April 2015 thread 2 for miscarriage survivors. today we are pregnant!

[TinyTear]

Thread 2
Nearly at the 12w mark for all and we can start some stats!

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Sorry to hear that CareBear, hope you feel better soon!

I spent last night in A&E with DS and his ear exploded with pus and this goo type stuff. He has amoxicillin and is being very chilled out today which is good as I'm shattered and feeling so so sick still.

My stomach seems to have popped out today as well. Does anyone have any suggestions of the best maternity skinny jeans, would like some dark ones but don't know where to start and all my jeans are too tight.

13 weeks today.

Which pills were you given CareBear? I'm sure it's fine, I just know my pills for labyrinthitis aren't suitable in pregnancy but the GP never said there was an alternative, just said to do without.

Hope you feel better soon carebear

its DPs birthday on the 17th so there is no way of forgetting the date.

im now off to drag myself out in the rain to the stables, which is so not helping my hip, ive ordered an under bump band so will see if it helps but im also going to go and see my osteopath, ive got this week off of work so hopefully can figure out how to manage the pain before ive got to worry about working through it.

Sorry bitchpeas I missed the bit about your ds, I hope he feels better soon x

I hope you feel better soon carebear. My Dr said labrynthitus was quite common during pregnancy. Not sure why!

Similarly bitchpeas- hope ds is ok and also that you get some sleep.

Smiling - sounds like you are also in pain. Hope the band and week off helps.

when does the blooming start? I think last time it started around 20 weeks for me but the nausea went by 12 weeks and then it was just tiredness for the next few weeks. think I have a while this time!

Sorry about all the due dates coming up. My 1st mc due date is Nov 12th -my sister's birthday. I found the 1st due date tough but after that I had dd and it was easier. If anything I find the mc date(10th april) much tougher to deal with. There are also lots of anniversary around that date that always remind me of the date. Hoping that this year will have some good memories around that date.Â

Better go to sleep. Did too much today and feel quite unwell and got work tomorrow.

Feel odd this morning. Wearing both my baby on board badge on the tube and the baby loss awareness pin (£2 on the miscarriage association website)

i only put the badge on the commute but shall keep the pin on all week I think...

LIG the first mc date was a bugger - my 10th anniversary in London... way to marr a date... and the due date of that one was... Christmas bloody day!! again, I now try to have 5 quiet minutes on that day...

Tiny both my babies died near Christmas it was so so awkward everyone (shop keeper , bank staff etc) asking all about Christmas, was Santa good to me? Of course I lied no one wants to know there truth especially dead babies nothing makes the British so awkward as to mention baby loss!

For us because the month of December is so littered with significant dates the days it kicked off, days they died and then the day they were burried. So we chose their burial date ( by sheer coincident they were burried same day exact same time only a year apart) as the date to grieve and remember them.
I'm glad in a weird way it was Christmas as its the only time of year DH takes off and there was Christmas TV to distract me, we just bunkered down at home and avoided everyone.
If I'm pregnant this Christmas we have made the amazing milestone of 24 weeks.

Here's to 24 weeks! may it be magical!

Good luck today oneday :)

Hey ladies,

I'm a bit of a lurker on this part of our thread, but wanted to say good luck for scans today.

I'm a bit further on (should really be on the March bus, slapped wrist), but I know what you feel, and about dreading due dates.

for all, for a good week this week.

riverrock welcome. Don't worry about dates there is no way on earth I will get to April!

13+2

Good luck oneday.

Christmas is always really bad timing as you never forget it. Also, never a good time to need medical help when they are on minimum staffing.

Really don't want to be at work today. Worked out it should be 80 working days till mat leave. Also, should (all things being well) be around 25 weeks at Xmas which will be nice. (Hoping to be blooming by then .) With dd I was 7 weeks on Xmas day and felt terrible. Also, got spotting on Xmas day so it was very stressful.

Little - hopefully you will get to a figure that allows baby little to have a good chance in this world.

Good luck Oneday

Carebear I hope you feel better soon.

Peas I hope your DS is on the mend.

My due date losses just happen to coincide with 2 of my nephews actual birthdays :(

Nothing new at my end. I have my NHS nuchal scan tomorrow at 9am followed by my midwife booking in appointment. I really am not looking forward to either appointment - I'm too much of a wimp. Luckily, my lovely mum is accompanying me as DH can't get the time off

Hi ladies

Just hopping on quickly to say that scan went well! Had the nuchal measurement and bloods taken so should get the results back in the post soon. Couldn't believe how much the little thing had changed in two weeks. Really emotional for DH and I, more the relief than anything. Sonographer was great, told her straight away re our MMC in June so she was really good at talking to me the whole way through.

Will read back later on x

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Great news one Day

Yay oneday

I have purposefully blocked due dates from my mind - I can narrow them down to June and July but that's it - otherwise I'd dwell too much.

Great news oneday

riverrocks im due in March too the 23rd

Fab news one day, what a relief for you!

Good luck tomorrow London, Hopefully you'll get a good nights sleep.

I have my 16 week mw appointment on friday as well as an obstetrician appointment, I reallly want them to scan me again but don't think they will, as the midwife said they don't listen for the heartbeat till the 25 week appoinment, I'm going to push for her to try though.

I keep getting told I look really well, I think its code for you'er showing already...Really? That and the right blusher can make anyone look good even if you're feeling awful

15+3

Its 4.12am and im wide awake

I had a horrible day yesterday and am still stressing about it.

we bought a house with mil in august and are in the process of splitting it so she has her own annex, currently we are all together and mil is in what will be the babies room. My lovely mil has turned into a complete cow since the move and it came to a head yesterday. She has a nasty cold and I dont really fancy catching it at 17 weeks pregnant, dp and I mentioned to her that I was going to stay out the way until she was feeling better (ive been quietly doing this since she first said she felt like she was getting a cold but it was easy enough to just go straight to bed after work without her realising why with me being at home all week I thought being honest about why I was going to be either out or staying in my bedroom was better than her thinking I was being rude). She kicked off and spent 2 hours walking about the house shouting passive aggressive comments about me being a precious princess and hoping my dp didnt catch it otherwise he would be banished to the shed. In the end dp went and told her to stop, she went out and I cried until I had a massive headache.

DP and I went out for a couple of hours, I did the horses and came home and spent the evening in my room so didnt see her but ive had enough and am seriously considering moving out.

I had a really horrible chest infection last time and have always wondered if that was why I miscarried so perhaps I am being a bit precious in trying not to catch her cold.

oh smiling poor you!
Don't blame yourself, a friend of mine had proper diagnosed swine flu when 8w pregnant and her boy is perfect.

But you are a brave woiman, i wouldn't cope with living with the MIL (or my parents for that matter) even in an annex!

When do you think it will be ready? Can you don a hard hat and help out?

Morning tiny do you know what shes always been lovely and we got on great, when fil went into a home last year with dementia she decided to move as the village she lived in is quite isolated and we were looking for a bigger house, it seemed to make sense to pool our resources.

The day we moved it was like someone switched a switch and she turned into a passive aggressive controlling nightmare, even dp is shocked by her behaviour.

The annex itself is about 3 weeks away from being finished with another 4-6 weeks for the kitchen which is being custom made, so she can move in to her bit but we will have to share a kitchen for a bit longer.

Ah, that not so long then!

At the moment my MIL is up in Scotland but she is getting increasingly frail (she is 78) and there are talks of making an annex in my SIL house near Norwich... at least it would still be 2h away from us but we could visit a bit more often...

oneday yay for good scan and nice sonographer.

London I hope all is well with the scan.
My mum is desperate to come to an appointment with but DH always manages to rearrange things.

smiling that sounds dreadful. I would have you DH have a frank chat with his mum she either changes her waysor you are all going to have to re-think living arrangements since she is clearly unhappy.
Can the annex be done any faster?
You are not being precious, even just a cold can be awful when pregnant because of our lowered immune systems and the fact that we can take little medication to help it.

So we are meetingthe In-Laws for dinner on Friday, ths doesn't happen often PIL live way way up north and it's to celebrate BIL's suprise marriage.
I have a suspicion that it might have been a shot-gun wedding, BIL very against marriage and very quick wedding.
So we might get the news at Dinner which might be awkward since they don't know I'm pregnant and we wouldn't want to steal their thunder since it would be their first and the 'first' baby in a long time in the family.
But if this pregnacy goes to plan I am going to accidentally steal their thunder anyway just by the sheer fact it lives and I might deliver earlier.
Awkward. All gets are off if I vomit they will know straight away.