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Cori, Wuzzle, HopingCat, NatalieJane, Lucy5, Jabberwocky, Laughalot, Peachygirl, Piffle, DollyP, Twinkle183, Juicylucy, Trace2 and any others who got a BFP from the TTC boards.

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NatalieJane · 20/10/2006 10:53

Phew, that was a loooooong title!! Should get peoples attention though.

C'mon ladies, how is everyone? You can't hide now.

Coriander73 - DD aged 22.5 months - due 15th September (although there are mutterings now about the 9th!) - Age 33 DH 33.
Wuzzlefraggle - first baby - due Oct 24th - having a girl - Age 20 DP 28.
HopingCat - first baby - due 6th Nov - having a baby! - Age 27 DH 27
Natalie Jane - DS aged 4 - due 25th November - having a boy (called George) - Age 23 DH 36.
Lucy5 - dd aged 5 - due December 8th - don't know sex yet - Age 35 DH 40
Jabberwocky - ds aged 2.11 - due December 15th - another boy! - Age 41 DH 57
Laughalot - ds aged 2 - Due 10th Jan - will know sex in August
Peachygirl - due 19th feb
Piffle - ds age 12, dd age 3 - due 23rd March - Age 35 DP 36
DollyP - dd aged 15 months - due 26th March - Age 36 DH 38
Twinkle183 - due April 07
Juicylucy - No kiddies. Due 29th May - Me 39/DH 45

Trace you will have to add your stats when you feel ready to

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wuzzlefraggle · 24/10/2006 13:33

yeah, im still using the gym ball...its excellent for taking the strain off the bottom of my back.

i didnt realise that the birthing pools were that expensive! i think the midwife can bring gas and air to a home birth, cant she?

Hey, i just thought...another up side to home birth...you wont have to faff about with a labour bag!

NatalieJane · 24/10/2006 13:41

Yes the midwife will carry gas and air, but I had a really bad time with it, I have got DH to promise me that if I try it and I go doolally like I did last time, that he is to take it off me (even if I try to scratch his eyes out whilst he is prising it off me!! ;))

You can also have Pethidine at home, but there is no way I am going down that route again either! My only options are just relaxation things (which I know sod all about) and water really, TENS would just get on my nerves. I don't really want to actually give birth in the pool, but I am a bit of a wallower in the bath, and find it very relaxing and helps aches and pains generally so I think it would go some way to doing something for labour, like I said though £300+ is a hell of a lot of money.

And I am still going to pack a small bag with just essentials in it, just incase we needed to transfer to the hospital or anything.

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wuzzlefraggle · 24/10/2006 13:45

in that case then just wallow around in the bath when u feel like it. why did you have a bad time with gas and air? is it right that pethadine can affect the babys heart rate?

will your mum be coming to yours for a while when the babys born?

lucy5 · 24/10/2006 13:51

I loved gas and air and am peed off that they don't have it in Spain!

wuzzlefraggle · 24/10/2006 13:56

why dont they have it in spain lucy??

how are u by the way and hows pregnancy going?

NatalieJane · 24/10/2006 13:58

There are problems using the bath, firstly it is right next to DS's room, so if it is night time and he has managed to stay asleep, I would risk waking him, also, the bath isn't deep enough to cover my belly, so I wouldn't get the effect of it anyway. And the midwife needs to have enough room to get the dopler thing on me and to check everything else, I don't think the bath would give enough room for all of that.

The pethidine and G&A just made me completely out of it. I had the pethidine and I don't remember anything else accept the pain and the lack of control of anything I was doing, I know I can't control the contractions, but I was screaming with every contraction, and then thinking why am I screaming? It isn't that bad, but I just couldn't get out of the almost rythmatic screaming fits!! I hated it, the G&A, I am not sure exactly what that did, but when I put the mask down so I could start pushing, everything just seemed so much clearer and I remember it all. I know most people would rather forget, but I hate not knowing what I said, what I did, I don't know how or when my waters went, I don't remember asking for or having an epidural, I don't remember the afterbirth, which must mean I don't remember some of the first minutes of DS's life. I just don't want to find myself in the same situation after this birth.

And on top of that the pethidine made DS really dopey and limp when he was born, I'd spent the last nine months watching the births on Discovery, all the babies came out wailing and pink, and he was just silent and didn't move, and it scared the shit out of us both! It was only when they put him on the cold scales about an hour after he was born that he started crying! I don't know if it effects the heart rate or anything, but I am not risking it again!

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lucy5 · 24/10/2006 14:04

They think g and a is old fashioned apparently! I could have pethidine but I think I'll stick to epidural if I need it.

This has been a horrible pregnancy and I can't wait for it to be over, blood pressure problems.

Natalie you sound far more sure of what you want this time and determined to be in control, good on you!

wuzzlefraggle · 24/10/2006 14:08

sorry that you've had a hard time of it Lucy how many weeks have you got left?

nat, i second what lucy said. good on you for wanting to have 100% controll over the situation. it must have been a scary experience 1st time round, not knowing what the hell you were doing or what was going on

NatalieJane · 24/10/2006 14:09

Lucy, it is only because of my MIL! If I had my way I would stay at home for as long as I can, then go to the hospital insist on an epidural (that would hopefully work this time!) and sleep for the rest of it! LOL But, because I have no choice but to stay at home so DS is OK, I have to be strong minded, like I said if I don't have the choice, then the midwife doesn't really have a choice!

Wuzz, forgot to say, I don't know what will happen after the birth with my mum, I doubt very much she will stay up here. It all depends on my sister who I don't get on with very well, and who would love the chance to wind me up! God, we have such lovely helpful families!! LOL

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NatalieJane · 24/10/2006 14:12

Wuzz, at the time I was too far out of it to care much really, but since then, and especially even more so since this birth has been getting closer and closer, I know I don't want to go through what happened last time. I know people have much worse experiences than me, and things go wrong and I should be grateful that it was straight forward, I am grateful that it was all fine, but I just want a better experience of it this time.

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lucy5 · 24/10/2006 14:12

Oh NJ, it shouldn't be so stressful! I don't know what to suggest.

I have about 6 weeks to go and I am hoping that this one will be 2 weeks early like dd.

NatalieJane · 24/10/2006 14:17

Well, I think it is the stress and worry over what to do with DS, and over the thought of a labour with no pain relief that is making this irritable uterus thing worse, the consultant said to rest with my feet up as much as poss, and to not stress about anything, it is quite hard not to though! I am normally quite good at putting things out of my mind, but I know that I have to get myself ready mentally for the home birth, so I can't not think about it IYSWIM? And of course the more I think about it, the stronger the contractions get, which makes me worry all the more that it will start the labour off too early for health reasons, and too early for the home birth, which I need to be able to do for DS's sake.... catch 22!! And all because of DH's bloody mother!!!

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wuzzlefraggle · 24/10/2006 16:51

sorry about buggering off...i got caught up in washing and cleaning lol. i didnt realise how long id been

nat - you've got so much on your mind lately. im sure that everything will work out ok in the end tho. and as you know...you've got all us girlies on here to rant to xox

NatalieJane · 24/10/2006 16:56

It's OK, I have only just got back myself, DS wanted me to put him a film on so I got up and put it on, sat down with him for a cuddle and fell asleep!

I have tried ringing my mum, no answer

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wuzzlefraggle · 24/10/2006 17:01

you must have needed the nap then

what time will your mum have got home? can u check on tele txt to see if there has been any plane delays? maybe shes snoozing too

NatalieJane · 24/10/2006 17:07

They were due to get back to the train station around 7-ish this morning so I haven't rang all day thinking they would be sleeping, but still no answer now, I hope they didn't have a delay on top of everything else, it sounds like they have had a really shitty time, with the weather (hurricanes!) and hotels not being up to much, and it sounds like her foster son got into some (more) trouble, hopefully my lazy arse of a sister might have used one of her few brain cells and has had them all for dinner or something to take the load off mum - probably wishful thinking though!

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wuzzlefraggle · 24/10/2006 17:14

i hope that alls ok. its horrible not knowing whats going on and where someone is..specialy when you're dying to talk to them isnt it?

maybe try her again at about 8 or something, or ring your sisters?

NatalieJane · 24/10/2006 17:19

I wanted to talk to her before DH got home really, so I could moan all I like about MIL! LOL

I have four sisters, two are with my mum, one who lives in the same town as my mum (the afore mentioned lazy-arse one!!) We don't get along very well, if I thought something was wrong I would ring her, but we aren't really on 'I'm just ringing for a chat' sort of terms IYSWIM? My other sister is the one that keeps ringing and texting, we are like best friends, even if she is annoying the hell out of me! She would have said if she knew anything by now.

I will ring later just to check they do get home, but my whinge will have to wait till tomorrow!! LOL

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wuzzlefraggle · 24/10/2006 17:25

lol, dh doesnt like it when you rant about his mil does he?

in a wierd way (obviously i wouldnt deliberatly wish having family problems on anyone) its nice to know that im not the only one thats got a complicated and awkward family life situation iyswim. i really hope that reads the way i wanted it to sound and not twatty

NatalieJane · 24/10/2006 17:33

LOL No, it's not twatty, we have all sorts of weird family situations going on, we do all mostly get on and everyone does talk to each other if we are in the same room, just, probably luckily, we don't all get in the same room very often!! LOL

And no, DH wouldn't like me going into a full rant about his mother, especially to my mum, who we had problems with when we got married... so much history!!! LOL

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wuzzlefraggle · 24/10/2006 17:41

thank god u know what i meant lol. i can forse myself to not argue with dh's father and dh's nan (i refuse to go to his fathers house, and as for his nan, bitch from hell as she is, i just sit there and say nothing to her i let dh and sil do the talking as im of the beliefe that if i have nothing nice to say, i wont say fuck all lol).

we get on with all my family (dad, grandparents etc) except my mum who i just dont see (or her side of the family), so its not really a problem.

anyways, balls to em. how've you been today? lol

NatalieJane · 24/10/2006 17:47

LOL I think I might adopt that train of thought with MIL!!

And as for how I am today, do you really want to know?!!! LOL Anything else happened since the jelly this AM?

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wuzzlefraggle · 24/10/2006 17:55

no not really...just feeling uncomfortable. im hobbling around the place like john wayne after a 36 hour horse riding sesh lol. seem to have a lot of dishcharge too.

wonder when the baby will decide to make an appearance

NatalieJane · 24/10/2006 18:02

This is the worst time, waiting for the BFP in the first place is annoying, but then it is waiting for the midwife, waiting for the scan, waiting for the 20 weeks scan, then getting everything ready takes over and then all of a sudden you find yourself completely ready, everything packed, bought, working, in place, and still no baby, and all of the waiting you have done up till now doesn't matter, it is this last slog that zaps all your energy, and you are just desparate to meet the baby (and get the labour out of the way!!) I hated it last time, haven't quite got there for me yet, but it isn't far off. I don't like it at all!

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wuzzlefraggle · 24/10/2006 18:03

im gonna have to scarper now nat. im gonna start cooking and later have a bath and do wone of those face mask thingies lol

TC and hope u get hold of your mum soon xox chat to you tomorrow, ooooh, and hope all goes well with the midife if i dont catch u till u get back