November 2015 - Turning BFPs into Babies!

[WinterBabyof89]

A thread for all ladies due in November!
Come & share your symptoms, lack of symptoms, pregnancy announcements and have a good chatter along the way!

Happy & healthy 9 months to us all

Stats: winter, 25, baby #3, EDD 01/11

so sorry kep thinking of you xx

Morning ladies, got a BFP on saturday so am very tentatively joining

Knitfastdiewarm, 27, baby #1, EDD 27/11

So sorry kep. I miscarried Sept 13 after 3 years of TTC, I was soon on another antenatal thread and my beautiful son was born August 2014. Thinking of you and hoping you'll be ok X

So sorry kep

High five to knit! Glad to have you here ::)

Oh Kep. Thinking of you and fingers crossed.

Knit! Hey bus buddy, congratulations!

Oh Kep, I'm so sorry. Take care of yourself.

kep - so.sorry to hear this. Take care

kep am so sorry, take care of yourself.

At what point do you tell work ?

I have been sick all evening from 6 pm to 11pm and then retching this morning so what 20 mins late in.. not sure anyone noticed but I feel shocking - just exhausted and dry lipped and not sure I can sprint to the loos unnoticed or fast enough.

Have packed small bin liner in my handbag ( no holes) in case of the tube /sickness mix.

Only 6+1!!

Told my mum yesterday at a posh Tea for mummy day... overjoyed and tearful! (me!) and she was too! Then tube home she was soooo protective of me I had to say... pg not disabled!!! She is also banned from breathing the news to anyone... as I want to keep it secret until 13 weeks... I swear I will never forgive her if she blabs.

toots If all goes well and I officially miss AF (was due tomorrow I think) I'll be telling work this week. I didn't tell them for ages last time but was being sick in the loos and it was hard making excuses! I'll only tell my manager no one else.

Lovely reaction from your mum :) my mum is rather straightforward and said "very good, early days" haha. She's a great support though, just not so much with the emotional gushing.

Kep i am so sorry i have my FX that you are seen soon at scan so can find out what is going on

. Ooooh - I feel the sick coming. Every day, I feel a bit worse.

I didnt tell work when pregnant with DS until I was 16 weeks. Im a lawyer (when not on back to back mat leave!) so used to sit in break out rooms if I felt rough and say I needed peace for drafting. I could then slip out more easily if I needed to pop to the loo or was in my own if I looked a bit green.

I'm a bit of a weirdo though in that I'm very private and I just don't want - howrver- well meant, people at work offering me sympathy if something went wrong so it felt right just to keep quiet until later and there was less risk of that. Separately, it was a sexist environment in that you could be a bit written off if it looked like you were going on mat leave. So I wanted to delay telling work until I knew that I was going to be involved in some projects and cases that I wanted to be and knew I could do well.

Not sure if this helps or not but just wanted to add in my experiences!

I want to delay telling work for as long as possible, so that if something goes wrong I don't have to deal with the sympathy etc. I'd rather deal with things privately should the worst happen.

Realistically though I'll tell them after my 12wk scan.

I left! Despite being an employment lawyer - the job was not going to be compatible with any kind of family life. Or not at least the type that I wanted - even with a nanny. Once the DC are bigger, I might go back to do some kind of free lancing

I do sympathise - I think the thing to keep in mind is - however nice your employer is - they would make nearly any employee redundant or otherwise manage them out if that best suited them - without really much of a second thought. I saw that every day at work with clients. So, although it is awkward, you're doing what is the right thing for you and your family. Keep chanting that internally whilst you tell them with a fixed grin

And, to be honest, before I had DC, I actually found it easier when colleagues had close mat leaves rather than going off for a year, back for 2 years off again for a year. I think its really unfair when employers take the view that close mat leaves cause more disruption - they normally don't with colleagues. It's just the perception of management

I had back to back maternity leaves, I didn't go back after the second and now im a sahm. I worked in a gym as a fitness instructor and personal trainer so not too high pressure. and they were fine with the maternity leaves and supportive had I chosen to go back.

I'm also feeling worse by the day. and a really strong ache all around my middle. In my back and sides and sore lower stomach, especially when the kids jump on / elbow / kick me! didn't expect to be so sensitive so early!

Thinking of you kep. Lots of love.

toots I have been as sick as a dog. Much the same as last pg, which went on till 20 weeks. Went to the docs on Thursday and was given Cyclizine. Felt a little better on Friday morning so managed to make it to MIL's funeral but as bad as ever by the afternoon: back to vomiting 8-10 times a day, with CONSTANT nausea, loads of bitter saliva, dry heaving after sips of water. Just horrid. Went back to the doc yesterday morning, blubbed all over the place and he has prescribed Metoclopromide to be taken at the same time as the Cyclizine. And I'm thrilled to say it feels much more manageable today. Still nauseous but low level. Fingers crossed. Just about to pop out for some soup, and actually feel like I might keep it down.

I did lose 2 kgs over the weekend though. Every cloud...

I did my research before taking either medication and am lucky to have a GP who isn't an idiot. I just couldn't face another 13 weeks of it. And frankly, there's no need for it. I have read that the sooner you start treatment the better the outcome.

I hope you feel better soon.

crumbelina excellent news on the scan! Another milestone ticked off!

Hello all. After a pretty uneventful weekend, I came to work this morning and more bleeding. It was very similar to what happened on Friday when I went straight to EPU but today I called them rather than going in, and they said to only go back if it got really heavy. It seems to have stopped now (a bit like it did on Friday) so I'm just at work trying to not think about it.

It's just so scary because it's bright red when it happens, which doesnt feel like a good thing? I'm wondering if it's a coincidence that I had a weekend of resting and then as soon as I do the journey to work (15 min walk, 30 min tube journey with a change etc) it starts again. Anyone else had this type of bleeding that starts then stops quite abruptly?

Hope everyone else is ok, sorry to hear about your sickness Toots. I'm feeling vey sick pretty much all the time, but it hasnt manifested into actual throwing up... yet.

Sorry for your loss kep.
I haven't given any thought to work yet, I'm due back this November and I'm not sure how it will be received. It's a very male dominated place and I had plenty of comments last time about my impending year off!

And plenty of remarks about my time off with hg, uncaring sods!