June 2015 - thread 2 -- morning sickness/sore boobs and early scans a plenty! [title edited by HQ]

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Welcome aboard the June 2015 bus... Moving towards 12 week scans

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Iwant and the-detective my second was one of those babies too-trying not to think about it too much otherwise I get petrified at the thought of 3 kids! Nausea hard to deal with as well particularly in early morning. Am trying to eat something last thing at night and first thing in morning to help. Is anyone else losing weight? I'm not meaning to, but I feel horrible and so eating less than normal.

Morning.
Love cats, I'm not loosing weight but have only put on a couple of pounds by the scales (looks more like a stone though!)

Is anyone else worried about telling their parents? This is our second and planned (just - conceived first month after making the decision) but we only have a small 2 bed house and I think they'll disapprove! 34 and still seeking parental assurance!

I have idly wondered how my mum will react. As though I'm 16 not 26!

gr33 my parents will also be disapproving. In fact I'm dreading telling them.

I have put a few pounds on, not surprising with the amount of crap I have been eating!

The only worry I have with my parents is that my mum might explode with excitement as it will be her first grandchild!

When we told my parents I was pg first time around, the second thing my mother said after congratulations was "do you think you will have any more?" (I'm the eldest of 6 btw). I think she will be excited to be told at some time this weekend via skype (parents are in NZ). I won't bother telling my siblings directly as we're not that close (3 of my siblings have never really acknowledged my DD. My mum just says "you know what they're like". I had a huge argument with her over fb when I said they were rude and I didn't want her signing DD's b'day card on their behalf). We will tell hubby's parents tomorrow as will have difficulty hiding my nausea from them. We'll see his sisters in the evening so will have to tell them too. No one else will be told til after the scan. Am not one for big announcements so will rely on workplace gossip to spread my news.

lovecats I've lost a bit of weight, maybe 3 or 4 pounds in the last few weeks. I put this down to the fact that I'm struggling to eat normal-sized meals as I get very achy and uncomfortable, so am now trying to graze over the course of the day eating smaller meals and snacks. I think also the lack of wine calories from my diet could also be some of the reason

Emem I'm expecting number6. Although I have step dc too. My mum said after number5, your dad and I have discussed it and we really don't think you should have any more. I had 4 with my first husband so this is only the second with dh 2. If she was helping me practically on a daily basis perhaps Id understand but she never helps with anything. Never baby sits. I'm financially independent, have a large house which we just bought, so it's none of her business. But she and the rest of the world are going to be quite cruel. Told a friend yesterday and that was a disaster.

Oh gosh MrsE that sounds awful! Im sorry your friends and family aren't being more supportive!

I only have one friend Im dreading to tell, we started TTC around the same time. I was going to bite the bullet and tell her a week or so ago, but when we met up the first topic of conversation was that AF had just arrived for her again & she was gutted I hate the idea of this changing our friendship...

Perpetual it doesnt actually help that I feel so ill. Because all I want to do is curl up in the corner and sleep. Just feels like the world is against me.

God MrsE why was it a disaster telling your friend? Can't imagine why anyone would think they have a right to an opinion!

mrsE sorry you had a bad experience telling your friend and that you don't have much support from your parents... That sucks!

perpetual sorry to hear you are worried about telling your friend, it is hard to hear but I am sure she will be happy for you, she may have a few tears but as your friend she will know you aren't telling her to cause Her upset or anything.

Perpetual as someone who was recently on the other side of that conversation as long as you acknowledge the fact that it will be hard for her to hear and tell her you hope she isn't too upset about it you will be fine! Which is exactly what my friend didn't do .

I would also say maybe lay the groundwork with a text beforehand saying you have news so she isn't blindsided as I was. It is hard but you shouldn't feel guilty and she will be happy for you.

Well it's baby 6. So that may have a bearing but we are high earners so it's not as though anyone can get high and mighty about sponging off governments, because we don't. I did have a traumatic birth last time so before we ttc that was a consideration, but that's my consideration on one else's as I'll be the one giving birth. I was poorly for a good year with reconstructive surgery but again nobody helped us, we just battled on alone. So it's hard. We were ttc for 10 mts so to finally have made it is great, but I feel dreadful can't have iron until March/April and got no support. So that feels even harder. My mum may come round I think she knows something's going on, but I don't want to hear any more disapproving lectures. I'm 34 not 17!

MrsE I'm sorry you're feeling unsupported and that you're feeling so unwell. That's such a tough combination.

Perpetual I'm in a similar boat. My best friend (with whom I also run a small practice alongside our NHS work) started TTC at a similar time. We've both experienced miscarriage and while we've supported each other we've also both misjudged situations and accidently caused each other pain. We've got through it but I'm not looking forward to telling her as I don't want to hurt her or for our friendship to struggle.

I've decided to email her after my scan on Sat (with hopefully positive news). This will give her time to process in whatever way she needs to. We'd then meet up for work stuff within the week. I'm 95% certain it'll be okay - but it's hard - especially because I know that if it was her not me who was pregnant I'd be so pleased for her but it would highlight something that I dearly wanted and was sad about not currently experiencing.

PS - I also like Jenny's advice of aknowledging that it might be hard for her to hear it or have a more complex reaction that just "congratulations!" I'll be doing the same in my email (somehow I think it might take a long time to write!)

Definitely easier to hear by text or email too! Then they can have a good cry and put their happy face on next time they see you!

My best friend has been ttc for 3 years now. She had a mc last time I was pregnant 2 and a half years ago and hasn't been pregnant since. She has always said she was nothing but pleased for me and is really supportive / great with DD. I told her early this time because I feel she does have a right to a mixed reaction. I texted her in case she wanted to have that reaction in private.
She immediately called me and was thrilled. She told me that every new pregnancy she hears of just makes her more hopeful that it will happen for her.

Hi everyone. I hope you're all doing well.

Having some bad cramps and spotting today which is worrying me a bit as I haven't had any spotting at all up to now. Have a scan on Tuesday to see if they can see a baby in there but might need to go in earlier if the cramps don't stop. Really sore .

I could call but I'm pretty sure they'll say no .