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JSing Grads turn 21! We've got the Key to the door, cosy wombles and a drawer of dirty spoons.

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teejayem · 04/02/2015 09:31

Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 21st grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 38th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread in postnatal clubs here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates! It's a bit quiet at the moment, but with all these upduffed viroids hopefully it won't be for long!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

So, roll call below please, viroids!

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mountaingirl01 · 11/02/2015 14:22

Sorry for confusion viroids my scan is actually tomorrow...anxiety just setting in early!
stoaty I'm sorry :( but growth surely a good thing? Are they doing bloods yet?!!

Stoatystoat · 11/02/2015 14:22

Definitely not, we had a run of ill health post sexy week, colds, bad back etc. then got BFP and not long after that the bleeding started so we actually haven't been able to have penetrative sex since the window.

Stoatystoat · 11/02/2015 14:23

Still no bloods. They must think it's over.

cookielove · 11/02/2015 14:29

stoat so sorry to hear this! I hope you get an answer soon!

purple based on when dh and I had sex ds should be a girl :)

gaggiagirl · 11/02/2015 14:31

Oh stoat bet you feel in total limbo. Did they say anything positive?

Stoatystoat · 11/02/2015 14:35

Just that there had been growth since last week. I feel absolutely terrible, limbo is exactly it. Not ready to admit it's over and go to the miscarriage threads, not optimistic enough to participate in my conversations elsewhere. I'm now going to have to tell work because of this ongoing appointment business, not that that's important. I just don't know what to do with myself. So I'm laid in bed doing nothing.

DulcetMoans · 11/02/2015 14:45

Oh stoat, I am so sorry. I really don't know why they wouldn't offer you a blood test - you would have a better idea by the end of the week then instead. Do you feel you could go to GP and demand it? Take your sister? Telling work is hard but I found, once I had told my boss, it was easier simply because it was one less thing to think about. I could just go to the appointments and EPU and get it sorted without worrying what to tell work. Relies on having someone supportive though, what are your employers like?

gaggiagirl · 11/02/2015 14:45

stoat stay in bed. Do whatever you need to do. I think its awful you will have this hanging over you for another week. Is there anyone with you? Were all here anyway.
The miscarriage boards were very good to me. Very understanding. You could post on there to see what other peoples experiences of this are.

cookielove · 11/02/2015 14:55

stoat can you ask your Dr for a blood test?

Stoatystoat · 11/02/2015 14:56

I don't think I can face the GP, I don't want prodding around, medical attention etc etc. I've just had enough. I had to brave dildocam today as well, it was difficult, but I managed.

DH is with me, not saying much. He's good but at the same time, I don't think he really gets it and it's abundantly clear this is happening to ME and not him. He's looking after me, but seems bewildered.

My boss is lovely but my employment situation and this kind of thing is strange. I work at a Uni doing research. When it's quiet, I can be at home much as I like, but when I am collecting data, I'm interviewing people. And a busy phase is due to start next week. I also have the complication of being on a fixed term contract and the project has to pay for my salary but can't afford maternity cover on top of that and the project has to be delivered. so while she is nice, this would be a big problem for my boss. None of this is my problem I know but that's the grim reality. This baby was as well timed as was going to be as well, again not important in the scheme of things, but at no other time during this contract do I have a window where there is time for maternity leave and a job to return to. At the same time, the last few weeks and today have put me off TTC again if that's how it goes. I'm worried about so much.

Indigoblue2 · 11/02/2015 15:04

Oh stoat this is an entirely shit situation for you. I can't begin to understand how difficult being in limbo like that must be. You just want to know one way or another. I used to think TTC was stressful but when you actually get pregnant the stress levels are in a different league. I suppose there is definitely hope as there is some growth there and that's a positive, but like you say you don't want to engage too much and get your hopes up to have them dashed Hmm I really feel for you. I was so hoping for a positive result today but now just more waiting for you. You need to take it easy and spoil yourself a bit, even if you don't feel like it. Things will get easier. ((Hugs))

Purplecircle · 11/02/2015 15:05

Oh stoaty I don't know what to suggest other than a hug. I'm keeping everything crossed for you

Cookie I am placing no emphasis on it being a girl and we're not going to find out

LaLaLaaaa · 11/02/2015 15:19

Stoat I'm so sorry :(

Stay in bed, rest, keep comfortable.

I didn't want to say before, because I didn't want to worry you and there was every chance that your situation would turn out to be different to mine (which I'm still hoping it will). But if it will help at all then I want you to know that I know how you are feeling, as in limbo, as a similar thing happened to me.

I Had scan at 6.5 weeks and I had a sac but no yolk or hb. I was devastated but they said it could just be too early, meanwhile they sent me to hospital because there was something in Fallopian tube that could be ectopic. I then had bloods and was told bloods showed a pregnancy but they didn't know where baby was. I was sent home and Had to come for scan 2 days later, Fallopian tube was clear and sac was there but not as large as it should have been. So i felt there was at least some hope because there was a sac. I was sent away again, brought back 2 days later for bloods and physical exam - I had meanwhile stated bleeding and cramping. Cervix was closed but bloods showed hcg hadn't increased as much as it should have done. They didn't tell me that though, so I was still in limbo as to whether I was having a baby or not nearly a week after the first scan.

2 days later I went back for a re scan and sac had started to break up, so it was confirmed as not viable. At that point I was told hcg hadnt increased enough so pg wasn't viable and that it should have been told that.

I was then sent home to wait and see if mc happened naturally, which it did. I know how much you must feel in limbo and the roller coaster of emotions you must be experiencing. I went from desperately searching for positive stories on google one minute, to wanting it just to be over the next.

We are here for you and will keep you company whatever happens. gaggia is right that the mc boards are very supportive also if you want to talk to others.

Sending you a massive hug. Stay in bed, rest and look after yourself xxx

LaLaLaaaa · 11/02/2015 15:22

That was meant to be a supportive post, not a negative one. I'm crossing everything for a positive outcome for you xxx

willywallace · 11/02/2015 15:57

It wasn't negative La, don't worry.

So sorry you're going through this Stoat. It's shit and unfair. Let DH look after you and don't feel like you can't talk here as so many of us have been through difficult times like these. Hope you're ok.Thanks

ZylaB · 11/02/2015 15:59

stoat big hugs. We're all here for you x

lildottie · 11/02/2015 16:01

oh stoat I really feel for you. habing to sit around waiting even more just makes it all the worse. I really hope things get back onto a positive footing for you. I definitely agree you should push for bloods. at least that may give you some better idea and if it is bad give you a chance to come to terms with it rather than the not knowing.
I think its difficult for the men to understand anything pregnancy related so as long as he's looking after you that's as much as you can hope for I think. I'm hoping and praying for you Thanks

PiS I try and avoid tax credits as much as possible, they are a nightmare! have you used the online calculator? biggest problem is you can't trust what they say on the advice line because they just go back on it! you need to consider dhs income too (although I appreciate your unusual situation may mean you don't) so may not be under limit anyway?

LaLaLaaaa · 11/02/2015 16:06

I also agree you should push for bloods to find out what's going on with your hcg.

Also in case it helps the miscarriage association have a leaflet aimed at partners. It helps them to understand the emotions their partner is experiencing. I think the guys find it hard to understand because often it's so early that they've not connected with the baby, whereas the pregnant lady generally connects from the start. It helped my dh understand how I was feeling a bit

Cymraes17 · 11/02/2015 16:55

Oh stoat. I feel so bad for you, not knowing. Hope you have a positive outcome, take each day as they come.

Belated congratulations zyla, she looks good enough to eat in the photos. (I am not a canibal, please excuse the phrase)

Fantastic news lil we may have a set of twins on the way?!

Toast85 · 11/02/2015 16:56

Stoat, really feel for you going through all of this. I can only imagine how hard it must be to keep waiting and not know.

Stoatystoat · 11/02/2015 16:58

Thankyou for sharing that. I'm really not up to anymore pushing for things with hcp's so will just have to hang on for next week. I haven't much faith in the system tbh, I've never felt more vulnerable and I can't fight for anything. I've just been looking at the miscarriage stuff but it feels too soon, feels like I'm giving up on my very small but still there, baby.

Anyway, I do appreciate your support but will try and keep the whinging elsewhere, this is a happy fred. Come on, who's got fiery tits and cravings? As you were.

LaLaLaaaa · 11/02/2015 17:43

That's understandable stoat, do whatever you feel is right for you. Please feel you can talk here, so many of us have been through the mill ttc.

But we will also understand if you'd rather take yourself away.

We are here when you need us xx

Fattycow · 11/02/2015 18:05

stoat, I'm sorry to hear you are in limbo... Sad

I'm almost scared to post that my scan was great. Baby is measuring perfectly, all organs are there, back and skull are closed and s/he just looked so lovely...

LaLaLaaaa · 11/02/2015 18:28

Fatty that's great news :)

You too towns - I missed your post earlier, sorry. Must be a relief Smile

Pisghetti · 11/02/2015 18:53

Sorry to hear you're still in limbo Stoat I don't have any practical advice just look after yourself.

Good news fatty and toast

Lil they define partner explicitly in terms of cohabitation. He's impossibly complicated as he both is and isn't self employed. The online calculator says yes but eligibility isn't clear. Ah well I'll give them a call next week and again when the drop happens and see what they say. Don't ask don't get!

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