Well crap in a Jiffy bag - It's the 22nd JS Grads thread!

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Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 22nd grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 39th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread in postnatal clubs here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

So, roll call below please, viroids!

Hi everyone!

stoat I'm so sorry good luck for tomorrow. My dh said something when I mc which stuck with me - he said it was part of the journey. I thought that was probably the only positive way id heard to look at it. I then conceived in the wtf cycle. I do hope that this is a blip in your journey too, gx for tomorrow xx

Lil I was told to use pads to monitor how much was coming out and check for any clots or anything else :(. Can you perhaps check with clinic? Once it settled down though I could have used tampon. I chose not to though because I was a bit sore from the many examinations I'd had. Thinking of you xx

Dulcet good luck today let us know how you get on

Wil how are you feeling?

Have a lovely time tonight Lauren!

lala my sister says the same. I have to hope and believe one day I'll be a mummy. I'm sorry you went through it too, I wouldn't wish it on anyone.

Sorry to hear that lil. I was told not to use tampons because of the risk of infection, so I stuck to pads during that time. It is awful, so sorry it's happening to you xx

its slowed almost to a stop now so hoping I'll be "lucky" and it won't last longer than a normal period. I'll stick to the pads then. not so gross anyway now it's eased off!

Sorry lil it is so horrible using pads. I felt like it was another horrible indignity on top of everything else. As the others have said it is mainly an infection thing and as bigger clots would 'back up' with tampons (sorry). However you should be able to once everything has slowed or switch to liners which are much more comfortable xx

I found using pads the worst part of the physical side. It was a reminder every time I went to the loo.

Hope you're done soon Lil and that yours doesn't take too long Stoaty
My friend is currently going through it too and I don't think she can face me - I wouldn't have been able to if it were me

Glad to hear things are progressing lil so you can get back on track with things. Must be nothing worse than knowing the inevitable has to happen and waiting around for it. Hope you went out today and bought a Prada handbag or something!

its starting up again, cramps are back. just gotta ride it out now I guess. no Prada handbags indigo but I'm looking at a memory type necklace, just posted link on grads. cried when I found one I liked! thanks for all your support everyone, it means so much xx

That's a nice idea Lil. I've been thinking I'd like some jewellery with the girls' birth dates on it and maybe an extra something for the little bean I lost.

I think my bleeding lasted about two weeks in all. It can be a bit stop/start.

I'm good thanks La. Hoping for a wee hour on the couch just now.

thanks wil. that site has some lovely stuff on. there's one with two stones and an angel wing. you could have the stones as the girls birthstones and the wing for your angel maybe.

It's a lovely idea lil. I planted a little forget me not on the miscarriage association website and I am going to get something to remind me of my squishy bean.

Try to get as much rest as you can - it is both physically and mentally exhausting. Hope mr lil is looking after you x

I planted a forget me not on the ma website. I also planted a hibiscus in the front garden to remember it by.

Hope you're ok Lil

So sorry for you both stoat and lil, terrible news, don't loose hope.

It has taken DH and I 2 days, but we have managed to swap rooms down stairs, paint front room and changed it into playroom. Only need to tidy and re-jiggle the middle room, put up comp desk(DH has designed and built it himself and has taken ages), take tumble dryer out to garrage, put books back on shelves ( they are piled on DS's bed) and finish before driving 2 1/2 hours tomorrow afternoon to fetch DCs who have been with grandma (we are meeting her half way). And DH has gone to play footbal tonight. (I wanted him to go, he doesn't get out much these days)
I am shattered.

So sorry to hear what you are going through, lil and stoaty.
hopefully, you will be back with the grads permanently again soon.

had my 12 week scan yesterday and combined booking appointment. Apparently, it is true and i am pregnant, rather than just a fat hypochondriac. And much to dh's relief, there's only one in there! Waiting for the results of the downs test now and hoping that it'll be low risk, despite me being 37.

Evening all!

I would stick to pads lil, just because of the potential clots and the stop/start nature of it. You don't know how it will go. In case it helps, mine both lasted about the same time as a period. Maybe one or two days longer but not too long. The memory ideas sound lovely - hope you find something you like.

Glad you got good news deeply. Those results take an annoying amount of time to come through!

Yay for completed DIY cym!

Posted a photo on the Facebook page but all ok with the scan today. Didn't realise you could see so much - looking at the heart especially. That's inside a person, inside me! So weird! Successfully avoided the sex so on course for a surprise. So relieved and was a lovely day overall actually. Looked at prams - have a lot to learn!

Haven't been keeping up very well on the freds but I guess from the nature of your questions that this was not your sticky bean Lil I'm so sorry. Hope the bleeding/pain is over soon. Take care xx

Very productive day at the baby show.... Didn't intend to buy quite as much as we did, but there were deffo bargains to be had! Picked up a Snuzpod on the toys r us stand with 20% off so got the frame and mattress for £160. Picked up the cossatto travel system, they were chucking in the car seat for free, so two biggest purchases were (I think) a bit of a steal. Also picked up some other cool bits, poddle pod, snuggle bundle, SiL bought a cool 'manly' changing Bag for Mr tee and a rocker chair thing, plus numerous bibs, etc.
Really pleased I went in with a plan tho, there is SO much there it would be very easy to be overwhelmed (I am shit at shopping) and we got there really early so it wasn't too chaotic.
I feel officially broken now though! I found a stand selling 5ft pillows for £15 so I am clinging on to it and sipping a small wine with a hot water bottle, saving the painkillers for before bed. All in, definitely worth it. We had a bit of 'holy shit this is really happening' when I got back and we unloaded the car. 25 weeks today, how the fuck has that even happened?!

Great news dulce and deeply!

Hugs for both lil and stoat. My bum is big enough to keep your seats warm! X

Wow tee sounds like some great bargains were had!

So a question - how do I male hubby realise that growing a baby is pretty hard work? I've been feeling mostly absolutely normal but get the odd bit of knackeredness and tonight felt a bit bleurgh right before 30 people were about to arrive at our house for a full on party. My problem is that I don't want to come across like I'm pathetic and milking the situation - but when I have said I'm tired he just says oh yeah me too, when I said I felt a bit sick he said oh weird but yeah me too I think we ate too much at lunch and when I said I was tired he asked why I was tired as we got a lie in this morning. I've made a couple of jokes about the baby wanting pizza, not wanting to do xyz.....so feel like if I say I'm tired because I'm growing a baby he will be like oh yeah that again. Just want him to realise that I am not going to feel totally normal for a while without me having to actually say it like I'm making a big drama! Or am I doing that girl thing where we expect them to know what we are thinking and feeling when they couldn't possibly. .....

Reading through everyone's messages of support for Iil and stoat it really hit home to me how many of viroids have had a set back in our journeys to be mums. I never realised before joining MN how common it is, it's so sad that so many couples have to go through it. It's positive to see how many go on to have successful pregnancies, fx this is you next lil and stoat xx

Tee - wow! Great snuzpod result! Sounds like it was worth going!

Cym well done on your successful DIY day! We did the garden last week , put in raised beds and got it ready for planting. It's so satisfying getting jobs ticked off.

Dulcet I saw your pic :) that's amazing news! Mine is on Thursday

We took mum to Brighton today just for fun, weather was shite. Visited my friend from work who had said to come and help ourselves to her baby stuff she doesn't need anymore. I've got a maxi cosi car seat, baby bath and support, change bag, maternity clothes, baby sleeping bags, baby clothes, a tens machine, bottles, a mobile, sling and a brand new baby bjorn carrier in box. She wouldn't take any money for any of it! So so kind. Car seat is compatible with our travel system.

Mum is going to buy us the snuzpod hooray!

So tired. Sleep

Great news deeply! Lovely to know it's not imaginary

Bat you could buy him a book? Mine has the expectant dad's survival guide. It helps him understand.

Bat I can't believe you managed to host 30 people, no wonder you're knackered!
Make a drama. Definitely. If he complains, say something like 'haven't your heard of morning sickness' and refer to Kate Middleton, and how you are doing soooooo much better than her

I've found tiredness/spaced out/empty stomach nausea has just kicked in this week, at 8 weeks. And DP has known about it (and to be fair to him, has been mostly very sweet)

Thankyou again. I never realised how common it was. I posted a picture of a candle I lit for my baby on Facebook and everyone gathered it's meaning, I had so many PMs from people who've been through it and I never knew. People I haven't spoken to in months or years. I'll post in the group if that's ok.

Glad the scans went well dulcet and deeply

tee glad you survived your day at the baby show - well, sounds like you did more than survive, nice work!

La I'm always amazed too, and now I've reached the age in RL where lots of my friends are trying/having babies there are definitely more couples who have been through losses or fertility issues than those that haven't. It's still such a taboo topic though.
My mum had 4 of us, and as far as I know she didn't have any issues. So you just assume that's the norm. She certainly realises now how lucky she was (if she didn't already before).

Yes, do post the pic Stoat, that's lovely.