20th JSing GRADS thread - our chat's still filthy, just not in front of the baby...

[LaLa5]

Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 20th grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 37th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread in postnatal clubs here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates! It's a bit quiet at the moment, but with all these upduffed viroids hopefully it won't be for long!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

So, roll call below please, viroids!

Morning viroids

Zyla I'm so glad things have calmed down for you.

La, are you me? You just described me to a tee! I'm not so bad with the beer fear but my bestie is. I always get a text the next morning. She's my oldest friend and she knows she can't do anything wrong...bless her

Chat, I was given a bottle of you a couple of weeks ago in the TWOT so I didn't drink it. I guess I'm keeping it for a few months now...I'm not missing wine yet

We're off to mums for lunch today and my youngest sister will be there. I can't decide whether to tell them or not. I told my other sister because of the cat thing, and I told my bestie. I didn't want to tell loads because of the MC but if the worst happens again, I will need their support
Oh and I told my diabetic nurse!

Glad mini boo is ok too.
Lauren enjoy the wedding fair...I loved planning my wedding. I missed it after we got married oddly enough

Just had a row with DH about him not showing an interest in things I saw when mooching yesterday. Am I being unreasonable? not posting there
He finally admitted that it's all a but of a shock and he's still getting used to the idea. Is this normal?

I need to get him a book because he hasn't a clue, scan anyone recommend one?

Morning lovely viroids!

I have so much to catch up on!

zyla you poor thing, hope you're ok.

la I remember the fear well. I don't actually miss drinking at the moment. It's a double edges sword for me, it helps me to relax but too much and I become even more anxious for the next few days.

I was exhausted last night. Had a busy day and for the first time in ages I didn't have a nap!

Off to cuddle my 1 year old nephew later

No date yet, I need to work out festivals etc to make sure everyone would be here then discuss it with the church but it will be some time in August 2017 I think!

purple I got DP "pregnancy for men" by mark woods. It's a funny book but gives them the facts. DP surprised me by actually reading it. Now if I'm hormonal or moody you will find him with his book seeing if it says ill be unreasonable this week

DP doesn't like shopping and comes across uninterested when it comes to buying anything baby. But he's excited for the baby coming and being a dad- he just doesn't like shopping and can't see the differences in things like I can so gets annoyed when I spend hours debating over pushchairs etc online. He would just buy the cheapest and that would be it! So I've just been getting on with it with my own or with a friend and he's doing the building. As long as he comes to the appointments and important scans then that's fine with me!

purple my DH isn't that interested either! wanna be my wife for now? I'm looking at buggies online.

I had a lousy night last night, morning sickness went on for a couple of hours but it could well be anxiety over being knocked up. I wasn't expecting it to happen so quickly so it is a bit of a shock. Woke DH in the night and said I was scared. He went 'don't be scared' and went back to sleep!

DH has given me the okay to tell my sister when I see her which means telling Dad as well as I can't have her know and not him. I'm very scared! But I will need them if this doesn't all work out. If I'm up to my Pilates and ballet classes this week I will have to tell my instructors but we'll see.

Did another test this morning and it's still there. I'm thinking of getting an early scan...does anyone know what they entail?

Not sure what today holds, watching crap DVDs right now and I am craving brown bread, brown rice and I want some more tea but having to ration them until I get some decaf.

I have also been having batshit dreams.

MrWil has no interest in pg stuff Purple. He came to help decide about buggy and carseat last time but that was the extent of his input (other than the obvious). I wouldn't even have tried to get him to read a book. Oh also, he went to antenatal classes first time round and to scans both times obviously.

But he was great when I was in labour - he did piss off for a kip at one stage but in fairness it was a loooooong labour- and he is a very hands on Dad. Maybe not in terms of organisational stuff but in terms of time and attention.

I think pg is just a very different experience for them and in a lot of cases it doesn't seem real to them until the baby actually arrives.

I got DH 'the expectant dads survival guide' purple as it had good reviews and was meant to be funny. But it remains unread so couldn't say for sure! Try not to fight about buying stuff yet too, it's very early and they experience things differently. I find it's the same with a lot of things anyway, if I want a new lamp or cushions because we are redecorating a room he would find that very hard to get excited about!

Early scan would be private probably stoat. You will need to be past 6 weeks to see a heartbeat but really I think past 8 weeks would be more reassuring. At 6 weeks you mainly see a fetal pole and not much else. Also, it would be an internal scan so be aware!

Get all the freebies lauren! Love a good freebie and it's fun to see everything on offer. When you say planning around festivals do you mean religious or music?

Enjoy mothercare la. Let us know if you see any deals! Asda baby event starts tomorrow if anyone is interested. They have tommee tippee sterilisation kit for £60 which seemed to be a good deal - first baby product I've really looked at! Anyone have experience of that?

Urgh thanks dulcet, nothing internal yet thankyou! Might wait...I'm prepared to pay for it but can't be dealing with internals (yes I know I have to get over this)

Just blurted out to my Dad. He gave me a fingers crossed sign. I wouldn't have told him so early but he is her half the time. I just went 'I might be pregnant'. He welled up. We'll see how we go.

FFS. Queue dulcet squinny and break down - BIL GF is pregnant. The 19yr old immature child that been violent towards him I the past, demanded an engagement ring for Christmas despite only living together a few months and makes herself very hard to like with the family.

I know IABU but I have rage and am selfishly thinking about how this affects my pregnancy.

Oh God that sounds awful! How old is BIL? Just think that it will make you look like the 'good mum' if she is that crazy. Is she due before you?

Wr have a tommee tippee microwave steriliser which is fine and I like the bottles. Can't comment on rest of the stuff. If you get lots of bottles with it though, sounds like it might be a good deal.

That's a nice reaction from your Dad Stoat.

I'd have rage too Dulcet.

I'm really hoping my youngest sister doesn't get pregnant til after I've given birth. I can't bring myself to tell her not to though as that would be mean.

I'll get DH a book and make sure he reads it. He reads a lot!

Thanks for the reassurance. He did look at the pram and made noises. I'll stop giving him a hard time.

I saw a clevamum cushion in mothercare. Quite fancy one of those

Ooh, Purple - save me for a lovely evening, I'm delicious :) Try not to stress about buying stuff, it's very early. He may be frightened, he may have his head in the sand...he may just be a boy. DH and I have both read Pregnancy for Men, it's very funny and pretty informative, right from the off.

Zyla, yep, I've worked both sides of town, but did my only obs job, and first NICU jobs in QMC. Booked and delivered DD at Queens as well. I know everyone!

Without good reason, they won't do an early NHS scan Stoat. Privately they seem to range from £60-100 depending on where you are. Wait until 8w for greater reassurance and to avoid dildocam :)

He's 26 I think wil. Around that anyway. They weren't using protection but say it wasn't planned. I don't think it was entirely unexpected but not yet. She's can't be more than 4-5wks as only POAS this week so due after. I'm not so much concerned on being the good mum, just the support we might not get from inlaws. They live closer and are very reliant still and worried our baby will become the outsider. But it's all unreasonable, must be rational!

But she should start by sorting her attitude out!

I imagine ha

Ok, so apparently the protein in my urine isn't enough to worry about, the blood results showed some signs, but not enough to worry about (do we see a pattern here?!). I've got to stay in until tomorrow cos they want me to see the diabetes team, weirdly my insulin requirements do seem to have gone down quite a bit so we need to work out what to do.

I'm now hopeful I'll be out tomorrow, probably with lots of regular return visits for monitoring, as all the signs I have aren't enough to worry about, but could get worse! And I'm expecting to be in and out a lot for checks, but I can live with that!! We'll see what the diabetes team say tomorrow :)

chat that's cool, I might quiz you about people hehe.

dulcet the gf sounds lovely!

purple I think a lot of men find it hard to relate to the little life you're growing until there's something actually there for them to see/feel. You may find seeing a scan helps him, or when he can feel kicks etc. or he may just hate shopping but it doesn't mean he's not interested, just that its a lot more immediate and obvious to us as we're the ones who feel ill etc.

everyone thanks so much for the kind words and thoughts, you're all lovely!

Sorry, meant to say I imagine nothing will make you grow up faster than having a baby. Feel sorry for your BIL though if he's in for a lifetime of being ordered about. Do your ILs know you're pg yet?

Great news Zyla!

I picked up the TT microwave steriliser for about £6 after Aldi's baby event. It doesn't come with any bottles but that is fine as I've bought a Phillips pump so have containers/bottles that are compatible with that rather than the TT ones.

Purple I found DP didn't engage at all with the pregnancy until the 12 week scan. He was more nervous than I gave him credit for! He's been fine since. I bought him a dad to be book which he read. His sister gave him some quite hippy birthing books which he also plans to read through! They scare me slightly.....

Fab news Zyla!

Well the wedding fair was great, I have a free ice cream tasting consultation in a few weeks because an ice cream stand is essential apparently. Even if it isn't, I would say ice cream tasting is essential

It's music festivals I'm planning around dulcet!

Mmm ice cream. Are you having a big wedding Lauren?

That's good news Zyla

I've ordered him a book off amazon. If nothing else to stop him being stroppy when I'm hormonal.

He's just said he told his mum by text yesterday and she just said fingers crossed. I'm being a bit unreasonable to expect her to say congrats apparently after we lost the last one
Can't say I'm delighted at the logic but I'm not at my most rational right now

Good tip pis, didn't know Aldi had a baby event!

Ice cream is a must lauren, not a wedding without it! Can we come?! An ice cream tasting sounds like an excellent idea too!

I'm sure MIL didn't mean she wasn't pleased for you purple, just that she hopes it goes better this time.

Good progress zyla. Hope you're out by this time tomorrow then - to your own bed!

You're right wil, they will have to grow up. Inlaws know I am pg now, MIL called to tell me as wasn't sure how is take it. They aren't happy but what can they do? Do feel like he is less in control of this than he should be but he made the mistake if no protection too!

Afternoon viroids!

I'm so disappointed! We drove all the way to the big town to go to mothercare to look at buggies, monitors, car seats and nursery furniture. They had none of the travel systems I wanted to try in store, only 2 monitors in total (neither the ones I'm interested in), 1 cot which wasn't very nice and a big empty expanse of shop. So we are no further forward. They did have the graco Evo which was nice but I've read complaints about the shape of the car seat.

purple please don't worry about your dhs initial reaction, it can be really hard for the guy to get his head round it and feel like it's real when he's not the one feeling the changes. My dh was pleased but a bit detached until our 12 week scan. He would say he was excited but he didn't tell anyone and didn't want to go and look at any baby stuff. Once he saw the baby moving on the screen and my bump started to grow it became real for him. Give him time and he will click one day. As wil said every pregnancy and every couple is different.

My dh has the Expectant Dad's Survival Guide and loves it. My bro also read some of it when he was here and said it was brilliant as he didn't have a clue and his wife is due just before me totally outing myself here!

My mil also said the fx thing - she says she won't get excited til baby's here because of 'all the things that can go wrong' :(

Lauren my dh is the same! I was looking at the buggies talking about weight, ease of folding, manoeuvrability etc and he just kept saying 'look this ones really cheap' pointing at the ones I know are crap.

Wedding planning is fun!

stoat funky dreams are definitely a symptom! For private scan it's around £90 but it will be internal if you go before a certain stage. It doesn't hurt, its just a bit achy. I had to have loads because of my suspected ectopic then getting pg straight afterwards I had a dating scan. You can go from 6 weeks but it's better to leave it longer as otherwise you might not see much.

For your morning/night sickness keep dry crackers or ginger bbiscuits next to your bed to nibble on, it will help. Get as much sleep as you can and drink water. Dehydration and tiredness make the cramps and ms worse.

dulcet I would be 'grr' about that too! I was a bit grr when I found out my bro and sil are having baby a month before me because we'd been trying for so long and they only saw each other 1 week in a year and got pregnant! It didn't seem fair. I'm over it now though.

£60 sounds a lot for a steriliser. Is that normal? I'm sure that steriliser was on offer in tesco...I'll check

I do not understand people who say they were not using protection but a baby 'wasn't planned'. You know how babies are made, right!?!

zyla that sounds really positive!! I'm so pleased for you :)

lauren can I come to ice cream tasting!?! That sounds amazing!

Thanks la I ordered that one.
I paid £99 for an early scan at 7 weeks. It's at a place inside mothercare. I might switch it to 8 weeks if it's not internal. Really don't like them!