Due June 2007... the new thread!

[NattyandThomasandBump]

got sick of how long it took my poor computer to load that mammouth page so i have started a new one!

oh and can i stay?

Hello - may I join you?

Me - 38
DH - 49
No children
EDD - June 25th 2007
TTC - 3 years

We have not told anybody so you are all the first to know. I have a private scan booked for a week's time and I think I will tell my mum after that. We are completely clueless - I have held a baby once and that is the sum total of our combined experience, no nappy changing, babysitting, nothing. I am fretting about things like - how do you know what to dress the baby in? How many blankets does he/she need? How do you change a nappy? Is there anyone out there as clueless as me or can anyone recommend a good book?

Well am now getting really paranoid about the whole 'am I showing yet' & getting bigger. Have had to drag all my maternity clothes back out of the cupboard - struggling with normal clothes!

To make me feel even better (not!)- saw my brother today for the firt time in a couple of weeks - and he totally guessed I was pregnant! (only currently 9 wks), so just wondering how much longer I can keep it quiet!

Also took the brave step of telling my work that I will be returning from maternity leave next month (not through choice - need to go back to make sure they pay me another lot of smp when i have next baby!) Said I would go and talk to them on Friday about it, not really looking forward to telling them I won't be returning for too long...

Also not looking forward to going back to work and leaving dd, at least it won't be for too long...

Doggus - I'm sure u will b fine once the baby gets here, I too was nervous about the whole dressing thing ect, in case I hurt baby, but totally used to it after the first couple of clothes changes. now yanking the tops over DD's head - which happens quite alot, as she is a very spewy baby, so gets changed about 4 times a day at the moment, she doesn't seem to mind...

Kittykat - a very spewy baby, lovely! I bet I get one of those...When is it normal to start showing? I am sure my tummy is bigger already. I can't wait to buy maternity clothes, at least then I won't look portly as I do now.

Doggus - she is VERY spewy - she has just had her first morning bottle, now have sicky sheets in the cot, and then moved her into my bed in the hope for a half hour lie in (which didn't happen!) and she has just spewed in my bed as well!!! Washing machine is on overtime since she was born.

Normal showing - with first I didn't buy any maternity clothes until about 4 months, just bought the next size up in clothes for a while. This time, no hope - am a size bigger anyway, and worryingly some of my previous mat. clothes are tight on me already (although they are a size down). Don't know if it's worse because not a very big gap between pregnancies?

Think I may end up the size of a house after this one!

Doggus - congrats! DH & I had zero baby or child experience, too, when we had DS - you'll catch on really fast. There are loads of good books - we had the Great Ormand Street Baby and Child Care book, which was great - just very factual stuff about cleaning and feeding and illness, etc, and no fussy childcare philosophy. Best way, though, is to meet other new parents in your neighbourhood (NCT teagroup? ante-natal class?) and then you'll all be able to sit around asking each other: "So what do I do when...?"

Kittykat77, so glad your too are showing. This is my 2nd one and too did not need bigger clothes until later in the pregnancy. Just harder to keep it a secret when belly definitely bigger.

Doggus I wouldn't worry about not knowing what to do. We came home with our first baby and just stared wondering what next. It does come to you and the midwifes are usually good at showing you how to change the nappy, top and tail and so on.

Even I think I need a refresher course!
:-)

Doggus, best thing you can do is get an experienced friend round the night you get home from the hospital. My friend with 3 kids came round to help us bath, put to bed and generally get our head round the whole thing - and she was a total godsend. It is totally scarey, and nothing prepares you for having responsiblility for this little scrap - having someone with vast experience to advise and help that first night makes all the difference in the world!

Congratulation Doggus - as everyone has said, you will be fine - I was clueless when had ds and some things you learn, some things you just know and others you get wrong! Still no expert now, and with every stage you learn something else. Very exciting to be having your first - I am excited and very happy about being pg but not as preoccupied with it as I was first time round and that makes me feel a bit guilty, as if I don't care as much - hope this is normal...

hi all, I haven't posted for a while as I had some bleeding and didn't want to tempt fate. However, had early scan this morning and there's a bean complete with beating heart dated at 8+2 (a few days less than we think) so we are feeling more confident now Still feeling v sick- staying off work today and tomorrow as couldn't face a class of 35 ten year olds! Anyone else at home today?

Do people pg with twins get big very quickly ?! I'm only 7+2 and I look about 4 months pg , so I'm starting to wonder... There's no family history though. But I'm delighted, I paraded at the swimming pool yesterday showing off my bump

Congrats doggus , and don't worry, mumsnet's here to help you get through changing pooey nappies, burping, teeth cutting and all these pleasures !

Hello all - and congrats to marylou - wow!

I have some more questions if you don't mind: I'm feeling queasy from time to time but haven't been sick. I'm only 6weeks +3 - so is that normal? Also, I have had some achiness in my lower abdomen - is that something to worry about? My bosoms are still sore so I suppose that is a good sign?? The urge to lie down remains overpowering, but I was always partial to a nap BP too....
I haven't been this worried about being "normal" since I hit puberty!

Wow, offline for a day and I can hardly keep up. Welcome to all the new arrivals, it's great to hear about people TTC for ages or doing IVF who finally make it. Doggus, you have the same due date as me and Ludgie. I was utterly clueless 1st time but you learn fast, don't worry. For what it's worth I always thought babies=spew and as it turned out DD has thrown up about 10 times in 2.3 years so you shouldn't worry too much about that. Now I will probably get the payback of pukiest baby ever for saying that.
Ingalls, I'm still BF my DD but only at night to get her to sleep, I was also wondering if this might be lessening my symptoms as I just have vague nausea. Will be gritting my teeth to stop soon as was planning to anyway, but if you feel like continuing there's lots of people on here who continue through pg and beyond, check out the BF board.
Twinkle5 happy to hear your scan set your mind to rest.

well had my booking in appointment today - went ok - update on my plans for a homebirth here

HrHQofQ- I am very keen on having a home birth too- as this is my first I hopefully wont give the midwife too many reasons to protest! www.homebirth.org.uk has some lovely stories of home births.

Hi Flabbergasted, I'm practically at the same stage as you and have exactly the same symptoms so either we're both abnormal or... I remember getting distinct period type pains early on last time, that hasn't happened yet this time but I do have a vague achiness as you say.
Also, I never actually threw up last time, just strong nausea esp. in reaction to smells or thinking about food, I think I was a bit further gone so am looking forward to that in a week or 2.

oh and she gave me the same EDD as I'd worked out - 5th June

Thank you sputnik.

WOW I can't belive there are so many of us who are on baby No3 Makes me feel better anyway.

Hi all, welcome to the new people. Flabbergasted, I've got a really good book called 'Expecting: Everything you need to know about PG, labour and birth' by McGrail and Metland. The best thing about it is there are no pictures! I got so sick at turning pages of books and seeing a woman from the 70's legs akimbo with a baby on it's way out - really - I don't need to see it! Aslo the pains in lower abdomen, I had that for a while too - just could sit or lie comfortably - like mega period pains.

Having a really sh*t day actually. Had a very hostile meeting at work, then disappeared off into a little room and bawled my eyes out! Feel knackered (not sleeping properly) bloated, sick, got a stinky cold and it seems the emotional side of pg has kicked in so been getting myself in a right state! Urgghhh, roll on the weekend!

Marylou, congrats on the twins!

I can completely understand about the mood swings. I very nearly snapped at a woman in Tescos for getting in my way. She was wearing very strong smelling perfume and it made me feel really sick. Managed to hold myself back and bought myself some cakes to calm the rage.
So sorry to hear you had a bad day Bumperlicious, normally would suggest a large glass of wine, but as we can't drink I find ice cream has a similar soothing effect.

Hi all other June babiers,

Thank you Cocobear and Charlyp for your suggestions about my constipation problem. Going to try and get the stuff you recommended.

I'm planning to have a home birth, that's what I'd like anyway. Haven't mentioned it to anyone yet as I don't see a midwife until the end of November. It's my first baby and I'm over 35 so I'm expecting some stong opposition but hopefully I'll get what I want.

I thought I'd got away with morning sickness, until week 7 (last week) when it really hit me. Not been actually sick, but just feel it all the time. Only when I'm bored at work though, when I have stuff to do I seem to forget about it. Got to keep busy then I guess. Feeling quite tired too, but still managing to go to the gym most mornings before work.

Ayles, you're getting to the gym each morning....before work??? Wow. You get my huge admiration award for the year. I can barely get myself out of pajamas by lunchtime !!!

thank you. Still getting quite a belly though, and only just 8 weeks! I think it's cause I'm eating so much to stop myself feeling sick. Anyone else eating to stop sick feelings?

Thank you all so much for the advice and reassurance, it is so good to know that I am not the only inexperienced one around. I have been shopping all day and DH and I went into Mamas and Papas in Oxford Street, our first time ever baby shopping. I will not forget DH's face when I informed him that all the cots were flat pack. We didn't buy anything, far too early, but it was lovely to go shopping as a couple for our child! I went to Selfridges as well and checked out the maternity wear - £200 for a stretchy lycra dress anybody?

To Aylesbury - I am feeling sick and eating like a pig, too, somehow you feel worse with an empty stomach. I also have constipation but if I eat an apple and four prunes before bed, result!