20th JSing GRADS thread - our chat's still filthy, just not in front of the baby...

[LaLa5]

Welcome, welcome, welcome to the 20th grads thread... celebrating the success of Just Shagging in getting us viroids upduffed!

For those that don't know, a 'viroid' is from the original JSing thread 1, where someone was trying to type ladies (in reference to all the JSing ladies), but their phone decided to call us all viroids instead!

The name stuck and we've been the JSing viroids ever since.

The thread we have graduated from is here in its 37th outing. WARNING: they're all a bit kerazy not to mention randy!

There is also a Just Mumming thread in postnatal clubs here for once your babies come along, or to keep up with the graduated graduates! It's a bit quiet at the moment, but with all these upduffed viroids hopefully it won't be for long!

There is also a private facebook group (so it doesn't give the game away in your news feed!)... if you want to join to see photos of new babies etc, just ask in-thread!

So, roll call below please, viroids!

Jeez, this process is full of lists! We will help get each other organised.

Boo to the pain la. Hope it didn't stop you enjoying London. Get thee to the medical professionals if you're worried, get tested. Or I guess it's two more sleeps until midwife, maybe she can advise?

Let's go with no news is good news zyla, less than two weeks until target now, you can do it.

I'm in this weird funk of waking up early. Thought it was jet lag but been back a week now so maybe it is baby related. It's not a fan of sleeping or eating - I'm not sure this child is even mine! Might have a Jeremy Kyle situation on my hands.

Laying in bed, being quiet to not wake DH. Thinking I'm not really sure how much you get to know your midwife if you only see her a handful of times in pregnancy. I've met mine twice but barely know her, even though she will have hand up foof in no time.

So I looked her up on Facebook and went through her photos. Bit creepy? Yeah. It's creepy.

Morning! Pains gone this morning. Definitely seemed to match description of round ligament pain - mostly on right hand side, dull ache, throbbing. Drank lots of water though just in case.

I'm so impatient to get home - I caved and bought a Doppler to help me to not worry so much. It arrived yesterday while I was away and I'm dying to try it out. If I can't hear baby though don't worry I'm not going to panic! Got mw appointment tues so will get her to show me the right place to listen.

Had a lovely day catching up with my friend yesterday and best nights sleep in months, so apparently not sleeping in same room as my dh is the secret! Normally I'm up 6 times to wee but it was only twice last night. My dh comes in at 2am from work, snores and hogs covers.

Thanks for hospital bag list! Going to save that one.

I'm going over to a friends now for breakfast then home and on to look at a mamas and papas cot someone's selling for £40. Really hope it's as nice as it looks in the picture! That's a total bargain.

Dulcet that's very creepy! But she should have better privacy settings..

Zyla no news is indeed good news. I really hope it continues, fx

ELCS splodge, probably the only way you'd get me to agree to number 3. No, I'm being flippant, am sure the recovery is a bitch. Although at least you won't end up with a shredded vagina as I seem to have done.

at Jeremy Kyle Dulcet. Early wakening is definitely a pg thing.

She slept for 2 hours in the crib last night. Progress at last!

Re antenatal threads - I'm on the July one. Some nice people but the chat moves very fast so i don't always read it all. We have a Facebook page. One girl is due same day as me in same hospital - how funny is that?!

Pis what are water wipes?

Water wipes are baby wipes but made with water and not chemicals or whatever the hell is in normal baby wipes.

That's really cool La, you should meet up.

I was on the April ante natal thread but it moved to fast for me so ive just stuck with this one

Yeah, it is creepy. I know that. That's all I could see though, profile pictures. It wasn't all her photos ever. But now I know she likes walking and she's married!

Great sleep news wil! Did you get some rest then too? Thanks for confirming the early morning thing, I will tell DH! He keeps telling me to stay up later so I sleep through but it doesn't work and then I just get grumpy!

That is so weird la! Have you mentioned meeting up? That could be a really good friend, if she's not really weird! (Like facebooking her midwife or something)

Dulcet you're really making me laugh today.

I just stuck with this thread too. Tried the other one when I was pg before I had mc and there were just far too many people. In fact I kind of feel like you double threadders are cheating on us .

Lol at Facebook stalking your midwife

Great news zyla

I am thinking about taking my mum and MIL to the baby show at excel. I am guessing it will just be full of stuff to buy? DH is not at all interested. But I guess it could be a nice couple of hours and I hope my mum and MIL get to know each other a bit better before nipper arrives.

dulcet lol at midwife stalking!

Hi viroids, just catching up. I've been on an internet blackout as I got some spotting on Friday and have had a panicky few days. Not had any pain, was pink on Friday morning, this mornings is orangey. Went to docs on Friday, they said just go home and rest and only go to hospital if it gets worse, which it hasn't. So not really sure what's the state of play. POAS this morning, not that that means much, and still got a strong line. So until further notice, I'm pregnant. Very stressed though!

So I take it no one else stalked their midwife? I must be mega nosey! Those of you nearer the end or popped, did you feel you had a relationship with the midwife by the end?

Sorry to hear that stoat. Any bleeding is always worrying, are you going back to GP next week? chat had really scary start with bleeding but it's not always disaster. Everything crossed for you.

I'm still thinking about show too fleur. Mentioned to MiL and think she's really keen, not so much my thing but I do like free stuff!

(Anything to keep you smiling wil! )

Yeah I will go back. I hate this not getting a midwife until 8 weeks. My GP wasn't wonderful tbh. Understandably you don't count for the system until you're 8 weeks...and that's stressy.

Hope you're okay stoaty, bleeding is always a worry but styling positive it's not worsened, can you take it easy today?

I've occasionally peeked on the May antenatal thread but far too fast and in the early days too many scary things were happening and I wasn't sleeping properly! I also used to be on another ttc thread but by god it was a depressing place, with some discussing horrid abusive partners whilst others discussed their hilarious DH's antics. I found the contrast so horrid with the fortunate 'wives' being so dismissive and countering with how they kept their comedy husbands in order, and some girls would be replying 'ur so lucky' and they'd just agree!

I tried to direct them to the relationship boards, and pm'd one to say perhaps ttc wasn't the best plan but I just became so saddened and became a js'er... Never looked back! (Well I do, and it's still not great)

Yeah I can chill out. It's really not been much but still not what you want to see in your pants! I'm checking my knickers far too often. I was convinced I could be a relaxed pregnant person....well, looks like I'm not the one in charge!

I'm in the September thread but it is a bit overwhelming. I have deliberately stayed off these boards this weekend.

That sounds awful Kato.

Hope all is ok Stoat, sounds promising that it's just spotting. Lots of people here seem to have had it.
Up here we get mostly the same midwife during ante-natal sessions and then you never see them again. I got a different one for about 3 sessions who ended up being the one who delivered the baby which was great as she is the nicest one I've met. You then get an assortment of grumpy different ones who do the after visits. I wouldn't say you have a relationship with them as such and the only one who I think it matters with is whoever delivers the baby as it's nice to have someone friendly and who you trust to do the right thing.

The midwife I see for my appointments will not be at the birth. I have no idea who will be there.

Is anyone else considering not having DH at the birth?

GX stoat I think previous advice has been if there is no pain it's a good sign.

Stoat - I was told as long as no fresh red blood or painful cramps then not to worry. If you're worried I found EPU more helpful than gp or mw with my first pregnancy. I was taken in at 6.5 weeks with my 1st pg for scan due to pain/bleeding. It was lots of blood though. Orange sounds like old blood which can be residual blood. Try to rest up and not panic.

In debating baby show still. I don't want to pay 2x tickets plus 2x £20 train fares to go and look at same stuff that would be in mothercare and mamas and papas in Brighton for free. So I'm still mulling it over. They have classes and stuff though.

Our July board is a bit better now - I found it was a bit moany and intense for a while which was how I felt too but I wanted my mind taken off it! Now it's more about classes, buggies and parenting. I don't think I'll keep up with it because there are too many people. Much much prefer here because we're at different stages which is interesting, you all make me laugh particularly dulcets a talker tendencies! and it's more relaxed.

On train home. Had lovely morning playing with my friends 10mo.

Lmao at Facebook stalking your mw I would so do that

I hope you're ok stoat

We have just arrived at our chalet in France it is beautiful and I feel so happy to be here ...but parents in law are already driving me nuts! Thankfully Dh did manage to swiftly get in a comment about my 'january detox' giving up alcohol and caffeine so hopefully there won't be awkward questions!

What Wil said La. I'm not precious about things like wet wipes (I've already got a substantial stash of the regular kind!) but read that some postnatal places are a bit funny about using them on newborns so thought I'd cover my bases (without having to go the cotton wool route).

I had one midwife right through with DS but she wasn't at the delivery. I saw her when I moved to delivery as she was just going off shift. She came back in about half an hour before DS turned up but wasn't allowed in the room. I was very miffed when I found out as I would have loved to have her with me. The two who were there did a good job though apart from one being quite snappy with me when I got to the wailing 'I can't do this' phase. This time around I've only seen 'my' midwife twice due to a combination of holidays, training etc falling on the dates I go to antenatal.

That's a worry stoat but it does seem like bleeding without pain is very common but doesn't mean anything is wrong.

I'm on the March group. I don't contribute anything much. I'm surprised no one has popped early yet though. They are scary places to be for the first few months as it feels like people are dropping out every day.

Dulcet I remember reading a little while ago about an ask.com (or similar) question from a girl who found out she was pregnant after her boyfriend had cheated on her and was concerned it might be the OW's baby.....

Right I'm off to FB my midwife choose some paint for the nursery! Have great days viroids (and great news on the no news Zyla! Shhhhh...)

Ooh I'd live to be in a chalet in the mountains! Enjoy

I am still laughing at dulcet stalking mw. I don't think mines on fbk she doesn't seem the type. Will try it! I love my mw but I think she told me at first appt that she'll not be at delivery as she works from different hospital. If someone snaps at me when I'm in labour they might get punched in the face!

I totes fb'd my community midwife Only last week though... cos I was strangely sad I wasn't going to see her anymore haha!! I saw the same mw for all my preggo appointments but she wasn't at the birth.