouth is watering

I've been a sensible girl today and put a stew in the slow cooker before heading out this morning. I'm only 2 hours from home so no overnight stays this week

Dh got over his bad mood when he got back home for a proper cup of tea!

Thai sounds great Purple although wouldn't be a good idea with the hideous arse rain I had at 5am.

I don't like cheesy photos either. We got studio ones done when MiniWil was 1 and they're not cheesy but I hate the white background. I'm going to save up to get natural outdoor ones done by this amazing photographer I know of. But will wait until babywil is walking as then they'll look better.

Well viroids, what a fucking waste of time. Just had my first ever midwife appt (was sooo excited) and basically just sat through 40 minutes of her going through the leaflets I had already received and not actually explaining anything, just repeating the printed sentences. She even walked in holding a fucking bounty pack.

I am 5+5 today and I don't see anyone next until my 12w scan, and then her after that @ 16w. It's too early to take bloods so they don't even bother. I don't know what I was expecting but I wasn't expecting this

I know I am a hormonal mess but the pregnancy twinges have all but gone, and I'm feeling really deflated after that. She didn't even say congratulations

I am most definitely not sat on my sofa clubbing and wallowing in self pity

Yum purple I love thai!

Just had complete unreasonable strop at Mr La. His dsis just announced her engagement on Facebook - she's pregnant and they are on their babymoon to the Caribbean (far cry from my weekend in bristol!). No phone call, text or private message - we get to find out about the engagement on Facebook, 2 hours after she posted it and after 100 people have already posted their congratulations. Firstly that really pisses me off, because when we got engaged we phoned her from Italy to let her know and made sure family knew first before putting on facebook. So I'm afraid I'm being petty and not posting 'congratulations' on the Facebook post after about 100 other people she barely knows.

Being as laid back as he is dh just doesn't care - says he doesn't see what the problem is.

So I was already annoyed and then looked at the photo and she has a lovely diamond engagement ring. I never got an engagement ring because we had no money when we got engaged and I told him he could use my step gran's ring until he could afford to buy one for me. We are now four years later and I still have no engagement ring. I wouldn't care if it wasn't expensive, I just wanted one of my own that he had chosen for me, rather than one that belonged to my (not very well liked) step gran.

Yes I know IABU as we are now married so what's the big deal and yes, I understand it's expensive and I should understand he doesn't have the money and be grateful just to have a lovely person to share my life with.

But every now and then I really do fucking mind that I never actually was bought an engagement ring!!!!!!! So I've just had a go at him about it and told him that it's shit that he never bought me one.

Was it fair? No. Do I feel bad? Yes. I am a horrible person :(

lemon I felt the same after my 8 week appointment - I really feel for you! You go in thinking it will make things 'official' and be all nice and happy and then it's business like and over really quickly and you don't feel like anything happened. Honestly the first trimester is a pile of poo, but it will get better! Unfortunately there's not a lot happening at the start. They should take bloods before 12 week scan though, as they need them to do the combined test. Does your leaflet say anything about that?

I think I should just go take myself away from people today so I don't upset anyone else. I'm a hormonal nightmare. There was me thinking last week I was all smug for not having done the crying or stropping thing and I seem to have started doing it the last two days and done it all at once.

La come and live with me and we'll be pregnant and unhappy together

no bloods until 12w scan. Cunts.

And FWIW from someone crying over a mediocre midwife, I would mind about the engagement ring!!!! (When miniLa is born he'll need to buy you a massive fuck-off eternity ring.)

Ugh, I'm having a home birth as well. I hope the midwives who attend are considerably nicer otherwise I'll be telling them to fuck off out of my house and doing it on my own. I wish wish wish this appt had been at the surgery and not at home because then maybe I wouldn't have cared as much.

I feel like a right miserable old twunt today! :D

I need to take a dose of man the fuck up, stop whinging and do the frigging presentation I'm giving tomorrow.

It wont stop me minding about the engagement ring but I might get some perspective and stop being a princess!

Oh and by the way - see when I have this baby, his sister's finding out from fucking Facebook!!! Ha!!!!

La when you say combined test, do you mean for Downs?

Yes - combined test of scan plus blood results

That is shitty La... did their parents find out via fb too!? YANBU. YABPreggers

I kinda get you on the engagement ring. DH made a big song and dance about saving up to get me a "really expensive" Christmas present... I had a feeling it was going to be an engagement ring. I was excited obvs, and he proposed and it was lovely. But tbh I never really loved the ring. And some time later found the receipt for it (accidentally). It was cheap, like barely 3 figures cheap. Its pathetic and tragic but I was massively upset. I basically spent more on his ordinary Christmas presents! It wasn't so much the money but I do so much for him. I fund 90% of his/ our lifestyle. It just hurt me that he couldn't actually genuinely save up for something for me. I never told him in any case. Likewise, he knew I'd quite have liked a maternity ring after DS was born / for my birthday shortly after. He "couldn't afford it" ... But he bought himself a load of gaming stuff the same week

Lemon They have to take the Downs bloods within a certain time period and you're too early unfortunately. Most people have them done on the same day as the nuchal scan. The other bloods would just be for viral serology, haemoglobin check etc and they'll probably just take those at the same time to save bleeding you unnecessarily.

Ah I'm not screening for Downs, wonder if that made a difference...

However I'm sure they need to know if I'm rhesus neg before that point so they can give me anti-d?

RPopz that was very strong of you never to have told him! I don't think I would have had the strength. Are you still angry about it?

maternity ring = eternity ring obvs!

I always felt too petty to ever mention it Lemon. And so much has happened since then it's kinda gone by the wayside.... I just don't think about it now.

popz that's rubbish of him :( no wonder you were upset. Have you told him?

My dh genuinely has no money, but he has plenty of money making ideas and then never actually does them, which I find very annoying!

I've hinted to dh that I'd like an eternity ring when baby comes but I've been told I'm getting a 'joint birthday and baby present'. I already know that for my birthday I'm getting the camera I said we needed to buy as we don't have a camera. Note - I said we 'needed' a camera, not that I WANT one. I don't really like cameras, but we don't have one and I thought we should probably get one in time to document baby. I sat him down the other day and told him in no uncertain terms that I don't consider this camera to be 'for me' and that I would prefer something else for my birthday please, however small it needs to be!

Lemon if you're o rhesus neg your anti-D won't be until 28 weeks (I'm O rhesus neg). Your blood tests need to check for more than just Downs - anaemia, hepatitis etc. as well as your blood type, so you will need to have them at some point. Have a look through your notes to see what they've said about the tests.

That's it though, La, they've said fuck all. Absolutely nothing. As the next time I see her is 16w I'm assuming it's then, unless someone does it at the dating scan. Either way if I never see that woman again it will be too soon. I am busy googling independent midwives and dreaming of being able to afford it.

It's so frustrating that care is so different across the country.

I had my booking in at 10 weeks and they took blood but not for downs testing. Just for STDs etc.

Blood test for downs came at the 12 week scan.

I fricking HATE FB announcements. No way should they come before telling family and friends personally.
My dad gets annoyed if I put stuff on there and he then finds out from my aunts etc. and I mean minor stuff about concerts/ meals out.

Your SIL is definitely in the wrong.

I really want an eternity ring. I feel quite short changed by my wedding band because I am a spoilt brat by the time we ordered them we were way over budget for our wedding.
DH got a solid platinum thing which cost five times my little 2mm band on the basis that I have my engagement ring. However, it just looks odd!! An eternity ring would balance it up nicely.
There is no way I will get one though I am sure of it. DH has come over all budget conscious recently and will see it as a frippery which is true, but I can dream

I'm two children in and still no eternity ring. However I stipulated that we would go engagement ring shopping together, which I'm so glad about. It's not a massive rock but I like it and know what it cost.

Popz you're going to have to buy yourself a ring. Can't believe he bought gaming stuff instead. Although MrWil would fritter away holiday funds on gym equipment then claim we were too poor to go away.