April 2015 thread 2 for miscarriage survivors. today we are pregnant!

[TinyTear]

Thread 2
Nearly at the 12w mark for all and we can start some stats!

14+0

Thinking of you today care and London

Thinking of you both today London and carebear.

Thank you ladies :)

My appointment is at 3pm and I'm so nervous. My fab mum will be accompanying me as DH can't get the blooming time off - again :( I've already got the date for my 20 week scan so I asked DH to get the time off from work so hopefully he's got plenty of notice.

Tiny how did you cope with the wait for your harmony results? I am at work but unable to concentrate.

Carebear I hope that you are OK. I think it's lovely that you are choosing a name for your son [big hugs]

London not very well... I was soooooo unfocused...

I was only lucky as the last 2 days before my results appointment (which was a friday 4h30pm) were internal training and team building with a big dinner in Gordon Ramsey's Bread Street Kitchen the night before so I managed to be a bit distracted on those last few days...

I am feeling weird now... 14+5 but i am in that stage where i have no proper bump - just look fat(ter) and don't feel anything...

I just have to think and hope - no news is good news...

Tiny I asked my midwife whether I can have reassurance scans as the wait from 12 to 20 weeks is too long. She said no :( I'm thinking of possibly having a private scan around the 16 week mark...... hopefully I can make it that far!

I've started weaning off the steroids and I'm experiencing extreme nausea - I'm forever eating

I think that I have a big bump, my clothes no longer fit, even my bras. I'm going shopping this weekend for maternity/bigger sized clothes. I really hope that I'm not jinxing myself but I'm so uncomfortable with my tight clothes. The highlight of my day is going home and putting on my tracksuit bottoms! Speaking of clothes, I have received the panel maternity coat but I will have to return it. I'm only 5ft and the coat is far too long on me.

I'm counting down till 12:30 as this is when I leave the office to go & meet my mum. I'm feeling a little better though as I've just received my NHS down's risk and I'm classed as a low risk :) Not telling DH though as he will lament me for wasting money by having the Harmony! I'm going to keep quiet and then share (hopefully the good results) of the Harmony test. I'm also very excited to find out the sex of the baby!!

Thinking of you CareBear

Hope everyone goes well London

I am hoping when I see the midwife on the 29th at 16+3 or the consultant on the 6th at 17+5 they will sneak in a listen or a quick scan for me!

Oh dear, I am 5ft4 so not that tall either, so hope the coat will be ok... Need to phone the shop to see if i can go and get it

Thanks Peas

Tiny I'm also under consultant care as my BMI is over 35 :( Good luck with the coat. I really liked it but it looked ridiculous on me!

london I'm suprised she said no I would think being on steroids would mean they keep a closer eye on you and baby!
Good luck with the scan, I bet your mum will love accompanying you.

I think I've lost a little weight, I'm still being sick but I think I've lost some of the water I was retaining.

13+5

Little I am being weaned off the steroids right now. I think because all of my 3 previous miscarriages were between 6-8 weeks she thinks that I'm OK now? I'm seeing the midwife at 16 weeks so hopefully I can get to hear the baby's heart beat. However, recent articles in the press have alarmed me. It seems that there has been a few cases where the midwife picked up the mother's heartbeat & not the baby's...... and the baby was no longer alive!

Well done on your weight loss. I can't control mine, it's increasing v rapidly! I'm either constantly hungry or nauseous and so I have to keep on eating

London yes sadly this does happen, less likely with experienced staff.
My friend had this experience with a Doppler late in pregnancy her baby had died but she hadn't realised.

trust me my weight loss was totally unintentionally it has happened every pregnancy the medics don't care because I've plenty of pounds to spare.

LOL

I'm thinking of buying a Doppler to hear the baby's heart beat - not sure whether this is good or bad idea. Plus, whether it'll work for me as I have lots of padding? Has anyone bought one yet?

i won't buy one also as I have padding... and would just worry me more... my DD had anterior placenta and liked to curl at the back, so as i say, the midwife had difficulties finding her...

I won't buy one because it took a midwife about 15 mins of deep concentration to find DDs. At home that would stress me out.

Feeling a bit just felt a sharp pain internally. Probably just a nerve but its left me nervous.
It doesn't help DH dropped by earlier to tell me he thinks his phone has been stolen when he was out buying lunch. So I can't contact him.
I feel bad for saying it because I know others would love to be pregnant but I really really don't enjoy it.

I bought a doppler and had my midwife show me the difference between the babies heartbeat and mine and she also showed me what the placenta sounds like, it is very different so once you know the difference its easy to recognise if your listening to your own, I can however understand how people can get mixed up and if the baby happens to be facing the wrong way or you cant find it straight away it does cause a moments panic.

mine is an angel sounds doppler and cost £17.50 on amazon. Its really helped me cope with the gap between the 12wk and the 20wk scan.

Dp and I have been keeping busy today, I hate the fact that the day before his birthday is tarnished with it being the day our baby was due

I hope you're holding up okay CareBear. I've been thinking of you today. It's awful to get past the worry over early miscarriage and then be faced with a different issue.

Terrible night with dd ending in our bed after night terrors... But we are off to peppa pig world as it's inset day in her nursery... Strangely looking forward to it

Carebear how are you? I hope that you are OK, well as OK as you can be given the tragic circumstances :(

Tiny I hope you'll enjoy Peppa Pig. Let's hope that the weather is kind and the rain keeps away.

I had my FMC scan and it's all looking well. Baby didn't cooperate at all. DH was away last night so we still don't know the gender - I didn't want to open the envelope without him. We are back at the FMC tomorrow as the video and photo images of the baby on their Cloud service didn't work It's a bit of a pain to trek into London as we are quite busy tomorrow but I'm hoping that it'll be worth it. Plus, we are telling DS about the baby, either tonight or tomorrow so he can get to meet his future sibling :)

How are you doing carebear?

Good news on the scan London although annoying that you have to go back. I'm sure your DS will be very excited!!

Hope you are having fun Tiny!

I have been to the obstetrician this morning, all well and heard the heartbeat, thank goodness!! Haven't got to go back till 34 weeks and I have the mw later today although I'm sure she's going to do all the same things. Only 4 weeks till my 20 week scan, now I have heard the heartbeat maybe it will seem a bit easier...

Hi everyone

Hope you have fun today tiny!

Just waiting for the cvs results today, don't feel anxious as I know what they will be. Putting all my anxious energy into worry what the outcome of the genetic stuff will be. And I just feel heavy. And not myself at all anymore.

Also still horribly ill! Basically completely bed bound now.

Has nearly everyone had their scan/harmony results now?

I'm still waiting for my Nuchal results - I had hoped to get them by now but looks like it might be Monday. Perhaps I'll give them a call.

How soon can they do the genetic tests Carebear? Is there any extra counselling available to help you deal with the emotional/ mental health aspect of going through this for the second time? I can't imagine how you are feeling.

Shetland, How long has it been? I was told I would only get a call if it was high risk otherwise the letter could take up to two weeks.

Shetland I'd take no news as good news, whenever we've had bad results they've always come through much quicker than expected. But call them so you can stop worrying.

We will get the results for our chromosome's next Friday and meet with a geneticist the week after, so amazingly quickly.

Have had counselling before through my GP, she wasn't very good, or we didn't get on. At one point she said well time is a great healer and I don't really agree with that for some stuff. Might find another though and pay for though.

We will be starting the process for a termination on Monday so I'll probably stop posting on this thread but I'll probably lurk every now and again to check your all doing ok.

I phoned at its 1-1000 which is considered still low risk but seems a little higher than I'm comfortable with, especially as in my last 2 pregnancies the risks were 1-7000 and 1-13000.

cearbear you are never far from my thoughts - I wish you all the best, I really do xx

I'm so sorry CareBear I hope all goes well with the Geneticist.

After my TFMR I found a private human givens therapist. They have a very different approach than traditional therapy and it helped me massively. It was about £50 a 1.5 hour session and you usually only need 4-6, so that might be something to look into.

Look after yourself.